What if your breakup happened over a year ago and you want to get back with them?
Is it still possible for you two to be together again?
It actually depends on a lot of factors. If your ex has been dating someone else for over a year, your chances are slim. If you two were together for only a brief period of time (less than a month), then your chances a slim. And if your breakup was terrible and you acted all crazy and stalky after the breakup, then again your chances are slim.
However, you do have an advantage in this situation. You two have been apart for over a year. It means that they have probably lost all the attraction they had for you in that time. But, and it’s a big but, this also means that they have also lost all the negative association they had towards you.
Rebuilding attraction isn’t really that difficult if you just stick to the basics. And in your case, it will be even easier because they were attracted to you at one point of time. However, this doesn’t mean you can dress like a bum and they will still fall head over heels for you. You will still have to go through the basic dating etiquette to attract them.
Another advantage that you may have in this situation is that if you two broke up because of something you did or how you acted in the relationship, you can easily use the “I’ve changed” routine to assure them that this time it will be different. Please note that I am not advising you to lie just to get back together. I want you to actually change yourself for the better before even trying to get back with them (of course, this only implies if you think you can change for the better and not JUST for your ex).
Even if your ex is dating someone else, you can still give it a try. I wouldn’t recommend you calling them all of a sudden and asking them to get back together. Just take it slow. One small step at a time. Don’t look desperate. Be cool and ask them out as friends. Then slowly make your way into their life.
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What if they have always been a part of your life and they both shared dramatic experience together and are each other support system? What if they both have issues completely letting go?
Then it sounds like u two are close friends, and nothing more, if u wish for more advice explain.
If you’ve been away from each other for more than a year then its not getting back together its basically a whole new relationship so you can enter anyway you feel just try not to be the same it just shows her your exactly the same and nothings changed between you.
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