How To Get Your Ex Back – Step 2

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This is the second part of the three step plan. If you didn’t read Step 1, then click here.

So, now you know what are the things that you SHOULDN’T do to get your ex back. In this Step, I am going to tell you what you should do if you want to win your ex back.

The first and the most important step to win your ex back is to end all communication with them.

Did you just say –

“What if they move on?”

“What if they start dating someone else?”

“What if they forget about our relationship until I keep reminding them how great we were together?”

Good questions. And the answer to all of them is, THEY WON’T.

It’s not easy to forget someone. It’s not easy to move on after a breakup. It’s not easy for you, and it won’t be easy for them. Even though they may look like they are calm and don’t care on the outside, the truth is they are probably hurting as much as you are from the inside. They may start dating someone else but don’t worry about that, as I said in STEP 1, rebound relationships are normal and they will not last long.

I am not asking you to end the contact forever. You will talk to them again, and you will start hanging out with them again; but only after a certain period of time. That period of time can be one week, two weeks or even a month depending on how long it’s been since you broke up. You don’t want to extend it too much that they move on.

You don’t have to tell them that you are ending contact with them. You just do it without informing them. If you work in the same office and can’t avoid each other, then just say Hi when you guys pass each other. Make sure you don’t chat with them unless it’s absolutely necessary. A short casual conversation is okay, but nothing too long.

I realize that for some of you, one month may already have passed. And you may want to skip ahead to the next step. But don’t do it, because there are a few things that you need to do in this step before you can move on to the next step. So make sure complete your assignment for this month before advancing to the next step.

What will you do for one month then?

STOP PANICKING

stop panicking

Pull Yourself Together

First of all, you need to stop panicking. You need to calm down and regain composure. You need to start thinking rationally if you want to win your ex back.

Take a breather. Go out, breath the fresh air, do something that you like doing.

You MUST realize that panicking is not going to help you and you will not be able to get your love back until you are in your senses and thinking rationally.

Calm down and focus. I will tell you about a cool technique that you can use to calm down at the end of STEP 3.

 

START THINKING REASONABLY

The next thing you need to do, is think about why you want to win your ex back?

After a breakup, most people are in a confused and emotional state and they say things to themselves that aren’t true. Things like –

–          I will die if I don’t get my ex back

–          I will never find anyone else

–          I will never be able to love again

All of the above is false. You need to realize that your life will move on with or without your ex. Even if you don’t get your ex back, you will love again and still live a happy life. I am not saying you should forget about getting your ex back, I am just saying that you need to realize that your life is still beautiful and exciting even without your ex. Be the person who loves life and people will start loving you.

beauty

Life is beautiful. Accept it.

Now that we have brought you back to your senses, think about your relationship. Do you really think that you could have a long and healthy relationship with your ex? Think with your brain and not with your heart. Remember how your relationship used to be. You are the best judge in this situation. If you’ve decided that your relationship is worth saving, read on.

FIGURE OUT WHAT WENT WRONG

relationship fights are normal

Relationship Fights are normal, but if it leads to a breakup, then something is wrong

You need to figure out what went wrong in the relationship and work on it. Whatever caused your ex to leave, will make them leave again if you don’t improve yourself.

Each breakup is unique, but most of the time, the true reason behind breakup never comes up while breaking up. Sometimes, your partner will give you a lame excuse like “I just don’t love you anymore” or “this relationship isn’t working”. Even if the reason for breakup was infidelity, think about why they cheated on you.

Men and women both have different needs in a relationship and if you want to have a long lasting happy relationship, you should understand what your partner craves for. When men leave a relationship, it’s because they weren’t getting what they want from a women. No, it’s not sex. Similarly, Women leave a relationship because they are not getting what they crave for, and it’s completely different from what men want.

Take note that we are not going to try using the “I have changed for you” tactic to get your ex back. Logic has very little effect on decisions when such high emotions are involved. But if you do change yourself for the good and work on things together, then you both will stay together in a happy relationship for a long long time.

Get in Shape, Socialize, and Start Enjoying Your Life

There are a few other things that you need to do before you contact your ex.

running is healthy

Exercise daily and make it a routine. You will be glad you did.

-You need to get in your best shape. A half hour of exercise everyday will help release the stress, make you feel better and will keep you in shape.

– You need to start hanging out with your friends. Socializing is important. This is a good time to catch up with your old friends and do things that you enjoy doing.

– You’ll have to start doing what you like. Something that’s your hobby. Or maybe you can get a new hobby.

Now the above things may seem trivial but trust me they are very important. These are the things that will make you realize how wonderful life is and once you start appreciating your life, you will immediately become a lot more attractive to your ex. In addition, they will make you feel healthier and much confident which is absolutely imperative for Step 3.

By the end of this time period, you will be thinking logically and not emotionally and you would’ve decided whether or not you want to give your relationship another chance, you are ready to move on to step 3 aka THE GAME PLAN

Click Here To Go To Step 3

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  • ger November 4, 2011, 7:37 am

    Hi my ex left me 19 months ago she moved on with someone else just after a week I.chased her for a year or so and fought end on end for her but she changed her number and is still living with this guy I am still shattered I did my fair of mistakes I got caught chatting with a fake profile on fb it was all a set up I ended my career I lost my family and every single thing I was manipulated in everything I still love her deep down now destiny because of my work got me to live n work in her home town I pray to God every single day to change this situation I am so lonely every one tells me that she is not worth it this guy she is with came in at the time she was vulnerable please should I send her a letter or an e mail … It has been 8 or 9 months with no contact now I’m afraid of the police and that her bf would take action ….

    • Megan March 1, 2012, 1:45 am

      Don’t worry! Police can’t arrest you! But, they can arrest her new boyfriend for hurting you!

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 4:37 am

      Hey…. I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. I know that you’re desperate and you don’t want to hear anyone tell you to give up, but here’s the deal. It’s been a really long time and I know that it must’ve been such a huge pain in your chest to live through it, but… You’ve gotta see things from her perspective. All she wants to do is to be happy and she wants the same for you. Sure, she probably doesn’t love you the same way she used to, but she loves you for being a part of a memory. My advice would be to look independent. Then pray and wait… sorry… that’s all I got for you man… If it helps… I’ll pray for your situation and whatever happens… No matter how bad it seems… God has a plan for you down the road… It may not be her or another, but you should try to let her go for a while… Every girl likes a strong guy who can be independent… 🙂 keep your chin up dude… I’m praying for you…

  • kiki November 8, 2011, 12:39 am

    My boyfriend just broke up with me because I told him how I felt, and he said that nxt time to think before I tell him how I feel because if he had a bad day it’ll piss him off. I told him I felt like he was irritated with me, && I didn’t know why, and he freaked. Its hard to handle this because we have a 6 month old baby together, and we havnt had a day apart sence we started dating, && now I think he hates me, he always has girls sleep over even while we date, and their like3 yers younger or he has one that’s 4 yrs younger, that’s in highschool, I feel like I’m not good enough for him, he tells me I’m stupid and calls me the “c” word a lot. If I ever tell him how I feel he gets upset.. even if I due it calmly.. I feel like there’s no way to please him.. idk what to do

