How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan

breakups are reversible

In most cases it’s possible to reverse a breakup. Is yours?

Are you hurting from a breakup?

Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?

But what if it didn’t have to be over?

What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?

My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.

Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to be together with your ex, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. Most of the breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.

I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to have a happy relationship with your ex. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.

In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.

#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy

begging and pleading won't get your ex back

After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.

Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.

#2 The Doormat Syndrome

Being a doormat won't get your ex back

The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.

If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.

You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –

a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want your ex back.

b) Even if it does work, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.

#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing

drunk dialing will hurt your chances of getting your ex back

Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together

This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are calling their ex and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.

You have to make yourself scarce if you want to be together with your ex (explained in STEP 2 of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.

#4 Smothering Them With Affection

I love you is not something your ex wants to hear right now

Saying “I love you” will NOT help your case

The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.

Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?

“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.

 

#5 Giving Them All The Power

At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.

Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.

nobody takes their ex back out of pity

No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid’s ex.

#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else

After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.

In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.

rebound relationships

Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.

So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.

Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.

Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.

At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?

Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.

Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.

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Zach Selby
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I’m a freshman in college and my girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago. She has found someone else and is engaged to him. But she’s been in contact with me over this time and she told me she loved me and things would work out between us. One night she told me this and then the next day her boyfriend and her tell me that she wants me to leave her alone. I know she still loves me obviously but I need to know how to fix this. I know I’m only 18 but I really do… Read more »
Mai Salem
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Hello Kevin 🙂 , I’m Mai. I’m so happy from your site and I would like to thank you so much for your daily mails. It makes me feel I’m not alone. I started to follow your steps 3 days ago and it’s started working with me. I had daily phone calls from my ex after I lost hope but he’s talking with me now as a friend. Frankly I’m making too hard effort to control myself to be strong and act as I’m good and I’m not sad anymore. Really I don’t know what’s inside his brain now because… Read more »
alex
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Hey. I broke up with my first love few years ago and these years I had been thinking about her even though I had already hooked up with someone else. I broke up with my girlfriends because I just cannot feel the same way when I am with my first love. I don’t know why. I just know that I only love her. But its been years and recently I just started talking to her. She seems to be cold to me. I really hope I can win her heart back. I had not forgotten about her even after years.… Read more »
Peta
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hey. I’m Peta and its been about 5 years since the break up. We were engaged. I broke up with him for selfish stupid reasons that I no longer even remember clearly. Maybe I freaked out, maybe I was just a complete idiot. I dunno. We got back together 2 years later and I f*cked that up again. I’m 23 now and was clearly going through pivotal stages in my life. I was finding myself and hurting people in the worst of ways. I’ve been working hard for the past 2 years to sort my shit out for myself and… Read more »
Amanda
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My ex broke up with me this Sunday and I’m a mess. He put the entire blame on me, told me I wasn’t good for him, and that he now realizes I’m not ready for a relationship. Which I believe to be entirely untrue. He claims it was my mood swings that, he said that I looked dead in my eyes, and that I was making him sick. He said that he hardly sees his friends, that he’s not doing well in school, and that he’s losing weight from not eating. I will take responsibility for my mood swings, but… Read more »
Matt
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Hey, so about a year ago I went out with my ex GF for a few months and then she broke the relationship because of rumors my “friends” were spreading which were false. After that we did not talk for a long time until a few weeks ago she messaged me on Facebook and since then it felt like we were getting back together but then a couple days ago she didn’t really text me or answer my phone calls. Finally tonight she came flat out and said that she does not believe she could ever feel the same towards… Read more »
Juliette
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Phew, I read it… OK I think there is too much of “you” for her… You know what I mean? You are doing too much, you say you are always there, you always text her back, you beg for forgiveness etc… She just doesn’t have the fear to lose you. She thinks you will always always be there for her which is in fact the impression that you give. And that my friend puts you in a very weak position because the power in a relationship lies with whoever cares less. I say – STOP the panic, stop annoying her… Read more »
gee
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My ex’s sister texted me to move on ’cause my ex is now seeing other guys…</3

Juliette
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Jo, I had absolutely the same situation last year, only we had been dating for five years! And you know what, in my case there was another girl involved who he fell madly in love with. Now, I really hope that it is not the same in your case… But I can tell you that right after we broke up there was no contact at all, and then out of nowhere he appeared because he was missing me. And that will happen in your case too. Don’t agree to be “friends”. Completely erase yourself from his life. Then he will… Read more »
Jo
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hey!
Thank you for replying!
You’ve boosted me up! lol
Yes you’re right he does want to be friends!!!
I’ve said nothing so far…
I do though admit with time its getting better but I still have a few sleepless nights on the way!
I’m trying the no contact although he has a few of my belonging! lol so I’ll need to face him soon!
I am hanging on!
Thank you again!
xox

RAMISH
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Is he serious with me?

Yana
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Hello, Kevin My ex and I went together for 3 months after that, he break up with me 1 month and 1 week ago! It was weird, he called me asking me if this relationship gonna work with me living in CT and him in NY. After that he have not called ever since. I called him so many times in three days begging him to come back. I break all 6 mistakes. It’s really hard to realize I was wrong that I really make him get away from my side! 🙁 So how can I get him back after… Read more »
Angela
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Kameron, I know that it hurts, trust me I have been there.

If you really want to get her back I say just be honest with her and see how she would respond.

If she still doesn’t come back, I would say just start talking to other girls, join activities in your school, keep yourself busy with all the people that you are with in school everyday.

Trust me this method will work, and I know you don’t want to hear this, but you are only 12 and there are PLENTY of fish in the sea, especially for a 12 year old.

Good luck

Kaia
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Hey, I’ve broken up with my ex for about 8 months. I really miss him! But I think he’s moved on. But I have faith that we will work on the relationship. I’m only 13 but I’ve cried for this guy for months EVERY night. He has blocked me from everything such as facebook, MSN, Bebo, tumblr EVERYTHING. I feel he doesn’t feel the same. But I just want to TRY work things out. Please help me !! 🙁

brecht
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hey, I’m a boy, I’m 18 years old, my ex girlfriend, who is 15 years old dumped me one week ago for another guy (17 years old). We had a relationship for 5 months, after she chased me for a year. She was my first real serious girlfriend and I love her so much. She says the feeling is gone and she needed a guy who is always sweet and she is not into a serious relationship. But I think if that other guy wasn’t there we would still be together. They are almost a couple now and she seems… Read more »
Jazmine
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Well.. My friend convinced me to break up with my ex on Wednesday. I loved him, I still do. And she only convinced because we were so far from each other. We talked every single day for the whole day for 4 months– straight. When he took it as “I don’t care” I immediately knew I fucked up. I never wanted to, I loved him. And I knew he loved me, and I trusted him. Why is he ignoring me? And acting like I don’t matter? When he always said I meant the world to him.. I need help. I’d… Read more »
Chelsea
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Hey Jazmine, Me and my boyfriend are having the same problems. My best friend said that it’s for the best. I thought that he was going to break up with me that’s why I broke up with him first, and it turns out that my best friend told me that and it wasn’t true. I would really love it for me and my boyfriend to get back together. I still love him. He means the world to me. Please someone help Jazmine and Me!!! I need help. I need to know what to do! I would jump off a bridge… Read more »
markens
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I believe he loved you so much but you didn’t know how to deal with him. Same things happened with me when I was 16 but now I’m 21 years of age.
You should give him sometime to get back to you. If it’s meant to be. God Bless.

alex
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Seems like a lot of people listen to their best friends too much and end up regretful. Maybe the so called “best friend” have their own hidden agenda, maybe to keep you to themselves, jealous that they don’t have a partner, want your partner,etc,etc, whatever! You should trust your own instincts/heart when in a relationship and not place too much emphasis on the opinion of friends! When people split up and friends get involved – “your better off without him/her”, “he/she said this or done that”, etc, etc just serves to make it more difficult to reconcile since friends/ex-partner become… Read more »
anna
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Hey I know how you feel, it’s the same for me at the moment. 🙁

Julie
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Um, I’m sorry but the fact that you have a 15 year old girlfriend and you’re 18 speaks volumes. Why the FUCK are you dating a 15 year old??? YOU ARE 18!!!!! Find someone your own age.

Mariah
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Brecht, This seriously describes my relationship with my Ex! my ex is 18 and I’m 15…though we dated for a year. As a girl, I’m just saying, when we move on, (or at least when I do) I try to find a guy that was similar to my ex, though not in personality. To win her back- just start off as friends, if she wants to be. Let her have her relationship with her new BF for a while. A week after I dumped my ex, I set me eyes on this one guy who reminded me of him…not really,… Read more »
phoebe
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Dear Kaia,
I’m in the same position, me and my boyfriend had know each other forever but he asked me out and a week later I found out he was going to cheat on me! Turns out it was his friend trying to make me break up with him. And I did. I love him and it’s been about two months. But he’s so stubborn he won’t talk to me. Maybe we can try to help each other

Jay Joanna Lloyd
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Chin up babe, I know it feels bad now but things get better. There’s someone fantastic waiting for you around the corner, I know its hard but sometimes you just have to accept it. My ex of 17 moths split with me last night and I’m devastated but I’ll never let him know. If you’re meant to be you will meet again and if not one day he will wake up and realize just how amazing you are and on that day, you will wake up with the guy who already knew (: I promise you, it may seem like… Read more »
SARAH
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I know how you feel Kaia my boyfriend of 3 years dump me for a girl 2 years younger than me and block me on Facebook and twitter and once they had complication, he added me back and once they got back together he blocked me again. He does it just to use me to get his new GF jealous. Now we have been broken up for 6 months and all I learned is to keep yourself busy, post amazing happy pictures on your FB cause you never know he could be looking without you knowing, if you guys had… Read more »
Tom
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What I think you should do is simply go up to him, and either tell him how you feel, or ask him to just be friends, and work on it from there. However, if this doesn’t work, simply try a fling. I know you’re only 13 but this kinda thing DOES work in getting stuff out of your system.

Jay
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I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has shared a story. It has helped me cope a little what I’ve been going through. Cliffs note version, I had an issue communicating throughout our year + relationship. She wasn’t sure if I loved her anymore and we were very tense for about a month. I asked her to move out about three weeks ago. She has since rebounded very quickly. I’m getting help to work on my communication issues not just for her, but for me. So anyway I have followed the NC rule for about two weeks now.… Read more »
Ryan
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Dude! I know exactly what you are going through. I have those nights and even the mornings are really bad as well. Try getting her back but do it smartly without playing the pity card. It won’t work. I’m in this process now and I do not know if I will be successful, but in the end I can say I at least tried.

corey
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I don’t know what to do I just realized that I did almost everything wrong on getting her back. The pity, using logical reasons to get her, so on and so forth. I started out completely muting her out of my life and the went on 3 quarters of a month until I saw her at a football game. When I got home from the football game she had sent me a friend request on facebook. We got back in touch. I told her how much I missed her and would do absolutely anything to get her back, but it… Read more »
Chan
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Hi Kevin! Well I was with my ex partner for over a year. And we split a few weeks ago. Its not the first time we have split, but its always been me not him. He has always loved me more than anything, and everyone said so, but all of a sudden 2 weeks ago approx he left me saying he didn’t love me anymore. It came to a big shock to me, as I moved back to the UK to be with him, came back to Spain to sort my stuff out and once I came back he said… Read more »
Pankhi
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Dear Mr Kevin,

I have gone through your e-mails, earlier step by step and I got him back but again he said no to me it may be because of my attitude of my nature.

