Facebook has become an important part of everyone’s life. It’s a great way of keeping in touch with friends, and meeting old friends again. Facebook is also used to learn about someone and what they like and what they don’t like. What you do on facebook is now actually a part of your social life. How you interact with people and how you respond to status updates, comments etc.
After a breakup, what you do on facebook is actually extremely important because you can bet that your ex and their friends are keeping an eye on your facebook profile. So let’s look at a few things that you can do on facebook that will destroy your chances of getting back together.
1. Sad status updates: It’s quite normal. Someone breaks up after a long relationship; they feel heartbroken; and they feel the need to share their pain with the world. And the next thing you know is a depressing sad status message which shows that you are not able to handle yourself after the breakup. Well guess what, your ex saw that, and so did all their friends. But that’s understandable since you were so much in love with them, right? No it’s not, like I said in the first step of the 3 step plan, begging and pleading and telling them how much you love them is just going to drive them away. And sad status updates are just a way of telling them how much you love them. So, do yourself a favor and stay away from sad status updates.
2. Commenting on your ex’s status and posting on their wall: You’ve got to give your ex their space after the breakup. Commenting all the time on their status and posting on their walls is almost the same as following them around all the time. It’s downright stalking. So, just staying away from your ex’s profile is a good idea.
3. Relationship status: What should you do of your relationship status? If you change it from “In a relationship” to “single” you will find that people commenting on the change. Comments like “I am so sorry dude”, or “Welcome to the single life” are like pouring salt on an open wound. Instead of changing your relationship status, you can just remove the relationship status option from your facebook profile. To do that, just go to your relationship status and select the empty box on top. It will remove the relationship status option from your profile.
4. Blocking Your Ex Completely: Well, if you are mad at your ex and you decide to completely block your ex, in an attempt to show that you don’t care anymore, you might actually be hurting your chances. Showing too much hostility only shows how much you were hurt from the breakup and how unstable you are.
5. Obsessing over your ex’s profile: This is the biggest mistake that you can do. After a breakup, it is normal to go check your ex’s profile and see what they have posted and what they are talking about with their friends. But if you find yourself doing it all the time and obsessing over every little status update that your ex makes, then you need to stop. There is no hidden meaning in their status updates, and no, they didn’t really mean it when they said “I feel awesome”. They are as devastated as you are from the breakup and they are just keeping their poise and trying to look sane on facebook. If you can’t stop obsessing over their profile, then it will be a good idea to unfriend your ex on facebook. I know that this is contrary to mistake no. 4, but you need to understand that you have to put yourself before your ex. That is the key to winning back your love. If you always put your ex before yourself, you will have a hard time getting them back.
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I feel so stupid. Like, I really don’t have a chance of getting him back. I did almost ALL of these things as well as all of the stuff on step 1 (literally ALL of it). I am screwed, aren’t I?
ME TO KATIE.. ME TOO…
No Katie and Thomas, you aren’t screwed. Just go back and begin with the no contact rule. I put a couple of sad status updates on FB, and I tried to contact him a couple of times but then I stopped. Yes, I did block him too but I did that for my own sanity. I don’t think it means we are screwed. I haven’t had any contact with my ex for 5 weeks now, except to send him a simple birthday wish text on his birthday, but that was literally just “Happy Birthday :)”. That was two weeks ago… Read more »
I met my girlfriend exactly 2 years ago. We had a connection and starting dating months after in university. After we simultaneously went through a break up with our different relationships. I was not really in love with her at the start but I liked her. She was all over me and just wanted to be with me. Besides, 3 months in she started talking to her ex again. 9 months after she started dating her ex and broke up with me. It was a distance one though. After begging for 2 weeks and a nice comedy night out we… Read more »
Its been like a year or so…still some contact. But we fight. I feel like I have done all the right things and all the wrong things as well. it seems as if I’ve lost her for good.
My ex-bf and I were friends first, for about 4 years before we started dating and I had actually dated one of his friends. But then after about 4 years of great friendship, I started to see him differently. We started flirting and then we started dating. I feel head over heels in love with him and I still love him. The reason we broke up was because we’re just so different. We lived two compltely different lives that often conflict with each other. He’s a computer geek who is so adorable and I’m a dancer and violinist. After about… Read more »
I think everything is working, she actually called after not talking for 2 weeks then I broke down cause it felt she just forgot me after those two weeks so I called her and she was all mean to me, she told me it was the things in the past that made her mad, she said we needed to stop talking cause clearly I wasn’t over her so I got mad and said you obviously aren’t either and she agreed. So.. is she on the bad memories healing part? Cause before she said she forgave me now she gets mad… Read more »
honestly ur not screwed at all! i sware, just quit talking to them and ignore them until they say they miss you and want you back. rejection sucks trust me! you will get them back just ignore the fuck out of them until they say they want u back, and even then u wait 2 or 3 days to respond. it’ss the hardest thing ever but it depletes them mentally and psychologically. its working on my gf and i did literally everything possible to keep her away and now shes running back
iam in no contact for almost 2 months and yesterday my ex liked my new photo album in fb, which contains some happy photos of me and one photo thay iam with another girl?