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 4:54 am

      Alright… Here’s the thing kiki. Your boyfriend obviously didn’t appreciate having you around since you two were together. I don’t even know the whole story of how you two got together or anything so I’m not going to judge anyone. Thing is… There are a ton of guys who just don’t know how to behave around a girl. Especially, when they’ve had it bad themselves, be it another relationship or some scarring event. I honestly can’t say much, but judging from what you’ve said… That boyfriend of yours uses you to just vent himself out of stressful situations and on top of that he’s probably trying to make you jealous of him through those girls he brings over. Like I said, I can’t say much, but situations like these are best to be avoided… Give him time to cool himself off and don’t give it to him easy or get all stressed out at him. I honestly don’t think he hates you… Maybe he just wants some time apart because… He’s just so used to blowing up on you and I don’t think he likes doing that… Whatever the case… You should let him cool off and I think you should get some rest too… Though it hurts, I’m sure that time will do it’s best to heal and IF he ever brings himself to come back… bring a best friend (a girl please) along when you have a chat with him…. He’ll eventually ask to chat in private and that’s when you hear him out first… Guys can be really sensitive and expressing it to their gf is just not their kind of thing to do. However, giving him some time letting him know that you’re doing fine is always a great start. Don’t rub it in his face though. So, after he finishes his talk with you, you should ask if you could do the same. Tell him how you feel, but make sure you don’t say anything that you didn’t plan no matter how the situation turns out. Like I said. Don’t go too easy, but at the same time, don’t go too hard on him… Just smile and be yourself… Be the girl that he first fell in love with and hopefully he’ll be the guy you loved at first… Give him some time and pray or something like that… 🙂 praying for you girl and good luck!

  • kiki November 8, 2011, 12:40 am

    P.s. we still live together..

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:00 am

      In that case, it’d be kinda hard to get some alone time without it seeming like you’re avoiding him… But… try to get out for most part… You could try bringing him out with your friends to a mall or some park to sit down and relax or something like that… It’s always nice to get a little outside depending on where you live, but don’t let this get too hard on you okay? 🙂 Be happy and be yourself… You’ll heal overtime and he’ll see the changes… Do something cute and give him a little something over time and depending on the guy… You just might get him to fall on his knees or just a little smile… Encourage anything…. and try not to talk about the things you normally talk about that stresses the both of you… Good luck!

  • Staley Anderson November 12, 2011, 7:41 am

    my ex told all of her friends there was no way she would give me a second chance. they told me that and she hasn’t talked to me since. i dont know if it is true because her friends are mad at me and i think there just telling me that. she hasn’t told me anything.

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:10 am

      Alright. Most friends are there for each other and I highly doubt that they’re making up a story. Sorry about that. Thing is… It’s really hard on a girl when she breaks up and she just has to tell somebody and these somebodies are most likely to be her friends. Though they may not understand that she was just stressed at the time, she might be healing as time goes on. If her friends are mad at you then you should try to avoid them because they don’t understand the situation at all. Be yourself and try to leave her alone for a bit because her friends are only going to make things worse for both you and her. As time goes on. Try to get a hold of one of their friends and try to apologize and be sincere. Though I recommend that you don’t grab the most radical one of her friends try to grab one that’s not really mad at you. Make her understand that you just want her to be happy and that you care for her. Don’t get all whiny to her friend and let’s try not to blow up on them either. Keep your cool and try not to pour out your feelings about her all over the conversations and just ask about her welfare. Make it short and simple. As time goes on, you’ll eventually be able to confront her friends and that one girl might help you out. Though, I wouldn’t recommend that you put your entire plan on her it’s worth the try. Show them that you care and that it’s more about getting her back… It’s because you want her to be happy and that you’re willing to talk to her whenever. Let them see… Oh and listen… this is just an idea… It really matters how cool you play it and the timing as well… Don’t expect it to work out perfectly. Be flexible and try not to do or say anything you really don’t mean. I’ll pray for you man… Keep your chin up… 🙂 Time will tell eventually…

  • tina November 14, 2011, 2:53 am

    Hi
    my ex broke up with me a year ago but we have been on and off ever since, the whole friends with benefits things. i wanted to get back together but i ended up doing all those things in step one that he told us not to do. now he thinks im needy and wants nothing to do with me he said. i really want to change how he thinks of me cause im not this needy person. but he said he has no interest nor does he care…..is this fixable?!!!

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:28 am

      Listen, yeah it does screw up your chances of getting your bf back for doing those needy stunts and all, but it’s not completely over. Thing is, trying to get him to see you as a different person is another needy stunt, but nonetheless an effort worth trying. If he really doesn’t care, then maybe you should understand that you need to stop trying to make him see you. Put yourself in his shoes and try to see yourself without your feelings, but his. It’s kind of hard to think that way, but it’s something that you should know about relationships… Everyone still has feelings for someone that they’ve dated, even just a little. However, that doesn’t mean that, that feeling will get you together. What you need to do is to relax and be yourself not this girl who was shattered. Be strong, happy, and interesting for yourself and try not to direct attention to him. I think he’s only uninterested because you’re trying… Be yourself and try to stay happy… I know it’s asking too much to smile at this point, but don’t smile for a random reason. Have a friend by you and try to joke around with them here and there… Though this may not necessarily get him back it’ll let him know that you aren’t a needy person. At this point, you can’t let this break up tear you apart. You need to smile and be yourself. relax… Watch some TV or jam to some music and get all hyped up about something even if it’s a pretend. over time you’ll eventually find yourself under this pressure to just go back and try to get his attention, but you need to hold out and grief over it if you have to… Try telling this to a friend and don’t sob or they’ll think you’re just being a weird desperate lover. shed a tear here and there, but don’t bawl your eyes out. Make sure you have that friend understand and trust them with every detail… Over time, if he doesn’t talk to you… Try to ask for a walk outside with him playfully or something and just tease him here and there… Afterwards, he’ll see that you weren’t needy and that you’ve been a strong. He might ask you out again later after that walk outside or a little chat… BUT! don’t ask him out for a walk again… after the first time… It’s up to him to decide… Sure, you can start to talk about rainbows and ponies falling from the sky with him through text or email or facebook, but don’t ask him out again… Not until he starts the conversations and show a little interest in you… But for now… You just need to rest and get happy for real… I’m praying for you Tina and I hope this works out for you sometime in the future! Goodluck! 😀

  • Sean November 20, 2011, 6:53 pm

    My ex and I dated for 9 months (although we had been practically together for about a year and 3/4, we just couldn’t be together for a few reasons). Anyways, she’s 16 and I’m 19. I was the happiest I’d ever been in my life while dating her and she was my dream girl. Then in August she decided to end it because I wouldn’t hang out with most of her friends and because she wanted to dye her hair and get a few piercings (which I was against). She told me that we could be together again at some point, but she just needed some time. Within the next 2-3 weeks, I did just about everything that you said not to do (since this was my first real, long lasting relationship, I didn’t know what to do). Then I started doing no contact.

    About 2 weeks ago she decided to start talking to me again. She found my shirt that I gave her and told me that she was wearing it and had forgotten how much she loved it. A few days later, she texted me a random “I was thinking about you, goodnight :)”. I now know that I don’t care about what color her hair is or how crappy some of her friends are, because what she gave me was so much more important to them. Do I still have a chance if I can show her that I do acknowledge my shortcomings and am willing to work on them?

    • Nicole January 19, 2012, 3:11 pm

      Sean write back just so i know u still come on

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:39 am

      Alright… Well, it’s one thing that you still love her and that she seems to be giving you a bit of hints here and there, but the most important thing is that you care so much about this and that you don’t want to screw it up. Thing is, no one knows that girl as much as you do. So taking tips from some random people online isn’t exactly recommended however, if you really want an opinion. Then here’s mine.

