So Many questions run around your head like a moth around a candle flame. It seems almost impossible to get rid of them. You just can’t stop thinking about what your ex is doing and what they are thinking. Is my ex over me? Is my ex thinking about me? Does my ex still love me?
And then you go to their Facebook page, read their status message. That just makes things a lot worse. You start thinking about what they meant by that. Is there a hidden message in there? And then more questions.
After that the sinking feeling starts to take over. Your heart actually starts paining. You could feel it. Didn’t the relationship mean anything to them? Was it all just fake? How can they be over me so soon?
They are not over you. If they look like they are doing great and they are already over you and are having the time of their lives, then I’ve got news for you. IT’S ALL AN ACT.
Listen, if you two had a meaningful relationship, then I can GUARANTEE you that your ex is still thinking about you. They still have feelings for you. Feelings don’t just go away after a breakup. Yes, it’s true that sometimes people try to forget their past relationships. But nobody is actually able to achieve that impossible feat.
If you are at all thinking about getting them back, then I’d highly recommend that you start being happy as well (read How to get your ex back 3 Step Plan). It’s just normal. Don’t pretend. I know it’s hard right now. Especially with so much confusion and chaos in your mind. But you will have to learn to be happy.
But more importantly, don’t be miserable. Even if you feel miserable and heartbroken, don’t announce it to the world on facebook. One sad facebook status message from you, and you’ve just given your ex the upper hand. On the contrary, if your facebook status messages are upbeat and funny, you’ll make your ex start thinking about you.
Remember, you have to learn to stop obsessing over your ex, what they are thinking, what they said during the breakup, and yadi yada yada. If you want to get your ex back, you need to get your mind straight and start working on yourself.
Make sure you read the 3 Step plan on getting your ex back to get an idea of the whole picture.