Please help me how can I get him back. I love him so much.

chawezzie
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I just broke up with my boyfriend and just did the whole mistake I couldn’t have done of asking him back, I miss being with him, my whole world is sinking, feels like taking my life away, can’t stop crying for him though he wronged me, don’t know.

Ryan
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I know what those feelings are like. I broke it off with my girl and know now I made a huge mistake! I’m now in the process of trying to snatch her back from another. However, it is a very delicate and precise tightrope that I am traversing. It takes patience and tactical know how. You cannot rush a reunion!!! So you need to start by relaxing, take up meditation or something. Then start using your head about how you can make him fall for you again. That does not mean moping around. Pity does not work!!

Megan
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Hi… My boyfriend and I broke up because he wanted a break. We were dating for a year and 4 months. We’re both 14. I know that’s a while, but I don’t care. He kept saying you only live life once, but what he doesn’t get is, I want to spend my life with him. I may be young, but I’m not stupid. There’s no one else I want. I need help. He said we will get back together. Should I just wait? Leave him alone? I’m not sure, considering this is the longest relationship I had.
Thanks.

keneilwe
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You know what, I think you should just wait for him to get his priority straight.

Brianna
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Hey Megan, I’m almost in the exact same situation as you. I’m 12 and me and my ex boyfriend were together for 3 months but we have liked each other since we first met about 2 years ago. I made really bad mistakes and got very mad at him at times. He’s 2 years older then me. One night he said we weren’t working and he went and dated one of my friends! We talk a lot. He says he will give me another chance, he wants to go back out, and yesterday him and his new girlfriend have been… Read more »
Latonya
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If any one boy (or man for that matter) breaks up with you, then says you two “will get back together” is playing mind games. You asked if you should wait for him, and that’s exactly what he wants you to do. He wants you to hold on to the false hope that you will reconnect after he’s done playing the field. Don’t let him string you along, Megan! He’s only 14 years old and still very immature. Don’t expect a guy that young to want you stay in a committed relationship for a long time. I don’t think anyone… Read more »
louis stander
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Kevin.. I can’t explain all the things I’ve tried to get her back! It will take me days. I’ve tried everything and I know I just made it worse! A man just know when she’s the one! But friend I messed it up big time. Hope you can help me? Because I’m at breaking point!

Anonymous
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Hello Kevin, I was with my ex for 8 years, we have children together and I still love my ex very much. I actually am the one who broke it off with my ex but that’s not actually what I wanted to do. I wanted time to think out something and get it all right in my head. I’m still in love with my ex and I want them back. I miss them everyday and think about them a lot although I have tried to get them back. They say no ’cause they met someone else but they tell me… Read more »
kirsty
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hi i am 14 and i went out with my ex for 5 months. but he broke up ’cause he thought we were getting too close. Its been 2 weeks and I was talking with him today in the park and he was flirting and he started kissing me and we talked and he said he loved me, but when we departed he said he could not see a future for us :/ What should I do because my friends say he’s messed me about too much, but I still love him and want him back. Please help 🙂

Jeremy
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Just need a little help. I broke majority of the rules you have set. She’s actually seeing someone else. We did talk when he wasn’t around and then next day or so I would call and he would pick up, so I’m not sure where I stand with getting her back. IDK what I should do or can do. We have been together for 2 years.

Nicholas
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My ex just told me its over after a repeated disagreement, then she gave me another man to answer my phone call when I called her. The man told me they have laid a relationship foundation and he is ready to give my ex peace that I couldn’t give her. They spent most of their time together and enjoy me when I call my ex, the new man tells me to wake up from a dream. I truly love my ex and I need her back in my life, though we have had several disagreements before but I truly love… Read more »
Betty Beeman
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Almost 2 years ago, I left my husband for another man. I have regretted it every since. I’ve done everything I can think of to patch things up with him. I ask him if I was wasting my time with him and he said no you’re not wasting your time with me: What can I do, its funny you don’t realize how much you love someone till they’re gone, Help!

tony
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This has put some sense into me as I’m trying to cope with my breakup. I’ve been with a girl for 4 years and 8 months, I got sick of her and broke it off, about a week or 2 later she sees someone else, though after our break up we were still talking to each other as if we were emotionally attached. She hides the fact that she was seeing someone else. About 4 weeks after I ask to see her and told her that I want her back, she said to give her some time and I did,… Read more »
Leon
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I have almost the same thing, only my ex is single and her friends do everything with her when she moved to college. Its just hard to see the one you love happy without you

kelly
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I broke up with my ex weeks ago and he asked my best friend out. I still want him back and I cry every night. Please please help me.

Ryan
Guest

It’s a rebound. The worst you can do is show your discomfort to him. Rebounds statistically fail.

Kristen
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Hi my name is Kristen and I was dating my ex for almost 3 months. Then out of the blue he ended things and I don’t understand why. I had no feelings at all that this would happen. But the only problem is we’re in the same program at college and there is only 12 people in this program. We’re also going to be stuck together for 2 years now. I’m so upset and confused that the first time I let a guy in, in a long time. I get hurt. He was always being super cute, and it really… Read more »
Jeremy
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I am in dire need of help. I am 23 and need help getting my girlfriend back ’cause she means the world to me. She was the first girl I said I Love You to which I know from the minute I saw her and also the first girl I Introduced to my family. My girlfriend and I were perfect or so I thought, we were getting ready to move in with each other and talked about getting married and starting a family and then it all happened so fast ’cause we went from her tell me that she loves… Read more »
john
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Work on yourself guys. Its all you really can do. Give them space to think about if they want to be with you. If it comes from you or someone that’s not them they will still be confused and will probably go away again. Remember you were a great person before you met them and now is a chance for you to be that again. You will only hurt more if you try to expect ANYTHING from them at this point. Be cool and you might get another chance.

Lexi
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Okay, So I believe it was about a month ago, my ex and I broke up, I broke up with him, But I didn’t really mean to, I was just so hurt by all the things that he was saying I was just like ‘I think we should just be friends.’ And after that I started freaking out because then he’s all like if that’s what you want then fine. Like he didn’t even care?! That just made me hurt even more. So I started to seem desperate I guess, And did almost all the things you said not to… Read more »
Sophie
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Hey, me and my boyfriend went out for 3 weeks and now…it’s over. He’s too stressed out and confused about me and I don’t know what to do. He plans to move on but I just can’t do this. 3 days later, I saw him with another girl. They were kissing and stuff and I just feel so jealous. Please help me. I still want him back even if he means nothing to me.

sally simpson
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If it was me I would move on too, but if you really like him get one of your guy friends, have him be your fake boyfriend in front of your ex and once he gets jealous he’ll be wanting you back right away.

leoney scott
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I stayed with my boyfriend for 9 months. Due to having a problem, he had to choose someone else to marry. The lady he chose was three years older than him and is not even beautiful. He said that once he gets settled and then he would come back to me. We didn’t end our relationship but he had to leave me. We still talk to each other but he doesn’t have any more interest in me. Maybe I keep calling him all the time.

ajay
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Kevin, I hope that your idea will save my 8 years of relationship.

Leon
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Hi IDK what to do anymore I failed, I did all these mistakes and others as well. My girlfriend and I have been together four years now since we were freshman and now she’s moved to college on the other side of the state. We kept it strong for a month in and then I broke up with her for a dumb reason and I pushed her away. Then I realized I was wrong, she was great and now she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. IDK how to do this. I miss her so much but it seems… Read more »
sally simpson
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If you really love her then you should go to what ever state she’s at and tell her how you feel and say you were stupid for breaking up with her and that you will do anything for her.

nate bowers
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Yeah I’m in the same situation right now. I’m just trying to move on and find someone else. Its hard because all my love for my ex is still there. I’ll never stop loving her. I’ll die loving her.

jake
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So my ex broke up with me 3 days ago and is already dating another guy, we were dating for about 2 months and I fell head over heels in love with her and she felt the same way. Its just that somethings needed to be changed on my part and when she broke things off she said the things that needed to be changed for it to work out again. Well I messed up by saying how much she meant to me and that I’d do anything to have her back and I even made a worse move by… Read more »
sally simpson
Guest

First of all you’re not in love with her. 2 months is not enough for you to know that you’re in love but if you want her back what you need to do is remind her all the good times you guys had with each other and once she remembers, tell her how you feel and then see what happens.

Dave
Guest
My ex broke up with me today. I was with my ex for near 2 and a half years. We met through a friend of mine. She is 22 and I’m 27. She is from the same town as me. We had a date and had she told me she was at Uni in Ireland and she only comes back at the end of terms. She did think I would run a mile when she told me but I was not bothered by that all. We had a great summer together then she went back to uni. Things were great… Read more »
joshua
Guest
So my girlfriend broke up with me because I guess I didn’t have my life together. I’m 17 and don’t have a job or my permit and most people would have that by now. So my ex I guess you could say broke up with me because I didn’t have my life together. We have been a couple since January 10, 2011 but now that’s over. And I love her, and miss her so much. And I know she still likes me and misses me too, she told me but then she also told me that some message she sent… Read more »
sally simpson
Guest

Get your life together, the reason she broke up with you is because your not being a man do what is best for both of you and then she’ll take you back and you’ll both be happier than ever and do it fast before she finds someone better.

Zac
Guest
Hi Keven, Well it’s been a week since my ex broke up with me but it wasn’t for the usual reasons. She was grounded because of me and to get ungrounded she had to be broken up with me, and so she did. She said she still has feelings for me and so I did the wrong things obviously, and so 2 days ago she said we needed a break because she was hurting from seeing me. I love her with all my life but her parents won’t let her date anyone else till she’s 16, she’s 14 right now… Read more »
Shea
Guest

Hey Kevin,
I am 19 and found my first love, and someone I can see a future with. Me and my ex just broke up a few days ago and I have begged and pleaded him to get back with me. He said he left me for another person. We are still friends and sometimes talk, and I want to win him back, but I am not sure what to do since he is dating someone else. If you could please help, that would be great.

erambo geoffrey
Guest

It can work out if you try give it time my friends.