      Ofcourse you have a chance in having her back, but try not to blow it. If I were you I wouldn’t try to ignore her hints or she might think that you’ve lost interest in her completely and when girls think that way it’s not pretty… Just be yourself and yeah try not to make the same mistakes, but like the tips said. Don’t give her complete power. Be yourself and give your opinions, but don’t give them in such a way that made the two of you separate. Acknowledging your mistakes is certainly what she wants, but don’t make a drastic change of any sort. Make it to where she can still be comfortable and love the guy she knew… Just know that after every little break up, torn couples always have feelings for each other, even if it’s just a little bit. Anyways, I wish you two the best! Good luck man! Get your girl back and try not to do anything that’ll make her feel uncomfortable…

  • Audrey November 24, 2011, 4:38 am

    I was seeing a guy for almost a year and despite the fact that he had told me on more than one occasion that he wanted to be official with me, I choose not to despite the fact that I felt the same way because his friends would always get involved in our relationship. Now that we haven’t spoken in a couple of months I realized more than ever that I miss having him in my life and want him back. The only thing is I do not know how to go about getting him back??? Especially because he just started seeing another girl.

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:48 am

      Here… My insight on this involves no judgement of the best choice, but instead the choice that I find most suiting from this situation. If you talk to him and find yourself sounding desperate when he’s dating this other girl, you’re making a big mistake. All he wanted was to have this special someone to be there for him and he’s just so lost without you that he ended up going for another to help him up hence a “rebound” relationship. Instead, you should talk to him and try to avoid the subject of his new girlfriend. Though he may bring her up in conversations here and there you should just keep your cool and be yourself whether it is a playful outgoing girl or a timid quiet girl. Just be happy for him and try to get him to smile, but don’t make it seem like you’re trying. Just be yourself and avoid the topics of relationships. Talk about ponies flying off to the sunset or whatever and just make him laugh at random and corny stunts. Let him see the girl that he first knew and if what he said was true about making you his “official” when he first said it… You should be back with the same guy cuddling with him in no time 😉 Good luck Audrey! I’ll pray for the two of you okay?! Just try to be happy! That’s what he wants!

  • NR November 24, 2011, 5:52 pm

    Hello, me and wife we had argument one day over her sister and i took a nap after that argument and when i wake up i found she left the house with my son and she refused to talk to me at all for 6 months and after i did all the miss takes that was in the first page she filed for deforce i did the same mistakes again that was listed in the first page but that made her to stop the divorce filing but she is refusing that i see my son 2 years old, and she refusing to talk to me saying that she need some time, it is very difficult for me not seeing my son so what i should do i love her so much and i do not want to divorce, and in the same time it is so hard for me not to talk, see her or seeing my son, she said she need a year to two years till she forgive me, so what i should do to wine her back again faster than that? please help me out.

    • Daniel March 5, 2012, 5:59 am

      Okay… Nothing hurts a family more than a divorce. Be it a father, mother, and especially the son…. We’re both men right? We do what men do best and stay strong despite the situation and I know it’s tough to do especially when this happened. But atleast she isn’t divorcing you so thank God for that. So here… If you want to say something to her I’d recommend that you take some time yourself to heal. By the looks of it, she’s giving you a chance and she knows that it’s going to be a long time before she’d want for you to take that chance, but 2 years is a long time. Try to not sound whiny or needy about this, but… Don’t be ignorant of her either. She left because she was tired and hurt and she still loves you okay? She’s just asking for a breather and she’s obviously having a hard time as well… It’s not just you so hold on to that thought alright? Now, put yourself in your wife’s shoes. Try to see things from her perspective and ignore your feelings and your view on this…. Yes, she still has feelings for you, but she wants to make sure that she gets her point across so that you don’t make the same mistake again. Like most advices, follow those tips and try not to be too needy. Be yourself and the man she first fell in love with and be persistent. Don’t fall into a world of hurt when she says hurtful things back… Hear her out and do your best to get contact with your two year old son… Try to direct the conversation about your kid and try asking for a video conversation or some pictures with the kid… Don’t argue your way back… but… let her knew… that 2 years without being able to support the child would kill the family more than she thinks it would… Don’t tell her that she’s wrong or anything, but don’t try to reason with her unless she is 100% willing to listen to you. You can try asking her to listen to you after she blows up on you and don’t say anything that you didn’t plan okay? Tell her exactly how you feel about the child and how you just want to be there for him… Let her know… That this relationship is about the father and his son… I’m praying for you man… I hope you get her and your son back… Good luck!

  • Angela November 26, 2011, 12:55 am

    One month ago today my ex ended our relationship of 6 years. We lived together and he moved out. We still have to pay on the lease until I can move. There was no contact for a week or so then I tried to talk to him after I thought about it. I’ve messed up by doing what I wasn’t supposed to do. I text, I called and we e-mailed each other. The last was sent the morning of Thanksgiving. It was not ended well. So later today I was about to write another doing a complete turn around from what I’ve been saying to him…you know, I love you, miss you, need you. I tried to explain that I know how it went wrong and how I’ve changed. I know how I should have been showing my love for him now. He needed me more then I thought emotionally and physically but I was selfish and felt that if I wasn’t being treated right then I didn’t have to give him what he needed. Oh and I before him have to kids so focusing on him wasn’t a priority all the time except when we were alone. I had vowed to change this. Well in the new letter, I wanted to take control back and I was about to say that I refuse to let his decision hurt and control me anymore. Basically that I was going to release him & if ever he wanted all that I was committed to giving him then he knows where to find me. 6 years is a lot to throw away. I was going to say that I would have no more contact except regarding the apartment. Can the no contact work in this situation for a month? Do I send this letter? What do I do, I really need help?

  • Mary November 26, 2011, 11:20 pm

    Im in love with a man that is supposed to be my man, but since he started this job on a crazy shift he hasnt been around and avoids my phone calls. The last time I talked to him and was over there it was like normal. he hugged and laid on my shoulder while holding my hand. He told me when I told I didnt know if I still had a man or not anymore. He said that I do, but he just didnt want me to be mad that he has to work sometimes on his day off to and he didnt know how to tell me. So he also told me that he was going to come over, but not promise me a day so I would not get mad. I dont mind that he works, I just feel that he needs to take the time and call me and say how are you or something? I feel like we broke up and he dont want to tell me. what do I do now? is it really over? can I get him back even though he said he would never hurt me?

  • Noel November 27, 2011, 6:41 pm

    My boyfriend (for the past 2 years) Dumped me 2 weeks ago for a man. He says were still friends but whenever I talk to him he ignores me. He has dumped me before saying he needs time. Then he always comes back saying he’s so sorry and that he’ll never do it again. Same with fights. But this time it’s different. He’s bean with 3 people sense the breakup. He is NOT a player. He’s not social at all. But for some reason his entire personality has changed. He still leaves voicemails saying something along the lines of “Hey wanna hang out” or “We need to talk” But we never do. Any advice?

  • Jessica November 27, 2011, 9:00 pm

    Hello. First of all thanks for takeing the time to read this. Okay so me and my boyfriend went out for a good 2 weeks i broke up because i didnt think i wanted a relationship with him. Soon after he got a date to Homecoming and so did i but we both confessed we still liked eachother and planned to have a relationship after . But right after homecoming he stopped talking to me and its been over 4 weeks of him not talking to me so i thought i would do the same i deleted him off of facebook deleted his number and all the pictures. but i do get those moments when i text him and ask if we can talk but he dosnt text back. So my question is what do i do?

