How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan
90% of the breakups are reversible. Is yours?
Are you hurting from a breakup?
Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?
But what if it didn’t have to be over?
What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?
My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.
NOTE: IT’S VERY IMPORTANT YOU READ ALL THE 3 STEPS. I HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU IN THE END
Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to get your ex back, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. 90% of breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.
I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to get your ex back. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.
In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together with your ex. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.
#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
Being Needy is Unattractive
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.
#2 The Doormat Syndrome
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.
You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –
a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want to win your ex back.
b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.
#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing
Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together
This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are calling their ex and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.
You have to make yourself scarce if you want to get your ex back (explained in STEP 2 of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.
#4 Smothering Them With Affection
Saying "I love you" will NOT help your case
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?
“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.
#5 Giving Them All The Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.
Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.
No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid's ex.
#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.
Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.
So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.
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My ex and I have been broken up for years! However we have managed to maintain a friendship through all of it. I have been there for him through 2 other relationships he had after me. I was heartbroken after he broke up with me saying he wasn’t sure if he loved me like i did him. I was his first and that was 4 yrs ago. he is now 30 and I am 29. He has helped me through my fair share of trials as well and we have this weird connection still i can’ t explain and everyone that sees us together says we are great together but he just never gives in and i have no idea what is up with that? I have given up trying to convince him now i just kinda be his friend and we still talk on the phone and chat for hours sometimes but don’t see each other as often and when we do its because we run into each other when we are out with friends. He told me a few years ago he did love me and then started dating someone else and left me hurt and confused? I have no idea if its possible for us to get back together or not because he is so stubborn and it seems like no matter what i do he won’t talk to me about his feelings or whats going on inside him he changes the subject or turns it into a joke. A lot of times he tries to turn it around into a philosophy thing to avoid the topic and i’m tired of it. I’ve tried to get over it. I’ve tried to date others and i even given up talking to him for over 6 months til we ran into each other out one night. The sad thing is when i don’t think or talk about him I dream about him and its been years since we been together. I have no idea what to do and if I should try harder to move on or if its even possible. I thought the bond we had was dead until after his last breakup with a girl that cheated on him. We started talking and hanging around each other more and for a moment he was the man i’d fallen in love with years ago and i have never stopped loving him but it was growing stronger again. Then his mom got horrible ill and almost died and i was horrified i tried to be there for him as much as possible but he pushed me away. It has now been about 5 months since she got really sick and now shes healed and perfectly fine. The only problem is shes now living with him and his brother in their condo because shes more comfortable there and i know he feels to guilty to talk to her about moving back home. So in the process of him getting depressed that he has no space anymore he pushes me further away. I know hes having difficulties and i tell him that and he admits that but he won’t talk to me or open up anymore like he was before all this. Its like a horrible nightmare that keeps happening over and over again. We grow apart and then we get closer and then it happens over and over again and I don’t know if my heart can take any more of this. What do I do? should i just leave him alone which i’ve tried to do over and over again int he past and it hasn’t worked to well? i feel so empty without him and i hate that. I just want to be happy again.
What do I do & feel if we were never actually bf,gf? We dated exclusively for 6 months which was his idea & he was the one who always called & txt like crazy.then we went out w my friend and she got all drunk and got the bright idea to ask him when he was gonna make it official which started a small disagreementbetween him and I because he thought that I wanted her to say that which I didn’t. however we moved past it in a week later we went out and some guy asked him if she your girl and he said yes which I was very surprised at. then after about a week or 2 of getting along as usual I was feeling off but not about him & I told him how I was feeling & he said he’d try & be understanding. Week after that he said he needed space that we kind of needed a break but still during that time we spent time together we talk on the phone morning night. But it was driving me insane so I admittedly was doing alot of pushing & couldn’t understand what was going on then recently he became a bit more distant & I started to realize it was all my pushing cuz at first all he really wanted was a lil space. So I called him & told him I finally realized what he needed but if we how to end things that I needed to know right now and he needed to quit dragging me along and he got mad. he said fine then and hung up on me. so of course I called him back and told him that wasn’t right of him that if he was really done he needed to say it to me not to do it like up that I deserve more respect than that. So he called back & we talked for two hours and he said down the road we could start over. Now what? What does that mean? He said we would still talk just not as much and not to get mad if he doesn’t respond. And im so stupid of course I said wait so we’re really over? And he said until down the road.u need to do what u gotta do & so do I. And when we talk again u have to leave this all behind. I said ok but it hurt so bad I miss him so he’s not the kind of guy who would fall for me lookin all happy he’d actually be glad & I know he really is just busy & overwhelmed with his own things but I want to have him back & when he says things like down the road or he can’t say we’ll never get back it drives me nuts cause the door is still open or is he just sugar coating it? We are both 30 with our own children from separate relationships .he really Is a hardworking honest guy but where im concerned it just seems he is so closed off now. I need some advice I don’t wanna lose him forever its only been 3 days since I haven’t called or txt.
Okay. My problem is a little messed up.
Ok. So I was dating this guy for almost a year, and we broke up. Turns out, he thinks we are different, and want different things from life. After our break up, I was very upset but eventually things got better. We have known each other for quite a while and it’s impossible for us to not to talk to each other. So we have become “friends”. I still love him the same, but I am trying to act strong here, as in, doing almost all the steps on this post of yours, but day before yesterday, I met him. It was just a normal hangout. We went to a cafe and the normal things, but while returning we kissed. It just happened. I couldn’t control myself and neither could he. But he doesn’t want to get into a relationship, still. I act like it was a casual kiss for me, but it wasn’t. I miss him. I still want to speak my heart out on the phone everytime I talk to him, but I just can’t. What do I? I want him. Really. Help.
I want her back .I love her
I need help! My first college relationship ended. I was dating this girl we started out as fuck buddies and we ended up catching feelings. We spent 3 whole months waking up and sleeping together in college we did everything together an we eventually fell in love. However we did argue a lot but at the end if the day we said we loved each other and I thought we were happy. This It went bad. One weekend I went home and she came to visit that weekend because she left that semester. Before she went to visit Tuesday thru Friday we didn’t talk much because she was working but it felt like she was being extremely distance. So Friday i said I love her and hope she has fun. Now she didn’t talk to me till Monday and Sunday I got a text saying she needed space. Now between Friday and Sunday she had gotten drunk because people kept asking her how we were doing and it make her realize how unhappy she was but she never told me we said we loved each other and talked so I thought it was fine I was happy. So I found out she slept in the bed with my brother they didnt do anything. So she broke up with me and for two months I tried to win her back with love I wrote her a 26 page front to back love letter and sent her flowers. So we talked yesterday after her ignoring me for months an she said she had sex with her x after we broke up and that we could never be friends she said she doesn’t have a grudge but she doesn’t want to communicate . Anywho I did everything this website said don’t do. So what should I do?
