This is one of the most common questions that I hear from my subscribers.
Well, if you’ve ever broken up with someone, then you know that calling them over and over again is definitely not the best way to make them call you back. It’s downright stalking. Not only that, it makes you look like a needy and clingy person who doesn’t have any self respect.
So, if you want to talk to your ex and want them to reply to your messages, here is what will NOT work
“Hey Cindy, this is the fourth time I am calling. I have left you three messages already. Please call me back. I really want to talk to you. Please Please”
“Hey Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me back as soon as possible.”
Now if you’ve already called them leaving these messages a hundred times, then you’ve actually hurt your chances. But don’t worry; there is a way to repair the damage. If you follow my 3 Step Plan, you will be able to repair most of the damage you’ve done. But of course, everything depends on your situation and how much you’ve screwed up.
One of the best way to get your ex call you back is to create curiosity. Here is a simple trick that I learned from the author of Magic of Making Up, T Dub Jackson.
Give them a call and say,
“Hey Cindy, I know it’s been a while but I really want to thank you for what you did. You have no idea how much it has helped me out and I would really like to thank you in person.”
See what’s happening here? You are creating curiosity with self interest. And it works like gangbusters. It will drive them crazy not knowing what is it that they did for you. It will be like when a tune is stuck in your head and you can’t remember which song it was from. They just can’t go on without knowing what you were talking about.
BUT, and it’s a big BUT, you should have something to say when they call you back. You can’t just say “Hey that was just a trick that I used to get you to call me back”. NO. That will get them pissed. You don’t want that.
You need to have an overall strategy. The phone call is just a part of the plan. What happens before and after phone call is what makes all the difference. And for that you need to read my How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan.