How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan
90% of the breakups are reversible. Is yours?
Are you hurting from a breakup?
Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?
But what if it didn’t have to be over?
What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?
My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.
NOTE: IT’S VERY IMPORTANT YOU READ ALL THE 3 STEPS. I HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU IN THE END
Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to get your ex back, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. 90% of breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.
I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to get your ex back. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.
In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together with your ex. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.
#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
Being Needy is Unattractive
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.
#2 The Doormat Syndrome
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.
You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –
a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want to win your ex back.
b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.
#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing
Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together
This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are calling their ex and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.
You have to make yourself scarce if you want to get your ex back (explained in STEP 2 of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.
#4 Smothering Them With Affection
Saying "I love you" will NOT help your case
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?
“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.
#5 Giving Them All The Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.
Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.
No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid's ex.
#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.
Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.
So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.
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my bf just brouck up with me like 2 months ago already nd i still miss him nd want him back when we sarted dating he seemed like he realy like me and he treated me so great we had so much fun together then the day before he brouk up with me he told me he realy liked me and am the best gf he could ever had then the next day he complitly ignored me and did not take me wee we used to go all the time before we left home and he did not play aound with me for nothing i started to think maybe hes going to beak up with me when i got home i checked his wal on facebook nd alot of girls wrote on his wall telling him “i wish u the best with ur gf” then i saw that he comented “yeah thanks i realy realy like he” nd when i read that i got so happy soo i forgot aboutthe whole hes goig to break up with me thing so i just started to talk to friends later on he send me a msg sayining ” ithink we should just be friends” so i send him a msg saying ” thats ok
” but i was realy devistated nd then he told me ” its that i dont see us in a relationship aymore” i told him ” yeah dont worry just friends is ok 
” dont get me rong i was realy sad but i di not want him to know but i cried for 4 days abd i also did not eat i tried to forget about him but i have him for everysingle one of my classes nd his name is everywere o my page i just want him back can someone plzzzz help me plzz.
I havent eaten anything for like 2 days now im too sick to eat:/..Me and my boyfriend broke up and its causing me so much pain hes trying to make me jealous and all i’ve been doing for the last few days is crying, I just dont see the point in life anymore.. i dont know what to do anymore.. the reason i was still alive was because of his love but now i got nothing to live for.. i just want him back but i dont know how to do it ive tryed everything i could think of:(
I need help i have got her back when i finally gave up she came back she just broke up with me again her sister has been going threw issues with her relationship and started staying with us my relationship started going down hill i felt like i started to smother her and she couldnt handle it any more its not there for her like it is for me i trust her and do alot for her she dose mean the world im giving her space to cool down then were supposed to go talk and lead from there but shes still done and cant handle it i hope someone can tell me what i should do or say i dont want to beg and i know the steps obviously she knows i love her alot and want her back she wants to be friends what do i do now
so i still like my ex and i havent seen her for like 8 months and i havent talk to her for a while but i still have feelings for her, im just a regular guy with feelings that actually likes to be in love with the right person but i dont know what to do!? i want to talk to her but then again i dont wanna bother her or i just dont know maybe im thinking too much !! HELP!!!
I went out with a guy 4years ago. Our relationship didn’t even last a whole year. After we broke up, I went almost 2 weeks without eating anything. I barely came out of my room. To narrow it down I’ll just say that I didn’t do anything. I still wonder to this day, what happened between us. We haven’t even talked in since we’ve dated. Which has been 4 years. I don’t know what to do anymore. People have told me that he has a gf now. But I doubt it, since he said to me to stop looking at his butt, and I responded saying sorry, I couldn’t help in (which was in a scarstic tone) which we both giggled after he said it. He knew I wasn’t looking, I just don’t know why he said it.
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So, my gf basically wants nothing to do with me because I cheated on her with my first love. She was my second love, I just cant get over my first love. She told me that she just needs some time but it’s killing me. I want her but I still love my fist love also. What do I do?
i have a boyfriend named jonny i love him so much and think i have lost him because of wat i said and i regret it plz help me or id dont no wat i am gunna do i love him so much hurts so much plz help me???
