How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan
90% of the breakups are reversible. Is yours?
Are you hurting from a breakup?
Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?
But what if it didn’t have to be over?
What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?
My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.
NOTE: IT’S VERY IMPORTANT YOU READ ALL THE 3 STEPS. I HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU IN THE END
Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to get your ex back, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. 90% of breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.
I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to get your ex back. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.
In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together with your ex. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.
#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
Being Needy is Unattractive
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.
#2 The Doormat Syndrome
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.
You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –
a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want to win your ex back.
b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.
#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing
Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together
This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are calling their ex and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.
You have to make yourself scarce if you want to get your ex back (explained in STEP 2 of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.
#4 Smothering Them With Affection
Saying "I love you" will NOT help your case
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?
“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.
#5 Giving Them All The Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.
Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.
No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid's ex.
#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.
Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.
So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.
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Well I am going to try these tactics! I really hope they work because I cannot get this girl out of my mind. Please wish me luck with this. I don’t want to love anybody else on this earth but her. <3
we broke up from 4monthes but every time gone talk to me laught and go away but his feelings show mw that he stiill love me and i love him
My gf jst broke up with me and im so sad!!!:( it feels like i need her now to be complete. Im gonna bo lonly for valentines:( i dont know what to do and i really care about her so much if she saw this idk what she would say but be happy:( im not very good with talking to girls but hailey is different. Idk why she broke up with me but ever since i was depressed. Hailey if u read this im so sorry but please come back to me
Hi i want u to give ur hailey sometime she too is going to feel the breakup then after sometime send her a text and later live her for a long time but meanwhile play have fun okay
oh my gosh umm i dont no what to say
my gf brokeup with me.we were in relationship since last four years..I dint have much time to give her.but she was expecting a lot.then we have completed our engineering.then long distance relationship.She started loving someone else..when i knew that.I begged her.I cried.I started hurting me.But whatever i was doing to get her back..She was going far to me.I never took alcohol during my engineering.But now i m habitual of it.Her ignorance killing me slowly slowly.Still she loves someone else.My day starts with crying and praying to god..And end with alcohol.PLz suggest me,,I was very happy guy.I used to laugh and made other laugh.But now I forget how to laugh.Now i understood that she will never come back.so i told to my friends who r her friends also that i have a new gf.but i know that again love relationship for me..not possible. I told it to my friends because now i want she never give me beg..or feel bad for me.
Broken Heart, if someone knew the anwser to getting over an ex and quickly, I think that person would be rich. But healing process comes to people at a differenct pace and it yes takes time. What I do know is, if you can souround yourself around good and positive people (family, friends). Take a trip, volunteer or just try a new acitivity, this might take someof the edge off. I saw that you believe in God. Yes, prayer is good thing too. Maybe even going to a cousnelor or your some spiritual counselor, somebody to talk to, just help listen and mentor to you. Whatever you do, just don’t isolate yourself. Try to keep busy and slowly but surely you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Its a journey and sometimes its no going to be a good experience but you will learn from it and do better next time. No body is perfect and neither was she. See if everybody broke up at the same time and go into another relationship, then there really woulnd’t be much hurting and sadness. No stories to tell, nothing to learn from, nothing to gain. But through all of that, there is joy and there were good times and good things that came from it. So sometimes it sucks that you are not dealing with this break up as good as she, someone has to suffer, but it’s okay. You are not alone!
Hy dear! 1st of all just remain in flow. I know there will be emotions at high level bt dis is a natural nd romal. thing is the she left you at u dnt. now listen NEWTON law to every action dare is an equal nd opposite reaction U MUST KNOW. Let the things happen. Love urself. dnt evr beg it makes thing worse. JUST CLOSE EYES THInk all wht can arise ur emotion high. then there will be a magic. just maintain distance nd never call or beg. If she s yurs she will cum back. I AM SAYING BCZ I WAS in love for 23 year m 25 year old. she 1 year ago left me . i just remain calm infront of her AND NOW SHE IS MINE AGAIN
hey keep faith in GOD …pray a lot and dont be depressed…someday she will realize why r u hopeless…trust on GOD… and believe urself time is a good doctor…go ahead on truth way…never do bad with anyone…keep ….doing good works…see …dont harm urself….let her go with anyone…if she is yours…she will be come back towards u…….y r u crying ..i know this situation hurts…try to keep busy yourself…lets do something …others like do something for poor people….handicapped child…..do good job and u will get revert back ….u will get ur gf back….love is only…happiness of ur spouse …if she is happy now…let her go …dont beg if u r really a true lover …u will get back …keep patience…
I was with this guy for almost a year now and we’ve been off and on. We dated about 2 1/2 months ago and it didn’t last long.. He started seeing some other girl and didn’t give me a reason. Then he asked for me back again and I gave him ANOTHER chance. We were reallyyyy good for about 2 weeks (like always) and then start to part because he stops doing what it took to get me, when he gets me. I just found out that he’s texting one of my friends and wants to hook up with her. It’s hurting me because he’s doing stuff with her that he hasn’t done with me lately. I’m madly in love with him and I want him back but I don’t know if that’s a good idea or not.. I just want HIM. I can’t take my mind off of him. What do I do?!
Alexis, sounds like this guy just isn’t ready for a serious or commited relationship. Going back and forth or taking a person back and then they turn around and leave you. This behaviour only leaves you more and more confused and makes you obsessed with him over and over. That my friend is not healthy. You need to take care of yourself so you will be strong enough to resist this kind of behavior. If he keeps coming back and you keep letting him then what kind of standards are you setting? Remeber you are the driver and you are in control. Don’t let your heart do all the driving you have to be smart too or it will leave you weak and confused and you will always take this guy back. It sounds like he is just playing to see if you are going to fall for him and when you do, he is no longer interested. Sounds like he is a serial dater. But you don’t have to tolerate it. I would try to build yourself up, stay grounded by talking to your family members, friends. Take up new activites (dance classe, sports, volunteering, job). Once you feel better about yourself and stronger than you can feel a since of indepdendancy and control. So please take percaustion and find out if and when he does return, why does he want to be with you. What will his intentions be with you this time. Short-term, Longterm or just for fun? Because you need to find out what kind of person you are dealing with and by his anwsers you will know for yourself that you need to move on.
Iv been with the same person for 4 yrs he asked me to marry him, we were planning he wedding then i came home one day he was gone.. it broke me bad.. after 8 months he came crawling back and i took him back it has been two years and he sent me an email that we were done while im away fighting for custody of my daughter. after we talked cause we have some legal stuff pending together he says he wants to work things out and so now i really don’t know were we stand im 4 hrs aways from him and i dont know how we can work on anything the problem im having is letting go but i know i need too… im so lost and dont know what to do anymore
Hi Rae, you all have a lot of history together and a child. What’s up with him always leaving and coming back? Thats not healthy at all for this kind of family. Maybe it’s best you see a counseler this time. I am not sure how old you all are. But there’s a reason he keeps coming and going and do you want that to be the story of your life? You need to set some standards for him. If he is going to be commited then he needs to work it out and you both get some help together to get to the bottom of why he keeps fleeing. If it’s a deeper issue and it’s not your problem then maybe it’s something that he has to work on. Maybe is having anxiety or doubts and get overwhelmed and doesn’t know how to deal with his feelings, emotions, etc. I don’t know the case. My ex of over 2 years did the same thing. Back and Forth, one foot in and the other out and I would break up with him cause I didn’t know if he was ready. Then we get back and then he would break up with me as soon as it got tough. He was afraid and scared. But I can’t live that kind of life never knowing when he’s going to come back and then leave. It’s mentally draining and stressful and you need someone that is always going to be there, regardless! That’s I had to learn from my last experience. When I don’t get my way or get scared, we shouldn’t run but to sit down and get to the core of what’s “really” going on with US or the individual. Addressing the problem (s) is better than being in a relationship avoiding most of them until they spill over. I hope you are doing alright and everything work out.
Hi, there very interesting 1. I have already been few things like door mat and pleader!! Is it okey to follow the steps you told?! Worst thing he is seeing another lady…. all crap!! But… I wished him that is very nice and I am happy about that growth. But besides… I want him so much! We are always at the distance and I dont get to see him often. Now the wrecker is physically nearer and reachable. So, More frequently he is seeing her. He just good bye as if the relationship ends with validity! What could be done?! I kept wishing that he should come back
Me and my girlfriend of 18 months broke up before christmas it was my fault, I was moody and grumpy and I guess maybe took her for granted. We have his & her tattoos, We avoided each other for a while until she saw me speaking to a girl in a club, she then approached me and broke down crying, Also my depressing tweets made her cry also… We got back together last week and we we’re both so happy constant kissing and hugging then friday night at a club ( I was drunk) I flipped when some guy was speaking to her which led to maybe we should be friends. We spoke since i’m the love of her life she says. I believe she is the one for me shes currently in new york and she back next before valentines day..How can I get her back ?
SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION.
okay, so there’s this girl, we’ve been off & off for 7 months now. we’ve dated twice, which didn’t go too good. the first time we dated, we dated for 3 days, due to trust issues. she told me she has never trusted me, the only reason she said yes, was because she was already attached.
the second time we dated for like two weeks, because she moved an hour away…and i’m only 14, so i can’t drive. i couldn’t deal with the distance, and all.
we talk everyday, all day long. i love her to death, we want to be together, but we don’t know what to do.
ANY SUGGESTIONS? !
ok wow your young! but listen…..i say you both just be friends and talk on the phone…..focus on school and your future…if you dont know who you are and where your going in life then you have no chance with a nice girl….focus on you!!!!! and being how young you are i highly doubt you know much about your life yet….even tho “you” think you do. Be friends!!! in a few years if you still like eachother then go at it and see….but right now “flirting” is a good idea but nothing serious yet.
Thats almost the same with me. We dated for a year then she broke up with me I was heart broken then we got back together for a week then she broke up with me again and I don’t know why she says she is dating some one else everyday but that is not true but still I’m only 12 so I can’t do some things to get her back but still someone help me
im almost am gettin mine back but we went to the same dance and he was slow dancin with another girl
Im a teenager and i like this guy and we were flirting alot and then he got my password to a account and found out that i have guy friends and got jealous so he stopped talking me for a week now where talking again and he already asked me to be his valentine but, now he when i ask what hes doing valentines day he says idk and when we talk he still flirts and calls me baby but i want advice on what to do and how to get him back i texted him but he never responded and i dont want to just let him go cause i really like him does anyone have any advice?
Sam I understand your issue!! I am glad to hear you won’t break up with him!!! Getting at we’re he doesn’t text you much, is my guess that he wants to tell you what he is not enjoying or that he really wants to change in this relationship!!! Take from a boy point of you and seat with him and talk about why he is not texting you. If you do that he will feel more comfortable and change the chance of having more fights. But remember you might hear stuff you won’t like but if you change that part!! Then I promise you that you and your boyfriend will be as happy as can be but ask me this, did you break up with him or are you still together???
Hi guys,
Just wanted to leave a feel good vaslue story and fingers crossed give you some hope!
Id split wxith my long term ex and like many of you felt as if my whol world had ended , i did the usual crying, xbegging, beating myself up up cover every detail of the break up. THEN, decided one day to actually do what id read amd stopped harrassing him with a thousand txts a dsy. This was by far the hardest thing id done, i kept thinkin what if he forgets me or moves onto someone else ( i became OBSESSED with that!!) But within two days he texxt me. And in the weeks before ALL he had said was how happy he was without me etc, but these were different. At first he asked fcor sex but please please say no, ci know its hard but i promise you you will better if you dont do it, amd thrn he started saying how he wished we’d worked and slowly we got round to talkin about giving it another go. But i let HIM bring it up. Xthe trick is let him miss you, and he will eventually. Its not easy but i promise you things can and will get better, even if it seems hopeless.
All the best and keep smiling
Xxx
I found my love then lost him . I hated that it didnt even effect him like he didnt shed a tear . I went into a deep deppresion i couldnt laugh when i tryed i cryed. rumors spread quick my friends tryed to help me but i turned away ingore help. I didnt want help i wanted him . Everyone was mad we broke up when where together for a year . One day i realized all the scars in the world wouldnt make him come back . finally I started digging my self outta this hole i was in I finally recovered for the break up . Then he asked one on
of my best friends out . I was shocked why ,why me I was so mad of course she denined thank God.
Every nite i asked God for one more chance which never came even though i still love him . An i dont know why it killed me inside he new it bothered me and my friends to see me in such bad condition. My friends tryed to get him back with me finally i found out the reason why we broke up . His sister hates me well at the point i didnt care if she hated my guts . Well he made me mad
so I got revenge. I dated one of his friends not the best solution but it was all i could think of. One week later we broke up . So I went with this other boy i liked . Well that lasted a lil while . we broke up but there was one probulom when i was dating these other people i still loved my first love . an he knows how i feel I found out yesterday he still loved me . well i dont know wat to think . I love him he loves me wats holding me back ??? He has my heart im just wondering why i dont have his . should I go back I just miss him so much we where the couple that people thought would make it .But mabye loves just playing tricks on my mind . But why do I love him so much hes my everything. My question for him is he my everything ? p.s i will always love him
kat ~ oxoxoxox~
Hi Kat, you are really going to have to be strong sweetie and try to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep yourself and mind busy. Because if he is the only thing that makes you happy, then if you get back together and then he breaks up again with you, then you will fill worse again, right? So try to find a way to make yourself happy, day by day. Take baby steps and do something for yourself in a positive way. The last thing you want to do is turn your friends away, depend on them, this is those most delicate time for you and you need every body’s help, family and friends. Dating other people might fill the void but only temporary. It’s okay that you still love him and he was special to your — it’s okay to feel that way and you make feel that way for a while, but try to accept that it is over and may be for some time. If you get in your mind that it’s over and some how manage to keep yourself occupied and get to a better place and heal, then who know’s what the future holds. But waiting and waiting and worrying is only going to make you more sad and depressed. I know how you feel and I hope you take this time to work on yourself, even if some days you feel like crying, but get it out, pray for strenght, write it down, talk to someone, but just don’t keep focusing on him cause you won’t be happy either way. Some times God allows things to happen so we can depend on him and become better people for ourselves. I hope you are doing a little better.
I asked my ex out and she said yes but then she decided she just wants to be friends but she has alot of friends that r guys and i went to the mall with her as a friend and i was upset cuz it brought back memories so she realized i was depressed and hugged me 4 times to try and cheer me up but i just stood there. Then she got mad so she asked me why i just stood there and i told her that i wanted to be more than just friends and now there is an awkward silence what do i do?
Joe, it sounds like your feelings for her are still strong and they are running deep down to your soul. So obligating yourself to her, just to be in her company as “friends” is not benefiting you whatsoever or making you happy. Maybe you should just take some time away from her so you can get to a better place of feeling comfortable being just “friends”. You are going to just make yourself miserable appearing to be “cool” with being her friend. You need to build yourself up again to feel good about being single/indepedent even if you and her never get back together. When you get to the place that you feel OK about it, then probably tell her you are ready to be friends with her. But do it on your own time, I am sure she will understand that. Sometimes we want something so bad that we can’t have but if it is truely ours then it was never gone in the first place. Time tells everything. Take time out for yourself and learn about somethings you may want to work on and change about yourself. This is a learning experience. It sucks but we have to push through it so we can get to a better and happier place.
i miss my ex , we broke up for about 6 months ago but still in touch with each other like a couple until he started to move on i guess ?he’s in australia and im in malaysia , he is so far away from me . he was here in december 2011 . we dated twice , but it seems like doesnt work at all . he treated me cruely . i tried to do everythg he wants but it seems like my effort is such a waste . he went back to australia already and didnt contact me at all . its almost been a month . he didnt return my calls or contact me thru whatsapp . i miss and i need him , please help me
I did everything you said not to do… what do I do now?…
I dated my gf for almost 3 years and we broke up after a stupid fight. I made a lot of mistakes listed here to try and get her back and she eventually did. and then we dated again for a month but then she dumped me after we got intimate for the first time. I feel like i was her rebound which is wierd considering im her ex. What can i do to prevent this again? Im 15 if that makes a difference
Realax dude its easy im 10 i did the opsite of what he said to do fliped it she started going out wit this kid gerret i fucking kicked his ass got Kayleigh back Kayleigh calls me her hero and garret calls me sir its a good life
So when my first girlfriend dumped me I was devastated. I texted her and texted her. I said I was ok with being friends, only to make her feel rejected…
It was really crazy times, I broke a car window, and would leave notes in her car. Eventually I discovered a secret. A powerful yet effective secret. I’m serious. I want to share it with the world. I want to find out that at least another person tried it and it worked for them to. Here it is “I don’t love [Ex's name]” Repeat it to yourself, concentrate. The pain is part of the process. Repeat “I don’t love [Ex's name]” until you think you have to.
But before you do that, make the decision to yourself that you don’t want to love that person, and block numbers and emails.
So i started talking this guy and everything was so great, then one day his ex called and he went back. It hurts so much because he said that he would never use me and stuff like that to the next day not even talking to me to the break up text? and now he is staying at her house i know i need to move on and just deal with it but i am friends with his no girl on fb. And she saw that me and him started dating so i thought that she is just pissed so she took him back idk i need some help with this.
new girl*
Hannah, it was a joint decision (on both guy and ex gf). So the guy that you were dating, he apparently wanted to get back with his ex. If she is playing him just to make you jealous and doesn’t really want him, then let him figure that one out for himself. If I was you, I wouldn’t be to concerned about taking him back, especially if he just recently broken up with the girl. It’s never good to be the “rebound”. So I would take precaution as you don’t want to be used like that. Just count this as his loss and your gain, especially if you are ready for a new relationship. I don’t think he would be emotionally available to you starting a new relationship, don’t you think? So why drag it out and see where it goes, only for you to find out he was using you or discovering that he keeps running back to ex, texting and talking to his ex — too much confusion girl. If you are stable and emotinally ready to start dating and ready to be in relationship, don’t you want to start fresh with someone who has the same intentions in mind? You will find yourself stressed and exhausted and dissapointed trying to win this guy over and for what? Plus there will be an ex involved too. Sounds like drama waiting to happen. Well you choose what you want to do and what you are willing to put up with. I wish you to look else where.
Hello I’m in a relationship, weve been on and off. Ive been worried, he had told me that it isnt going to last. I’m trying to be good, show him my love, how can he see that spark again? How can he fall inlove with that person he fell for? Why is he saying that isnot going to last?… Idk tell me
How i can back my ex wife after two years ,she sad i cant decide and she sad im confuse!
my ex broke up with me its been a week and two days,
I miss him heaps and its so hard at home because im the oldest .
but he has a rebound girlfriend and she is everything he said he didn’t like in a girl,
how do I not get jealous ?
I mean I don’t wanna ring him like i have in the past and tell him how i feel because im just pushing him away .
please, help ?
I met this lovely guy at college we did everything together he change all his bad way and i said to my self that this was a beginning of sometjhing wonderful little did i know it wasnt i was a virgin he was but i told he would have to wait after waiting 10 mnths he got tired of waiting and we actually had sex three months after his course ended when he left people call him sasying i was cheating he believed and he said we should befriends but we still had sex for about two months after the break up he said to me one day he is scared of his feelings for me there were too strong and he dont know why he gets so excited around me is his feelings that bad he still want to hug and kiss me if i allow him sex too so whats the problem and he find a problem in me dating but dont want to admit it and i hear he has a girl
I havent been dating this guy and he dumped me and when i asked what i did wrong he said that i didnt do anything wrong and he just doesnt want to be in a relationship any more and he just wasnt feeling it but he said that he still kinda has a crush on me.. I feel like im in love with him and cant get him outa my head.. What should i do?
you just leave everything on time .dnt do anything to make him feel about you.you just behave like whatever he said you are happy with that.you will be definately able to creat feelings with time….
Ok So Here It Goes I Been On & Off With My Ex For 10 years & A Baby Later Not Mine( Btw) When I Was In 8th Grade he got me pg I never told him because he was always too busy but i lost it
Everytime I would see him he would talk to me or wanna kiss me We never would break up we didnt talk for 2 yrs he got with another chick got her pg & she had an abortion and tried to be my friend after she found out and saw us together telling me her sad story but i will always choose him we stopped texting me for a few months and a few weeks ago my friend and i went to his house and i really didnt talk to him because he had the chick who he got pg and had the abortion there i wanted to kill her but she went back to bed and we left so a few weeks roll by and he txt me wanting to hang out & I went he asked me to spend the night and i did lent him $ he told me to txt him and he never replied it’s been like 4 days what do i do I Love Him To Death I Just want the best for him i’ve even told him i don’t have to be with him
He and his ex are dating now and it sucks but there is nothing i can do and i have tired to text him saying im happy for you but he never texts back so i give up trying. And today his gf facebooked me saying stop texting him and im not worried we are leaving things in the past.? and i get it she doesn’t want his ex texting him but i only texted him once. and idk is so much bs that it is driving me insane.
how to bring him back and it was ME who said “I want to break up”??
he was acting stupid lately always neglecting me and my needs i know he loves but he is not giving me the needed attention and care, and i am a very sensitive person and these stupid actings really hurts me a lot, and in a minute of extreame pain and anger i just told him i no longer want to continue, knowing that in 6 years he left me many times, and every time he comes back to me saying he is sorry, but the last 2 times it was me, i left him once for 2 years and he made the imposible to come back to me then now i left again, he seems that he will never change and his bad attitudes in a relation ship will never come to an end, I do adore him, but the older i become the more i need him to be envolved in my life, now we were taking steps forward to get married and suddenly i found him extreemly irresponsible, leaving every thing for me to handle, and i dont want to run my relation that way, i want him to take his part and role in our lives, and he is not even trying to do so, spending so much time at work, neglecting me most of the day, and when i need him the most i never find him beside me…. i feel better living alone, getting myself busy with work, friends, traveling a lot, but yet i miss him so much and i miss all the fun we have together, but also i no longer need those continues fights and non ending arguments, and him saying sorry fpr all the pain he is causing…..
any help?? I WANT HIM BACK but in a better attitude…..