Hey guys,
I broke up with my girlfriend about three weeks ago. Since then I have applied the No Contact rule, gone outside with other women as much as possible, discos with friends, just trying to get over her. I am not in the deep depression in what I used to be after the break-up, but I still have feelings for her. Yesterday I uploaded on facebook a picture of me and a really cute girl (she’s a friend of mine, but she doesn’t know that) and she liked it, which was actually the first sign that she remembered that I existed since our break-up.
How should I proceed? Should I contact her now, or wait more for her to make the first step? Maybe if I wait for her, she will think of me as a jerk and get over me…
Sorry, I know that this is really lame for asking and this is a small sign, but just I’m confused and don’t want to loose my ex.
So, I have been going out with this guy for a month, but we’ve been talking for about 7months. I really have falling for him, but one night we were hanging out and i randomly broke up with him(huge mistake of my life). He started crying hystericaly. The day after i apologized and asked for him back. He said yes. A week after we had one of the most amazing nights of our life together, but at the end of the night, he broke up with me. I was a emotional wreck. After that night i kept asking why he broke up with me and why cant we just be happy together. And i keep begging for him back. I really have fallen for him, and i really want him back. He says he wont go back out because he’s afraid of being hurt again and hitting rock bottom again. I really dont know what to do because i really care for him and i know i am never going to hurt him again.
Also, he said friends is the best route to go, so we are hanging today. What should i do! how should i act!
My name is julie
Me and my boyfriend were dating for three months and I did something terribly wrong I messed up our relationship the reason why we broke up is because I went all schools it turned out very bad, some guy was trying To makout with me and i pushing him away and told him i had a boyfriend but he understood and walked away but everyone took it the wrong way and everybody else had told my boyfriend that I made out with him and he believes his friends but not me I don’t know what to do. I called my boyfriend and told him all of that wasn’t true but he kept hesitating and didnt know what to say so he told me he would call me back latter. Then he did but he wanted a few days to think about it and i said okay okay and i acsedently did lie to him and he found out and i felt supper bad about everything. And then a few days after he said he didnt want to feel that way again then it was over but after like a month i still wanted him back so i texted him and i said can u please forgive me please i know i messed up and i am takeing the blame for what i have done and and then he said i still dont know so i said can u at least think about it and he said okayy but once again he came back said i want a bit of space so i gave it to him and he also said he doesn’t want to start dating right now maybe in the future ! What the hell does that mean i need your help on advice on what should i do at this point it would be so nice if i could have any tipe of advice on what i should do?!?!
What Should I do? Okay so, I tried to break up with my boyfriend like a million times but he didn’t want he said i’m not letting you go because i can’t live without you. i still think about him everyday no matter the pain i’ve caused him. I think we still love each other what should I do and any suggestions or opionions? THANKS!
So..my ex best friend convinced me my bf of the time cheated on me so i broke up with him without giving his side a listen, so we tried fixing it.. It didn’t work cuz my EX BEST FRIEND told him I broke up with him to sleep with two other guys..NOT TRUE, so he never gave MY side a listen..of course/= so two years or so goes by and he adds me on fb and then about a month later finally msgd me, and I called him out of the blue the other day and he sounded surprised..and shocked..we haunt talked in person for years keep in mind, and I was thinking of how we both got screwed over and it wasnt. Even our choice it was because neither of us gave each other the benefit of the doubt.. And he doesn’t wanna talk to me i don’t think, but he’s moving next week for good hella far, to where he was the summer we broke up, he stayed there all summer cuz i was the only reason he would have stayed, what do I do!!?!? He lives in another town about 30 mins away from me, do i hop on the bus n go build the bridge so we can burn them..? But I don’t kno, exactly where he lives in that town and no cell to call him when I’m there, he returned to my life just to leave again, and I kiss him a lot and he totally hates me cuz he thinks I’m a whore from what my ex BFF said..but I wish he could just listen/= I need help
Hi
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and his reason is he couldn’t feel the passion anymore. I’m really hurt and I really want him back. I called him n asked him to meet me yesterday and we did meet and he sed he’d like to try again. My question is, is it out of pity that he’s getting back with me cz even though I want him bak badly, I’d like it to last and not be based on pity. I’d really love your comments and especially the guys perspective on this…..
I’ve recently had contact again with my ex because of me finding out i were pregnant. We got back together then broke up day after because he said he wouldnt have time too see me because of work then got back together two days after then broke up again, because of work again then got back together and then tonight he sent me a text saying ‘i’ve noticed everytime were on our own, it feels massively awkward :/ i actually think the spark between us has gone. it just doesn’t feel right to be together, i’m sorry’. He’ll say something and then a few days later he’ll ask my mte to ask me back out for him, because he won’t do it his self :L. HELP!! advice needed. thanks x
I broke up with my ex like 7 months ago but Im starting to fall inlove with him again I really made a mistake…but life is sooo great he ask me out AGAIN today!!!
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Wow…. Reading the things that it says not to do, well I did everyone of them….
Ok me and my ex were together for a year off and on, ok the reson he broke up with me is because hes moving out of state, which when he asked me back out in jan of this year i knew we were going to move so ive worked my ass off working nonstop planning on this for awhile and all of the sudden a week ago he says he doesnt think its going to work ‘BEST FOR BOTH OF US IF WERE NOT TOGETHER’ my whole world crashed at that moment!!! i couldnt do anything but cry, he moves aT THE END OF MAY, PLEASE IF ANYONE COULD HELP ME THAT WOULD BE AMAZING IM HURTING SO BAD RIGHT NOW
me and my boyfriend just broke up on thrusday he told me a lot of awful things like that he hated me and he hated everything about me and that he grew tired of everything … i asked him if there was another girl he said yes he said there were a lot of other girls and that he wanted other well in nicer words vagina and we had been together for a year and almost 3 months on the 30 of april and i just want him back ive never felt this way about any other guy and i just want him to see that i can change and that i just want him in my life i love him so much and i feel like crap honestly he told me that i was a bitch and that maybe the next boyfriend i have ill trust him. and when i asked him to talk to me about this he called his mom and told her that i didnt want to leave him alone and i just love him please somebody help me please
Oh my God everyone, I feel really bad because I’ve just read the above list of “things not to do” and it turns out that I’ve absolutely every single one of them. I’ve contacted my ex, I’ve begged my ex to come back to me, I’ve been almost too available, too open about what I’m thinking and feeling, I’m too nice.. I feel like I’ve ruined my chances.