  • Dave November 28, 2011, 3:59 am

    My ex-gf broke up with me a few weeks ago for no reason. She said she was losing feelings for me and it wasn’t working out. I think she was confused because she would say a lot of nice things to me before the break-up. We didn’t talk for a while but last week I called her and she said she missed me and it was nice talking to me. That got me happy but a few days ago I texted her saying I missed hearing voice and think about her and she said she misses me sometimes…Today I called her and we talked and before I hung up I said I missed her and she just said ok…I feel like it’s going up and down and I don’t know how to keep it from going down!

  • jack November 28, 2011, 9:53 pm

    i went out with this girl for 3 weeks but she ended it with me because she was having famaily problems and she dident feel right with me anymore but she said i was perfect it was all her wat can i do to get her back because i love her so much and i am so deppresed?

  • Adrienne December 4, 2011, 8:02 pm

    So I was with the love of my life for nine months. We broke up and he goes out and madeout with two different girls. So I did the same but with guys. Now he like good friends with one of the girls and he says there’s nothing going on. He told me we just need a break “time”. Well were still not together and I went to a party with him and we picked her up and it was totally awkward her being there. Then she was flirting with him. I mean I still love him and he knows it. Then I woke up and some girl put on his Facebook, his name with a heart. I asked him about it and he said he hasn’t talked to her in forever. But she touched his butt while we were dating. I can’t even have feelings for someone else all I think about is him….

  • MinSyd December 5, 2011, 7:15 am

    OK, so in your words: ” rebound relationships are normal and they will not last long. ”

    What if I am the rebound relationship? What chance have I got?

    Bet you don’t have any answers for that one!!!

  • Kevin December 6, 2011, 6:30 pm

    So i was dating my girlfriend for almost two years. We had bit of a fight abut 10 monts ago, she said we broke up…whatever i dont remember that. Anyway…about a month later she tell me that she cheated and she was pregnant with this guys baby. Every fiber in my body wanted to tell her to get the %$#^ out, but i could not just leave her alone, she was scared and confused. So i helped her threw that hard time, she got an abortion, I NEVER said anything about it, its her body i supported whatever desition she made. So we where great for the next nine months. Than she tell me she has been sad since the abortion, but it has nothing to do with me, i make her happy. Than a few days later she said she loves me but i dont think its enuff anymore. Break up with me a few days later, i tell her i love i dont want to lose her you know all the stuff your not suppost to say. I was never mean threw out the break up i told her i just want her to be happy. I asked her is there was someone esle she tell me no, than a week lateer she rubbs it in my face that she has a new bf. I lover her so much, and now she is acting like a different person..like really mean, which is not her. I mean i was not the best boyfriends no one is perfect, I just dont know what to do at this point? She has not tried to contact me, it has been about a week since i last messaged her telling her to find her happiness, and dont change for anyone. PLEASE HELP ME!!!1

  • Kevin December 6, 2011, 6:33 pm

    I just hurts that she can just act like i dont matter, to her, and say things that she would never say to me, she is a good person, and amazing person i just dont want to loose her!

  • Kim December 8, 2011, 3:18 am

    I have been with my ex for 5 years. I broke up with him over the summer. We got back together after 3 mo apart. We then dated for another 5 mo. I broke up with him again the other day. This is why…. His parents don’t approve of me, because I’m not catholic and I have two children. For years he said that we would work things out with them, but never did anything about it. So I was never involed with this aspect of his life. Hard to see that he would ever move forward with me after 5 years and the same problems. I Know he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I know he loves me but can’t move forward. I want him back I also want to move forward. I need help or should I move on?

  • Sayed Nayem December 9, 2011, 5:22 pm

    i dont recognize what mistakes i have done & she said me once that she has given me few chances but i didnt make it work……………………….

  • katie December 10, 2011, 3:45 am

    my boyfriend for almost three years just dumped me coz he can’t accept the real me. he’s trying to changr me for who am i now. i asked him to stay and will try to be the girl he wanted to be but still nothing happened. i will always get out of my shell. still do the same things and worst i tried to kill myself after the break up. do i really have to move on and accept the fact that he is no longer mine? i love him..

  • Charlie December 13, 2011, 10:29 am

    Well Ive been with Olivia for a year and 3 months, and Ive figured out what has went wrong, im not the same person I used to be. But I love her so much. What should I do? She said she loves me but isn’t in love with me. I just don’t know what to do.

  • kia December 18, 2011, 3:27 am

    my girlfriend broke up with me well took a break because of the distance she lives in one state and im in another we have been together for almost a year 11 months to be exact, but she says she cant deal with the distance when she want me to be there im not and it seems as if she by herself anyways and like i`ve told her you are not the only one feeling that way i am too but i would never break up with you i rather stick things out and work our problems out and with this distance it bring arguments and frustration when we talk to each other im just wondering if she decides to come back should i take her back because this is our second break we have tooken in just 3 months and it seem like we just cant get pass this. to add when we do be around each other everything is fine we have fun we laughing we are enjoying each other time but when im back home seems like everything is crazy i wanna pack up and move to where she is but due to finances im being held back and it seems like if i wanna save my relationship i need to move but i feel like she should understand me and give me the time to do what i have to do…idk any more what should i do???

  • manda December 21, 2011, 6:38 am

    So me and my ex have been broken up for a year now. We were together for almost 3 years and most of high school we broke up junnior year. Were both seniors now. I wasn’t a very good gf. I cheated on him and lost his trust..I didn’t have sex with the guys I cheated on him with..it was just kissing. I messed up and realized how much I loved him after it all happened. He stayed with me but he was never the same. He just wanted me for amazing sex which is what kept our relationship going for a year..then after much clingyness he finally dumped me. A few months after our breakup he wanted me back..then he didn’t then he did and it was just a FUCKING crazy emotional rollacoaster..Then he wanted to be friends and I was mean and said I didn’t wanna be..then I did and he didn’t. He randomly texted me about his trip to las Vegas which reminded him of me during in November. I now have a super hot boyfriend… And I randomly texted joe and told him about Nathan and showed him a picture of us and he said im happy for you and hope things go well and he cut me off cold turkey and won’t even talk to me. He’s going to formal with this other girl and I’m going with my bf..why wont he talk to me?

  • Patrick December 23, 2011, 3:17 pm

    My problem, I have been dating this girl for 13 months. She told me 2 weeks ago that she only sees me as a friend. I was devestated and I have been trying to just be her friend for those two weeks. The other day we went somewhere and she said she wanted to see if she felt anything again and she didnt. She then asked me to go with her somewhere tomorrow to try again. What do I say to get her to love me again. Someone please help me. I lost 44 pounds for her I look a lot better than i used to. I became more mature for both myself and her. I just don’t know how to get her to find that spark again. Can anyone please help me

  • michelle December 24, 2011, 1:43 am

    Okay im 17 years old and i was with my bf for almost 6 months. we were happy and great and doing well for 5 outta 6 months the last month he was thinking of breaking up with me but didnt cause he was seeing if it could get better. But i guess it didnt i guess my low self esteem came back and got hair extesions and i changed myself and he didnt like it and we kept fighting and fighting. so he finally 2 days before our 6 month he broke up with me on sunday. and we got in our last fight friday of tht weekend and he said i was the love of his life. and 2 days later were over on that sunday and 4 days later he says he doesnt love me anymore and did doesnt when u love someone it never go away? did he lie to me ? do u think he still loves me? he ignoring me he wont talk to me sayen were over and everything we been over for 5 days and hes already looing for other people moving on its breaking my heart i did break every step but i will not do it anymore. just help me tell me what i can do to get him back. and to help me bring my self estemm back! i love him so much and miss him! please help me get him back give me tips plz!

