Chances are your ex still likes you, the question is how do you reignite that spark?
It’s not going to be easy. But it can be done. In fact, there is a very good chance that you can make your ex boyfriend or girlfriend want you back. It’s because of the fact that they were at a time with you and they wouldn’t be with you if they didn’t like you. Chances are your ex still likes you, but something went wrong in the relationship that lead to the breakup.
First of all, do not try to use logic to make them understand that you two are good together. You may think that just by telling your ex about all the good times you had together will do the trick. It doesn’t work that way. Logic has very little to do when it comes to emotions.
Once your ex breaks up with you, there is a huge psychological factor that comes in to play. CONSISTENCY! As human beings, we try to be consistent with every decision we make. If we keep changing our minds, we look insane to the society and more importantly to ourselves. Your ex will try their best to be consistent with their decision of breaking up with you.
When you try to convince your ex to get back together after a breakup, they will put up their defenses because you are threatening their decision and their consistency.
NOTE: You can actually use consistency to get back together with your ex as is explained in the ex recovery system.
So how do you beat CONSISTENCY? By agreeing with the breakup. I know it sounds counter-intuitive and you may think that your ex might move on. But it really works. Thousands of reunited couples are a proof of this tactic.
You want cupid to shoot a dart at your ex? Then stop asking them to get back together
If you just agree with the breakup and carry on living your life and just be happy your ex will realize that you are not trying to change their mind. And once they realize that, they will let their defenses down. Once enough time passes, they will even agree to hang out with you. And this will be your chance to reconnect with them and make your ex want to get back with you.
Remember if you bring up the topic of getting back together, they will again put their defenses on. Your aim should be to just reconnect. If you want to remind them of the good times, try to be subtle about it. Don’t just say “Hey, Remember how good we were together. Let’s get back together.” As soon as you say that, they will put their defenses back up.
Make sure to check out my how to get your ex back – 3 Step Plan in which I explain how you can make your ex put their defenses down.
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This is so true. Making a scene and begging on the knees does nothing more than confirm that the ex made the right decision. Being in agreement and moving on with your life is the best way to get an ex to come back for more. I can’t help but think this is totally psychological.
Hey Queenie. Thanks for the comment. I like your blog. I must find some time to read your articles soon. And yes, it is very psychological. A lot of psychological factors come into play during and after a breakup. Whether they work for you or against you depends entirely on your actions.
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