Hi Loly, you say you all been on and off for 6 years? If it’s been that long, it doesn’t sound like it’s going to get any better. Maybe, you should realize that if he’s not going to be consistent and frequently neglects you and the relationship, then maybe you should start being single again to try to figure out what you really want in a partner espcially if you want to get married. It sounds like marriage is not going to make this better so please don’t do something that you might regret. If this is his personality, then you one, either have to suck it up and accept him for who he is or two, stay broken up and see try to date other people. Its a harsh reality, but if you are constantly the one that is changing and evolving and your man is not trying to keep up with you, then you will always be ahead of him and never on the same page when it comes to what you both like from eachother and want out of life. You can make him do that or put that kind of pressure on him. You have alot of history with him, but it just sounds like he is not ready to “step it up”. You have to decide if you can live with that. Cause choosing the person for yourself and accepting a person for who they are is always best.
I’ve broken up with the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met. I had been with her for 2 years and she ended with me and a day later, she goes out with this guy who never liked me so i hope this advise helps me.
I love my ex girlfriend more then anything in this world. We started dating in Dec of 09 and broke up in Nov of 11. Recently she text me and told me she missed me and wanted to hang out. So we did. We hung out for a couple days and even started dating again. But she recently left again.
Im broken in so many ways. I can’t eat, sleep. I feel like I can’t go on with my life because she’s not here. I want her back and will do anything for her to come back. what do I do? please help
Sky she sounds like she is not ready to be back in a relationship with you just yet. Maybe you should give her some space and some space for yourself to feel independent again and be in a better place. Right now you may not feel like that. But you got to do this for yourself. Or feeling depressed and down is definintely not going to make her fall for you again or want you back. Trust me, it’s been 5 weeks for me and I do cry once in a while, but I am getting stronger and better with every week that goes by. Writting is good, praying as well. Talking to your friends or someone you trust is good. But stay active no matter what you do, so that the time will go by. I don’t think it’s best for you to keep seeing you ex, cause it’s almost like once you see any hope for you all to get back together you then get happy again. But then when she back off, you are sad and she is not the person that controls you “happiness” YOU DO, my friend. Hey you will be Okay, just give it some time. I am sure if you all were meant to be together or be in eachother’s live, working on yourself and bettering your self will get you close to this point. The state that your in is not going to attract anybody. So think of it like that. Take care of yourself and I wish you well.
My ex and I where together for ten years and have two kids together, we’ve had some time off from one another durning that time but this time it feels deffient. A week after she left I found out about a friend she had and now they were getting closer which I had my feelings was happening(late nights out or not even coming home to me at night) So at first I accepted it and it hurt but was moving on I threw myself into the dating game and met someone who by now is ready to spend rest of there life with me, but I feel guilty cause I find myself saying things that are not true all the time just to make her feel good and get attention from her. It’s been two months since the ex left and I’m seeing that her new realstionship is not heading in the direction she was planning on. I’ve really been struggling on my thoughts and worries of what is she doing and who she is spending her time with,and I’m constlney trying to stop myself from questioning her. I have some strong feelings for her still and honstley I want things to go back to the way they were, she has told me in person that she misses me and my mind is running wild. I feel terable that I might hurt the woman in my new realstionship but after reading many articials it’s seems it points to a re-bound realstionship, it was never my intention to hurt anyone,but I feel guilty that I’m hinding my feelings about my ex from my current friend. All I can keep thinking is how I want it to go back and show that I do have feelings still for her and that the issues we had in the past I’ve worked on. Any advice will be helpful.
Thank You -Justin-
Justin, you hit it right on the head! She sounds like a “rebound”. The longer you progress or prolong this relationship, the harder it gets to break up with this person. You need to find a good way to let this girl down, so she can move on with her life and meet somenoe that is ready to give her what she is looking for. If you remain dating with this girl, it will just lead into a bitter dissapointment and women don’t like to be mislead. Before she grows deeper feelings for you, you got to let her know soon. Sound like you don’t need to be dating anybody seriously PERIOD. Dating is okay, just to get out of the house, but that’s it! If you still have feelings for this woman and they are strong, well then you got to get yourself together and better yourself. That means doing something for yourself that doesnt’ involve dating all the time. Take a boxing class or some kind of sport, or educational class. Something that you always wanted to do, but never had time to do it. Make time to do what you like or help someone esle out, like volunteering or something. If you need to talk it out, then go to a mentor or counselor. But don’t try to stay in alot of contact with your ex, cause they will just make it look like you are always want her back. Of course you want to be in her life, but you sound like you have somethings to work on before all of this can happen. I hope that helped.
My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. I love him very much and want him back. I have partial seizures and I was supposed to be taking medicine for them but because of the side effects wasn’t but I told him I was because I didn’t want him to worry. On a cruise I had an episode and when he asked I told him I wasn’t taking the medicine I have since then stopped drinking( he didn’t like that I drank too much) and have been taking my medicine. I have made some real changes and I know he knows but I believe I lost his trust . He won’t even talk to me?? We were together almost 2years. These 3weejs have been horrible. What can I do? I miss him so very much. I’m trying to work on myself but.. I feel helpless.
Please help…
Someone help me please. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me last night saying he really doesn’t want a relationship. He’s been divorced twice and so have I. But for the last 2 years, he tells me how much he loves me and tells everyone we know Im the best thing that ever happened to him. Up until 2 weeks ago, he was still making plans to go places with me, etc. The only thing I know for sure is that there’s no other girl. Please help, my heart is broken and I feel like my life is over.
My wife walked out after a 10 year relationship 6 of those years we were married. We had always been close with what we told each other was an unbreakable bond. She didn’t have the best relationship with her family growing up so I became her night in shining armor if you will. While already having confidence and self respect issues, I made sure that i made her feel the best that i knew how. She loved that I was, as she told me, the kind of person that she wanted to be… Easy going, carefree upbeat funny and most important strong and confident She became very comfortable in the relationship, so much so that she put on a lot of weight which looking back
clearly exacerbated the underlying problems. Things were still ok between us but she hated
herself. Then a few years ago I lost my job and shewas not working and we both ended in a state of depression worrying about bills, feeling sorry for ourselves and wondering why us. We got through and both found jobs which now allow us less time with each other but unfortunately such is life. Since that state of depression we have both changed drastically. January of 2010 she made it her goal to lose weight and get back in shape which she did but also transformed emotionally personality wise. I on the other hand realized after she left that I somehow lost myself in her after my depression. Over the course of the last two years she changed mentally as well wanting different things and fighting with me moreand more. Having the same arguments over and over again and nothing changing especially on my end looking back now. I now realize that the signs were clear and I heard what she was saying but I wasn’t listening. I was and are still caught in the grips of depression although not to the extent it was before. She said i controlled everything bout the relationship most importantly her and i was the reason she didn’t have friends any more saying I would get jealous if she wanted to have a drink after work with a female coworker. The sex was terrible when it happened, there was no romance, no spontaneity, no more spark like there used to be. I couldn’t make up my mind even about little things like where to go on our Saturday date nights, choosing to let her decide thinking whatever makes her happy is fine with me. Big mistake obviously. She told me she wanted romance, she wanted to be touched and made to feel like the woman she is, she wanted a MAN who would take charge and be strong and confident which she clearly wasn’t getting from me not the insecure jealous pathetic creature before her. She wanted the old me the way I was when we met and how I was for the first 6-7 years of our relationship and even told me that but I was so wrapped up in my own issues that every fight about this made me sink deeper instead of waking me up to the fact that real danger lye. I was resentful that I was there for her through a few years of her self loathing and depression and took on the role of her provider and protector in everything no matter the cost and when I need her most all I got was chastised for my shortcomings and faults whether right or wrong. She started talking and texting back and forth with a supposed old college friend a lot over the course of a few days an when I was alerted by my cell company about overages and unusual usage I investigated and asked her who bit was. She told me a girl friend from work. I called and of course it was a guy. When confronted she apologized for lying saying it was harmless and didn’t want to hurt my feelings or make me jealous. But the more we spoke about it and the few more lies I found about it made her flip it on me that she couldn’t believe I invaded her privacy, that she would never do that to me and she could never trust me again. Stating again about my control over her lack of freedom and friends she said she was drowning in the relationship and I was smothering her. We argued again about this friend who had all of the sudden come back and I told her again for the one millionth time I had no problem with her going out wit friends guy or girl as I never not trusted her before but only now as long as it wasn’t him. She exploded telling me I’m checking up on her private things and I can’t tell her who she can and can’t be friends with. She cam home that night I had. Few drinks and we fought and I was hurting so terribly that she would rather talk and text him than me ( which she told me) and that she wouldn’t even tell me his name for fear of me ruining hi life that I said many nasty things to her like she had done to me all of the fights before. She packed a bag late that night walked out and told me I was a psycho and we
were done. I called her next morning apolgizing and crying and told me we were done. Finally I got her to say she probably would not come back
As it was a 90% chance that she wouldn’t and needed a break as I was smothering her and it could be a week or 2 or a month but did not want to see my face or hear from me. I let that go as it was better than an absolute no and told her that I wouldn’t text or call for a week. I know I haven’t been the best husband but I tried to love as much as I could give and I never did nothing intentionally to hurt her. I just want to fix myself for me and for us. I just need one more chance to make that happen. It is terrible that after 10 years it had to come to this situation to open my eyes but they say everything happens for a reason and I have always believed that. I’m hoping this is a blessing in disguise as I am sure that if this didn’t happen now with me finding out, there is no doubt in my mind now that it would have down the road and may have been too late. She has to know how much I love her and just hoping for one
More chance. Thank you all for listening.