But I have to say that being positive does work. I faked it in March and I was positive as hell and my ex seemed interested in me, even said “I miss you”. But then I fell apart over the weeks as I realised I missed my ex so bad and I became weak, I made contact, I expressed my love, and so on and now my ex seems to want to get away from me. We haven’t spoken in 3 weeks!
Heart-ache perhaps has to be the worst feeling one has experienced. It’s like dealing with death, failure and loss all in one go.
I really love my ex. We were with each other for 4 years and we learnt a lot. It doesn’t make sense why it had to end this way. I fear that I may never truly fully recover from this. I’ll keep you posted if I see any progress…
So this girl I met about a month ago just told me that she used to like me but things changed and that it wasnt me. I don’t understand what happend with her and how I could get her back we never went out but we had a thing and I really like her, I’ve never felt this way about any girl everyone tells me to move on but I can’t she’s perfect for me. What do I do???
broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 2 months ago. He told me that he had no feeling towards me any more and the problems between us kept appearing that drove him too tired to continue our relationship, let alone we were doomed to be seperated for about 5 years for study in 2 contries. I really miss him. We have been together for 2 years and it’s realy hard for me to accept his leaving.I just wonder if our distance didn’t change, does that mean the possibility of our reunion is too low for me to expect?
how can i get him back? I have defriended him from all the SNS or IM networks. I have little message from him for a long time.
What can I do?
So me and this girl had a thing, she liked me and i liked her we would always talk and for a week she really really liked me but now she said she stopped because her feelings just changed randomly… I’ve talked to her friends and they have said she is very unstable and that i should move on because this has happened before, but i can’t because she’s perfect for me, i don’t know what else to do we never went out but it feels like we did. What do i do?
My boyfriend and I had an abortion. We were really hurting about it for a long time. Then he relocated to another city for work and became very busy. He’d not be able to call or text me very often and I became paranoid and lonely. One time I was in a really bad shape, and I confided in a close mutual friend about the abortion. I told him to not tell my boyfriend about it. But I was still lonely and angry from the fact that my boyfriend hadn’t been calling me. We had a huge fight over it, he blamed me for not understanding, I blamed him for not being there. Eventually things started getting back to normal. However the mutual friend told my boyfriend that I had told him about the abortion. This made him very angry and he broke up with me. I don’t know what to do anymore, my life is stalled. Please help me Kevin.
I’m totally heartbroken. I fell in love with my ex, he told me I was the love of his life his true love…… Then for the sake of his children he decided to try again with his ex but told me we are just friends for now he wants his future with me. So for the past 4 weeks he messages me every morning and day and night telling me he loves me etc. Saturday morning I get the same message telling me he can’t wait to wake up to me everyday. However Saturday night he decides he can’t do this anymore he feeling too much pressure at home and work so that’s it for me, he doesn’t want a future with me anymore and not to here from him again. I feel like I’ve had my heartbroken twice I’m in such a dark place right now I don’t know how to get out of it.
Me and my girlfriend broke up about 7 months ago. She broke up with me, saying she doesn’t want a boyfriend and says she will never have time to talk or hang out with me. But now i honestly don’t know if she loves me. We still talk during school, but its not the same. I was thinking of telling her that i just wanted to be together and she doesn’t have to hang out with me if shes not available. I love this girl so much i would do anything to get her back! But i know i shouldn’t be begging and being needy and even if i did say anything she would still probably say “i don’t want a boyfriend”. After we broke up she said “i’ll always love you and i would never date any other guy”. I asked her friend to ask her but she says she doesn’t care about. But i don’t think it’s true. I miss her so much. I was thinking of giving it time and try to act innocent or to just focus on my education and sports.
Me and my boyfriend didn’t have any issues.We had alot of things in common, even when it came to the little things. quick example: i always tell my friends when anyone is talking about wanting the perfect guy, i say “If it’s perfect it’d be boring” then when me and my ex boyfriend were in a conversation and i said how we’re perfect, but not at the same time, because of our quirks and what not, then he responded “well of course, if it was perfect it’d be boring” and the end. so me and him got a little “too” close, but we were both nerves, but when we were ready, we slowly took our steps together, and we were fine. he always went along his casual way, as did i. we don’t go to the same school so i get to see him once a week, and he would always be the first to text me whenever he got up, which on week days was at 6 A.M. when one night on a serious conversation over a phone call, he told me he could actually imagine a day when we get married, and he actually wants to stay with me long enough to do so. i didn’t freak out, squeel, or anything, i was speachless and almost crying, but he didnt know. he would say everything at the right time, knowing from what i hear from him and other people he’s close to, i’ve been the only girlfriend this close. i ask him to do something, he simply tells me he would do anything. i tell him something small im doing with looks wise, he always says im beautiful the way i am. even if he was on the edge on climax, he wouldn’t think twice (while he’s not nerves at all) to stop if i told him i didnt want to move any further, to shy, ext… then one morning, he randomly breaks up with me over text because he’s “overwhelmed” and i dont know what about. he told me how sorry he was and he kept asking me if i was fine. he was seriously sorry about it and felt like crap. yet he still wants to be friends with me, and when i would get serious and ask “do you mean ‘wanting to be friends’ as if your going to claim so, then we slowly seperate? or ‘wanting to be friends’ as if you actually WANT to. either way, its not like im going to kill you” and he told me he actually, seriously wanted to be friends. so we still see eachother once a week, and the first time when crap went down about others knowing because we weren’t going to tell everyone before, but he did. i saw him texting to his friend “im not sure what to do” while i stayed awkward silent, wanting to cry, but not making eye contact next to him, trying to seem fine. so everything was awesome before. he was my best friend and the first one i’ve ever loved before, i cry so much over him and i want to tell him everything on how i feel but i havn’t because of the understandable steps to take you talk about. we knew eachother before we were potty trained, and i couldnt remember him, but he remembered me after years meeting at an 80′s party (and i knew he wasn’t just a stalker, cause our parents remember and he remembered what i looked like when i was younger). i think he’s following the steps im following when it comes to showing no needyness, act happy, ext.. but i always wish he would do the opposite. but i dont want to be like his ex’s and just run back to him EVER. and if he asked me back, i know from how it would go, i would turn it into a playfull thing that involved him to beg a lil in a fun way in stead of just simply answering, but not a mad way, in a way i know he would laugh. thanks for reading all this so far. so 2 questions….1. when should i tell him how i feel? obviously not just out at random before, but should i ease into it in a way that wouldn’t be needy? thats morely in the moment? or not untill that moment comes if we can ever get together? (im guessing the last one, but i need to be sure) 2. how can i get him back? i feel that the more i follow this advice, the less i see him (which i would be fine if it was a casual pass by and i ignore him or something so he see’s, but not when its just plain out nothing and i have no clue.) and so i don’t know if its helping me get him back really. i know it may be a long process, but he’s literal like me at these kind of things, and i don’t know if he’ll ever come back.so how can i increase the chance of this even more in getting him back? and getting him faster? thank you for reading all this and please help XP XP
Me and my ex broke up six months over some of her friends because she did not believe me she believed her friends and i still love her and want to be with her but now her ex husband accuses me of getting a hold of him when i didnt it was another part of my family that did and now my ex doesn’t want me to get a hold of him because she is afraid that it will hurt her chances of seeing her kids and him getting on her about me getting a hold of him to apologize to him about what my family did and now im living in hurt and crying every night because of this so how can i make this right to where he dosen’t blame her for me getting a hold of him i’m in between a rack and a hard place.