  • man December 24, 2011, 2:07 am

    me and my kids mom split up awile back i have been hounding her to work out our family she does not want to wat do i do

  • akanshya December 24, 2011, 7:30 am

    i was in a relation with my classmate for the last 3 months. before him i had another boyfriend. now he came to know about us. he created many problems so i told him i will go back to him which i did not mean at all. this has affected my present relation a lot. my boy friend broke up with me. but i only love him. cant go back to my past. plz help me in getting my love back.

  • kate December 28, 2011, 2:54 am

    hey, well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 22 months, and three days ago he was in love with me, telling me he loves me, and now he says he doesn’t want a relationship and it doesnt feel the same and he doesnt love me. i don’t believe it can change that quick but he seems to think it does. i screwed it up because i got mad at him for small stuff and then had a massive go at him, do i still have a chance? 2 months ago he said the same thing, he didn’t want me, or a relationship, he said he didn’t like me at all, he wasn’t attracted to me, but after that a week later, i talked to him, and he fell back in love with me, we had something special. and i want us to go back out but idk what to say coz its harder this time 🙁 he meant everything to me and i want to fix it, i just don’t know how, because he said we will never date again 🙁 it is killing me, and i want it to go bck to how it was. and i am also scared because i am not seeing him for a month, thankyou, kate

  • helen December 28, 2011, 7:22 am

    hi, okay so like i dont know what to do because my ex broke up with me saying ‘its not u its me ‘ and well im pretty sure he moved on and when his friends keep saying other girls are better looking than me so i guess he likes someone else and yeah i messed up by telling him i love you keep on texting him and showing my emotions to him and we just lasted 4months and well i really dont have any idea what to do now but once this christmas he text me just saying ‘merry christmas’ so i reply bakk the same thing and wel thats the last time i text with him and well can someone help me :'( i really would appreciate if there was someone who can help me get him back ? please 🙁 thanks..

  • leoo December 30, 2011, 7:56 am

    so i still like my ex :/ i havent seen her for like 8 months which is pretty sad 🙁 specially for a guy ; im just a guy with feelings that actually likes to be in love with the right girl ; i havent talk to her for a while but im dying ;i just wanna grab her in my arms and kiss her in her forehead and tell her how much i miss her :'( i literally looked for other girls but its not the same for me! i really want her back in my life maybe im too desperate but i just dont know what to do anymore i fell in love with her so quick ; sometimes i think she doesnt remember who i am :/ i wish i had a second chance with her ; once she told me that she wanted to marry me once we grow older and that made me smile , i was happy for once in my life even though thats not possible but she said that and i was happy for once.

  • tara January 1, 2012, 7:50 am

    i really love him this is crazy how could you.let four years go to.be with someone else? is it.something.men go.through to.find they self? woll he be back because i was good to.him we didnt have major.problems

  • Claudette January 3, 2012, 3:42 am

    A guy used to like me and he was telling all of his friends that I am his ideal girl. He started making moves to win me and I fell for him. we dated for a month but we never got officially termed boyfriend-girlfriend. He showed a lot of passion and effort by texting me, waiting for me until my dance training classes just to get me home and we spent almost all day together. Until 2 days passed that we didnt see each other, he stopped texting me and he just stopped contacting me. a few days later he called me and said that we were going too fast and he was unsure of what he feels for me. He said that he doesnt feel the same way for me anymore and that we should end it and just be friends. I really feel lonely. I felt our potential to be a great couple. What should I do? 🙁 I am avoiding him for a week to give him space. Do we still have a chance even though he said his feelings for me wouldn’t come back anymore? 🙁 Help me guys.

  • Chillyandy January 3, 2012, 6:26 am

    Hi,

    My boyfriend got married before one month but after four days of marriage he said I am sorry. And we started meeting & calling & texting each other. His wife is staying in her parents house coz of rituals. We meet daily basis. But now I text him or call him lesser than last week. I want him to crve for me more & come back as soon as possible. He got married out of family prssures without even meeting with that girl. Please tell me how to get him back in my life for forever & ever. I want him & want to get mrried. I will follow whatever u say as I made a mistake contacting him & meeting him. Now he is jobless too & he says he is too broke with all these life pressures. Please tell me how to get him back.

  • Chillyandy January 3, 2012, 6:28 am

    Hi,

    My boyfriend says he has lost trust as I did not discussed my earlier realtionships openly with him & in every matter kept him aside, he thinks he ant trust ne whereas I trust him blindly. Please guide me to get him in my life back.

  • bill January 9, 2012, 4:13 am

    My GF and I were together for 3 years. I thought I loved her but I guess in the end I wasnt “in love” with her. I broke it off a couple of times and she would blow my cell up with calls and texts. Well, needless to say, we got back together and she and I this last time around went for 8 months before SHE broke up with me telling me she fell out of love. Now, during this last 8 month period something odd happened to me, I truly fell in love with her. Like frigging head over heals this shit hurts so bad kind of love. The bottom line is she got resentful of me because there certainly are dynamics involved and it’s supposed to be a two way street, but I was selfish and I wasn’t paying attention to her needs the way she wanted and needed. So in the end she told me to leave. I did. She seems to be over me but still will talk to me. It’s been 8 months since the breakup and I still can’t stop thinking about this woman. She has my heart. I used to be aggressive and a dog in a way with other girls, but now, I really don’t care about any other women, I just want to be with my girl. I leave her pretty much alone but now and then I will talk to her on FB and tell her that I miss her. She says she is surprised that I haven’t moved on yet, and when prompted will tell me that yes she misses me too, but that she’s not in love with me anymore and she doesn’t know why or even IF she wants to get that love back. I don’t know what to do. I thought to myself well, after 8 months of not really seeing her I should be over her, but love is a funny thing and it dances to it’s own drum. I want to be there for her to make things right, but I don’t want to smother or push her away. What can I do? Since so much time has gone by? Oh, one more thing, about a month ago she got really great seats at a football game for the team we both love, being that she KNEW I was a die hard fan she asked me along. We had a great time as “friends” but while we were there, she called me “babe” like 3 times. I think it was more out of habit than anything else cuz at the end I just got out of the car and said “goodbye” I didn’t even give her a hug. I wanted to though and a kiss. Advice please? thanks

    • jessica February 6, 2012, 11:57 pm

      I am in the same boat! did anything ever work?

  • mann January 9, 2012, 8:51 am

    my gf left me .one day she texted me i dont want to know u now.goodby.i asked her why ,she didn’t replied me back.nor did i contacted her later.
    shuld i ask her by calling her why she dont me now or?