Ryan
Guest
After two year hiatus, my ex who tried for nearly a year after we broke up to get me back, and told me she was in love, now has been with a new Boyfriend for about a year. Her friend who I ran into recently indicated to me that I should talk with her, and that she was unsure as to whether she was happy in her current situation. I love her and decided to confront her at work recently and tell her and apologize. I asked if we could have coffee and talk more about this. She agreed without… Read more »
belle
Guest
Hi guys, I really need your help, I’ve been so confused these past few months, I had a boyfriend for 8 months and I can say that our relationship was the best relationship I ever had, he was more mature than me, and I can say that he was the one I’ve been looking for. All through our relationship we didn’t fight, a month before our break up I felt that we we’re falling apart, usually we make sure to see each other every week but for almost two weeks we lost our track, though we were constantly texting but… Read more »
Joe Smith
Guest

I lost my girl about 6 months ago. We were going out for 2 years. Now she’s dating this idiot who I already hated and I’m so MAD.

rob
Guest
Hey kevin, Thank you for this guide. I’m a wreck right now, shaking uncontrollably. It’s so stupid how I feel like I should do all those things listed above, knowing full well that they are the opposite of what I should do. We’ve been dating for 2 years and its a week from her birthday. I don’t know what I should do! Should I ignore her on that day? Get her a present? Do something lavish? They seem right but I know they are wrong…. The thing is she was depressed when I met her, and I was there for… Read more »
michele
Guest
Hi Kevin. 4 years ago I went out with a guy who cheated on me & wanted me back, I was to sad to even consider it. But I still hanged around to try and make it work, the girl that he cheated with did not leave me alone. She kept on making my life a living hell, I couldn’t take it anymore so I left to live in Brooklyn and started a new life. For the entire year later I worked & made lots of changes to my life. After the year had passed I started thinking about what… Read more »
rana
Guest

Hi…I did all the mistakes. Made thousands of calls. Messaged so much. Misbehaved with her friends. She is telling me that I was her biggest mistake. She lied to me a lot after meeting someone else and the problem started then. And now she is in full fledged relation with that guy. Please help. I acted very cheaply. Even went to her home at night.

Hillary Rose
Guest
For all Girls out there that are going through a divorce, if you can get back together with your Man, then do it, cause I went through it too, and it has been 24 years and I am still crying about it. And I also had two kids under the age of 15 and it just messed there life up! Even though they are young and not crying about it now, does not mean it won’t effect them in the future. Trust me it will, and my kids have both been to jail and have got into trouble at a… Read more »
Tabby Hilton
Guest

Yes this is true I noticed a change in my kids behavior and they are going down the wrong path!

Liliana Martinez and Kyle Duckett
Guest
Liliana Martinez and Kyle Duckett

Me and kyle are officially married. haha LMFAO! True fact, I hate Indiana Indianapolis f**k that state!

tiffany
Guest
Hello, My boyfriend and I dated for 3 years (which was on October 17th). He broke up with me 10 days after our 3rd year anniversary. All he said was, I don’t want to be in a relationship right now and that he needs to find himself. Here’s the thing, he’s been in Germany studying abroad for about a little over 2 months now. So our relationship went from seeing each other every day to only getting to send Facebook messages to each other and Skyping every now and then which sucked because his internet sucks. So there was nothing… Read more »
Azul
Guest

Dear Tiffany,

Long distance relationship sucks. Sorry for what happened to you. But from what you said, that he just changed his mind in 2 days, well seems like he met someone over there – and he’s gotten distracted. So that’s the only reason a man can change his mind within seconds. Sad fact but it’s true. Been through that myself twice and a friend of mine had gone through the same thing.
HUGS to you.

lisa
Guest

Having divorced after 3 months and moved away to start a new life, met up after that time and he told me to think of him as dead. It really upset me and I haven’t heard from him since /. I still love him and we were married for 10 years but I had a fling with someone and I told him about it.

Christina
Guest
Hey Kevin.. My name is Christina And I wanna tell you my story so my Ex’s name is Frederick and I’ve went out for him over like I think a month and 1 week. I guess he broke up with me because “I take life as a game and I treated him like a toy” which I never did and do. So he messaged me yesterday saying “Would you go back out with me I’m just asking a question. I said yeah. And he’s like do you still like me, I said yeah I guess. Then I asked him that… Read more »
Tom
Guest

hi, I was with my ex for about a month, when she said things were going too quick and she couldn’t keep up. I was fine for about a week, then one of her friends asked me how I was coping, and for some bizarre reason I called her a “cold hearted heart-eating f***er”. I regret this every moment of my life. I miss her and I really want to get back with her, but I fear it may be too late. What should I do?

katrina
Guest

Hey,
Me and this guy had been talking for like three weeks when he asked me out. We lasted three days :/ and a week later he got with this older girl. What would you do to get him back because he is the boy of my dreams and my friends tell me I deserve better and to move on but it hurts every time I see him with his new girlfriend!!

marcus
Guest

Hi Kevin,
I really need your advice. I did those pity and doormat syndrome thingy when my partner broke me up. Actually I’m a bit shy to tell this to you because I dunno if your advices will work for same sex relationship. Yes, my partner is a man also, and I love him so much. I dunno what to do. I wanna keep this private, I hope I could talk to you through email. I feel that I am a dead man and will be born again when he’s back with me. Please do the needful… thanks

sally simpson
Guest

The only person I have ever said I love you to is moving to Chicago and I don’t know how can I live without him. We both think its a good idea not to try a long distance relationship and tomorrow is the last day we’re gonna spend together and I just don’t how to say goodbye, any opinions.

sally simpson
Guest

What you need to do is pretend you don’t care. Give her some space until she comes to you.

mearn
Guest

Hello.
I wanted to ask your opinion. I am dating this girl for more than a year. the problem is, my GF just broke up with me for like two weeks. She said she doesn’t have feelings anymore. So I try to be her friend just like what she asked. But then, she get angry at me, and throw tantrums at me just because her friends told her that I’ve been talking about them behind their back, which is not true. So she said she hates me. She doesn’t want to be friend anymore. So what should I do?

Damo
Guest

hi
my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago outta the blue, there was no sign of it at all. Dropped her to work in the morning and she rang me that evening saying we had to talk and that was that! She said, she didn’t love me as a boyfriend anymore, but as her best friend and now I think she is seeing someone else what should I do?

Damo
Guest

forgot to mention we were with each other for 3 and a half years and she also lived with me!!

Alyssa N
Guest
Hey what should I do in this situation. Me and my first love always find each other and always running back to each other. Now it is so hard because we had a really bad break up because he wanted things I wanted but never sat down to tell me. I mean we broke up because he felt like he didn’t see me a lot. I told him I needed to take care of somethings. I need some time and I will fully move in with you. Well he started to ignore me and push me away like he said… Read more »
Taz
Guest

Hi Kevin,
I followed your steps, my ex called me after a month on NC, we went out for lunch. She told me she missed me and she loved me but the problem is she is seeing someone else. I didn’t ask about the guy…well after the lunch, took her to her house we kissed. It was getting uncomfortable so I had to apologize and I left. What does this mean? Will I ever win her over from this guy? I’m confused….HELP!! WHAT NEXT?

DavidSSS
Guest
OK so basically me and this AMAZING girl were going out for about a month and a half and we had everything in common, we both played the same sport, were in the same classes, liked the same music, movies, TV shows, hobbies, she was pretty much me except a girl and absolutely gorgeous. She was in a relationship before me with a guy for about 6 months, and then was in one with me about 2 months after they broke up. Anyways, we had a tiny little argument, seriously, it was really little, and in the end she said… Read more »
Renita
Guest

Hi Kevin thanks so much for this guide, it really helped me out.

Venice
Guest
Me and my Feanca have been together over fifteen years. He keep telling me he need space. Then the calls were few, I asked was he seeing someone, he didn’t answer. I had a gut feeling something was going on, never could give me a answer, I told him man up tell me something. I said are you seeing someone, he said yeah, I ask do you love me, no answer. Then moments later he called told me to go on with my life and that he don’t love me. And don’t call him. I have not done anything for… Read more »
Cameron
Guest

Hey guys! My ex broke up with me 1 week before our 1st anniversary, now, about 4-6 months later I still love her like crazy! It was a really awkward relationship because I was an idiot. But I have changed, and I can’t tell her because it’s so freaking awkward around her. Nowadays we don’t even look at each other anymore! I can’t call or text her because I lost my phone and I hadn’t remembered her number.

Please leave me some advice!

Imugurl
Guest
So me and my ex have been together over 3 years. (I was 16 when we started dating. I’m 20 now). I lived with him for over a year. It was all good until one morning he was acting very cold towards me and told me he need time to himself and eventually broke up with me. He ended it in middle of September. I moved back with my parents. I was depressed. I called him, texted him, messaged him on face, kinda stalked him, trying to convince him to take me back. I never really understood why he ended… Read more »
Nick
Guest
My girlfriend that I have been seeing for almost a year now broke up with me the other day. We have broken up many times and it’s usually over the same issue. Me being crazy jealous and insecure. See my kids Mom cheated on me and ever since I always try to catch someone doing something on me even when nothing is going on. If I call her and she does not call back right away or if I don’t talk to her, I freak out and turn into a psycho. Usually driving by her house to check on her… Read more »
Alexandra J.
Guest
My boyfriend,(or ex so sad to say, it’s been since beginning of August, and now it’s the end of November…) Josh was my first boyfriend, and I really miss him. We were at sleep away camp and I freaked out every time he looked at me (before we were together). My friends said I was boy crazy :). They all told me that he liked me too, and he even asked my friend if I liked him. she said to ask me out and see for himself. The next day he asked me out. And I was like OMG!!! 🙂… Read more »
Cee cee
Guest
OK, so me and my ex have been apart for a little more than a year, and now he’s dating somebody else and they just had a baby together. I moved on and now I’m with his best friend (which now I feel like was one of the worst mistakes ever…but fortunately they’re not as close as they used to be) but still after all this I still wake up thinking about my ex and at night he’s there in my dreams. I broke up with him and we had a really bad fight during one night of heavy drinking… Read more »
Annonymous
Guest
Honestly, I’ve been in a relationship with my Girlfriend for almost 8 months now. I’m not going to lie she’s cheated on me once before. It was hard to come back from that but I am like 16 and I’m very respectful and I guess I’m just really whipped right now, but I have an amazing bond with the girl’s family. Honestly this is the most amazing girl I’ve been with all my life. She WAS so amazing, I don’t know what happened. Everything has changed. My parents don’t really like her much because of what she did but they… Read more »
Annonymous
Guest

I forgot to mention, I had a talk with her about the fact that, she said ”Here’s the thing, I want you happy ALL the time” I asked her about it, bring up the subject and I asked her what she meant and she said just that. I asked her if she thought she could make me happy all the time she said ” I’m pretty sure I can”. I asked why don’t you and she replied with a shrug like saying I don’t know.

Annonymous
Guest
Recently she’s been saying I deserve better and that we should just be friends but then she tells me she loves me and its literally messing up my mind and that’s why I need help. Thank you. I think I’m just going to try all these methods, thanks to whoever wrote it. The weird part is that when I got with my girl she wasn’t that cute. Honestly she had the best personality I’ve ever seen in my life. I can’t lie at all when I say I did not give her EVERYTHING she has ever desired… but I guess… Read more »
Iram
Guest

My boyfriend haven’t left me, he talks to me. Since we work at the same place we meet everyday. He calls me also. But he says he can’t marry me, he is getting married in Feb 2012. He says he loves me but can’t marry me, but earlier he promised to marry me. He knows everything about me….. Please help me, I love him very much…… Please do help me….. Every moment is painful for me… I love him very much. Please help me…….