Hi,
A few days ago, we had a terrible arguement wit my 2yrs girlfriend and we came to an agreement of breaking .Yes our relationship dint start right because we met wen i was in a relationship and she was single, being a rational guy it took me considerable time 6months to be precise to break up with my ex because she was understanding and we neved argued n yes i loved her n dint want to hurt her for no reason.After all th hustle we started a relationship wit the other girl and things took off in the wrong turn!!,we argue too much,we say things that lovers cnt say to eachother,but our sex life is great.just before our break our breakup she told me she wanted a baby,n dint agree with that because we are just student in our early twenties. she then sed she want to start seeing a 30year old guy who she met at the course of work and he told her he likeses her and would like to marry.so thats the reason she wanted to break up cause she couldnt see him behind my back.but yesterday she said she misses me and after a chat we decided that we will be making love to eachother no matter what.so my question is,is there a 30years old guy or is she just telling me that to push me away,she says that she still loves me but she is breaking upbwith me,why???
my girl broke up with me because i was unfaithful from a verbal standpoint not physical. i was in contact with my ex when i was with my girl. my ex wanted a relationship sexually but i turned her down because i loved my babygirl. i didnt want to lose my gf infact i want her back. my ex broke my heart when she broke up with me and i alwayz vowed vengenance
i n she loved only fr about 6 months..we usually go for films,parks,temple n etc..we used to talk whole nit even without sleep daily.she loved me more dan i did.she said “my ever n ever bst gft for u is gvng me..from this sec i promise that i wont even stare at anyone..” she alwas tell me dat im so cute enough for her.but now we brke up bfre 2 mnths.when she left me she said “my husband should be more handsome n everyone should respect him..and we are not in enough age to love.so let we wait for 4years to mature enough..” if i tel this to my frnds they reply that “she left u n she wont come again..she is trying or else she is in love with someone..she cheated u..”..but i think that someone brain washed her..what can i do now.? i dont know what to do now.i dont know whether she still loves me or not.i need her.i dont have any contact with her.she have changed her mob no.please please please anyone give me an idea to find whether she loves me or not.i cant even concentrate in my studies..
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I know it’s hard, I feel for you guys as I am going thru this as well but did any of ya’ll read the article?
My girlfriend broke up with me last night, only to tell me that she’s falling in love with some other guy. We have been together now for almost a year, and we have had a long distance relationship because of school. She was eager to move in with me but decided on the last minute that she did not want this. She gets jealous easily and needs someone to be by her side, physically and emotionally… something I cant do because of our 6 hour distance. I love her to death and cant imagine with anyone else. I dont know what to do.
My Girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 years. We met and Lived in northern California. We both finished college last year and decided to move to the LA area because there are better jobs. She found a great job in about 2 seconds and moved down early to start and I stayed up north for a month. She started making friend and going to social events. I moved down a month later and was still struggling to find a job, I spent all my time looking and looking. The whole time we were apart she would call me every night and say how much she missed me and was counting the days till we were together again. I was convinced she was the one, and was trying to save up for a ring. A monthe after we moved in toghether she all of the sudden says she wants some space and needs some time apart. She says for the past few months she has really been unhappy and depresed and does not find me attractive anymore.
I found out while I was here she went out with her friends saying it was a “girls night out.” The next day I found a text from a guy saying he had fun the other night and wanted to see her again. when I confronted her about it she told me the whole story about how some guys crashed the party (they were at a bar/club) and thats when she told me how she has been feeling lately and suggests a break. The next day she came crawling back on her hands a knees trying to salvage us, I thought we made up. We talked about going to councling and making things work, then a week later she had a few drinks at home and says she wants a break again. She starts going through a pattern of one minute she loves me then the next she wants a break and back and forth. another week later she says ok now we are going to take a break, so i left for a few days, during that time she assured me it was just a break and she needs time to think. i found out this guy is still texting her and I don’t know if she really likes him and is keeping contact or if this guy is just a creep who keeps calling. I know she still has feeling for me and tells me we could be together long term in the future she just wants to be herself for a little while.
I have always treated her like a queen and tried to be the person who lets her have fun and be trustworthy. We have a dog together too, techically the dog is her’s but I have been the one who mostly takes care of him.
I feel stuck right now, I have only been in this area for a month, and have not made many friends yet. now I lost my dog, my house, Girlfriend and spent most of my money on a deposit and rent and stuff for the house (moving cities is expensive) and don’t have anyone here to help support me. I see her with friends and talking to other guys having a good times. I just want her back! I feel like I gave her a great 6 years and treated her like a queen and moved cities with her just so she can dump me on my A** with nothing and go have a good time. I am in pain, why isn’t she? Is there any hope to get her back? Shuld I not give her a second chance after the way she broke my heart and did this to me? During the time we were dating I never once had a reason not to trust her. I really feel like if we are ment to be, then we need to do this for our relationship, If she needs space she can have it for herself, I just don’t want her to be spending it with other guys. How do I get her back?