I have been in the saddest mood ever after I lost my girl after 3 in a half years:( I was told that we never clicked because we fought to much. The sad thing is she won’t give me a a chance to prove to her that it won’t happen. We been off and on a lot!!! I been broken up with her for about 3 days. All she wants to be is friends. I want to be more then friends because she is the only girl that lights up my day, every moment that I see her. She also told me she needs space to think about things. All I want is her in my arms right now. What should I do???? HELP ME PLEASE
Hey I need some major help!!! Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 days ago!! She said she didn’t feel a connection anymore because I don’t give her space to hang with friends. I been with my girlfriend for 3 years 6 months. All I think about is having her in my arms. But we don’t text anymore and she said she wants space to think. I want help and advice on what should I do when she says she just wants to be friends?? What can I do or say to make her come back to me?? I forgot to mention I work with her to so how should I asked around her
It’s been 2 weeks since she broke up with me she told me that she loved me and cared a lott about me but she wasnt head over heals in love with me we were together for 3 years and had a lott of fun then she said she was unhappy with our relatinshipshe even told me she cheated we were best friends befofe we got together and after all that i still believe shes the one i talked to her a day ago and she told me that she was happy witb the decizion she made and tbat she wanted to be friends what do i do because i want to be more then friends i want fo marry her do i still have a chance or should i give up i tried the no contact thing for about a week im starting over again im im going to the gym and taking better care of myself but what if she doesnt come back or can i even get her back
we are in relationship only for three month.but in the same time the first month i got accident and my backbone are broken.he always give me a support for me to fully recover and the same time texting me everyday and i know he loves me too much..but in the second month i saw that he change a bit..maybe he think that he cant wait for me too long..i have to wear hallovest jacket and one time i come and meet him in the house.he was sleeping and i used the computer to play facebook..i saw the facebook is not close and read all the secret inside the facebook..that is my fault but i saw theres some hanky panky happened between my bf with one girl..after he woke up,i just ask him to tell me the truth.either he got diffirent girl or not.he said no and he got pissed off i know all the secret from the facebook.he told me that i didnt trust him.i say sorry and i just want to know the truth..after 2 days,he told me that his parent already arrange married for him..and he have to broke up with me because have to follow the family arrangement.i felt so unfair because he dont want to argue with his family about us.he stop answering my call and stop texting me.i’m still sick rite now ,how could he do this to me?i still texting him because i love him too much.everytime i woke up,i just feel that i miss him so much.please advise
So my ex-girlfriend of 1 year & 5 months broke up with me 2 days after Valentines. It was a mutual decision, but I knew inside I wanted to rebel and stay with her to give it another shot. But I wanted to respect her decision and so I did. I’m still hurting inside and I miss her so very much. I tried to give her the no contact, but sometimes after she finishes work she sends me a text. Heartbroken and so eager, I replied and it ends up a long conversation. Yesterday we hung out, and I tried to act if I was friends with her but I ended up making her feel bad for me and hurting myself as well. She always tells me she’ll always be there for me but she doesn’t want to have a relationship with me anymore, she doesn’t want to give me hope. I felt so heartbroken when she said that. After it was time to go, I made her feel cheery a little, and when I fully understood her words. She says she hopes that I will change for the better, and I responded “I will over time. And when I do reach that point, I’ll fight for you to be back in my arms” then she giggled. It was a nice way to end my day, but still it left heartbroken. Today, I stopped what I’m doing; texting, calling, and what not and start the real process. I just can’t get over her. I know in my heart she is the one for me. Do you think she’ll ever feel the same way for me when we started going out?
my bf broke it off with me after 1 year.. i was hearbroken, i didnt want to. and ever since ive been worying if i stop contact he will stop loving me, and find someone else. ive been crying near him asking, begging for a chance.. tomorow im going to try to just stick to “hey” and then nothingg… its hard. especially coz we go college together; and have classes together; and people asking if im ok makes it worse.. but i have to try!
I broke up with my boyfriend cause I thought he liked someone else and he didn’t appreciate me but as soon as i dumped him he just said ”ok” and walked away but now I regret it and I want him back I keep on texting and calling and I know I shouldn’t do that but he won’t reply he thinks we r enemies when I want him back but i don’t think he likes me anymore plz help me I am crying 24/7 thnx
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So my ex is 20 and im 27. We were together for 2 amd a half years. I cant stop thinking about her its been a month. Im gonna give thus a whirl i feel better even after reading it. Just gotta be strong, she is going from place to place doibg god knows what and says she njoys her freedom am i too late?
My boyfriend broke up with me after 8 months. It was right after valentines day and to be honest it was a bit shocking. He never really had a reason (a good one at least) and it really confused me and our mutual friends. Ive been trying to give him space but I get really frusterated and because we have mutual friends we all still hang out. However, we no longer talk outside of the friendship and it really upsets me because he acts like were best friends and then ignores me outside of the hang out time. I haven’t seen him in a week and it really saddens me because reality is actually setting in. I really miss him and I don’t know what to do anymore. He hasn’t given me answers as to why he broke up with me. What do i do? what i have already done some of the above things? is there anyway to turn it around?