Relaxx
Guest
Long story short …I went of with a girl for 6 years. Started young around 17 years old, eventually moved out with each other from one and other parents. We never fought or argued till finally something had to change, either of us didn’t even have a clue. All we did was fight selfishly against our emotions instead of listening to them, we both said horrible thing. Don’t really remember them cause they were far from rational. Did that for like 6 months! Time flew! But you don’t realize it till it’s over! All those hopes on wanting to get… Read more »
Sophia
Guest

This is the exact same situation I’m in. He keeps on saying he still loves me and when he breaks up with her he’ll take me back. But it hasn’t happened in 3 months. I’m doubting him. I wanna know how to make him break up with her. Any ideas? I might be able to help you if you help me.

shana
Guest

hey guys…I don’t know what went wrong, my boyfriend well now my ex boyfriend that I’m madly in love with went out of town for 2 weeks. Told me he’s going to call me as soon as he gets back after the 2 weeks went by and he didn’t call. I decided to call, then I realized that he blocked my calls. He stop replying to emails or text and we had no problem or anything. I’m so hurt I don’t know what to do, please help me.

Natasya
Guest

Hi,
I haven’t eaten anything for the past 3 days.
I wanna die. I cant live without him. Help me, please! He had an affair with this girl, I didn’t. He has it for 5 days before I knew it. He said he will dumped her, but he left me instead. He loves me, just that, distance -,- What we had is real. I want him so badly. Even his sister and close friend think that way. What should I do?

Pru
Guest

Natasya,

You DON’T want to die…you have family and friends who love you. THINK about people you’re going to leave behind.

I know his sister & close friends think what you had was real BUT does he think what you had was real? If he does why did he have an affair and leave you?

He doesn’t deserve you…you have to eat something. If you were meant to be together he will come back and ask for your forgiveness BUT for now eat something so when he comes back, you are fit and healthy.

Carmen
Guest
I dated a guy for over a year. We were very happy together and really enjoyed each others company. Problem was I have 3 kids and can’t have anymore. Finally he said he didn’t want to string me along anymore and though I am an amazing girlfriend and everything that he looks for in a girl, he just can’t see a future for us. I want to believe there is still hope for us, but is there really? He has texted me to tell me his misses me, but not sure he will ever get over the kid thing. Any… Read more »
Anji
Guest

I’m sorry.. It sounds like he loves and misses you but that his decision was well thought out and he will probably stick with it because he is thinking about his long term needs that you can’t meet. It’s not fair for him to give up his dream. I hope you start healing fast and next time don’t get attached if you realize early on that such a big compatibility factor is missing.

Taylor
Guest
Okay my boyfriend Tristan was totally ignoring me this morning and when I came into the gym he didn’t even acknowledge I was there. And the night before he told me that he loved me and that he couldn’t wait to see me. He said that he couldn’t live without me and I believed it all, all of it. So we go to breakfast this morning and I sit by him and its all cool. But then when he puts his tray up I follow him. So he starts walking so I follow him and he doesn’t wait for me… Read more »
jeff
Guest
Hi, where do I start? My girlfriend broke up with me on thanksgiving, she basically wants nothing to do with me. We had a big fight about something very stupid. That was the last time I heard from her. She won’t answer my calls or texts. We were together for over 3 years, we lived together for 2 years. We also had a business together. Honestly I feel like my life is pointless without her. I love this girl more then anything in the world. Would love to marry her one day. I have a little bit of a trust… Read more »
Pru
Guest
You said you had a little bit of trust issue with her. The truth is if there is no TRUST in relationship then there is no point for your to pursue this. She doesn’t really love you. She is using “I don’t like to be controlled” as an excuse. I know it hurts, but give her time, and YES you can live your life without her. It will take time but one day you will be fine. If she was meant for you she will come back and if not you will find someone who you will trust you and… Read more »
Shab
Guest

Jeff, girls don’t like control. Neither they hate. For now you can just wait doing anything can jeopardize it further. I suggest you give her occasional calls, but don’t nice talk her. Be normal, don’t let your emotions flow, because no one wants to be drowned. Make friends, female, on net anything, I am not asking you to date but to engage your mind elsewhere and don’t say it cannot be done because it can be. Give her and yourself time. True love always calls itself back to where it belongs..

Anji
Guest
I feel your pain, I really do. She gave you reasons to mistrust her and you still end up looking like the bad guy. Most of the time once you take the pressure off her and give her some space, like 3 weeks NO CONTACT at all, she will willingly come back to you. She’ll forget the controlling, smothering feeling, and remember the good things that she must love in you if you’ve been together that long. I did the same thing in a relationship once but I didn’t give him any breathing room, just kept chasing and apologizing and… Read more »
Geo geo
Guest
I think she still loves u. Same goes to me, trying to control her. Maybe sometimes you should ask her opinion and try to be tolerate. Mine 2 years already. I never went out with her, date with her, or even hold her hand in the public. but we always study together in the school’s library, eat at the canteen and joining activities at the school together. I was waiting for this year end after her final exam. but unfortunately she broke up with me after that. The promises that have been made were all in vain. I miss her… Read more »
T
Guest

My boyfriend broke up with me because I let my 4 year old see her dad. He is upset because he doesn’t pay child support. He is 2 years behind but that is no reason for him to break up with me.

jessie
Guest
hey I’m Jessie and me and my girlfriend Vanessa are going through a really bad time. I let my jealousy take over and now she is ignoring me. She says she still loves me and she would do anything to stay with me but it just don’t seem real anymore. IDK what to do I’m scared of losing her but at the same time I would be happy for her cause I’m 19 and she is 17. She is still in school. I hate to put her through all the stress of not seeing me but twice a week. Someone… Read more »
Mariah
Guest

Hey…Me and my ex really had a bad issue last year. This year, we decided to try to work it out again…(long story short, the year before he cheated on me with someone I knew) and this year, I just couldn’t handle us at the moment…and I dumped him.

Now he’s dating some girl and think he’s gotten her pregnant already! She goes to where I go, and…well, we talk-not about him- and she’s head over heels for him; she won’t listen to my warnings! What do I do?

lost in the past
Guest
I recently moved back to the city I grew up in. Last year I dated the guy that was my first love in high school. We broke up shortly after. This year we started dating again and things moved real fast, then all of a sudden he decided to go from everyday bf/gf to dating then to friends. We have been dappling in this “friend” stage for over a month and I don’t know what to do. I even asked him if he would think about going out on a date again. Which he told me he would have to… Read more »
Cate
Guest

I am going through a similar situation. My ex and I are in that same grey zone of claiming we’re not dating but acting like we are. I think you should distance yourself and really act like a friend. Don’t make yourself constantly available. I doubt he really wants to just be friends. When he realizes what it’s like to not have you romantically, he’ll probably come running back. If not, then he just isn’t ready to handle a romantic relationship with you.

Katrina
Guest
Hi I’m Katrina and last year I broke up with my boyfriend..:(..I’m 12 yrs old and going on 13 and I miss him!! Me and him used to always hang out, we’d always get in trouble together, and everything! Then, he asked me out and of course I said yes but.. He became over obsessive… He constantly was over me.. Then I don’t know what happened but I got really mad at him and I left him. I totally broke his heart. I thought “Well.. that’s what happens in life..”. And I totally didn’t care what he felt or thought.… Read more »
Anymomous
Guest
It probably isn’t too late to get him back, assuming that he knows that this girl is mean. If you notice him sitting with his arm around his new girl, but keeps stealing glances at you, then looking away quickly or holding your gaze with a smile that might pass off for dangerous, especially if he looked at you with his head lowered slightly, that usually means that he is trying to get you to notice. He is most likely trying to think of ways to get you back, first by trying jealousy. If it is jealousy, it probably won’t… Read more »
Cynthia
Guest
So, me and my ex have been together for over 2 and half years. He is 2 years older than me. I met him when I was 16 and he was 18. We dated for nine months and because of our culture we were married. He and I were always torn by each others family during our relationship when we were dating, but we managed to be happy. When we got married, I was really happy to be with him and he was too. We lived with his family because we were so young and could not afford to live… Read more »
black diva
Guest

i have been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years and 4 months. I broke up with him because his best friend told me that he was cheating on me with another girl. I ask him if it was true he said no. So a week pass they come to me and show me his PSP when I look on his PSP there was the girl’s pic so I broke up with him. I really miss that guy, I can’t get my mind off of him. I am failing just because I don’t have him.

danica
Guest

We broke up for almost a year now. 2 months after we broke up he asked me for a second chance but it didn’t happen because he had a relationship with someone else. Do I still have a chance to get him back even though its been a year?

Krystal
Guest
hey…I don’t know if this is even worth my time but I’m gonna try…anyways my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me in July (3 days after my birthday) and I have been very confused, upset, and just a mess. I didn’t see this coming at all. In June I found out that I was pregnant and even tho it was unexpected, we both accepted it and seemed very excited about it, and we’re even talking about what we we’re gonna do with our house before the baby gets here. Maybe even buying a new house together. But then… Read more »
brittany
Guest

I wish I could get back with my ex but he wants to date my cousin Ashley.

sarah
Guest

My guy and I were together a little over a year. We went through almost everything a couple can. We remained faithful through 2 moves, 2 job changes, I lost a brother, and we lost a pregnancy(100% unplanned). He is one of the first people when I moved from Texas to Pittsburgh. He stopped acknowledging me, and we work in the same office. I am so lonely.

opiru norbert
Guest

She left me just like that without giving me a substantive reason for some one else even after being nice to her.

Eve
Guest

Ask her why first ’cause there is always a reason and maybe when u find out the reason then u will know how to get her back by yourself 🙂

Sarah
Guest

I have been in an on/off relationship for 2 years with my babies father. I love him and he loves me too. The problem is that I pressured him to marry me when I was 18 years old because he got me pregnant. He has commitment phobia and admitted it to me and said he would think about if we can make it work or not. I really hope he decides to work it out with me. My question is should I wait, is there any hope?