I have being with my bf for five years now. Our first 3 years together where amazing it was the man that i had waited all my life. But these last two years we are off and on. Before he was the one that would look for me and do crazy things to be with me. Now im the one the begs him to be with me. There are days now weeks that he desapear from me and he come back with me cause im alwasys that end up looking out for him. We have talked so many times how to improve our relationship and we agree to change and bring back those things that we fall in love. So we stop arguing everything finally was coming back to normal he was loveable answer all my calls he even started to call me text me and want it to see me more often. But this last saturday he did it again there were no respose from him he disapear on friday he told me he was going to pick me up from work on saturday i waited called him nothing happend. I finally got tired to be the one looking out for him so i stop calling him now he calls me but i don’t want to answer him. I feel sad cause my birthday is coming out and im going to be single without him. But i can’t be like this im tired to be sad because of him. I love him but i have to think of me. There is a lot of good jobs opportunities a let go because of him all my friends with my family i can’t enjou because of him. I have to move on but is really hard because i love him with all my hearth and is impossible for me to know that he won’t be part of my life anymore.
hey my name is jessica in like last year me n my bf broke up cuz stupid rumers i broke up with him cuz i thought he spreded it all n we got back to gether n we dated for like 3 mounths n we kissed he gave me a ring 4 valentines n all that hes n 7th n im n 6th all though im sopposed to me n 7th well when we were daten i thought we were goin to be together forever then things went wrong well i just need to say i just no im n love with him soooo much but well at the end of the three mounths he didnt talk to me for like 4 days then i figured out that he waz braken up with me i went on my phone n he said it waz over n i fliped out n started cryen he said it waz over becouse we never see eath other n thats a lie we see each other allmost everyday but he like never comes up too me but i no thats not y n he allways texts me all the time n like a week ago he called me n said i miss u baby n i said really n he said ya n i said well i dont then he said i love you n i said i dont then we just txted that night i didnt want him to think i did like him then he said i only love you then i went to my freinds n i txted him off her phone to see if he liked her or love her i said do you like me cuz i like you n he said huh n i said jk n he said yes i do but i have a gf named heather i txted back i said i hate you sooo much n then i told him it waz me n he said oh shit n i allmost creid cuz i thought he still did love me then i no hes still daten that one girl but i dont think shes real i think hes maken her up he said shes n 8th n i asked people n no one said they new a heather n 8th grade well idk but i really want to tell him i still love him i just dont no what to do but i only new that well thought that we were goin to be together for ever cuz we were at a ball game n we were on the play gound bye ourselfs around the school he came up to me n said is this to close n i siad no then he said good then he kissed me while i waz on the swing n then we went to eddies (his best freinds b day party) he couldent keep his lips off of me then he rode my bus home n we went to my freinds across the street to help the party planning like all day then i went to the end of the ally with him 4 like an hour n he said the sweetest things n hes allways had the sweetest thing to say n i cant help but just fall i love deep love with him i dont no what to do or say or any thing
PLZ HELP
My fiance left me recently after four years of being together. I suffer from extreme anxiety, depression, and mood swings. He was always too afraid to tell me about them, and I never realized they were a problem until he broke off the engagement and left me.
We’d broken up maybe two weeks earlier and gotten back together. The passion had almost completely gone from our relationship, everything had been routine up until then… but when I realized what had been wrong, I realized I needed to fix things, to try again. I loved this man and I wanted to give him the world and everything in it. I started initiating sex again, which I hadn’t done in years, doing romantic things for him… we fell in love all over again. He decided he wanted to try again and we moved back in. That was the most terrible idea we could have had.
After about a week I got so depressed that I couldn’t function. It wasn’t him or the house or anything, it was the habits I had gotten into that I couldn’t break without the proper change. I hadn’t worked in three years because he always assured me I didn’t need to worry about it, and my anxiety stopped me from leaving the house. He worked from home so we were always together when he wasn’t at school. Basically, we were suffocated again.
There was a function we were both really looking forward to at his school where he was going to be presenting some research and become a member of his school’s honor society. I was so proud of him. When we arrived at the school though, my anxiety started acting up and I began having terrible mood swings. I felt so insecure around his female classmates and began having horrible thoughts about how he wanted them instead of me, another side effect of my anxiety and depression. He kept insisting that it was okay and he wasn’t upset at me for being so sad and anxious, but I insisted that I wished I hadn’t gone, I felt I had ruined his important day… and I was right.
The next day, he had a study session with some friends from school. He came back not even two hours later, stomped into the office, and started yelling at me about how I’d ruined his life. For someone with extreme mood issues and mental imbalances, this was horrible. I completely lost it. We’d been so fine the last few days, with the night before being the only problem. I really want to fix things, but I know I’m going to need to wait and give him time to recover… I’m currently on medication for the anxiety and it’s helped a little. I only wish I had been on those meds during the conference so I wouldn’t be in this position in the first place. Should have, could have, would have.
I have a few qustions now is this a bad idea that ur x girl gose off with ur best friend and she helped me out with her friend is there anyway i can get my x back from b4 her friend and lighte i been a meesss so can u please help m,e out with this
me and my gf had been in relationship for 4years and we were fighting from last year on frequent reasons and last month we fought again and she said i dnt want to b with u again and she is behaving very rudly ignoring me i made a mistake that i havn’t gave her any time and contineously called her and she became very irritated and become very very very rude i am never expected that i cried badly punished myself and done very wierd things and its been a month i am doing this and now i asked her take ur time now i want to know will her mindset b change???? i mean she behaved like an enemy i dnt knw pls help:(:(
i have all the mistakes mentioned above
i beged
i havnt gave any time
and she is very irritated towareds me i mean she dnt want to listen my voice
i managed to convience her that u can still take ur time after all the above mistakes
i wan her back helpppp
My ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for about a year and a half before he decided to permanently end things with me a few days ago, over a stupid fight. I understand that I pushed him to break up with me, just because I take every single fight to a new level. I stoop very low and get in the heat of the moment and let my anger take over me by saying very hurtful things. He decided that he’d had enough of it and told me he couldn’t be with him right now, that I’ve hurt him too much. I can’t even describe how bad this had made me feel. He says he doesn’t want to do this, that he really wants to be with me…but just can’t. I need to get him back. I love him so much and I know he loves me….he’s just so hurt. This has happened before, getting in a big argument once every few months and then just decide to take a break, or break up. We get back together every time. This relationship might sound dysfunctional, but we are very young and very stupid. We are each other’s first love. I am desperate to get him back and to show him that I am completely serious about chaning this time. I have said this before but I know I need to this time. I have never felt like this before. Like I lost the most important thing in my life. I am desperate to get him back and I don’t know what to do. I am willing to use any advice I can get.
So what do you do when you dated someone for 12 years. Someone you imagined your whole life with? I will spare the details, but its safe to say that both he and I made big mistakes in our relationship. We didn’t communicate with eachother out of fear of losing eachother. Six months ago he broke things off. At first I didn’t think that it would stick… but it has. We still live together which complicates things – we bought a house several years ago and my children have grown up there. It is like a divorce…
I love him more than I can possibly say and I have tried desperately to convince him that this is a mistake. If we could consciously decide to work on this together and to communicate better with eachother, I’m convinced that we would be in it for the long haul – like we both always dreamed of.
He doesn’t seem sad about the loss of our relationship anymore. There was one day when we had just broken up that he cried in my arms on the couch. Since then, he only seems bitter and angry. How do I fix this? Have I really lost him forever? Even though he says he still loves me, things like seeing pictures of our past or items and artifacts of our relationship do not seem to have the same emotional effect on him. I just don’t understand. I love him so much and I just want us to be happy together again – like we used to be.