I broke my girl’s heart too many times she wont even talk to me it hurts so bad
I had a crush for dis guy,i knew he loved me but we didnt want 2 rush into things,wen we started dating,it was cool.we fought nd came bak but d love neva died.but later in life we had a big arguement and we broke up.we dated other people but i knew he still loved me and i still loved him too.we came bak 2geda last christmas but i left him again cus i didnt want 2 get hurt.now he is alone and im dating someone else but im still in love with him.i still think abt him,i still want him.true love neva,eva dies
I just broke up with a girl for stupid reasons and i did it in a very frude way and i want her back but the thing was i was the rebound but she has loved me since christmas break btw we are both in 7TH grade what do i do she doesnt want the other dude back i lie she odes but she still loves mee should i wait a while and regain her trust for almost cheating on me help asap
I want to know what to do if ur trying to get ur x back nd they’re txtin u.. Should I txt him back or juz ignore?
I broke i with my girl sooo many times through out our 2 yr relationship I did because I knew I would always get her back and I wanted to show her I was in control. But a month ago on new years we broke up because she couldn’t take it anymore and now she doesn’t want to date me anymore. I’ve tired everything there is to do.
what do i do when your boyfriend breaks up with you and goes to you bestfriend
I had a girlfriend one year aggo and. It was. In no time over and i really miss her. We were together 8 months i guess. Im just 16 years aand i know its early but i feel heartbroken. I yried manny ways to forget her. And when i send her a message she treats me like a stranger and that really hurts. I’m from belgium so i dont speak english that good . I broke up couse there where so manny fights between us and i wasn’t the right guy for her. When we broke up a couple of months later i being sent to a institution cause my behavior wasnt good. I had conversations with psychiatries. After that she gave me a chance to talk with her and it was difficult couse it was cold outside and she had a friend with her. So i couldnt talk about stuff i did wrong. After we broke i had 5 other girlfriends to try to forget her but that really doesnt helps. It only make my heart more broken
i really mis her and i would really like to spend another day with her so i could prove that im changed. Please someone help me! I cant take this anny longer :’(
I am a girl & I had a girlfriend who recently put me on a break then broke up with me. I went to see her for her birthday just last week but everything felt so distant & I need help. I love her sooo much we were together for a 2 yrs and 3 months before she decided to just break off & for some reason I feel like it’s my fault she told me I was being super negative that month and that she needed space and its literally driving me insane I lost 16 pounds in literally less than 2 weeks and I just really need to get myself together. She keeps telling me things will fall into place for some reason I can’t believe it. I just don’t want to lose her I love her way too much. & honestly can see us being together for a while. We’re 2 of a kind. HELP
Hi.. I was in a relationship for 7 years. Serious one I would say we plan somuch together.. I admit I was playfull n wasn’t being really honest with my bf but there are reasons to it like he wasn’t showing enough attention to me.. So when a “b” force came in I tagged along..even when I had to choose tho I choosed “b” but “a” wanted n plead me to stay so I stayed n had contact with b till b moved on a well n I started loving a back again. Was really loving him but certain things like u know clubbing I do hide it from “a” coz there is no way “a” would let me to go.. All dat aside so still we were together n yes I loved “a” n plan a lot things with him. Till one day he end up talking to my best fren n he liked her n she to had feelings for him.. “a” broke up with me n said I never trust u I can’t n u lied a lot to me n I love someone else now.. I’m sure my 7 years despite all tht happen I’m sure we had some good times together but now even though according to my “fren” that she doesn’t answer or MSG him anymore he still don’t wan me.. Pls tell me what I should do.. I really love this guy n realize how a jerk I hv been I stopped everything n change a lot for him. In somehow thank the break up coz I learned a lot.. If he get back with me I know how to keep him happy.. Pls reply
Me and My ex Penny Broke up since December. Its been quiet a long time and I still miss her. I know that the past few month, I beg her to come back to me, Call her all the time and ask her for a second chance. She refuse quite obviously but she offered me as being friends after just because I beg for to come back. She thought that it could be quite helpful to make us better too. But at the same time I guess I was getting frustrated thinking that being friends is unwanted and I wanted more than friends, I started talking to her friends about our problems maybe her friends can tell her about what needs to be done right between us but I guess It didn’t seem to turn out right. My ex yelled at me, thinking that I’m saying a whole bunch of crap about her that I was just blaming on to her. And this is where it gets ugly, She refuses to call me, answer my calls or text and even that she blocked me off facebook knowing that I won’t be able to stalk her. I felt terrible about how I did to her. It just makes me feel useless and ugly. I can’t sleep, think or stay postive at some point. What can I do to save this. I want her back in my arms just how the way it was before. I need Help.
2 weeks ago my sisters bf broke up with her and that was there 2nd time going out… he broke up with her on the bus 1 day.laast week she said did u like me he said yes she said do u still like me he said yes, she was like y did u break up with me he said she was really annoying, so the past two weeks she has not been annoying, so she said two him, ”i told you 1000 times i can stop so he’s like say it a 1000 moreso she did and he yelled in her face and she has been so frekin** difrent its not funny at all….
I was with my ex for 7 yrs. I left him. We have been broke up for 3 yrs now but I miss him more now then ever. I just left a relationship of 2.5 yrs because it was not fair to him that I was still feeling for my ex. I miss both of them. My last relationship was with a man I have known for 19 yrs. I gave my ex ex 7 yrs of unconditional love. I gave him a family. I wanted things to change. He was emotionless. I love him I really do. He is now dating (rumor has it he is engaged) to this chick he has only been with since Jan 2012 (2 Months) who he tells he loves her and plans to marry her. I gave him 7 yrs and all he said was he wasnt ready for marriage. Even after I had our daughter. This chick has 4 kids. Was married before. Tweeker from BFE. Is a total b**Ch. She wont let him talk to me. My daughter can not stand her. Her oldest is 12 then 11, then ? then 1. Where did I go wrong? I guess I am more hurt then anything. I have been trying to work on getting him back since before Christmas. A week later he has this hoebag in his house. UGH!!!! HELP!!
