If you want to get your ex back, your goal should not be to get your ex back. Sounds strange? Let me explain. If your goal is that, you will only be focusing on your ex. And if you focus all your energy on your ex, it will eventually drive you crazy. You will be thinking about them all the time. You will be wondering what they are doing at the moment. You will be thinking about the breakup all the time. You will be wondering what you could have done differently to stop the breakup. But in reality, all this thinking is NOT going to help you get them back. In fact, it’s just going to make you feel sorry for yourself.
Now, if you just change your goal and make it something about you, you will be at peace inside. You will be in harmony with yourself. And that will give you the confidence and make you more attractive to your ex. Having a mission in life is extremely attractive. Women find it irresistible and men find it hot if a woman is focused on her life’s mission.
Defining your mission in life is a bit more challenging for some people compared to others. There are people who absolutely know what they want to do in their life. While their are others, who are not so sure. It could be especially difficult if you are still young and have not yet decided what you want to do with your life. The best way would be to write it down. Writing down your mission statement will actually help you forget about everything that’s going wrong at the moment and make you feel more at peace.
When writing your mission statement you have to “begin with the end in mind.” It means you really have to contemplate what you want in your life. And no, it can’t be your ex. You will be together with them, but that is not the mission of your life. What you want out of your life should come from deep within you, from your own unique talent, your ability to contribute to this world.
Remember, the mission statement is not written in stone, so you don’t have to feel like you are only going to write it once. It is flexible and you can change it in the future when you feel the need to do so. But the important thing right now, is to go ahead and write the mission statement.
Relationships are a very important part of life, but sometimes (especially after a breakup) we get so focused on relationships that we just forget about every other aspect of life. Having a bigger goal in life will help you get your mind off all the negative things that’s going around and will in fact help you with your relationship goals. When you start concentrating on other things in life, you will find yourself at much peace and will find it much easier to follow the 3 steps for getting the love of your life back.