  • Albert January 12, 2012, 6:39 pm

    Me and my ex broke up christmas day. In the past few week I called she wouldnt answer i text she doesnt answer she tells mutal friends that its over and i need to move on. when we see each other she makes it a point to not look at me and not talk. I done the love letters the sending flowers to the job ill admitt i sent the drunk messages and texts. now im to the point where i dont text or call im giving her space and time when i sent the flowers a guy called me and threaten me about her im not worried about that but what i should do from here i mean im not texting or callin and i giving her plenty of space and time am i doin whats best

  • Code January 13, 2012, 3:27 am

    Dated this girl for four months.. lives in my hometown. fell for her in the summer..did
    everything together..college of semester went by, everything going good, sent letters, skyped,saw eachother on the weekends(diff colleges).she told me “dont think im crazy but i do hope we end up together ” or stuff like”were good for eachother” orr i dont wanna share you…… then one day she tells me she still has feelings for her
    ex, then the next day she didnt..told me somedays she wanted a bf, and somedays she didnt…
    well..she dumped me a few days after xmas..said she just doesnt want a relationship right now…told me she just needs her space and time…worst part is.. i transfered colleges just to be closer to her cuz i knew the distance was hard for her… man the things guys do for girls… i sure did learn my lesson…but none the less… i hope she finds her way back to me.. what we had was something specical.. i wrote her songs..bought her flowers all the time.. surprised her at college a few times with balloons and flowers..got along with her family great.. we all know most girls need a rebound after a breakup..but i hope she realizes she is making a mistake…she told me i was the best guy shes ever been with..110x’s better than all of her other bf’s…and yet,,she dosent want me.. im struggling..i dont know if ill be something she’l miss,,,.but i sure am hoping one day she will find her way back into my arms…

    Seeing people change isn’t what hurts. What hurts is remembering who they used to be…

  • Nicole January 13, 2012, 8:44 pm

    My ex broke up with me because his “best friend” lied to him that i was using him, which i wasn’t. He believes her instead of me. I was in the mountains when all of this happened i was so happy when i got home so i could talk 2 him then i saw the messages he left me and i started crying. I asked him the other day if he missed me when i left him but he said “i kinda forgot about you :(” but he texted me like 6 times and said i got a gf that wont do what u did then his sig said i<3brenna then he texted me again and said sorry i didnt mean to be rude but its true were over then his sig said i<3mybabe. I was so confused cuz he texted me saying haha me and her broke up the day i got back he texted me that and he said we still wouldnt work out!! I do not know what to do! He likes the girl who lied about me and i didnt do anything and he is blaming me for everything its soo stupid:( He said he would give me 1 more chance but we would have to keep it a secret so no one at school would know bc he told everyone at school on fri and mon THAT he broke up w/ me and then i gave him his stuff back and he walked away i almost started crying in the hallway!! When i texted him when i got home he didnt really want to be with me and lied to me that he loved me it hurt me sooo bad i cant believe it! I texted the girl and told her y r u lying about me and she said i wasnt and then said bye i have a lot on my hands i knew then she was lying bc she didnt want to talk about it plus i barely talk to her. I hate her soo much!!! What should i tell him?

  • neetu January 17, 2012, 4:11 am

    hye guys, i really need ur guys help nw. i really love my ex boyfriend so much.its ady almost 7 months since he left me but until now there is no any respond from him. i guess i had bugged him enough. he wil care for me, buy food for me, hang out with me, talk wif me in the phone but yet he is kept on telling tat he dun have any feelings for me. he only wants to be a good friend with me it seems. but somehow i really can feel tat he still loves me. but right nw, i really didnt know what to do. its going to be almost 8months since i had broke up but im still waiting for him and i didnt moved on at all. the reason for our break up was quite personal. please guys try to help me.

    • Taylor March 12, 2012, 11:55 pm

      go on a date, text him with kisses on the text, see if he likes u still

  • Ashley January 18, 2012, 4:49 am

    Hi. I met my ex when I was 14, we were friends for almost four years before we got together, he was 20 and I was 19. We were crazy about eachother. We had our ups and downs but we always made it through everything together. Until the day I made the biggest mistake of my life. We ended things, why .. for no reason. because i thought i wasnt happy. now i am miserable. It has been 6 months and he has a new gf and has been with her about 3 weeks after we broke up. I have tired to tell him how I feel, that I made a mistake but he says he is in love with her, after only 3 months. right now im working on myself, trying to get back to the way i used to be, but without him it feels impossible, i believe he is my soul mate. do you think i will ever have the love of my life back ?

  • Johanthan January 18, 2012, 5:29 am

    Okay, so my girlfriend and I dated for four years, one month, and thirteen days. We have pulled each other out of the toughest situations; however, she has this strange pattern… It’s like every month, her interest changes. One month, she’ll smother me. The next, she’ll do nothing but want to be around her friends. Finally, she’ll just want to be alone and say “I can’t do this anymore”. It’s almost like I have this down to a science.. Like it’s a game. This time she left. I will admit, I did screw up. I was so afraid to lose her, I was a bit controlling. Fear sucks. So we break up. I noticed as I was reading all of the things not to do, that I had done most of them lol. I also noticed that she started to act more and more heartless.. Then I found out she was dating a guy. So, now here I sit googling how to win my ex back. I was curious if this process can be sped up and if so, if there were certain things that I needed to emphasize on more than others.

    • bill January 27, 2012, 3:47 am

      Hey man, unfortunately it sounds like she has moved on and not only that but I posted on this web site too a couple of weeks ago and no one has responded. I think we are all looking for a miracle or we wouldn’t be here spilling our guts out about how desperate we all are to get that ONE person back. I have finally reached a conclusion painful but real, I believe that if my ex wants to get back with me it will happen in her own time. In the meantime I have to try my best not to dwell on her. I truly think that if we all search our hearts we will find that90%of the stories here have a recurring theme: our breakup people don’t hate us or not care about us, they just for whatever reasons had to move on. It makes me sad yes and I am trying my best to cope. I love her still, powerfully, but I know “in my herat” she’s not coming back anytime soon.

  • dona January 18, 2012, 11:23 am

    recently, i broke up with my guy about 3 days ago. We were 2gethr for more than 4 years. We were having a serious relationship. But it was my fault, he saw me talking with some guy and he told me that he dnt want me anymore. Actually, i’m not cheating on him, i just truly love him… I know its my fault. I can’t control my emotions, i’m totally hurt. Please tell me is there any possibilities to him back?

  • Jay January 19, 2012, 11:31 am

    my girlfriend dumped me because i’m moving to Australia. She told me she can’t trust me and she doesn’t like ‘long distance relationship’ HELP.

  • jonathan January 21, 2012, 11:24 am

    well me and my ex girlfriend just broke up it was a 5 year relationship and we had a kid together what should i do should i take her back

  • George January 22, 2012, 4:38 pm

    Dear All,
    I need some help.
    This morning my girlfriend just broke up with me. We were together for about 1 year but during this period I was traveling quite often to LONDON (where I am studying) and to BG (where is my girlfriend). Last time when I met her everything seemed to be fine with sentences such as ”…I love you so much ….”etc.
    She said that she is dating with another guy at the moment but they did not have sex by now. What can I do to get her back. Our relationship is from distance but we are seeing each other every month, while I am studying in UK…..

  • Heart Espinoza February 6, 2012, 4:35 am

    Hi, so my bf dumped me a month ago and I’m pregnant. He wants to be here for the baby and he’s being friends with me and trying to fix things. He’s done lots that I asked and I’m helping him with things as well. The break up was really ugly but we did discuss what went wrong and he says in time maybe we can see what happens. But I kind of what things to happen now. He’s coming to visit where I am and it is another state. He also calls me and we have great talks but when we talk about being together again for the baby he agrees an just tells me in time. We talk for hours and it’s really nice. He also tells me that he doesn’t even feel like talking to girls or even flirting. And he asks me about guys then tells me that maybe I should give these guys chances and he says that’s not what he wants. He’s so comteplating with what he wants. Does he still loves me? His he playing hard to get? Does he not want to make a move or tell me how he feels because he dumped me? What can I do to have us together again?