Maybe you both have outgrown what you had before. Maybe you both need to push forward and go to a new level within the relationship. I can help you. Feel free to send me an email.
Renee, If your husband is not willing to work things by going to counseling, then maybe you are asking too much from him.
I think you should follow this plan by stopping communication for a short period of time. Not too much though. Maybe a week or two. And pull yourself together. Work on your inner issues in that time. Try to find out what YOU did wrong and improve yourself.
And when you have to contact him, don’t ask him for such a big commitment like going to counseling. That’s a huge thing to ask your ex. You have to take things slowly in the starting. As I explain in STEP 3, start by asking him out for coffee. Just for 15 minutes. It’s a small step that he will be comfortable with.
And then from there on you slowly take it to the next level. The key is to make them take very small steps. If you ask them to make a big commitment, they will run away before you even know it.
Hey Christine,
Your story is very touching. I will suggest you to take one small step at a time. Don’t ask him directly to get back with you. As I mentioned in step 3, just ask him out for a coffee or lunch. Something small, that he can’t say no. If he hesitates, say something like “Come on, it’s just a cup of coffee”. If he still says no, just accept it. You can try calling him again after a few days. When you meet for the coffee, talk about things other than your breakup. You can talk about the kids. DO NOT ask him to get back with you. Make it a fun date. Make him feel admired during that time. Compliment him on things that you like about him. Read this blog post to understand what I am talking about. I hope everything turns out good for you. I’ll pray for you.
That’s similar to what happened to me, She left me for a friend of hers that she barely knew, And on top of that it was her bestfriend’s boyfriend, So her and her bestfriend are against eachother now. And it’s like I don’t know what to do she tells me she’s over me and she is having feelings for this other guy but she’ll always love me because I was her first love. I’m trying to cut contact, It’s been one day since I’ve last talked to her and it’s no lie killing me, i wonder if this is truly going to work, I love that girl with a passion, And I was planning to propose and I just hope she comes back.
I know it’s hard man, I’m just reaching my seccond week!! I reccomend getting a notebook and writing down what you want to say to her. I did it and it helps. I am having such a hard time, but let’s hope it pays off. We need to give them time to miss us!! And if you do get back together, it will be to build a better and stronger relationship than before!! I’m writing a letter to my ex and I picked a date on the calendar that I’m gonna give it to him. Hang in there!! What ever you do, promise yourself that you will NOT contact her. My story is a few posts below, but I left some things out. Just give her space.
Hey Katie, It wouldn’t let me reply to you on my post, So I’m going to reply on yours. Yeah that is a good idea with the notes, But honestly it is just so hard because she acts all happy with him, And people tell me she’s going to miss me and she’s going to come back in time, But she really seems happy with him and they are all playful and like happy together and it’s like me and her were serious, And honestly towards the end it was a lot of arguing and we’ve always had severe trust issues, So why would she come back to me if this guy is treating her better, And it hurts because if I had a second chance, I’d treat her like I should have to begin with. And she keeps asking me how I’m doing and it’s hard to ignore her.
Oh my god. That is the same thing with me. He acts like nothing has changed. He is just with this new girl and he seems so happy… They make out in the halls at school.. They have facebook pictures up together..
Everyone says that he will see his mistake. But in my case, it’s been a month. I really don’t even know if he misses me. He acts like I dont exist. How can you spend two years with someone, do everything together, And then just replace them the next day? He told me he “moved on” before the break up. I don’t know what that means. How can he be over me!? I don’t get it.
Just trust me. I think the no contact my actually work. I went a week without contact and I think he really started to think about me. He passed me in the halls and he was looking at me. I’m almost sure of that much. I just keep praying for them to break up…she isn’t right for him. She just isn’t.
I will pray for you too Austin. Just stay strong!! I have a feeling things might just work out for us if we keep our heads up!!
hey can you please help me with my break up and tell me what should i do?
And also, my ex kind of does the same thing. My mom blocked his number on my phone so he can’t contact me and I took him off of my facebook friends list for my own sanity.
Coming from a girl, I think that if she wants to know how you’re doing it means she still thinks about you. Keep yourself a mystery. The less she knows the more she will want you!!
I avoided even passing my ex in the halls for a week and he saw my face for the first time and I could TELL he wAnted to say something. Then the next day he stopped and made an effort to wave but I ignored it. You’re a guy… What’s up with him?
Hey Katie, Well I ignored my ex for days and found someone else and started dating her, And last night she’s IM’s me crying her eyes out telling me she is still in love with me and she want’s us back together. But I don’t know what to do, I love her but I think she is just jealous, I told her to take her time and to think things through and if she wants us back together and I want us back together then it’s going to be my choice if I go back to her or not. I wasn’t being all sweet to her and when I talked to her I was rude, It worked. I am just unsure about what to do, I love her with all my heart, But right now I am just with this other girl and she makes me happy, But in the end I think me and my ex will end up back together. And from my point of view, He wants you back but he is scared you don’t want him, But he isn’t going to make the first move for a while, He’s missing you and regretting what he did, But he’s going to deny it until it honestly hits him, And when it does, He’ll be back, But by then it might be too late, Because that’s where I’m stuck at right now.
hey i was hoping maybe you or austin could possibly heklp me with a situation i have
hi! on this scenario.. we had a few common which also happening with me..if you think that she is the best for you for the rest of your life.. then have your rights to be with it.. im glad that theres no third party involve.. maybe ur girl was mixed emotion thats why she was puzzled up.. every woman aims a faithfully relationship and you have a romantic present for ur girl.. try to talk to her in a peaceful place where you can enjoy the views and settle down again the things.. there is really one big reason why she refuse your proposal…life is so hard and its pretty hard to start all over again with someone.. if you both guys are stable then fight for your rights especially that both of u had properties already,,, having this kind of property means both of you have a strong foundation of relationship already…. u are a man so try to vitualize on her mind again the plans… u can make it.. and im proud of u that u had been faithfully to ur woman… thumbs up for a guy like this! just work it out with ur fiancee and everything will be fine.. because both of u are destined each other i can feel that..
Hey, I read your story & comment. I need some advice from a guy. My ex and I dated for 8 months. We loved each other and have amazing memories, now hes joinging the NAVY, asked he has asked if Id marry him..I said yeah. Now about a week ago he told me he has been smoking cigarets. It came as a shoke cus he had not not told me this before. Anyways I made a big deal and broke it off cus of frustrTion. Then right away I took it back, but He DIDNT.accept. He then said he just doesnt know if he loves me , also that he just neds time.WTF? Im so confused cus he gave me different reasons why we shouldnt see each other anymore. Its been a week that I haven’t contacted him I know he has feelings for me still. Cus we were serious. What he told me has gutted me deeply. .i love him and would like to try it agin. But Is IT possible? Do you think this No contact thing works? I need a guys advice!! Please, thank you!