My ex and I broke up over a month ago. I did the texting, begging, crying gig and that did not justice. I have done most of the initiating of contact and he always responds. Sometimes we are nice, sometimes it gets nasty. I’m going back to no contact. He also blocked me from facebook. He is actually kind of immature and deleted tons of my friends he had met in the 1/ 1/2 years we dated. We have yet to go a week without contact and that is the point I’m at. I’m currently on day 4 and it… Read more »
Can you let me know how things turned out in the end? Your story sounds very similar to mine. Thank you.
K
Uggh I just want him back already, I want a fresh start and us to be together forever like we had always planned. Good to know I’m not alone though.
The fact that im almost the obsessive type im so happy i avoided all of this from the beginning. First thing i did was block all of his notifications to avoid being hurt from new pictures or updates from him. No contact of course. Avoided stalking his profile. ALWAYS posted happy statuses and events, parties or people im hanging out with. Kept uploading new pictures with friends or alone…some photoshopping helped too and he started to notice me more saying i look good, liking my pics and always commenting but i never comment on his. And after 5 months he… Read more »
Well my ex has blocked me, claimed to be in a relationship and puts things like . I love my life now its back on track..
I was with him 2 and a half years and we split 2 months ago…
what can i do.. he shows signs of missing me but how i can make those signs more clearer for me to act upon
Please help..
Pleas Help!! My ex and I were together for about a year. But I never showed full commitment. I kinda was a big dick but sometimes I wasn’t. I was insensitive. She ended up breaking up with me. I saw it coming. A week later she starts dating someone else. They didn’t last. Now shes dating another guy. I don’t think that they will last. Her and I haven’t been together for at least 8 months now. We haven’t talked really. And I still love her. I really just want to start over with her. Be her friend and see… Read more »
And to add .. I’ve changed I really have… I just wish she would understand now.
I was with my ex for 4 years, she lived with me for 3 1/2 of those. It’s been exactly 3 weeks since the breakup and I contacted her just 4 times in the early week of our breakup. Since then I’ve really moved on. I’ve realized by now that not contacting them is for the best whether we get back together or not. In my particular situation the chances of us getting back are probably close to 10%. Either way I’m moving on with my life and already dating many other women. I highly suggest to anyone else to… Read more »
I broke up with my ex two years ago. We met again and realized that we still have love for each other but then he told me that she got a girlfriend already. It really hurts but I continue the communication between us just like before. But I finally let it go cause it hurts that I’m his second priority. I stop texting him and even block him on Facebook. Deep in my heart I still want him back but I don’t know where to start. Please help.
Okay how do you explain my ex just randomly deleting me from FB one day out of the blue? A little more than a month after breaking up.. when we broke up we agreed to be friends and there for each other in the most appropriate ways we could. We didn’t exactly go through the “no contact” period after we broke up and texted the day after we did. Then just a little bit longer than 2 weeks of being broken up I went to the hospital from a panic attack and told him the next day and he asked… Read more »
almost in the same situation as you.. how did you do after he removed you from FB? any changes?
Mandy I am totally with you. I went through the same exact thing and I had been dating him for a year and a half. We wanted to be friends and yesterday he even told me he can’t stop thinking about me then all if a sudden he’s like I hate you for ruining my life, you’re the worst I don’t even wanna be friends and deleted me. I kept my cool but I cried a lot too. I feel like he’s just saying that so he can get himself to move on? Either way he was really rude to… Read more »
Me my ex were together for almost 4 years. The reason why I think he left me cause I was always finding out stuff about him like when he was cheating or chilling with his ex but now he doesn’t talk. He says he hates me and he wished he never met me for some reason. By the way I have one baby with him and one on the way. Then he said he wished he never had kids by me. A lot of bull. He took me off his friends list on Facebook. He calls once and a while… Read more »
My ex and I had dated Twice. The first time only four months but the second time almost a year and a half. He broke up with me the day after new years. He said he still wanted to be friends but whenever he sees me he completely ignores me. He said that he just didn’t want a relationship. Jan. 24 I texted him and said have a good day because on that day exactly two years ago is when we first started dating. I never heard back but I wasn’t expecting to. He completely shut me out.