My girlfriend and I have been in a complicated relationship for 14 months. Her friend tried setting me up by texting me as another girl. Stupidly, I had my ex’s friend’s number in my phone so I went along with it to make her feel stupid. It ended up back firing and my girlfriend dumped me. That same night I ended up flirting with my ex and it was only that night. I felt disguisting after so I stopped texting her. My and My girlfriend ended up seeing eachother, getting back with eachother, and getting intimate. then she seen the messages in my iPod and dumped me…. she said I cheated. but i didn’t. i really fucked up,really, really bad. i want her back and I need your help. Please tell me how to get her to see she needs me. She tells me she still does but won’t get back with me. I’m not on a suicidal verge yet, but I’m really lost, hurt and confused beyond anything. Please help me in getting her back..
hello i was dating this guy for not a long time but it felt long he was my everything he said he loved me everynight and we were so close then we spent to much time tougher and he said he wanted to be friends i go boxing with this guy and his bestmate i saw him and he said to me hey i still like you i still want to meet you but i really miss him we hardly talk nomore and i feel i am loosing him i :feel like i wanna die i feel so hurt please give me some advice
i have been daring my ex 4 years i have done all i could tomake this relationship.last and work he left me jul 2011 for someone who would go out and sale their body do whatever it take to.make.him.money now they say they are in love i don’t know if he really love her cause he would tell me and his bestfriend that its nothing serious he just trying to.watch his money cause he moved her in his parents home and them knowing what type of things she do but he introduced her to.his whole family as his girlfriend.
My boyfriend of almost two years recently left me. He said things weren’t the same anymore and that he loved me but that he wasn’t happy. I was letting the stress of work, family, and college leak into our relationship and he said it made me too emotional and that he couldn’t deal with that. I don’t know what to do. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. I’m constantly crying even when I try not to. I’m so desperate that I even paid a psychic to try and help. I need help. He is my best friend and my other half.
Well here’s the deal guys, I’ve been together with my fiance for the past 8 years. She left me in October and really hasn’t given me much of a reason why she left. For 8 years I’d do everything for her. Drive her and pick her up from work everyday, make her lunch or get her lunch, make dinner for her if i got home before her from work. I told her everyday at least once how beautiful I thought she was. Not smothering in the least but she was very clingy to me our whole relationship. We recently had our baby boy pass away last year. Worst time in our lives. The point is while I’m not perfect, I damn sure tried to be. But she is always putitng a wall up and very rarely talks about her feelings. And now here we are, I’ve seen her 3 times the past 3 months and she barely talks to me. I’ve found myself now being clingy and texting her pouring my heart out, basically all the things you shouldn’t do. I just can’t understand what she’s doing, barely an explanation, she’s not with anyone, she just basically threw me away like I’m garbage and has convinced herself that it’s ok.
hello mme and my ex went out for 6 and a half months and i love her to bits i wud tae a bullet for her and everything but in the relationship i had loads od people telling me a lot of stuff this made me paranode and sared and it ended u with me treating her really horrible
she dumped me and i understand why but i want her back si much and i just dont kniw what to do she even said that she loves me so much and that she is not going to get anoth BF because im the love of her life and i want to do the perfect stuff to get her back proble is i tell her how i will change and everything but now shes saying it will never happen again but telling me how much she loves me and i want herer back and i know deep inside she does 
please help me :’(
My ex is really shy. But we both like eacother but he is just to shy ! He won’t show he likes me . And when i ask him if he wants to hangout he just says whenever and when i invite him somewhere he tells me he is busy ! What do i do?
hi iv been with my partner 10 yrs we got 2 kids but he was havin an afair for 3 yrs.i kept finding out on n off.he recently married her but then tld me hes mad such a big mistake and wants his family bk.i gave him a chance he was hme for 4 ngtes and went to her.he says hes sortd it bt aam woried all the time..i just want him bk.am mnly 26 i no i shud muv on bt i cnt hes afectin my evryday life.i dnt no wot to do nxt plz hejp me
Me and my boyfriend have been broken up for over 2 weeks. Ive lost my appetite, and i have lost over 15 pounds. We still talk everyday. somedays go good, and others go bad. We hungout for the first time in over 2 weeks yesterday. Everything went great, but at the end of the day, he still gave me the same answer when i asked if we could be together. He’s still saying he doesnt know if we should be together, yet he told me lastnight that he still loves me, he misses me, and he loves being with me. Hes scared that im going to hurt him and im not. I just want to be with him, but he hates it when i bring up being together. I keep waiting for an answer. but i still havent gotton one. He shows no interest in other girls. I just want him back..