Vick,
First of all you ame a mistake to beg her and cry to stay with you. Women stay with men who have high self-esteem afn self-respect.
When she told you that she wants to break up she meant exaclty that.
Don’t fall to the trap to see her again because you are doint it worst. There are plenty of girls who will make you happier than her.
She is just playing with you and you will be miserbale with her
Good Luck:)
Kevin, after 18 years of marriage, we are both in early 50′s, my husband has left me about 4 months ago to be with a 24 year old woman abroad, he makes very good money, we worked very hard to get there financially, there are other women whom he meets at work, these women want him for selfish reasons, he may be dating other women also?
He wants to marry 24 year old woman from abroad, Phillipino woman, he planned/arranged this before he left me, he texted etc to her while living with me, then went to see her oversees fro a month. He is the bread winner, so I don’t know what to do, I was a housewife, plus helped him to get ahead with his career, investments etc.
he has not contacted me, when I contacted him, he only spoke of divorce, he has not called or email except he wants divorce, we have assets,
I love him more than anything else in the world, financially we are ruined, bills are due, overdue, credit will get ruined, I have not taken any legal action,
how to approach to win him back if at all ever a possibililty, I love him dearly, I cry all the time, I cry at every memory, every moment of the past spent with him, he cheated on me though, how to win someone like him back,
thank you
Lupe
Similar story happened to me after a 4yr relationship.. its been a coupe of weeks now and hurting a lot.. I suggest you focus on yourself more and make as little contact with him as possible. consider the things that caused issues in your relationship and if its reasonable to change, and continue your life as confidently as possible. You know your ex best and what is attractive and unattractive to him. Best of luck!
Its the same with me
what do u do if he is faking like he dont wanna be with u and it hurts so bad because he wont talk to me on the phone or text me and i dont know what to do like i gave him time to get his feeling together and i guess he got them all together but he still wont talk to me and i love him alot
so someone please help me
Maybe you should contact her. if you want to be with her you should try and contact her. how do you know that she doesn’t want to be with you? you may lose the love of your life if you don’t try again..
I still live with my ex, and will till the lease is up next june, so I’m hoping ‘time heals all wounds’ or whatever, and we can forgive, move on, and get back together. I’m newly single again, and said ex doesn’t seem to give a crap. Maybe he’s just tryin to front… Idk, but I am too… for the most part, i’m okay b/c other ppls are fufilling the love language of quality time. when k took my V card, I realized I was a nympho, or so I thought, and well, it’s been 2.5 years, and I can’t really stand to have sex with him. I’m (almost) NEVER turned on, and usually only had sex because he wanted to, and I felt bad for saying no, b/c he would get sad if I did. But other ppl can turn me on and get me wet, with almost no effort at all. And I have re-realized that I am a nymphomaniac. I crave sex like a fat kid craves… stuff to eat.
k doesn’t spent enough time with me, and he can’t, really… what with the school shit and whatnot. he does not take the time to make sure I’m turned on b4 trying to kiss his way into my pants. he does not like to LEAVE THE DAMN BEDROOM. and he cooks and has sex like a god, but does not often use either skill.
I say it like that, b/c he CAN make me… pass out… but he doesn’t do that anymore.
we were doing so good the past week- so VERY good… but he proposed again… in the middle of sex and crying (on my part of course) and things brightened up like a floodlamp at midnight, sex got MUCH better (partially b/c I was pre-heating the oven >.>) the heavy weight was gone from my heart, I got to go to a bar and get outta the house, no more arguing (%98 less at least) and things were fantastic. but I felt like I had 2 Boyfriends, b/c I was spending way more time with my friend, than k was with me.
He said he wanted to wake up to my smiling face every morning, and he wanted me in his life forever; and promised a real ring, from a real jeweler (eventually).
we were in an open relationship and he had slept with several ppl, and the friend i aforementioned, got drunk and tried to have sex with me- i was turned around in the kitchen, and he just stuck it in- i freaked out and didn’t give all the details, and the we broke up b/c i panicked. well after that, i had sex with the friend anyway b/c i was so upset, and still didn’t tell b/c at that time it was none of his business, but the friend and i decided to never do that again, and to keep it a secret; the next morning, the guy was having sex with me while i was asleep, and i woke up and asked him wtf he was doing?? so today i told kenny that whole spiel, and he says he’s permanently done, b/c i didn’t tell him last night when actually i did, he just doesn’t listen well.
i really dont know what to do- his pride is doing this
Bcz love is a feeling
You should date others. I bet he will feel different about you when he finds out. I know it goes against your insticts but that’s not working for you so try something that might work.
Hey Megan, I know it’s easier said then done. But at this point if you are not comfortable dating others, then in the mean time of waiting or trying to get back with your ex, don’t keep asking him, hanging out with him, talking all the time to him, as if he is going to become more and more interested in you. The more you work on yourself, keep yourself busy and do things that you like ( hanging with friend, sports, hobbies, new things), then you will actually be making your self not so much available to him and appearing to not be so anxious to be with him, if you get what I’m saying. The more you get use to NOT being with him all the time, maybe through the new things that you are doing to build yourself up, then you will feel that maybe you don’t want to be with him, meet someone else or just choose to be single. Trust me, you will stress yourself out more worrying day after day if you are going to get back together. And if you wait and worry, well then how are you benefiting from this? How will he be interested in you or attracted to you again, if you are not making some changes in your life or doing things to better yourself. I hope that helped.
Well Ethel, if you still love him, then talk to him and see what he has to say. People do deserve a chance to explain themselves especially if they didn’t do much to hurt you, but your feelings. You can either learn to forgive him and be with him or forgive him, hug or shake hands and move on, especially if you stil have this desire to be with him. You may be afraid now, but what if you wait and look back regretting what you should have done all along. Call him up or agree to meet with him and see what he has to say, what’s the harm in that!