Eve
Guest
Okay I honesty don’t know where to begin..last year I fell in love with a senior in my school. I was only 13 an 8th grader and b4 I fell in love with him, he became my best friend, we would call each other everyday during spring break. We would talk for hours until it was morning. I thought he was everything in the world to me…and I guess he was.we rested amazing memories in the last months of his high school year and my middle school year. I realized that I loved him when he told that he cared.… Read more »
sharmishta
Guest

My heart is beating for him and I can’t live without him. I feel like I am breathing just to love him. I can’t live without him. I don’t know whether he is loving me or is it just lust.

mike
Guest
Hey, I’m going through a break up right now where the girl is seriously destroying my mind. I do have to say I have made all these mistakes yet have stopped recently, she has basically left me and started hooking up with a best friend, I know its rough to forgive but after 3 years I would really like for her to learn from her mistakes and have this relationship work. Since I have stopped making these mistakes she is saying stuff like “I’m going crazy” “I’m loosing my mind” “I want you” “I love you”, now I do know… Read more »
Pat
Guest
Hey, I came across this excellent post and had to share my story. I dated my girlfriend for 8 years (she was 15, me 17). We’re now 25 and 23. We lived together for 3 years, we moved across the country and back (economic reasons). We had a fantastic relationship; I’m sure everyone says that, but we really did. Very little arguing, very passionate. Four weeks ago she got angry with me because she read texts I sent to another girl (non-sexual). I was drunk, it was stupid, but obviously meant nothing. One week later, she moved out of our… Read more »
Adam
Guest
Hi, me and my girlfriend of nearly 4 years recently broke up, she finished it. She finished me by text which killed me, she said she didn’t think we had a future together and that we were two different people who wanted different things. I knew what I wanted, “her”, she was everything to me! A few months prior to the breakup we were discussing moving in together and taking our relationship to the next level. I was so happy and content with her. It’s been 3 weeks since we broke up and I have been told that 4 days… Read more »
Sara
Guest
Well I had a boyfriend for a year. It was the best relationship ever. We planned to marry. It was a distance relationship but he always told me I prefer to wait for some time and later spend the rest of my life with you. He even told his parents about me. He always said I have dreamed of you since I was a child. If I don’t marry you he said I’ll never marry again. Easter time 2 years ago I went to see him but the first day I arrived he told me I love you but can’t… Read more »
Yohns
Guest
Hi.. It’s happened to me too. I was with my ex for 4 years, she was my world. When we met she was just about to start Uni and I’d finished Uni.. so I’m a few years older. When we first met, I warned her that we should not continue the relationship cause when she got further in to Uni she might want time/space/independence but she promised me and convinced me she wouldn’t and that she would always want me. Turns out I was right. We broke up a few months ago because she was falling behind in her studies… Read more »
Jessica
Guest
So my boyfriend of seven months just left me because he is under a lot of stress and cant handle a girlfriend right now. His dog just died, he had knee surgery and he is a wrestler and is busy! The breakup was out of the blue and he said we may get back together. And a few days later he said he didn’t know if he still loves me and kinda has feelings for me. I’ve barley slept and have barley ate anything due to my anxiety. He was my world and everything! I feel so dead and scared… Read more »
Ruby
Guest
Okay well my boyfriend and I have been fighting about small stupid stuff recently and I always blamed him for everything. He is a very sensitive guy and will take anything to the heart. He recently broke up with me because the last fight put it over the top. It’s been a week now but I have completely broken all these rules. I begged him for days and kept texting him. After the 4th day he just stopped responding. I met up with him the 5th day and we got into an argument and I basically begged him to come… Read more »
Jdogstray
Guest
My ex girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago and we dated for 2 years and already she told me she likes another guy.. I see her often and it hurts so much seeing them together they’re not even dating and it looks like they are. They will be dating soon. The guy has been waiting to date her for sometime now and she tells me she might love him. Or it seems that way. I miss her dear. It hurts and breaks my heart seeing her with him and I noticed I have been doing some mistakes… Read more »
Lauren
Guest
Hey guys, my boyfriend of almost 8 months broke up with me about 2 months ago. I miss him more than anything and I miss our relationship so much. We loved each other more than anything and we were best friends, it was such a solid relationship. We were good friends for at least a year before we started dating so we felt we knew each other so well. I tried to stop the contact and it did work for a while, he was texting me and Facebook messaging me, but then he just became angry and thought I was… Read more »
avi
Guest
I am a teacher, and I love a student from another higher secondary school. She is very pretty and we had been in a relationship for 3 years now! She comes to my place once a month and stays for 2 to 3 days. I always pay her fees and buys what she likes. But at the same time she chats and talks with guys from which I usually find she is flirting. So, I controlled her not to go out at night, or talk too much on phone. Recently, she was flirting with a guy again and I caught… Read more »
jason
Guest
OK here it goes, me and my wife have been married for 12 years, been together for 14. Everything had been going pretty good, up until about 2 years ago. I had been playing cards online and had been talking with this girl that was my partner, well for some stupid reason I gave this girl my cell#, and it was never anything more than hey you playing cards, never got sexual and I never developed feelings for her. Anyways my wife found out and I did lie about it at first but then later that day admitted to texting… Read more »
Jo
Guest
Hey, My boyfriend of a year and a half has just broken up with me a few days ago, we live together and work in the same organization. We have had a lot of stress these last few months and he says that he wishes that we could work but that we won’t and he says he loves me with all his heart but it doesn’t matter because we won’t work and he wants to be by himself. I am heartbroken, I’ve never been dumped before, I cant stop crying. It wouldn’t be so hard if I knew he didn’t… Read more »
jenny
Guest

OK. I really love this guy who is damn flirty but I know that he loves me too from the core of his heart. So, to make him jealous I once lied that I am gonna go out with a new guy. He took it damn seriously and now he says that he too will see some new girl. I don’t want that to happen and if that happens, tell me what to do.

Thorbjoern Barone
Guest

I experienced the same situation as you once, I would suggest you tell him, that you actually like him, that you wanted his attention and you told what you thought was a white lie.

I’m sure he would appreciate you told the truth.

Alex
Guest
This all started last Tuesday. Alright, I am a natural bitch, I have been told by all my friends. But, I guess I gave my boyfriend the “I am better than him” look, and one of his friends went up to him and asked if we were still dating, his reply to that was “I don’t know.” Then they started laughing, so it could have been joking, but I really like this guy. So, that night I texted him and asked if we were still together, he said “Are we?” I said “Hopefully”, his reply to that was “Yeah.” So… Read more »
sanaz
Guest
My boyfriend and I had been together for 10 months. He really loved me and talked about marrying me indirectly but after ten months I asked him if he is serious about it. But he said he never meant that. I wanted to break up but he begged me and after 2 months he himself broke up with me. After 4 months I saw him and begged him to come back again and we were together but after 2 months, he left me without saying a word. This time I didn’t beg him and tried to forget him. 2 months… Read more »
Hannah
Guest
Hi my boyfriend and I just broke up about a few weeks ago. He has issue with my past and wants to bring it up all the time! It got to the point to where it was no longer necessary to keep bringing up the past! In the beginning there were things I was not completely honest about but we ended up working that out. He is in the national guard and when he was gone for two weeks I had texted a guy friend of mine because we have known each other for 3 years and we played volleyball… Read more »
allison
Guest
Hi, I’m Allison. I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago and I still miss him very much. But on the good side he texted me on Friday and said that he wanted to go to the movies with me and he talked to me like we were dating again and I was so exited. But he has not texted me at anytime after he said that and I chatted him on Facebook and said hey but I got no response. Do I text him and ask if we are still going or do I wait until the… Read more »
paul
Guest
Hi, I am a nervous wreck. My girlfriend broke up up with me and I’m devastated. I supported her for a long time and guess I forgot about the simple things that make a relationship work. (cinema, teddy bear, massages, etc.). Each time she told me she was unhappy I’d just say go then or leave. I took her for granted for too long. She just got a job two weeks ago and has socialized with some new friends and guess just thought she’s wasting her life with me. She says God only knows she loves me to pieces but… Read more »
Joe
Guest
Paul I am in the exact same type of situation as you. I think something we have to remember is they did love us and they did care greatly for us, and yeah we may have messed up, but I believe it takes more then the lack of affection we may have shown, because I believe from what I’m reading, you showed are exes great affection at times and I’m sure we made them happier then they could ever be without us. Its impossible trust me I know but we need to believe that if we focus on ourselves and… Read more »
Angelika
Guest
Hi my name is Angelika. My boyfriend and I just broke up, but he told me that we didn’t break up cause he didn’t like me he just wanted a break so I thought everything would be fine but in just two days he found another girl and didn’t tell be about it, I heard it from his friend. They are not going out but it hurt me cause I thought he still liked me and I wasn’t thinking and told him how much I liked him and was apologizing to him and now he is done with me and… Read more »
Jack
Guest

I broke up with my girlfriend and I regret it. I had no real reason to break up with her. I really want her back but she says she lost feelings for me and told me to move on. We still are friends. I feel hurt because I would often reminisce about the past.

Joe
Guest
My ex and I were together for about a year and a half, and while we were together I didn’t treat her the way she deserved, and it was my own personal mistake. But she loved and cared for me more then anyone ever has. I loved her but was not willing to sacrifice the way she was for me and that eventually got to her. She broke up with me a month ago and over the month we have kept contact, and while she was just asking for space and always holding the possibility of us getting back together,… Read more »
cody
Guest

Dude I’m in the same boat except she broke up with me about a week ago. I love her to death. She’s everything to me. I’m 17 and she’s 19. She says I act immature. And I do. But I’m willing to change everything to get her back. I treated her like complete shit. I’m hoping this advice help me. Wish you luck too.

Mandy
Guest
My ex and I weren’t together long but we developed strong feelings fast and he always told me why he likes me, complimenting, kind, and thoughtful to my feelings. We were getting to the point of telling each other we love one another. Now he ALWAYS texted me first, called me and always thought about me, and I enjoyed it and went with it but had my guard up a little still and always just waited until he got back to me instead of texting him loads of times. He even told me he was falling in love with me… Read more »
Lilth
Guest

Me and my boyfriend were talking last night and I asked a stupid question and then he made it into a weight thing and now he has been ignoring me for the past two days. I want to talk to him before Christmas break, but I think he might break up with me, please help me. Me and him have had an on and off relationship, we see each other a lot and he hugs me in front of his friends, but I think he hates me now.

Help, please!

What do I do?

shea
Guest

okay so I was dating this girl for almost 4 years and before school started, she dumped me over the phone. I still haven’t gotten over her and its been a month. I see her every day at school and she acts like nothing happened. She won’t tell me why she dumped me, and to make things worse my best friend is flirting with her! I have no idea what to do. Please, give me advice!

Karina
Guest

So I broke up with my bf after being together on and off for one year and almost two months. Well anyways he would always hide messages from girls and lied to me. I love him to death and I’m kinda happy that I am single but I am starting to get that feeling where I am missing him.

Joe
Guest

There’s not much you can do in this situation. You should move on.

Lauren
Guest

So I must say thank you because after a month of being broken up me and my boyfriend are back together. Our 10 months is in a week and a half and I can’t wait. We are happier and healthier in our relationship and I couldn’t ask for more. 🙂

Laurie
Guest
Oh! My story is long! My Ex and I got a divorce in 2005 at his request, but we have always loved one another and continued to try and make it work with continued failures up until as recent as June 2011. On Thanksgiving Day he texted me stating “I Miss and LOVE you” I responded letting him know that I felt the same way – but we had no further contact until December 19, 2011 when I sent a text asking if we could try again. I told him that I am in love with him and always have… Read more »
Aiman
Guest
Its almost 3 months since we guys broke up. We are still friends. One night I texted him that it’s not working and we guys broke up. The reason why I broke up was that he was behaving weirdly, he didn’t have time for me. It was kind of irritating. I asked him many times what’s the matter, why he’s behaving so differently these days, if he’s not happy then we should end it up.. But every time he replies nothing like that. But I knew something was wrong. Then one day I broke up with him. He said that… Read more »
Holly
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My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me mid-October via email. I wrote back to him after he wouldn’t return my calls and asked if he had met someone else? He replied “I’m not even looking”. I was quite hurt and said some things that I regret. It is now the end of Dec. and I found out that he got another woman pregnant . I wrote to him last week to see if he would tell me the truth and he has cut off all contact, blaming me for freaking out initially about the breakup and accusing him… Read more »
shizzle
Guest

Grow up. You’re both immature. Go find a quick one night stand and then you will feel better.