i have been with my girl friend for three years i first met her in high school when she was 15 years old an we went through every possible thing in the world together,i cheated on her, left her, been there for her in the hospital, she went to jail for me, we had a baby together, broke up an got right back together multiple times but after she was used an abused by this new guy she is still wanting him, but she tells me she doesnt want him an all this other stuff an all he does is hurt her an she burys her emotions an can focus on taking care of the baby or anything an if i dnt get her back soon my daughter is goin to suffer along with me so any help would be greatly appriciated
i have been with my girl friend for three years i first met her in high school when she was 15 years old an we went through every possible thing in the world together,i cheated on her, left her, been there for her in the hospital, she went to jail for me, we had a baby together, broke up an got right back together multiple times but after she was used an abused by this new guy she is still wanting him, but she tells me she doesnt want him an all this other stuff an all he does is hurt her an she burys her emotions because she keeps messing with this new guy hopeing it will make him want a relationship with her wen all he wants to do is screw her an walk an she cant focus on taking care of the baby or anything an if i dnt get her back soon my daughter is goin to suffer along with me so any help would be greatly appriciated cuz all my friends say its because she is young an she wants to live her life wen all she wants to do is be a kid an forget about hers an if i dnt get her to realize wat she is doin not only effects her but our baby im goin to lose them both
My ex broke up with me because I started to get suspicious of him staying out and finally started to ask questions. I eventually said I was unhappy he had stopped staying at mine and had been sleeping at a male friends due to the fact his phone was always switched off when he did this which he blamed on phone signal. It was an argumentative break up with him shouting and blaming me mainly. We tried to sort things both agreed we wanted to work things out but he wouldn’t completely commit to being back together officially at that point. We said we would not get involved with other people as we loved each other. But it felt the trying was one sided after the first couple of weeks. He was working lots using that as an excuse to not do things as he knew i would never complain about work. Things were fine as long as I asked no questions but when the sleeping at the friends started again with the phone off and the phone always being off around me I couldn’t help but let him know it bothered me after letting the frustration boil up. To Which he would say I don’t think we should get back together! It’s not working. Then agree to work at it for this to be repeated. I eventually spoke to the friend he has so called been staying at who tried to lie for him. However he didn’t realise my ex had told me he stayed at his a different night to what he told me so I knew I had been lied to all along. My ex denied lying saying he was At the friends but then a week later admitted he wasn’t but refused to say where he had stayed! He didn’t want to answer any of my questions. I spoke to his mum and dad and said what had happened and the ex didn’t like that either! He got defensive and started calling me as a person for what i had done. He is Still saying he had never cheated, but a week and a half later I saw him whilst driving home one night and decided to see for myself where he was going. He went to pick a girl up. He lied when he saw me saying he was working collecting money! Until the girl came out and told me he had slept hers on the date that his friend had also lied for him! He still denies cheating says he met her 3 weeks ago then it’s 2 and a half weeks ago. Making it seem like it was after me but i don’t believe that. He also told his mum and dad we split in October when we split in December! Which i don’t understand at all! We wer going away for nights out together with friends during that time. I txt his mum and told her he had lied to them about when we actually split. A week on after one txt MSG to him the day after i caught him with the girl I find he has changed his number! I do not understand why he has tried to blame me for everything, i had to do what i had to do for my own sanity as i didn’t know what to believe anymore. He still denies cheating and then he changes his number like I am constantly in contact or something which I am most Definetly not! I have known him 7 years and we have been best friends before the relationship for 5 of those. How can someone change so dramatically towards a person they have known for such a long time and why has he cut me off by changing his number? I don’t get any of it! I’ve never cheated so don’t know what people do in that situation or when they are caught out! If truth be known im still in love with him, and would like to talk to him to see how he feels, but at the same time I would not just dismiss his behaviour or what he has done. I’m considering writing a letter but I fear no reply after changing his number, or dropping by his place? But I don’t want to do something that will make the situation worse. I need help on what to do!!
hi i really dont know what to say but i can tell that i’m not the only guy that has this problem, my fiance broke up with me i do have a long story after 6 years 2 and half of them were engagement, all things started when she had a job in hotel her mom is not with her she is abroad but she can travel for her one day she told me i want to leave my work and travel to mam she went and after 6 days she broke up with me on the messenger that was in November 2011 in 31 December i chatted with her on the messenger again and we got back she was ok to come back to me i told her why she told me i dont know i just took the decision but it’s ok then i told here ok she told me let’s come back but not so fast let’s leave things to come in normal i agreed and told her ok that’s fine we started to talk every day on the messenger every thing was going ok she started to contact me on my mobile start to ring for me every 1 or 2 hours and i ring her back started to tell me i love you then once i was ringing to her she opened and told me good morning my dear every thing seemed ok 10 days were very very well she has another 10 days and travel back to our country she told me about the arrangements for our marriage when i come back we have to do lot of things i told her ok the only problem that her mom wanted me to get a stable job for marriage but i was still searching for a job she told me try yr best your not doing yr best that was the only argument between me and her in those 10 days then she told me i feel like you did not do any thing for me to be with you but we did not fight i told her i am doing my best for that then she told me i want to have a job i told her how you are coming soon how could you get a job there we will not marry then she told me it;s ok when i come back i will search for one i told her ok just come and we will fix this then she told me that she has 3 jobs there i told her how come to work there we then not going to be able to marry if you stayed there she told me ok np i will come then in 10 jan 2012 i got sick i left her msg on the messenger telling her i will not come to day i am sick then next day i opened then found a msg telling me that she came and did not find me and she is traveling to the capital with her mom the capital of the country that she is at but did not mention the reason then then in the same day she send sms telling dont be wory i am fine i will go back to the town where she resides with her mom today or tomorrow and the sms was so sweet telling me sweet words and to take care of my self then at 13 jan 2012 at 5 am morning this is the morning of saturday she called me and insist in calling to answer her we dont answe each other coz it’s costs a lot she is in another country then i answered her she talked with me very well then at saturday morning i ringed to her but she cancels 4 times then she answered telling me i do not want to answer and hanged the fone i send sms telling what is going on she sent telling that we are not compatible with each other and we cant go any more further in our relation from that date there is no contact , by the way this is not her first breake up with me this was the 3rd one every time she broke up with i’m trying the no contact rule it’s been month and half with no contact
I was with my ex for almost 3 years we even moved across country together. He moved back home and a couple months later I moved back. He broke up with me before I got home and is seeing someone else. I can’t get ahold of him he doesn’t have facebook and I don’t have his number. Its been a few months and I still talk to his sister once in awhile. She says he feels bad about what happened but didn’t want to give his number because it would mess with his head. I’ve tried meeting new people but I can’t seem to get over him. I would do anything to get him back but not only does he have a new gf but I have no contact. Running out of ideas please any advice?
My bf broke up with me about a month ago and all i can do is think about him, its soooo frustrating because i want him back so badly. I love him so much and I just wish there was a way to get him back because he made me so happy…now its like I am depressed all the time:(
My love broke up with me cause I’m to flirty witch I can be… It’s one of my flaws I’m working on also he gets jealous over me fast witch is ok I understand cause so do I we’ve had our problems in the past and a Lil worse but he never broke up with me for real… I texted him alot and when I went to get my stuff we talked and I keep asking him to work with me since I left his house he called me once to ask how I was doing and said he loves me but can’t be with me cause I make him jealous and a person he doesnt wanna be (with my flirtyness it doesnt mean anything I don’t even know I’m doing it sometimes) We dated would have been year in two days (mar 5).
My love broke up with me cause I’m to flirty witch I can be… It’s one of my flaws I’m working on also he gets jealous over me fast witch is ok I understand cause so do I we’ve had our problems in the past and a Lil worse but he never broke up with me for real… I texted him alot and when I went to get my stuff we talked and I keep asking him to work with me since I left his house he called me once to ask how I was doing and said he loves me but can’t be with me cause I make him jealous and a person he doesnt wanna be (with my flirtyness it doesnt mean anything I don’t even know I’m doing it sometimes) We dated would have been year in two days (mar 5). Advice please cause It’s killing me. I love him with a passion.
Hey im 16 My gf broke up with me a week ago today. We have been going out for a few months. She told me that it wasn’t me and she didn’t know how to Handel a relationship that she wanted alone time. Im close friends with her 2 best friends and they said its cAuse she thinks im imiture they said they didn’t understand cause Im really not. ( and I promise in really not) according to her friends she really wants to be friends and hang out but I haven’t talked to her since we broke up. Now she’s not the type to who has allot of emotions so idk if the plan to get her back will work but I really really like her she was perfect smart, down to earth, and way to pretty to date me. Please help
Hi…been with my bf a litle over a year. We love each other very much, but we just can’t seem to get along. We broken so many times than end up getting back together. Now we’re broken up again. I want him back. He tells me we need a break and be friends. I love him and I want to get him back. Please help!