  • kevin February 8, 2012, 1:45 am

    i broke up with my gf and went out with another chick and now i want my ex back and i dont know what to do we had a perfect relationship please help me get her back

    • kyli February 14, 2012, 1:12 am

      dont be a jerk…actions speak louder than words….if you feel she still has feelings for you in the slightest….then you need to get up and do something about it, and i dont mean text….actions speak louder than words.! let it come from your heart

  • Rexie February 11, 2012, 7:53 am

    One month ago, I confronted my bf of 3 years that something seems wrong with him and with our relationship. He admitted that his first GF during high school started texting him and on December last year, the ex-gf offered an open affair with him. My bf agreed and by 1st week of January, they had sex. This ex-gf of him cheated him during high school and leave him for another guy. After 10 years, my bf took her back. Upon my BF’s admission of his cheatings, I forgive him and told him we could start anew our relationship. He asked for a cool-off while he will settle the problem with his ex. After a week, however, he texted me and said that he is letting me go because he is not worthy of me anymore. He loves me. He also loves his ex-gf. I tried to plead but he has decided already. So I let him go. 2 days after our break-up, he displayed the ex-gf (now his gf) to our friends. I saw his wall and it was confirmed that he has now a relationship with his ex-gf. But 2 days after, he asks me to watch a movie and dine with him, which I agreed and so we did as friends.
    I still love my ex-bf. I still cant understand why did he choose that ex-gf who cheated on him before. First few days I would still text him and try to make him guilty. He wanted us to be good friends. Just yesterday, he asks me for a friendly dinner date and I go with him. Im afraid that if I refuse him, he would go away for good. But yesterday, he texted me that he is with his GF and that he will dine with me again soon. I want him back. Please help me understand the actions of my ex-bf and if there is any chance that I could win him back. Thank you!

  • Sam February 11, 2012, 8:34 pm

    Hi im sam im a teenager. I really like this guy who is a few years older then me. And we flirt a lot but, he thought I was gaining feelings for one of my guy friends. He easily gets jealous but, my guy friend was flirting with me so i never responded to him. I really like this guy we have been flirting for about 3months now and He had started to ignore me saying maybe we should just be friends. But i told him i want to be more then just friends and how i really like him after about 5days We started talking again and he already asked me out for valentines day but last night when i asked him what he was doing then he said idk but he still flirts with me and calls me baby but, I want him back and i told him how sorry i am but i feel like he’s going or started looking for other girls and when i ask to make plans with him it never happens i dont know what to do but i just want him back Please if anyone has any advice let me know Thankyou

  • kamogelo February 12, 2012, 12:11 pm

    i guess i am not alone in this world,but watif he doesnt need me completely even if i need him,watif the very same thng i am tryn 2do he is doing it but for somebody else not me,i really love him

  • kyli February 14, 2012, 1:16 am

    he wants the best of both worlds….he is being selfish and not totally thinking about you….yes he may love you, but its not true love right now….you need to give that mofo months to figure out what he wants and if he still wants you….he will come back but really, you deserve better than that right now. dont give in and be a doormat!

  • amy lambourne February 19, 2012, 1:52 pm

    i have been out with this lad for about 8 months we broke up because we kept arguing for silly reasons then he had a girl friend nd she used him to get a baby out of him and when she would ov got pregent she would of gone nd found an older guy to live with and i knew this for a couple weeks i wanted to tell him but my mates told me not to but one night her rang me and he kept going on how him nd his girlfriend were geting along good but i was getting jelous so i went ahead and told him and he didnt think it was true becuse i was begging him to stay with me witch i shouldnt of but i couldnt help it , but then they broke up but then he belived me becuse the pearson who told me told him about it then the next day he met me and them 2 broke up nd he came running back to me and he should stayed with me , we was seeing eachother for abit but then when i was with my mate nd a few others we were drinking and my mate nd him were talking round the corner and i went round and them 2 were getting off so i ran to get away from that sitution so the next day we were arguing about what happened he was denying but i knew what happened but then my mate nd him went out for about 3 days but it last cos i got to jelous so i started but then we wasnt cantacting eachother for about 3 months but then on the 17th of febuary he contacted me saying he want to meet up and sort things out between up and it was my birthday so i turned 15 and before he didnt like my age becuse he was 16 , so he asked to meet up with me witch i obvs did then yesterday we met and talked for abit and he ke[t giving me a hug nd we had a lunch together and i texted him when i got on the bus but he didnt reply for about a day and now he wont text back and now i dont no what to doo if u could `comment back nd reply it would be a great help thankyou!

  • Jin February 24, 2012, 11:54 pm

    I’m about to leave for Australia in a few months, and she’s starting to see another guy and started to like him. She said she want’s me to be her friends even if she has someone else, she said she doesn’t want to give both of us. I’m definitely worried about the change in situations when I leave, we had a good and long relationship. And I definitely want her back, i’ll be returning in a year or two from Australia, and from there I’d like to have her back forever. Please help me…

  • Carrisa March 1, 2012, 3:32 am

    I got pregnant at 17, insantly the father of my baby asked me to be his girlfriend. of course i said yes, we had the perfect relationship at first. then i tried to control him telling him what he could and couldnt do, we’ve broken up so many times ive moved all my stuff out and a couple days later i moved it al back it. Since our daughter has been born our relationship has gone out of control. His mother overdosed and we were the ones to find her. his mom was all he had, hes a very closed off person, and does not like to talk or express his feelings. my parents want nothing to do with me he was alll i had besides our daughter. we broke up right jan 6th. and of course got back together. we said if we broke up again that we would go our seperate ways.. and guess what we broke up and hes convinced that we really do need to go our seperate ways… i dont want to at all our daughters going to be 2 in april, i just want to be a family. i know what its like to be raised in a broken family and its not fun. we both love each other very much. i took a lot of the things he did for me for granted, i didnt appreciate what he did for me, i bitched and nagged all the time. he says im not the girl that he met, and wants that girl back, i like most of you made all the mistakes by begging and crying to him to take me back..i text him, visitations are not fun. i miss him so much. i just want to go home. please someone help me bring my family back together.