My girl and i were 2gether 3 yrs. She broke up with me a montg h ago. She says that i didnt do the little things. I never cheated cussed her out or anything crazy. We had a deep connection cuz when we met she just lost her dad and i was goin thru sumthin. Iknow she stilll loves me. She started seeing someone else and they are having. Is it too late to get her back
My boyfriend broke up with me because he didn’t think i should be with him because we barley talked and hungout because he was busy with school and wrestling. We decided to be friends. But then he said hes done with me because my mom said i shouldn’t hangout with him for a month to not make people think i am going after him .. i want to talk to him . but i dont know if he really never wants to talk to me or wants me to .. </3
Hey…me and my girlfriend just broke up today…for the third time…the first time we dated for 2 months and we ended because she thought i was jealous of her friends…the second time we dated for like 3 months and we broke up because she wanted another dude…that dude screwed her over so she came back to me and i was there..and we dated for a third time for about 2 months again and we broke up because she needed space and i couldnt give it to her…i dont get it:/…I could only see her once a week anyway and she needed more space:/…is there any hope for me getting her back again for good?…im so happy with her and shes happy with me and she said shell always love me but we need to break up because she needs space…i dont wanna be with anyone else…and i dont even have the desire to be happy now that shes gone again
hi…!
i have same pain.. me and my ex bf broke up before 10 months… but just before a week i didnt be in my self and did a big mistake….
i went to his house to ask him what went wrong…
i ask him to meet at some otherplace.. but he didn’t ans. me any thing. so i did this step…
but he just pushed me out his home without saying anything to me…
i m just so much ashemed on my mistake… but i badly love him. he has even a gf today
and its seems no hope for me..:((
but i want him back…. i want him to love me again……
PLEASE HELP ME….. there is nothing going right without him…. there is no meaning of anything without him for me….
i really want him .plz help my life…..
Me & my bf of 2 years broke up yesterday weve been through so much weve even lived together were both16 I have really put up with alot stuff & I mean alot hes went to jail 4 6 months nd ive stood by him I kno he still loves me its just that since march of last year weve been living a long distance relationship nd we both hate that so weve been fighting alot he shuts down when to much drama occurs so he left t me cuz of the fighting what do I do help me plz
we are in love since last 14 years.but her parent dont like me because we are intercast.last month she told me that we should break our relation.we were not in contact for that month.now again one day she called me and from that day we again started talk.but now she told me that she does’nt love me anymore and she will never return back.
From that day i am so depressed.because i know that how much i love her.
Please someone suggest me that should i wait for her anymore?will she return back in my life?
she told me,she has got to realize we shouldn’t be dating anymore due to the experiences we have had before.she told me it would be better we study each other again.i don’t know what to do to win her back.
Hey, I was talking to this guy who is 16. My parents wont let me date until im 15, which is a little over 4 months from now. The guy, david, said he would wait on me and would be my first boyfriend. But then, he was tired of being stressed about not being able to hang out with me cause my parents wont allow that until im able to date. My mom already said he could be my first boyfriend, but he decided hes tired of the situation and doesnt think we should date. He says he thinks its whats best. I see him posting things saying “tired of everything”, but i cant do anything about that cause im not allow to date him. My mom is allowing us to be friends until im 15 and he was fine with that at first but then something changed his mind one day. He thinks its best if we just forget about each other, but after im 15, we can be friends? I want him to be my first boyfriend and i want him to come crawling back to me so bad! Somebody please help me..
What do i do to get him crawliong back to me?
My ex boyfriend got bossy today and I got so mad at him. My other boyfriend was so nice to me so much but, the first one I so hate he doesn’t care about me.