Lauren
Guest
Ok so I have been REALLY sad for the last couple of days because this guy I really really like told be he wanted to go out. Of course I said yes. He then later told me to STFU because I was annoying him to death. That really really hurt me and I really miss him. I don’t know what to do. I feel like my life is over. I have became less sociable and my family tries to talk to me but they just don’t understand what I am going through right now. A few weeks after that he… Read more »
Jay Perry
Guest

I agree about the tip about staying scarce when you break up. I remember 4 years back when I broke up with a girl – I got drunk and then went on a texting rampage….. All it did was make things much worse as we exchanged insults for over half an hour… Avoid this at all costs please….

Nataly
Guest
I went out with a guy 4 years ago. Our relationship didn’t even last a whole year. After we broke up, I went almost 2 weeks without eating anything. I barely came out of my room. To narrow it down I’ll just say that I didn’t do anything. I still wonder to this day, what happened between us. We haven’t even talked in since we’ve dated. Which has been 4 years. I don’t know what to do anymore. People have told me that he has a GF now. But I doubt it, since he said to me to stop looking… Read more »
Billy
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So, my gf basically wants nothing to do with me because I cheated on her with my first love. She was my second love, I just cant get over my first love. She told me that she just needs some time but it’s killing me. I want her but I still love my fist love also. What do I do?

Sally
Guest

Billy, you need to figure out who you really wanna be with before you can do anything else, ok?
Be at peace & give yourself time then figure out who you really love.
Good luck 🙂

Sabrina
Guest

Leave her alone until you figure it out! If you’ve already hurt her once with this situation trying to get her back when you’re not sure who you want to be with is just selfish. Spend some time alone with neither of them to distract you and try to sort your thoughts out. Until you do that I think you should leave both of them out of it. It’s not easy but it’s honestly the best way to do it.

alios
Guest

If you ever love two people at the same time go for the second because you wouldn’t have fallen for the second if you loved the first.

Marcella
Guest

Billy I’m going through the same thing and I’ve been through it twice. Sally’s right just stick to the one you love more and have the most in common with.
Best wishes:)

Andrew
Guest
My girlfriend and I have been in a complicated relationship for 14 months. Her friend tried setting me up by texting me as another girl. Stupidly, I had my ex’s friend’s number in my phone so I went along with it to make her feel stupid. It ended up back firing and my girlfriend dumped me. That same night I ended up flirting with my ex and it was only that night. I felt disgusting after so I stopped texting her. Me and My girlfriend ended up seeing each other, getting back with each other, and getting intimate. Then she… Read more »
Tash
Guest
My boyfriend of almost two years recently left me. He said things weren’t the same anymore and that he loved me but that he wasn’t happy. I was letting the stress of work, family, and college leak into our relationship and he said it made me too emotional and that he couldn’t deal with that. I don’t know what to do. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. I’m constantly crying even when I try not to. I’m so desperate that I even paid a psychic to try and help. I need help. He is my best friend and my other… Read more »
Taboo
Guest
Well here’s the deal guys, I’ve been together with my fiance for the past 8 years. She left me in October and really hasn’t given me much of a reason why she left. For 8 years I’d do everything for her. Drive her and pick her up from work everyday, make her lunch or get her lunch, make dinner for her if I got home before her from work. I told her everyday at least once how beautiful I thought she was. Not smothering in the least but she was very clingy to me our whole relationship. We recently had… Read more »
Ryan
Guest
Hey…me and my girlfriend just broke up today…for the third time…the first time we dated for 2 months and we ended because she thought I was jealous of her friends…the second time we dated for like 3 months and we broke up because she wanted another dude…that dude screwed her over so she came back to me and I was there..and we dated for a third time for about 2 months again and we broke up because she needed space and I couldn’t give it to her…I don’t get it:/…I could only see her once a week anyway and she… Read more »
Latoya
Guest
Hi Ryan, she not only broke up with you 1, 2 but 3 times? That should tell you a lot about a person. When someone doesn’t get their way or is not stable enough to commit to you like you are to them, then you need to remove yourself from the situation, point blank. No..it’s easy, but it’s better for you in the long run. Your heart and your body may want her, but your head needs to help you keep things into perspective or you will continue to have feelings for this girl time and time again and not… Read more »
Leah Eckman
Guest

My ex boyfriend got bossy today and I got so mad at him. My other boyfriend was so nice to me so much but, the first one I so hate he doesn’t care about me.

Nick
Guest

That’s what happened to me too. Me and this girl I truly love dated for 6 months. It was the first time I had seen her after my birthday and then she decided to breakup. I think she lied to me because she said that she doesn’t even have enough time for a relationship. I can’t stand this anymore and don’t know what to do.

brandy
Guest
Ok so me and my ex were together for 9 years we have two kids together. 4 years ago we had a devastating break up. We lost our home and had to move in with his mom which didn’t last long they fought a lot and she wanted him out so he stayed with a friend while me and the kids stayed at his moms. The plan was to save some money to get another place together but he had this crazy idea that I should take our son and go 5 hours away to live with my mom for… Read more »
Anne
Guest
Hi, Wow, I didn’t know these websites existed! It is actually quite comforting to find strategies to move forward…..perhaps you have some specific ideas for me? Last week my fiance told me two days before our wedding day that he could no longer be with me and we had to cancel our whole wedding. The problem is, it was not just not marry but not be with me full stop. Inside I am very devastated. I obviously loved/love him and I am trying to respond in the most loving way I can which is killing me! He says he believes… Read more »
John
Guest

I’m trying so hard to get her back and she thinks I say the same stuff over and over again. And she actually gets pissed and she’s now talking in a different tone with me. She’s being short and just different after about a week ago since I broke up with her.. I want her back

mando
Guest
So my GF of 3 yrs dumped me, she said she was not ready to commit in relationship due to my daughter from a previous relationship. She said she needs to be single and not be with anyone. She still loves me and my daughter. I only see my daughter every other weekend and one a week. She told me she wants me to be there for her. I told I would and give her space. She still has pics of us on facebook and made a new album with pics of me and her. If she really wanted to… Read more »
Julia
Guest
I’m so torn up inside, I feel empty. Two months ago, my ex broke up with me. And I figured out afterwards that it was because he was a huge player- he had never been in a relationship for more than a few months, except ours. I think he’s afraid of commitment and being serious. But regardless, I was crushed. The day he broke with me, he went out and got a new girlfriend. That really killed me inside. But I didn’t say anything to him about it, I actually didn’t talk to him at all. He didn’t want to… Read more »
Anonymous
Guest

I went out with my BF for 9 months and out of the blue he told me yesterday he wanted change and liked hanging out with his friends. We both go to school together but he lives on west coast and I live on east coast. He plans on going back home in 2 years after school. Do you think there’s any hope or just going through a phase because we were fine and happy and I was blind sided.

Brittany jud
Guest

Me and boyfriend broke up like almost a year ago…he was actually my longest relationship and I loved him so much:( dated for 11 months.. I’ve been in other relationship after him clearly not happy! I’m always thinking about him.. it’s so hard to move on:( I text him and he always takes forever to reply. Seems he hates my guts.. I don’t know anymore what to do anymore. I think it’s time for me to move on maybe?

Shannon
Guest
My boyfriend broke up with me, by text, at 4 o’clock this morning. We waited for each other for 4 years, both single when the other wasn’t and vice versa. We finally got together and it was the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever been in. Then he texts me, says he’s not ready for a relationship, and ends it. I’m going out of my mind. I don’t know what to do. I can’t sleep or eat or anything and I want to cry but it’s almost like my body won’t let me. The problem is, earlier that night we went… Read more »
Matthew
Guest
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago, and I think it might be too late to get her back. I was terrible to her, but I didn’t mean it. I hurt her so bad, and I would do anything to make it up to her. I have already done all the things that are not supposed to be done. I wish I could take all the pain I cause her away, but I can’t turn time backwards. I want to be with her more than anything in the world, I would marry her if she would have me,… Read more »
Amalie Spanggaard
Guest
Hi there 🙂 First of all I would like to say that I love your website – its quite awesome!! I am a Danish girl who is utterly in love with my Albanian ex boyfriend… We both go to the same international school here in DK and I met him in the beginning of the school year, where things started between us – taken that this was in the beginning we didn’t know each other very well but were very attracted to each other. He is very, very handsome and I’m not exactly the only girl who thinks so and… Read more »
Tom
Guest
Me and my girlfriend broke up because people kept stirring things and telling us both that the other person was doing things behind their back, I told my girlfriend that people had been saying things and she seemed shocked and said that the same people had been telling her that I had been doing things. People kept saying stuff that seemed to be to try and split us up and they wouldn’t stop. After a while my girlfriend saw her ex up town and she didn’t keep this a secret from me and she was honest and said that she… Read more »
alyssa
Guest
Isaac, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I broke up with my boyfriend after 4 months. After 4 months apart we realized we NEEDED each other. So we decided to get back together. We dated for another 3 months before I moved 1500 miles away from him and had to break his heart again and all I wanted to have him back. But he dos now have a girlfriend…..my advice to you is you need to be honest with her. She could be feeling the same way but doesn’t know how to tell you. You make the first move and… Read more »
Sabrina
Guest
I would just like some advice my husband of 5 years (together for 8) cheated on me back in August 2011. I found out on 6th September 2011. I threw him out, day after he begged me to take him back I said no, end of September he came back to me for 2 weeks (didn’t move back in though). He then finished it and said it won’t work because of our family’s and the money problems we have had. He then tells me he has decided to go back to the person he cheated on me with, who is… Read more »
Chris
Guest
this is all general tips people….remember that, it is not 100 percent going to work. In fact, his percentage is wrong its likely going to be less than 90 percent. Also if a person is stupid enough to break up with you rather than set aside the problem and find a compromise on both ends……then perhaps you should consider that they’re not of the right mindset to be with you in a relationship anyhow…..people preach a lot that they want a relationship that lasts and will actually have the wrong attitudes and expectations for a lasting relationship in the first… Read more »
Liz
Guest

I just gave my boyfriend 19 missed calls when he finally picked up I told him I was getting a train half way across the country to meet him even though he told me not to. We’re back together. Sometimes you have to fight for love.