  • Cynthia March 5, 2012, 8:23 pm

    – im 16, going onto 17 years old pretty soon here. && i started going out with my ex in decemember. everything was perfect, our relationship was the best, && i fell for him really hard. later into our relationship he told me he was moving, and of course it broke my heart because he was the guy i really loved at this moment. he broke up with me saying that long distance relationship wasnt gonna work for us & i myself hate it. but i was willing to give it a try just for him. he said no, & that we should just be friends even if he didnt want to but that we had to. so i said fine, & i swallowed all the pain down. as days passed, we got into a couple of arguements and he told me he still loved me no matter what & that as soon as his problems cleared up we would get back together so i waited. he came back to my town and we saw each other, he kissed me… && it was just a perfect day. i imagined we would get back together soon. 3 weeks passed and i found he didnt move. so i thought to myself..”this should be good, im gonna get to see him everyday & soon we’ll be together again” i was wrong…. we lost contact and we didnt talk at all, a month passed since i had last seen him, and i would text him, but he just wouldnt talk to me the same anymore. on facebook he kept putting status’s like “trying to find the perfect girl for me”… i mean i didnt get it? he tells me he loves me, he goes and see’s me. kisses me, reminds me he loves me. & he goes and puts that like if it wouldnt hurt me? i let it go…. and like it said on this step. rebound relationships dont work at all. i tried getting into a relationship with this guy, because i wanted to forget my ex, but it didnt work out so i broke up with the guy saying i wasnt ready for a relationship when it wasnt true… through out that whole time… my and my ex wouldnt talk at all to each other… until yesterday. march 4. he texted me out of random & i was surprised…he wanted to see me. && me of course i agreed… i went to go see him.. & again he went up to me gave me a kiss, hugged me tight and said. “i missed you” … my heart melted & just kept racing… i really love this guy.. . his friends know that he goes and see’s me. hes not embarrassed by me or anything, he doesnt care what people think about us… but he’s just so confusing. when he’s with me he acts like im his world and he doesnt want to let go of me… but once we both go our own ways, he acts like he doesnt even care about me, like putting status’s on facebook about trying to find a perfect girlfriend… he knows it hurts me but idk why he still keeps on doing it… should i still keep to get back with him? am i just his second choice? is he really worth it? … Please help me A.s.a.p… ANYBODY pleasseeee </3

  • Suzi March 7, 2012, 8:45 pm

    PLZZZ help me i thought this guy was “the one” and he broke up with me for this girl named destiny my friends say to make him jealous and he’ll come crawling back but how do i make him jealous?
    plz reply

  • Taylor March 12, 2012, 11:52 pm

    I was with a boy for just over a year, we argued and broke up, and i started seeing another guy to get over him. we’ve been together for almost 3 months but i dont really like him. I thought that it would make my ex jelous and want me more but it didnt work… i dont know what to do.. can someone help me. how do i get back together with my ex? i love him

  • jp March 13, 2012, 12:43 am

    i was with the love of my life for 10 an a half years we have 2 little girls im one that always helps anyone so is she but 5 months ago she left me for a married man that has a kid her age he was supposed to be a friend of mine. i found out that they were seeing eachother when i was working 80 90 hour weeks i really want to work it out with her but its like she changed into someone i dont even know anymore she says she still loves but she wants to try somthing new i now i wasnt always there and we fought but what relationship doesnt have problems an all relationships are work i guess i was wondering y after almost 11 years she would change all her morals and beliefs i forgot to mention that this other guy is married and is twice her age what sheould i do to get her back

  • Sierra March 19, 2012, 12:28 am

    Hey Daniel :/ So I Was With This Guy For Two Years… And Yeah, We Had Our Arguments, Who Doesn’t. But We Were Completely Perfect Together. I Mean, We Loved The Same Things, Acted The Same Everything. Our Zodiac Signs Are Even Compatible For The Best Relationships (Leo And Aries)…. So One Friday, January 13 [Worst Day] We Got Into A Huge Argument. And So We Gave It A Few Days To Calm Down But When I Would Text Him He Ignored It. So That Next Friday We Talked And Basically He Broke Up With Me And I Was Really Upset. Then By Sunday He Was Saying How He Has A New Girlfriend. And I Did ALL Of The Mistakes Listed. ! But I Know In My Heart Me And Him Belong Together ! Its The 18th Of March, The Day Before Me And Him Had Go Together 2 Years Ago… I Still Think Of Him Even Though I’ve barley Had Communication With Him.. A Few Days Ago, I Made A Decision To Just Move On With My Life Since Thats What He Did. But Im Not Looking To Starting Over And Building A New Relationship Or Letting Him Go. Im Kinda Scared That Once I Move On Him And His Girlfriend Will Breakup And He’ll Come Running Back To Me…

  • Tori March 19, 2012, 4:00 am

    My boyfriend and I broke up about 19 or 20 months ago. We were in an exclusive, long-distance relationship with each other for 5 months. We both fell in love and swore to get married one day. Eventually the pressure got to him and we broke up. I was devastated for a month or two and cut off all ties with him. I didn’t see him again until over a year after our breakup. Since then, we talked more and one night he told me he liked another girl and started seeing her. Shortly after, he claimed that he still loved me. His girlfriend and he just broke up and I really want him back again. Because truth be told, I am still in love with him. In a year, I will be living in his city, so maybe that’ll help. What do I do to get him back??

  • dave March 22, 2012, 12:48 am

    my gf dumped me yesterday at lunch i want to die. i want to go on a fist rampage and after take my life. i want my ghost to see her face.

  • Christian March 22, 2012, 4:12 pm

    Hi Daniel!
    I was more than 3 years with my girlfriend she’s 24 and I’m 36. Everything was fine we got engaged on January and we should get maried in September , we booked everything all was ok!
    Befor we got engaged in October we moved in Amsterdam because of her job, so I left everything and I followed her!
    After we got angaged I went in Ireland for 1 week, wile I was there she told me she wants to come as well in 2 weeks so I did not go back to Amsterdam I was waiting her in Ireland, befor 1 day she came she told me that she wants to be alone she wants space!
    I did many mistakes by trying to get her back ! Now I stopped contacting her following the EX2 sistem
    She left me on 10 th of march, for 1 week I try to convince her to get back with me but oveosly she pushed me more!
    Now she is in Amsterdam and me in Ireland and I’m afraid that my plan won’t work because of that!
    In Ireland I’m still renting a house with her mum and this don’t help my plan because she always tells my ex what I’m doing!
    Please help me and tell me what should I do!
    I told her mum to don’t tell her anything about me, and she did . Than my ex texted me ”there is nothing what can bring us back together, I mean it NOTHING! ”
    So now she killed me with that!
    Please help me!

    • Christian March 23, 2012, 2:31 am

      She will come for Easter in 6 of April for a 3 days what will I do will I move out from the house or will I stay?? Will it be not to soon to meat her??

  • eth March 22, 2012, 6:24 pm

    Im breaking up with my boyfriend
    because he is leaving to europe for a year to study his master. Think is i cant go with him for my work
    but we really love each other we’ve been together for 2 years now
    and im the only girlfriend he’s ever had, he is not the kind of guy who jumps in a relationship like that it took him a while to trust and open up and i cherish that
    but i want to break up with him because i dont think long distance relationship will be healthy for me i will be craving him like crazy
    but when he comes i wish we could get back together, he is the man of my life…and i think by using the no contact rule i can also make him come sooner
    he said he might just be gone for 4 months to a year but i want to prove myself i can have a life of my own without him

  • Justin March 29, 2012, 7:03 am

    So here is a long story summed up a year and a month ago when I left to go to my parents for the week my girlfriend left me via text/phone. I guess things with us were not the best at the end communication started to fall off and she started to slowly hate me and push away I think. The last couple months I was angry with her a lot and I really wasn’t the best. I did and said some pretty cruel things. But I didn’t expect her to leave. I was upset about life and a lot of things and she finally said enough. I was a mess and one of the pleading pathetic guys. I tried coming up with everything I could think of. I deserved to be left. One of those now my eyes are open deals. Problem is I truly loved her and the longer we are apart the more I miss and want her to see me for who I am now. She makes some communication which results in me telling her how I feel and how I still love her and her calling me a **** up and leave her alone. So I do, but she even text me to remind me of our one year break up :/! Like is this normal for me not to be over this should I still fight? Should I still try? Or in cases like this once it’s done it’s done? She has dated a couple guys and has a new boy friend I think she went to high school with. I am still in a pretty harsh depression and torn apart. I just don’t know what to do anymore…..