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me two months ago. And I tried everything to get him back. But he gives me a “I dnt care”attitude. Please help me get him back
hey. some three month ago just broke up with my boy friend of five years.he was so nice to me and my family and his family loved me. until one sunday i landed in very serious problems i thought that was the end of every thing but he never gave up and supported me through out the all problem. after the problemb was over, some one started smsing him some silly text telling him that im seeing another man. at first he had to hide it from me. until one sweet day he told me that we longer make a march. i decided to move on and pretend i was fine with every thing. im now managing some family business in another town. i have put all his mobile lines on black list.but some times he does call using a different line asking for forgiveness. i have told no.but the truth is that i still love him very much.what should i do?
I taught she loves me… but she had to break my heart for me to know what TRUE LOVE really means…
Hi,well i was with someone for only 2 days and he was the one that broke up with me.And he says that, “it not me,its him” and that “I deserve better than him”What does this mean?? Please help! :/
Ok so me and my ex were together for 9yrs we have two kids together. 4yrs ago we had a devastating break up. We lost our home and had to move in with his mom which didn’t last long they fought a lot and she wanted him out so he stayed with a friend while me and the kids stayed at his moms.the plan was to save some money to get another place together but he had this crazy idea that I should take our son and go 5hours away to live with my mom for a couple months until tax return time I felt it was a bad idea but did as asked one month later I found out I was pregnant with his second child we were both happy to hear the news he would come just about every two weeks to see us then month later I found out that he was talking to some one else I confronted him over the phone about it and found out it was true he said he was confused and didn’t know what he was doing that he loved me we were soul mates but he had feelings for this girl he had just met another month goes by he marries her there marriage last only a year they got divorced and he comes back to me saying all the sweet things I wanted to hear so as you guessed it I took him back only to find two weeks later not only was he sleeping with me and saying he wanted to work things out but doing the same thing to his now ex wife….me and her confronted him and all ended…he moved on quickly and met a new girl the relationship with her was rocky and off and on for almost two years which leads up to now last year he wanted a chance to get out of his moms house get a job and go to school well I just lost my roommate and so figured it would work out if I let him move in…its been hell I’m emotionally lost I love him so much but he plays mind games with me and makes up excuses to why he won’t get back with me we both have done some growing up well least on my part he has been with other girls since he has been living with me they are the friends with benefits we have not been together in any way in 5yrs now he says he loves me but he is not in love with me but he couldn’t imagine his life with out me I’m so freaking confused I love this man more then anything besides our kids how can I get pass this or get him back any advice
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so my gf just broke up with me yesterday and i dont know what to do i really want her back and she said she’ll still love me is there any chance we could go back together?
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Last week my fiance told me two days before our wedding day that he could no longer be with me and we had to cancel our whole wedding. The problem is, it was not just not marry but not be with me full stop. Inside I am very devasted. I obviously loved/love him and I am trying to respond in the most loving way I can which is killing me! He says he believes he got to a point where all his happiness had been stripped and he could no longer be with me however I know he was happy only a few weeks before the wedding if not days leading up to him pulling out. There were cultural differences which sometimes resulted in miscommunications and misunderstandings which were sometimes hard and played a roll in this week. I truly believe we are good together and really feel the stress of the wedding got to both of us. If this is the reason I think I should fight…but wonder if I should let him go and live if he feels I was really stripping him of his happiness. I do not want to do that to him. What are your thoughts?
Im trying so hard to get her back and she thinks I say the same stuff over and over again. And she actually gets pissed and she’s now talking in a different tone with me. She’s being short and just different after about a week ago since I broke up with her.. I want her back
So my gf of 3 yrs dumped me she said she was not ready to commit in relationship due to my daughter from a previous relationship. She said she needs to be single and not be with anyone. She stilll loves me and my daughter. I only see my daughter every other weekend and one a week. She told me she wants me to be there for her. I told I would and give her space. She still has pics of us on facebook and made a new album with pics of me and her. If she really wantedvto move on with her life why does she sill want me around.?
me n my ex been together for a month n two weeks n we get in this bigest fight ever, i made the bigest mistake ever so i guess he got tired of us fightin all the time, so he tells me its over, i tryed tlkin to him but he won’t tlk to me what should i do i really love him n i really want him bak.