Well I’m not sure where to start I have a long distance relationship with my girlfriend or ex should I say as of Friday, she is 19 and I and 22 next month, and we have a baby of 1 together which is making it so much harder, we have been with each other for 3 years and I admit we have had out fair share of rows and all the other bad stuff. But Friday when I got home from work after talking about her ironically alday we had a little argument because I was meant to go and see her and the baby one weekend but she was gokng out with we friend instead because her friend couldn’t go no other time. I got mad and said I should be put before a night out, which evidently made her turn round and say she didn’t want to be with me anymore and that she has kinda been thinking about it for a while. I was devastated still am I don’t know how I’m going to get over it, worse thing is I can’t control the no texting or no ringing. But we spoke Saturday morning I said to her look give it 2 weeks to yourself il call you and well chat about things, she agreed and just said she would be out with her friends, but I stupidly text her and rang her which angered her to where she said I blew that as it was a test to see if I wouldn’t be needy ( I just couldn’t help it because the way I feel) anyway I phoned her again and said look sorry I rant being a fool forget I did lets do what we agreed l, she said that me texting and ringing is one the reasons she leaving and that I have blown my chance. I text her back saying it was just stupid because it was so hard being so raw to just breaking up, and I said have Romero yourself and il call you soon. She didn’t reply to this, what do I do? Do I just try and move on? Am I clinging on to false hope l? I just want to show her how things could be different in te relationship as I want to be with her and my beautiful little girl. Only gutting thing is she keeps saying she wants to be single as she feels suffocated but I did say I’d back off and it would change because I want nothing more then for her to just say lets try and see if itl work out. Any advice please people????
I just broke up with my girlfriend today it was the worst feeling ever. We have been together for almost a year, this March 17th would be our first anniversary and it kills me to think that we cant spent it together as a couple. She is my first true love and I can’t get her off my mind, I still want to her, I always will love her and no one else. I know the best thing to do is to just keep occupied and to move forward but it’s not easy. We broke up before she broke up with me and she came back to me and I gave the relationship another chance, but i told her that if we were to get back together major changes are going to have to be made but I was the only one changing to help our relationship. Almost a month has gone by since we’ve been back together, and just last weekend we went out and it was the best time of our lives we loved each other so much we had an amazing time and thought how we couldn’t live without each other. Then a week later from that great date, during the week i didn’t talk to her for 2 days and she took that very seriously, she told me that she thought i was losing interest in her and maybe didn’t love her anymore but that’s not true i do love her and always will. We got together today to talk, and I told her that i think its best we are not in a relationship anymore and she agreed the same thing and said that, its not working out and it’s best we are not together anymore, but i only agreed to the break up so it would give us a break from each other to learn from it, yes i do think its best for us but I still want to get back to together with her again. I know she loves me I feel it shes shown me, you just know when that special someone loves you, you just know it, before we broke up today she told me that she was seeing another guy while we were in the relationship still, and it came to a shock to me because i never thought she would do something like that shes not that kind of person, and she told me that she didn’t know he had romantic intentions for her. But i can see for her it it was kinda hard that we both agreed to break up, I told her that if we do break up, I can’t see you again it will hurt me too much, and to get rid of everything that we have ever had with each other, from gifts, to letters, picture’s, clothing, to take me off of facebook, everything I even said to delete our phone numbers from our phone today, and she had a hard time to delete my number from her phone but she did. She told me before that she still loves me during our talk She gave me a hug when we were leaving each other,and dragged her arm down to my hand i dont know what that means but i still want her, more than ever now I miss her so much. What kills me is not knowing if she misses me or still wants to be with me again, i wish someone could tell me if she might be thinking about me right now and even to get back together again or even what shes doing, i wish i could know everything. I love her more than everything and i want her back, i just need help right now, i want to know if we can still be together again.
Not only we share the situation, we also share the name. My girlfriend and I agreed to break up on basically the same grounds, same EVERYTHING, so reading about your relationship is painful. Anyway, since you broke up about two weeks earlier than me, how did the getting back work ? Did you quit ? Still trying ? Already together ? Any tips ? HELP ME!
I read the whole entire thing, and it broke my heart! But if she dragged her arm down yours it means she wants you to chase her and doesn’t want it to be over! I’ve done the same thing with my boyfriend . She misses you, if she is not seeing someone just tell her you need her and you don’t want to live without her! You want to grow old with her! and do all romantic things you’ve done in the past! Tell her what’s on your mind! If you don’t want to let go… DON’T!
For one i feel like. She still loves you. For example she had a hard time deleting ur number, to me she still wanted to be incontact with you. Two walking away with the arm to the hand thing is a sign she doesnt want to let you go. Three i think she was bsing u when she said she had another boyfriend because if she did then she wont flip out about you not calling for two days because shell be busy with her side kick. Two she had a hard time deleting ur number and didnt want to let u go. I think she said that to hurt u. And i beat she is stocking your friends to fine out what you have been up too and see if you miss her. I hope it all works out for you. Good luck
I like went out with this boy name logan.e and he broke up with me because i didnt go to rec night.he made me feel like i did someting rong to him.now he is dating a girl name daisey.but daisey flerts with almost every boy in the gym class.but when he sees her flerting with another boy and when he does he might get hert and i dont want to see him get hert.
Okay…girl but thrZ def sum wit ur spelling!! Its hurt idk if dats hw u abbreviate but itz totally rng!!
I need help! My boyfriend and i just broke up 4 days ago and we were together for 4 months but I’ve known him since we were in 6th grade (I’m a freshman now) and since then, he has liked me. So, a month ago i found out that he liked my best friend and i broke up with him. A week later, we started dating again. The problem is that I’m bipolar and i get jealous really easy, especially when he’s around the girls that he use to like. When we started dating again, we decided to be honest to each other no matter how bad it was and i did my job, from the beginning of our relationship, i told him i still had little feelings for my ex but it didn’t matter because he goes to another school. We promised each other that I wasn’t going to text my ex anymore and he wasn’t going to talk to my friend or even get near her. 4 days ago, my best friend and other 2 girls were in a group and i guess he was waiting for his friend but i didn’t care, i wanted him away from her. I told him to move and he kept saying he was waiting for his friend. I started counting till 5 and i turned around and left. He followed me but i ignored him. I knew that if i talked him, i was going to break up with him and i didn’t want that, so i left. I texted him 30 minutes later explaining why i was mad and why i ignored him, i even apologized and all i got was “…. i dunno…” At that moment, i knew it was over. I begged him not to break up but he wouldn’t take me back. The next day i talked to him, i had to. I told him that… i might be pregnant. I told my mom and she was not okay, i lost all her trust. He also told his mom and she said if i was pregnant, she was going to support him but since i’m not, she doesn’t want us back together. I know he still loves me but i don’t know what to do anymore. Today i found out that he started talking to his ex, so i did the same. This is really affecting me. I did not go to one of my classes today because he has the same class, i also left school early because i couldn’t take the pain anymore. I feel like this is slowly killing me. I feel like i need him! :’( Can someone help me?
Man i really need some help. my girlfriend and i just broke up after seven ears and i dont feel right i wnt it all to work out and so did she but now she is saying we are done and not together. we thought giving eachother a month would work. but i fucked it up i think by trying to see her. i know i shouldnt see or talk to her. its just pretty hard not to. i know i need to work on myself but i want us to work so badly. people do say if it was meant to be it will work. im just scared because i dont want her to see other people. what do it about this? what can i do to actually make this work again?
i feel the same way!!!!
same case is with me mate,i want my GF badly but do not know how? she stopped talking to me and replying me as well but most surprising thing was she did not tell me why she do so? i never did any thing that hurt her ,she is not telling me the reason as well ,i am extremely disappointed some one help me plz and plz
Wait a week. You think of what can I do right? If I told you what will effect her most will you do it? The answer is wait. Google smothering vs loving. Big gut check. I’ve been there and had great results. Trying and trying gives her power and reassurance. Let her miss you. Swear. Watch it work to your advantage
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