Que can you send me your email I would really like your help on getting her back
We seriously have outgrown eachother but she broke up with me and I try to talk to her but she says don’t call or text me anymore
hi Que is yr post for me jass?? could any one help please, i know every thing i did i know the reasons i passed that emotions i am now at emotion control, but i’m applying no contact
my story is very big the past 2 break up the first one she called back the next one i left here with no contact then took the date of mother’s day and send sms to her mother and 3 min later she called but this time things are different she had a job i bet she got the job out there coz she was coming soon and the 10 days was so good with each other and before break up with 1 day she sent me the sweet sms plz help
Hey my name is Bryan .. im 17 year old i live in florida and this is my story and i need your help please :
I was with this girl for 4 months , shes 15 years old shes a quite girl shes very shy she moved to florida 10 months ago i met her in the library and we were dating behind her moms back and also she sometime she ditched me and stuff .. well you will say wow is just a short term but our relationship was kinda special … … so i was with her for 4 months but in the 2 months everything was perfect we talked a lot we did a lot of thing together and even sexual things ( we didnt have sex ) so in the third month she kinda starting to change with me , by the end of the third month she asked me for a break , i was shocked cuz i was thinking what did i do wrong ? and then she told me that she kinda felt attracted to one guy in her geometry class … so i kinda got mad and we kept talking about that but i always wanted to make her happy no matter what then i accepted to take a break but she told me that we still could see each other and kiss and talk like normal . but by the end she was like i dont want to hurt you so im not going to take a break . then i got happy for that decision that she made so we forgot about that but still like everyday i kinda ask her if she was thinking about that guy and she told that a little … so like by the end of the third month she started to act really cold towards me … so one thursday she was like breaking up with me .. in that day i gave her my cellphone to text each other that day but she barely text me instead she was talking with one friend of her .. that she knew since she was little and that guy moved to florida and she was living in massashutsets or whatever you spell that .. so they knew each other for kinda a long time but the didnt talk too much cuz my ex shes a girl that doesnt talk too much u have to be the one that has to talk so they didnt talk too much in that day they were talking and they used to go to the beach since she moved to florida ( like 10 months ago ) soin that they they were going to the beach (she had my cellphone ) so they went to the beach and they kissed … i figured that out cuz in the same day in the night she was breaking up with me so i was like really sad but mad at the same time she was asking me to be friend but i ove her so much that i was like i dont want to be friends so i asked her to give my phone back immediately so she was like that she was going to give it back the next day i was like no give it back now im going to your house ( she lives like 8 minutes aways from my apt ) so i told her to leave my phone outside of her house so i would pick it up … then before i was going to pick up my phone she told me that we need to talk .. so when i got back home we kept talking .. but i checked my phone and she left her fb open so i looked cuz she talks with one friend that she has in california and i wanted to see why she was acting cold towards me cuz i knew she tells everything to him so while we were talking thats when i saw she told him she cheated on me then after that i told her that i cant be friend with her cuz she cheated on me .. then after that she begged me to take her back and i did take her back but still i couldnt fully trust her my trust for her was broken .. and i asked her to stop seeing him but she said she wasnt going to do that cuz that was his friend for years and her friend’s mom was the best friend of her mom .. so it was kinda hard for her to stop seeing him , so we like argue like almost everyday for the same thing and i tried to leave her like 4 times but she begged me to not do that then i told her that at least stop texting him when were together but one she kept doing that and that pissed me off so in the 4 times i tried to leave her she promised me she wont to talk to him for more than 2 hours … cuz when me and her met .. we used to talk a lot for like 8 or 9 hours per day and when it was night when we were talking on fb like around 10 she told her firned whoever she was talking with she was going to sleep just to talk with me .. but she stop doing that she kept talking with other people and me .. so i was getting tired of her talking with the guy she cheated on me with then the 4th time i tried to leave her she got tired and said .. ok im done if thats what u want then were done , in that moment i regretted saying that cuz i was expecting that she was going to beg me to not break up with her .. so i started to beg her to take me back but she said no that if i want to do something with her it was going to be a friendship i kept begging her but she said no .. so that night i was so desperate that i went to her house i was outside expecting to talk to her but i was outside and her mom was around she got really mad i texted her i was outside she was like go away and i told her i need to talk to u i want u to take me back but she said no she told me to get away using bad words and stuff .. then i leaved and she told me that i was a jerk for trying to threatened her like that to take me back and risking to get caught and i made her cry .. and hurt me a lot … so after that day i kept begging her and stuff for a week and going every morning to her house before she goes to school but nothing worked .. but in that week i begged her and she finally said that she was going to take me back but she wasnt happy at all even i asked if she was happy she was like not really … so the next i told her that i cant force her to do something that she doesnt want to so i was like i cant do that to u so i had a flower that she gave to me ( that was the only thing that gave to me during our relationship ) but that flower was really special for me that i wanted to give it to her cuz it was going to hurt me a lot cuz we broke up .. so at first she didnt want to accept it back but the second time she took back ….and that day was the last time i beg her to take me back .. then i stopped talking to her but she still say “HI” to me and we kinda talk but like i said shes one girl that donesnt talk a lot i was the only one that talks .. then it was a weird conversation we barely talk then she was like that u need to talk then i told her well i was the only one that talks its ur turn to talk then started to asking random stuff but like 2 questions and that was all then the next day i ignored her for a whole day she kept sending me messages saying “hi” but i didnt reply the next day and she was like i need to talk to u .. so i thought she wanted to talk about going back together (but like 1 month she let borrow a comb to cut hair it was for my sister ) then i answered about what ? she was like about stuff then she asked to give back her comb that was all then she said she had to go in the same day she said “hi” again i didnt answered cuz i was out then she told me to sop ignoring her or she was going to delete me from fb then i told her i was out with m y mom .. then when i got home we kinda kep talking but when we said bye she was like form now on u have to say hi first otherwise i wont say hi first … then i ignore her the whole week and she started to send me a message after 3 days i started to ignore her asking me for her comb saying that she need it back that please give it back and please respond her stop ignoring her and stuff so one saturday she stopped sending me messages and then i was doing that tactic of ignoring her so she will miss me but it wasnt working for me so the following monday i was waiting for her to give back her comb .. so she was kinda surprised when she saw me but she was like upset at me i asked her why she was upset and she said she wasnt upset ,, but i knew she was then .. i said hi on fb first and stuff but then she ask me why i was talking to her then i told her she that she told me so .. then she said alright .. alright but i told her why she ask me that and she was like i dont know and also i asked why she was upset and she told me that she was upset cuz we broke up and i was mean with her ( probably i was kinda mean with her like prohibiting thing to her and stuff and being jealous that was all but i was actiong like that cuz she cheated on me ) … then i told her if she wanted to talk to me .. and she was like that whatever things arent going to be the same .. and she told me even tough if i wasnt mean with her .. her feelings changed .. she was going to brake p with me anyways ..so ui asked her if she would have left me ? and she said i dont know … in that day when we talk i wanted to fix things with her not trying to say thati wanted to go back with her i just wanted to be cool with her not to leave things like they are right now but she was upset and stuff for her everything was like whatever i dont care … so man what should i do i want to talk to her and dont want to be like this with her we had so many memories together i dont want to end things like this … my story its kinda confusing but i hope u can understand it … and please reply back u need your advise
can you please help me?
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