me and my girl have almost been together for a year and my sis started telling me to break up with her and my friends started too saying shes cheating on me but i dont know whose telling the truth and i almost committed suicide today but i didnt cause of my lil sis i cant do that to her but what should i do.what can i do
I’m so torn up inside, I feel empty. Two months ago, my ex broke up with me. And I figured out afterwards that it was because he was a huge player- he had never been in a relationship for more than a few months, except ours. I think he’s afraid of commitment and being serious. But regardless, I was crushed. The day he broke with me, he went out and got a new girlfriend. That really killed me inside. But I didn’t say anything to him about it, I actually didn’t talk to him at all. He didn’t want to talk to me. He started texting me once a day, just saying Hey. Then, when I answered, he said he was happy with her and asked how it was being single. He’s played games with me since we met, and usually I don’t let that happen, but I’ve never met someone so manipulative and good at it as he is. So I stopped talking to him again, not risking being played with. But even though I hate what he’s done to me, I know I can never be as happy as I was when he was in my arms. I want him back, but I don’t know what to do. He texts me “hey” occasionally, but I know once we start talking he’s just going to tell me about his ex and how he used to love me and it won’t help me get him back at all. But I can’t just do nothing…
Me and my girlfriend are broke up since yesterday and we have been going through a rough period which led us to this. Were going through this trial were the both of us won’t have any contact within in the month via texting, however we will talk when we see eachother in school. Any one have feedback that has used this ideas and tips and has it worked?
Ok heres my situation, me and this guy Dominic were “talking” in such a way that we were practically dating for almost two weeks, we like each ALOT, apparently he told his little bro about how much he liked me because he asked my name and I said “talia” and he said ” ohh your that girl Dominic likes ” I asked when he said then and he said during Christmas break(when we were talking) so he asked me out 12:00 on new years , we were finally dating and I liked him ALOT.. Then I decided to go spend the night at a girlfriend’s. house a day later because Dominic was busy, so she wanted to hang with these guys, I told both of them we were to hang out as FRIENDS.. So we were all having a good time (me, Diego, Alex, and Kaylore) and Dominic decides to call to ask where I am, I explained because he heard Alex laughing., sipo he hung up and I later got a text saying “I don’t think I want to be in a relationship right now” aka he dumped me.. I freaked the next day and begged him to take me back.. And I left it alone for fifteen minutes and later got a text saying ” can I have some time to think?” so I ignored him for 2 days.. I could t help myself, he have the same class so I started talking to him and I went off on him asking if he liked me or if I ment anything to him he responded ” I still have feelings for you and you mean a lot” this was about five days ago.. So last weekend he called and wanted me to go to the movies with him, my mom wouldnt let and we ended up hanging out &i slept with him-___- but we didnt get back together, we talk on the phone almost every night and it’s been 2 weeks sence we broke up, I like him a lot but he say he thinks I’m not ready for a relationship… And when we were talking last night he said “I want a girlfriend” so I said “I know this one girl who still really likes you” and he replied “oh that girl, she hoed me.” and I texted him once I got home saying “hey.call me.” he replied”I can’t I won’t be home all day” so I said ” This time I actually ihave something to talk about , so call me when you can. Kthanks” I was thinking about saying something like” I’m not asking to get back togeth but you wanna take it slow and start talking ?” HELP PLEASE idk what to do..
My ex broke up with me a year ago. I was so hurt that i moved on and i was not happy. Then me and my ex started to talk again and from there we became so close . We were around eachother all the time where one of was there was the other. So i fell hard in love with him all over again and he did to i. Gueuss but being a guy he really tried to hide to me but vented to other . Time went on we became closer. And closer. Then prom came e and thats when things change. We all went to the beach me and some other friends from
I went out with my bf for 9 months out of blue he told me yesterday he wanted change and liked hanging out with his friends. We both go to school together but he lives on west coast and I live on east coast he plans on going back home in 2 years after school. Do you think there any hope or just going through a faze because we were fine and happy and I legit was blind sided.
Me and boyfriend broke up like almost a year ago…he was actually my longest relationship and I loved him so much:( dated for 11 months.. I’ve been in other relationship after him clearly not happy! I’m always thinking about him.. it’s so hard to move on:( i texts him it always take forever to reply seem he hate my guts.. I don’t know anymore what to do anymore. I think it’s time for me to move on maybe?