Tom
Guest
I have made all of the mistakes above, and very recently too. She knows I love her and she told me “I know you do. You don’t always have to say it.” I keep making these mistakes though because I’m afraid that if I don’t show her how much she means to me that she will think I don’t care. Sigh…. I have no intention on giving up on her (plus our 4 year old Daughter won’t let me). She has met another man, and their relationship has just progressed quickly. It’s devastating to me when she is with him.… Read more »
lauren
Guest
I was in a relationship with this guy for about 3 months but then I found out I was moving overseas & that hurt me cause I only had 1 month left with him, but 2 month after I left he was moving over too so it wasn’t as hard as it would’ve been.. but anyway.. the month before I left we spent everyday together it was great. He came to the airport with me & my family I couldn’t stop crying we held each other & cried, he rang me everyday for a week he told me he hasn’t… Read more »
olgar
Guest

I am dating someone who dumped his wife and he has three babies with that women they have three years breakup now so I love the guy and he also loves me too but I have a fear because I think he will go back to his wife and he is trying to make me feel safe but I am not well when I think about his ex wife. What can I do or what do you guys think about this? Please help me.

John
Guest
Was with my girl for 5+ years. We had a semi-open relationship. (new women only) She was my rock and support system. We lived together and were around each other 24/7. Honesty is what allowed our relationship to continue. We had arguments before but never a break-up like this. 3 weeks ago she abruptly moved all her stuff out over a small argument (I know with women things accumulate) to go live with a girl I introduced her to through a dating website. She met this girl the day before, and I suppose they have been living together these past… Read more »
Lizzy
Guest
My ex and I first went out in high school I broke it off cause I graduated, had no license and we lived too far apart. It took him a year to forgive me. Then he chased me for 5! I finally gave in and we started dating in 2005 we had our first son in 2006 and our second in 2010. Throughout our relationship we had many ups and downs. In October of last year he went on a week long hike where he met a girl who turned 16 on it. (he is 26 & I am 28).… Read more »
Graziela
Guest

My boyfriend dumped me because I forgave someone that I wasn’t suppose to… and since then, I’ve been missing him like crazy. My best friend thinks that he still has feelings for me because he keeps on looking at me. But I don’t think so. One day, I asked a friend of my ex boyfriend if he likes someone else, and the friend said yes. My ex boyfriend actually love that person and it’s tearing me apart. I’ve been feeling miserable and its been 5 months after the break up and I still love him..

Graziela
Guest

Please give me some advice to make him love me again… I want him to be my valentine…

mitchy
Guest
Okay my ex broke up with me like a year ago and yes I see him around school (cause we attend the same school) and yes I haven’t been over him as you can tell. I mean I haven’t dated any guys cause I’m still in love with him and he told me he wants to get over me and all that bullshit but he finally told me that he doesn’t like me and thinks I’m ugly. But it’s funny cause he has been staring at me all the time (My friends told me) and when I look at him… Read more »
Meg
Guest
I was really close to a guy, we were like best friends anyway but started getting really flirty with each other. Then a few months later we started officially going out! I was so happy with him and he cared a lot about me, he has to be the nicest most genuine person I know! But after a couple of weeks of our relationship he started acting weird and he said that we ‘didn’t talk’ even though we were always together and talking and he said he wanted to be friends again so I went along and agreed to just… Read more »
Confused
Guest
My boyfriend asked for a break after we had this huge argument about a month ago, we did have arguments here and there in the past 2 years. Some were quite serious but we’ve never broken up or taken a break before. He says I don’t respect him and that he doesn’t have time to be in a relationship anymore. He is 7 years older than me and is a divorcee. I still do love him and I want to get him back..and I know he still cares for me..though he has told me that he doesn’t have feelings for… Read more »
Jennifer
Guest

You should date others. I bet he will feel different about you when he finds out. I know it goes against your instincts but that’s not working for you so try something that might work.

kylee
Guest
So my boyfriend is a Marine and he came back on leave and the first four days were wonderful. Well not completely wonderful because the second night he came back he got very angry at me because he said that I’d rather hangout with my friends than him. He posted on Facebook (which he never posts anything on Facebook) saying, “Oh ya I feel real loved, she’d rather hangout with her friends than me.” By the way I did choose my friends over him because I was already with my friends. He then came to my house the next day… Read more »
kylee
Guest

Didn’t choose my friends over him because when he called I was already with my friends and just couldn’t get up and leave because we were eating. He got mad because I didn’t invite him but I was with a bunch of gay guys, and I thought he may be a homophobe?

ray
Guest

My girlfriend broke up with me after being on and off for twenty years. We had gotten engaged then I got locked up. She took it as a sign that we were not to be. I have 16 months left before I get out. She said she loves me and does not hate me and said if we are meant to be together it will happen when I get out.. Advise please.

feme
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I met this guy on online dating site and we chatted about a month and he decided to meet me and we had a nice and fun time together. We’ve been so in love with each other and it for only 2 months. He is from Sweden and I’m working in Norway, so when my contract ends I got back to my home country. From my first week that got back, we were always chatting, but then got lesser and lesser time chatting with me. So I asked him if there’s something wrong but he says nothing til time came… Read more »
Farzhad
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I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months and two days ago she broke with me. The reason was the I needed to become more and that she didn’t like my personality at all. She told me I’m not her type and all. And she told me to talk with her in school after 3 months because we have O levels coming up soon in May. What can I do make her love me again? She said I’m a nice guy and all but she says to change myself.

Jeff
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Hey my girlfriend of 10 years broke up with me because she wasn’t happy with the way things were going. She broke up with me a month ago and is now seeing someone else. I think it’s rather quick but that is what’s happening. IS there anyway to save this?

booboo
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I’m sorry to hear this 🙁 What I would do is talk to her. Ask her what was wrong in the relationship, ask what needed to change….10 years is a long time so there is love there. When you find out what went wrong think on it and make sure you can fix it and still be yourself and happy. With good luck hun.

Kaitlin
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I recently just went through a horrible break up. Its been 4 months. I was with him for 3 years. To this day no matter what I do I can’t stop thinking about him. I was the one that broke up with him, and now I realize that I am still in love with him. And now I do things that I never usually did when I was with him. I go out, drink, find one night standers. My ex has heard about them and every time he finds out about them he texts me and says rotten things about… Read more »
Clement
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I felt the same way that you feel (feel guilty of doing the things I’ve done), but I am the one that who mucked up my relationship with my ex girlfriend. I still love her even though she broke up with me for about 5 months? She even deleted me on Facebook (to me she’s an understanding wonderful girl that I’ve ever met) I see her everyday at work, and it’s so hard to get over her, especially she’s trying to avoid me and it hurts so much cause she’s the one that I used to share my feelings to.… Read more »
saul
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Listen Katlin truth is he wants you back too. I’m a man and I understand this feeling that is how I’m feeling now. He misses you too but doesn’t know what to do. You should be his friend first. Don’t go straight up asking him out. So be in the friend zone and make sum flirty moves after a while. Trust me.

Jordan
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Kaitlin this situation is exactly the same as mine!!! I have been having one night stands thinking it will cure my pain but it just doesn’t. I miss him so much but after reading what you shouldn’t do on here kinda leaves me with no hope lol. Every single thing you’ve said I’m going through and I completely feel your pain!!! Its nice to know you’re not on your own with these feelings. x

booboo
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Lay it all down with him. Tell him why you broke up with him and why you wish you didn’t…..if after this he still will not get back together with you, I know it will take time, but move on. Your prince is out there somewhere and I’m sorry to say but you wont find him once upon a drunken night. Ask friends if they know anybody.

Michael Provncha
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Well I am going to try these tactics! I really hope they work because I cannot get this girl out of my mind. Please wish me luck with this. I don’t want to love anybody else on this earth but her. <3

Hailey!! I want u back
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Hailey!! I want u back

My gf just broke up with me and I’m so sad!!!:( It feels like I need her now to be complete. I’m gonna be lonely for valentines:( I don’t know what to do and I really care about her so much if she saw this IDK what she would say but be happy:( I’m not very good with talking to girls but Hailey is different. IDK why she broke up with me but ever since I was depressed. Hailey if u read this I’m so sorry but please come back to me.

Mildred
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Hi i want you to give your Hailey some time. She too is going to feel the breakup then after sometime, send her a text and later leave her for a long time but meanwhile play have fun okay

broken heart
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My GF broke up with me. We were in relationship since last four years..I didn’t have much time to give her but she was expecting a lot. Then we have completed our engineering. Then long distance relationship. She started loving someone else. When I found out I begged her. I cried. I started hurting me. But whatever I was doing to get her back she was going far from me. I never took alcohol during my engineering but now I am habitual of it. Her ignorance is killing me slowly. Still she loves someone else. My day starts with crying… Read more »
Latoya
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Broken Heart, if someone knew the answer to getting over an ex and quickly, I think that person would be rich. But healing process comes to people at a different pace and it yes takes time. What I do know is, if you can surround yourself around good and positive people (family, friends). Take a trip, volunteer or just try a new activity, this might take some of the edge off. I saw that you believe in God. Yes, prayer is good thing too. Maybe even going to a counselor or some spiritual counselor, somebody to talk to, just help… Read more »
Alexis
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I was with this guy for almost a year now and we’ve been off and on. We dated about 2 1/2 months ago and it didn’t last long.. He started seeing some other girl and didn’t give me a reason. Then he asked for me back again and I gave him ANOTHER chance. We were really good for about 2 weeks (like always) and then start to part because he stops doing what it took to get me, when he gets me. I just found out that he’s texting one of my friends and wants to hook up with her.… Read more »
Latoya
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Alexis, sounds like this guy just isn’t ready for a serious or committed relationship. Going back and forth or taking a person back and then they turn around and leave you. This behavior only leaves you more and more confused and makes you obsessed with him over and over. That my friend is not healthy. You need to take care of yourself so you will be strong enough to resist this kind of behavior. If he keeps coming back and you keep letting him then what kind of standards are you setting? Remember you are the driver and you are… Read more »
Rae
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I’ve been with the same person for 4 years. He asked me to marry him, we were planning a wedding. Then I came home one day he was gone.. it broke me bad.. after 8 months he came crawling back and I took him back. It has been two years and he sent me an email that we were done while I’m away. Fighting for custody of my daughter. After we talked cause we have some legal stuff pending together he says he wants to work things out and so now I really don’t know where we stand. I’m 4… Read more »
Latoya
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Hi Rae, you all have a lot of history together and a child. What’s up with him always leaving and coming back? That’s not healthy at all for this kind of family. Maybe it’s best you see a counselor this time. I am not sure how old you all are. But there’s a reason he keeps coming and going and do you want that to be the story of your life? You need to set some standards for him. If he is going to be committed then he needs to work it out and you both get some help together… Read more »
mike m
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I hope you have either a. moved on, or b. settled for a guy who wouldn’t cause you that pain. You’re so much better than that Casey. Life is beautiful and so short! Get everything out of it you can!