you are not alone on that one. He was my best friend, the only person who understood my weird humour, changed with my moods and made me feel like a princess. We dated twice. I’ve loved him for as long as i can remember, he is my first love, and it doesnt seem like its about to change. Problem is, he is tempermental,split personality anda perpetual flirt. Everything that’s in a skirt is fair game. He broke up with me because i ‘have trusts issues’ but he refused to agree that they are valid. He goes out of his way… Read more »
I was seeing this guy for 8 months, we agreed to just be “friends” as he still had feelings for his ex and I was leaving the country for 3 months to work. After 4 months I began to develop strong feelings for him but he still said he only saw me as a friend and there would never be anything more. When I left the country we stayed in contact over FB and he even rang me, said he misses me a little bit. Anyway, when I returned something was different, we spent every day together, met his family… Read more »
Me and my ex dated for three years, we broke up over 6 months ago and we hadn’t talked since the day we broke up in July all the way until Christmas. Then she acted like she wanted to get back together with me, then got mad because she heard I hooked up with a bunch of girls and said she wants me completely out of her life. Then she didn’t talk to me until a month later. We talked for few days then she went on to say she wants to learn how to be on her own and… Read more »
Sorry this is so long! I feel all of your pain everyone! Believe me. My fiance just broke up with me after dating 3 years. After about 6 months I think true colors start to show and we truly loved each other for who we were. Just before year 2 she was hinting she wanted an engagement ring. Our whole relationship was about taking things slow because we were still young. She was 18 and I was 20 when we met. Neither of us were ever in a serious relationship before, dated but no boyfriends or girlfriends. We wanted to… Read more »
Me and my girlfrind have been in a relationship for over 3years now…we where so in love which each other, suddenly everything changed. it was 1st of january this year. she said she doensnt believe in the relationship anymore..that she is not seeing us getting married in the future. she started giving me hell, and often say we re no longer in a relationship, but just friends. i try to make her understnad that i love her and will propose at the right time. but she is always feeling insecure..saying am wasting her time. there was a time we broke… Read more »
You’ll be alright man. She’s young so was my ex just gotta let them grow up. There so unsteady at 18-19 they have no idea what they want. But you’ll be alright you seem like me, just send love there way. They will get the message one day wether its to late or not. They will
well…. i blocked her off on fb… and now I find out shes dating someone… its been 1 months since we broke up… is it too late? I’ve had completely no contact with her for the past 4 days… how long should this no contact period continue? – things might get awkward when she sees me in two days at a gathering… what happens to the no contact period then?
UPDATE: Still haven’t talked to her or had any form of contact in weeks… it’s been 5 weeks since the breakup and just over 3 since I’ve seen her. At least i’m finally not dreaming of her EVERY night… still think about everything every day but I don’t think that’ll go away anytime soon… I’ve resorted to lifting/exercising and focussing on school… seems the healthiest thing to do. Hey Paul, Thanks, that’s what I was thinking to… she has to grow up and realize 100% what she wants. I honestly feel like she knows but maybe just wants to play… Read more »
Me and my ex-partner dated for 7 years. I broke up with him last January. so, it has been 1 month since we broke up. We have a 3-year-old son. He just texted me yesterday, saying that he misses his son, but I did not respond. I know that he just misses my son halfheartedly. I just decided to become a single parent. I don’t want my son to grow up with a broken family. He betrayed us, that’s why I am very hurt. Although, I missed him but until now, I cannot forget on what he did. He cheated… Read more »
what if the ex has already unfriended me on facebook?
i didnt cry, beg, etc.. going through the no contact period week 6..still no positive response.
on top, he has unfriended me on facebook.. how to continue from here?
We went out for 8 months Alomst 9 nd it’s been a month since we broke up. I think the problems started our last month he kept making jokes that we were gonna be friends one day so I asked did he just wanna be friends now he said no and everything was fine for awhile until he went to the club one day he said this girl was there and asked for his number he said no but she got it from his friend (now that I think about it I don’t think that’s true at all) but anyways… Read more »
I am trying to exercise the NCP now. It has been 2mos. since I was kicked out of the house by my girlfriend. The “shit” actually hit the fan around the end of November, and the break up break up happened the end of December.. HOWEVER, we have spent A LOT of time together since then. Shes slept at my house a few times, and I have slept at (our old house) her house MANY times.. We have been intimate with each other several times as well.. But, she still sends me messages that say “dear john” type shit. Her… Read more »
My ex & I had been together for 4 years & we were engaged for 2 years when he just all of a sudden stopped talking to me… he had been really distant with me & stopped telling me he loved me for about 2 weeks & one day going into class I see that he changed his status from engaged to single… I was heartbroken & he didn’t answer his phone or my messages! I cried until he finally answered back & he just said, we aren’t good for each other, I don’t love you, etc… I sent him… Read more »