I dumped my ex bf about 3 weeks ago, BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER! His bestfriend told me that he was into this other chick. But he only said that because he likes me, and i explained it to my ex but he just doesn’t want me anymore!!! I dont know what to do…. I was ignoring him and he texted me telling me he missed me but… then i found out it was his friend who sed tht and i already told my ex tht i miss him and can never get over him. WHAT DO I DO?!
My boyfriend broke up with me, by text, at 4 o’clock this morning. We waited for each other for 4 years, both single when the other wasn’t and vice versa. We finally got together and it was the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever been in. Then he texts me, says he’s not ready for a relationship, and ends it. I’m going out of my mind. I don’t know what to do. I can’t sleep or eat anything and I want to cry but it’s almost like my body won’t let me. The problem is, earlier that night we went out to a movie and I cooked us a romantic supper and everything was great. We were laughing and talking and having a wonderful time. I don’t know how to deal with this.
My gf broke up wit me for askin another girl does she miss me wat should I do
hello my name is delores/and i love your advice i strongly agree with most of it. but my problem is i want my ex back . we broke up because he decided relocate to another state and i haven’t heard from him since 08/2011 i don’t know how to contact at all i miss him so much .i seek yr advice. thank you DELORES DAVIS
Hey Kevin,
Me and ex broke up about two months ago, but he still liked me and the last two weeks before he went “I don’t know if I have feelings for you anymore”, I was being clingy and shit. Then yesterday, I tried begging him th at and I regret it now. But I seriously want to pull things back together with him. I haven’t been taking care of myself for about six days but I’m starting to do it and I’m wodnering how big are my chances…I think and see them as very slim…but I still want to give it a go.
hi,so my boyfriend wanted to end things because he thinks i lie about everything. if i do make a mistake i tell him. which has only happened once and he got back at me for it,but i let it go because i love him. we’ve been together for a year and seven months and he has major trust issues which he puts on me. everytime i tell him the truth he calls me a lier. ive put up with so much and since im emotional whipped by him(he said hes the same with me)ive been trying to text him to talk. hes giving me all the wrong singnals by “butt calling me” and he comes into my work. it seems like we still have a chance. then he said(in text) “im not talking till you own up to everything you lie about” but the thing is i dont lie. i tell him everything. what should i do :/
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago, and I think it might be too late to get her back. I was terrible to her, but I didn’t mean it. I hurt her so bad, and I would do anything to make it up to her. I have already done all the things that are not supposed to be done. I wish I could take all the pain I cause her away, but I can’t turn time backwards. I want to be with her more than anything in the world, I would marry her if she would have me, but more than anything, I just want her to be happy. I wish she would give me one more chance.
Hi there
First of all I would like to say that Inlove your website – its quite awesome!!
I am a Danish girl who is utterly in love with my Albanian x boyfriend… We both go to the se international school here in DK and I met him in the beginning of the school year, where things started between us – taken that this was in the beginning we didn’t know one an other very well but were very attracted to each other. He is very, very handsome and I’m not exactly the only girl who thinks so and he seemed to like the girl attention a bit to much and I guess I got quite jealous, and that was where the problems started because he didn’t show me that he truly cared like other guys did (his good friend) and my X got very jealous and mad at me because he thought I liked his frien better than him, but of course I didn’t I just needed the comfort in a way. And I know that was wrong but yeah… Anyways we finally solved our problems and for a while we were really good together and had sex for the first time – it was my first but not his (he is 2 years older than me) after that things got a little weird because we didn’t really talk about it and we both assumed the wrong things about the situation. We didn’t talk for a little while and he started not coming to school for a little while. He wouldn’t really reply when I texted him and things went downhill…. After that at a school party we got in a fight and one of my very drunk friends punched him in the face because she misunderstood something he’d said to me.
A few days after someone told me that he’d slept with a girl from his class the night we got in a fight. I confronted him with it but he wouldn’t answer me, so things kind of ended. I started dating one of Mine and his friends- it was such a big mistake really!!! Because he was my rebound and I regret it a lot. My “x boyfriend” doesn’t want to talk to me and he hasnt since that happened.
I have no idea about what to do because I want him back so badly…! But I don’t know how… Do you have any good advise please???