Marv
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Me and my girlfriend of 18 months broke up before Christmas. It was my fault, I was moody and grumpy and I guess maybe took her for granted. We have his & her tattoos, We avoided each other for a while until she saw me speaking to a girl in a club, she then approached me and broke down crying. Also my depressing tweets made her cry also… We got back together last week and we we’re both so happy constant kissing and hugging then Friday night at a club (I was drunk) I flipped when some guy was speaking… Read more »
alex barron
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SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION. Okay, so there’s this girl, we’ve been on & off for 7 months now. We’ve dated twice, which didn’t go too good. the first time we dated, we dated for 3 days. Due to trust issues, she told me she has never trusted me, the only reason she said yes was because she was already attached. The second time we dated for like two weeks, because she moved an hour away…and I’m only 14, so I can’t drive. I couldn’t deal with the distance and all. We talk everyday, all day long. I love her… Read more »
kyli
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OK wow you’re young! But listen…..I say you both just be friends and talk on the phone…..focus on school and your future…if you don’t know who you are and where you’re going in life then you have no chance with a nice girl….focus on you!!!!! And being how young you are I highly doubt you know much about your life yet….even though “you” think you do. Be friends!!! In a few years if you still like each other then go at it and see….but right now “flirting” is a good idea but nothing serious yet.

Daniel martin
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That’s almost the same with me. We dated for a year, then she broke up with me. I was heart broken. Then we got back together for a week, then she broke up with me again and I don’t know why she says she is dating someone else everyday but that is not true. But still I’m only 12, so I can’t do some things to get her back but still someone help me.

sara
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I’m almost getting mine back, but we went to the same dance and he was slow dancing with another girl 🙁

Sam
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I’m a teenager and I like this guy and we were flirting a lot and then he got my password to an account and found out that I have guy friends and got jealous so he stopped talking to me for a week. Now we’re talking again and he already asked me to be his valentine but now when I ask what he’s doing on valentines day he says idk and when we talk he still flirts and calls me baby but I want advice on what to do and how to get him back. I texted him but he… Read more »
kate
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Hi guys, Just wanted to leave a feel good story and fingers crossed give you some hope! I’d split with my long term ex and like many of you felt, as if my whole world had ended. I did the usual crying, begging, beating myself up, cover every detail of the break up. THEN, decided one day to actually do what I’d read and stopped harassing him with a thousand texts a day. This was by far the hardest thing I’d done, I kept thinking what if he forgets me or moves onto someone else (I became OBSESSED with that!!).… Read more »
kat
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I found my love then lost him. I hated that it didn’t even affect him and he didn’t shed a tear. I went into a deep depression. I couldn’t laugh, when I tried I cried. Rumors spread quick my friends tried to help me but I turned away. I didn’t want help, I wanted him. Everyone was mad we broke up when we were together for a year. One day I realized all the scars in the world wouldn’t make him come back. Finally I started digging my self outta this hole, I was in I finally recovered for the… Read more »
Latoya
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Hi Kat, you are really going to have to be strong sweetie and try to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep yourself and mind busy. Because if he is the only thing that makes you happy, then if you get back together and then he breaks up again with you, then you will feel worse again, right? So try to find a way to make yourself happy, day by day. Take baby steps and do something for yourself in a positive way. The last thing you want to do is turn your friends away, depend on them, this… Read more »
Joe
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I asked my ex out and she said yes but then she decided she just wants to be friends but she has a lot of friends that are guys and I went to the mall with her as a friend and I was upset cause it brought back memories so she realized I was depressed and hugged me 4 times to try and cheer me up but I just stood there. Then she got mad so she asked me why I just stood there and I told her that I wanted to be more than just friends and now there… Read more »
Latoya
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Joe, it sounds like your feelings for her are still strong and they are running deep down to your soul. So obligating yourself to her, just to be in her company as “friends” is not benefiting you whatsoever or making you happy. Maybe you should just take some time away from her so you can get to a better place of feeling comfortable being just “friends”. You are going to just make yourself miserable appearing to be “cool” with being her friend. You need to build yourself up again to feel good about being single/independent even if you and her… Read more »
nadia
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I miss my ex, we broke up about 6 months ago but still in touch with each other like a couple until he started to move on, I guess? He’s in Australia and I’m in Malaysia, he is so far away from me. He was here in December 2011. We dated twice, but it seems like it doesn’t work at all. He treated me cruelly. I tried to do everything he wants but it seems like my effort is such a waste. He went back to Australia already and didn’t contact me at all. It has almost been a month.… Read more »
Aj
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I did everything you said not to do… what do I do now?…

Baylee
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I dated my GF for almost 3 years and we broke up after a stupid fight. I made a lot of mistakes listed here to try and get her back and she eventually did. And then we dated again for a month but then she dumped me after we got intimate for the first time. I feel like I was her rebound which is weird considering I’m her ex. What can I do to prevent this again? I’m 15 if that makes a difference.

sean
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Relax dude its easy I’m 10 I did the opposite of what he said to do. Flipped it. She started going out with this kid Jarret. I kicked his ass, got Kayleigh back. Kayleigh calls me her hero and Jarret calls me sir, it’s a good life.

kyli
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Hey, I know its hard but if you still need help here’s an advice…. you have to be honest with yourself, if you really think you didn’t do anything then time is important. Time tells all! If you’re in the wrong, then be humble and explain without fighting or getting at it with each other! Maybe it just wasn’t working, well then if it is meant to be then this is your opportunity to go out and discover who you really are. Enjoy yourself. If you can’t be happy by yourself then it will be even harder with someone. It’s… Read more »
kyli
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I agree with Amel…guys you have to let the girl know how you feel! Otherwise how will they know!

Plastron
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So when my first girlfriend dumped me I was devastated. I texted her and texted her. I said I was OK with being friends, only to make her feel rejected… It was really crazy times, I broke a car window, and would leave notes in her car. Eventually I discovered a secret. A powerful yet effective secret. I’m serious. I want to share it with the world. I want to find out that at least another person tried it and it worked for them to. Here it is “I don’t love [Ex’s name]”. Repeat it to yourself, concentrate. The pain… Read more »
Latoya
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Hey Megan, I know it’s easier said then done. But at this point if you are not comfortable dating others, then in the mean time of waiting or trying to get back with your ex, don’t keep asking him, hanging out with him, talking all the time to him, as if he is going to become more and more interested in you. The more you work on yourself, keep yourself busy and do things that you like (hanging with friend, sports, hobbies, new things), then you will actually be making your self not so much available to him and appearing… Read more »
Latoya
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Well Ethel, if you still love him, then talk to him and see what he has to say. People do deserve a chance to explain themselves especially if they didn’t do much to hurt you, but your feelings. You can either learn to forgive him and be with him or forgive him, hug or shake hands and move on, especially if you still have this desire to be with him. You may be afraid now, but what if you wait and look back regretting what you should have done all along. Call him up or agree to meet with him… Read more »
Hannah
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So I started talking to this guy and everything was so great, then one day his ex called and he went back. It hurts so much because he said that he would never use me and stuff like that to the next day not even talking to me to the break up text? And now he is staying at her house. I know I need to move on and just deal with it but I am friends with his new girl on Facebook. And she saw that me and him started dating so I thought that she is just pissed… Read more »
Latoya
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Hannah, it was a joint decision (on both guy and ex GF). So the guy that you were dating, he apparently wanted to get back with his ex. If she is playing him just to make you jealous and doesn’t really want him, then let him figure that one out for himself. If I was you, I wouldn’t be to concerned about taking him back, especially if he has just recently broken up with the girl. It’s never good to be the “rebound”. So I would take precaution as you don’t want to be used like that. Just count this… Read more »
Janet
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Hello I’m in a relationship, we’ve been on and off. I’ve been worried, he had told me that it isn’t going to last. I’m trying to be good, show him my love, how can he see that spark again? How can he fall in love with that person he fell for? Why is he saying that it’s not going to last?

jossy
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My ex broke up with me, it’s been a week and two days, I miss him heaps and it’s so hard at home because I’m the oldest.
But he has a rebound girlfriend and she is everything he said he didn’t like in a girl, how do I not get jealous?

I mean I don’t wanna ring him like I have in the past and tell him how I feel because I’m just pushing him away. Please help?

alana
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I met this lovely guy at college, we did everything together. He change all his bad way and I said to my self that this was a beginning of something wonderful, little did I know it wasn’t. I was a virgin, and I told him he would have to wait. After waiting 10 months he got tired of waiting and we actually had sex three months after his course ended. When he left people called him saying I was cheating, he believed and he said we should be friends but we still had sex for about two months after the… Read more »
Ben
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I’ve broken up with the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met. I had been with her for 2 years and she ended with me and a day later, she goes out with this guy who never liked me so I hope this advise helps me.

Sky
Guest
I love my ex girlfriend more then anything in this world. We started dating in Dec of 09 and broke up in Nov of 11. Recently she text me and told me she missed me and wanted to hang out. So we did. We hung out for a couple days and even started dating again. But she recently left again. 🙁 I’m broken in so many ways. I can’t eat, sleep. I feel like I can’t go on with my life because she’s not here. I want her back and will do anything for her to come back. What do… Read more »
Latoya
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Sky, she sounds like she is not ready to be back in a relationship with you just yet. Maybe you should give her some space and some space for yourself to feel independent again and be in a better place. Right now you may not feel like that. But you got to do this for yourself. Or feeling depressed and down is definitely not going to make her fall for you again or want you back. Trust me, it’s been 5 weeks for me and I do cry once in a while, but I am getting stronger and better with… Read more »
Justin
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My ex and I were together for ten years and have two kids together. We’ve had some time off from one another during that time. But this time it feels different. A week after she left I found out about a friend she had and now they were getting closer which I had my feelings was happening (late nights out or not even coming home to me at night). So at first I accepted it and it hurt but was moving on. I threw myself into the dating game and met someone who by now is ready to spend rest… Read more »
Latoya
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Justin, you hit it right on the head! She sounds like a “rebound”. The longer you progress or prolong this relationship, the harder it gets to break up with this person. You need to find a good way to let this girl down, so she can move on with her life and meet someone that is ready to give her what she is looking for. If you continue dating this girl, it will just lead into a bitter disappointment and women don’t like to be mislead. Before she grows deeper feelings for you, you got to let her know soon.… Read more »
Sunshine929
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My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. I love him very much and want him back. I have partial seizures and I was supposed to be taking medicine for them but because of the side effects wasn’t. But I told him I was because I didn’t want him to worry. On a cruise I had an episode and when he asked I told him I wasn’t taking the medicine I have since then stopped drinking (he didn’t like that I drank too much)  and have been taking my medicine. I have made some real changes and I… Read more »
Chrissie
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Someone help me please. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me last night saying he really doesn’t want a relationship. He’s been divorced twice and so have I. But for the last 2 years, he tells me how much he loves me and tells everyone we know I’m the best thing that ever happened to him. Up until 2 weeks ago, he was still making plans to go places with me, etc. The only thing I know for sure is that there’s no other girl. Please help, my heart is broken and I feel like my life is… Read more »
J
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My wife walked out after a 10 year relationship 6 of those years we were married. We had always been close with what we told each other was an unbreakable bond. She didn’t have the best relationship with her family growing up so I became her knight in shining armor if you will. While already having confidence and self respect issues, I made sure that I made her feel the best that I knew how. She loved that I was, as she told me, the kind of person that she wanted to be… Easy going, carefree, upbeat, funny and most… Read more »

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