- A
I met a girl on Christmas day we hit it off, and i guess you can say she was my christmas present from God. We have talked on the phone and through tinychat everynight since. she would tell me everything but her past. It didnt bother me much but i knew there was someting. So one night i asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes. we were in love. one day she blew off on me. she told me i didnt give her enough attention, i couldnt prove to her that i loved her, and she broke up with me. 2 days later she starts dating a new guy, i ask her about him and she tells me straight up that shes had him on the sidelines waiting for our relationship to end.
have been crying for 2 weeks – cant stop – i want him back so badly i would do just about anything. we’ve been together 2 years – just out of the blue he says he’s “confused”, “doesn’t know what he wants” – hes 48 and has been married/divorced. I also found out he was “seeing” a woman in a neighboring town – he tells me nothing happened except dinner a couple times – she knows all about me – he felt “guilty” when he was with her. he says we are “best friends” will admit to loving me – what’s going on? im so heartbroken i can’t breathe. his daughter texted me one day and told me her dad was so depressed he couldn’t get off the couch – so we saw each other a couple times – now —-nothing from him whatsoever. and i will tell you i broke the desperate rule several times – but i’ve stopped now. any hope whatsoever????? i can’t move on. no contact with him for 2 weeks now – none. what do i do???
We have been tgr for 18months and just recently he told me he dont feel the same anymore.I cried for consecutive nights and I feel that after we been through so much its close to impossible that he no longer loves me.
Fact: we are of different religious, he is a Muslim(malay) I am a freethinker(Chinese). I am willing to convert if need be.
We have intimate physical contact when we were together. But not intercourse, and he kept getting worried that I would be pregnant.
And even after we broke up when he requested for us to meet and I asked why he said he just wanted to check that im okay.
And then when we met again we kissed and hugged.
his parents are strict and told him he can only have a gf when he is financially stable. So he is stress (I guess)
I dont know what to do. I just want to marry him.
My friends tell me I am young(18) and I still have plenty of chances out there but I only love him.
In addition he is serving the nation, so I figured out going to the army kinda changed him.
I don’t know if it’s stress that’s too overwhelming for him or what.
Please help!
Me and my girlfriend broke up because people kept stirring things and telling us both that the other person was doing things behind their back, I told my girlfriend that people had been saying things and she seemed shocked and said that the same people had been telling her that I had been doing things. People kept saying stuff that seemed to be to try and split us up and they wouldn’t stop, after a while my girlfriend saw her ex up town and she didn’t keep this a secret from me and she was honest and said that she did still have feelings for him. Over the past 2 years (before we started seeing each other) he had been sending her big texts about how he felt but when she started talking to me, she ignored his texts and removed him from facebook, however, after seeing him up town she felt guilty for ignoring him because he was always talking to her, this was a bit strange for me because my girlfriend was talking to her ex whilst she was still going out with me, he kept sending her texts saying things like ‘no one will ever love you as much as me’ and he was really trying to get back with her but she kept telling me she wouldn’t leave me even though she still did have some feelings for him. After about 2 weeks, people stirring things all the time and seeing her ex got a bit too much and it was making us have little arguments and not get along as well as we did before and I kept worrying because I don’t live near her, she lives down near Essex and I love up north near Leeds so although I trusted her, I couldn’t help thinking things when we weren’t together. So it got a little too much so we decided to go on a break and not talk to each other for a while and give each other some space. Obviously I had a lot of things on my mind and so kept texting her over and over again and eventually, me being a bit clingy, her being confused about her ex and people stirring things led to us coming to an ‘agreement’ that it was for the best if we split up. This was in the 2nd of January. Both me and my girlfriend were really upset about this, it was so awful because we really did love each other and we still do but she also admitted to me that she loves her ex too and maybe a bit more than me which hurt me so much but I was happy that she was honest with me. I and a lot of things on my mind but every time I tried talking to her about feelings, she stopped replying to me which was really hard because I had a lot of questions on my mind but eventually I asked her if she answer them because it was hurting and she eventually did answer them. Me and her are still really close and love each other and we can still have a laugh over the phone because she said she never wants to lose me because she knows how close we can still be. After looking at this website, I have stopped texting her my feelings and saying I love her and begging for her back and I have decided to just not talk to her at all unless she speaks to me and then I will answer her, this seems to be working as it was always me who started the conversation but now even after just waiting a day, she started talking to me on facebook and asked meto ring her because she was really missing our phonecalls. She said that she was missing me and that she thinks we are getting better and that she gets excited when I come on facebook now like she did when we first started talking so it is getting better between us again. I still can’t stop thinking about her though and when I see her say I love you to her ex on facebook it really gets to me and other guys try flirting with her on facebook and whenever I see any of this stuff, it really makes mr want to talk to her but I know it will make things worse again because I will come across as moaning and not being able to come with her and it. Seems like this not starting the conversation plan is really working. I was just wondering what you think of the whole situation and what you think I should do next? Thanks.
Hi i just lost my gf of over 5 years, I have a 2 y/o daughter with her, I literally have done all those things that u said not to do, she basically doesn’t even want to talk to me now, she told me that she loves me but she just wants to do her right now an focus on the kids, I found out that she has been talking to other men and it’s the worst feeling in the world, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy, I hope that I can get her back and hopefully it’s not to late, she broke up with me 6 days ago, I could really use someone to talk to it’s been a emotional roller coaster, I’m 25 and I just want to get my priorities in place, I didn’t give her the emotional bond that she wanted so I think I kind of drove her away, she did tell menthat she loved me more than anything the other day, but won’t talk to me doesn’t want me to call her, lies to me, I think I just need to leave her alone. HELP I what my soul mate back!!
my bf and I broke up Nov 10th.and we just got back together a week ago. I suggest this website to all if my girlfriends not to try and get their ex back but to find their sense of calm and sanity. thank u for helping me get my ex back and for making me a better woman <3
HOW CAN I GET A MAN BACK? IF THO WE WAS’NT TOGETHER, I REALY LIKED HIM AND HE REALLY LIKED ME AND WE TALKED ABOUT OUR FUTURE AND EVERYTHING. HE LOVED ME AND I LOVED HIM BUT THEN OUT OF NOWHERE HE STOPPED TALKING TO ME AND EVERYTHING I THINK HE’S MESSING WITH OTHER GIRL’S BUT WE AIN’T TOGETHER SO I WOULD’NT MIND BUT WE WERE BEST FRIEND’S AT FIRST THEN IT CAME ON STRONG INTO A PHYISCAL REALTIONSHIP AND I LOVE HIM NOW MORE THEN A FRIEND!
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
I’M DEPRESSED AND STRESSED AND I BEEN THO ALOT IN MY LIFE AND WHEN HE CAME I FELT SO GOOD AND NOW HE;S NOT HERE WITH ME I FEEL SO BAD WITHOUT HIM IN MY LIFE.
me and my boyfriend we were together for almost 3yrs but he left me because when i get mad i hit him, and i can be kind of mean to him. i love him he is my world, and i miss him so much, i begged for him to come back but he said NO he is tried of me and he doesn’t love me anymore .He told my whole family and his friends. what should i do to get him back?
i dont know how i can live any longer. i miss him so much. i want to die the last i ate was 2 days ago. every thing i see reminds me off him. ow can i fix this please help me i heed him. i cant live with out him
me and my ex were together for almost a year but things were really serious. we were perfect for eachother and we did everything together, but towards the ending we were sadly fighting alot and i told her that i needed a break to fix my self and get and get under control so we could stop fighting. but she started talking to her friend who she liked before we got into a relationship and when i told her i was ready to come back she said she wanted him. she knows that the guys a huge player and will just hurt her. i just want her back so we can be that perfect couple again. i know i made mistakes in the relationship but i learned from all of them and i just want her back. what do i do to get her back
I have tried giving them the power,she state’s my letter say’s the same thing.I cant seem to break the wall that’s between us she will always see me as the guy i used to be not the one she fell in love with
Hi,
I was dating this one boy and than this girl that use to be my friend told him I was useing him. I use to love going to school but, now i hate going. What should i do?
Its been years since ex and I divorced. We married right out of high school. We were both way too young and immature. We r now 30 years old. We have a child together. He has custody so I want to win him back to be in our child’s life day in and day out. Advice?
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