How To Get Your Ex Back – Step 2

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This is the second part of the three step plan. If you didn’t read Step 1, then click here.

So, now you know what are the things that you SHOULDN’T do to get your ex back. In this Step, I am going to tell you what you should do if you want to win your ex back.

The first and the most important step to win your ex back is to end all communication with them.

Did you just say –

“What if they move on?”

“What if they start dating someone else?”

“What if they forget about our relationship until I keep reminding them how great we were together?”

Good questions. And the answer to all of them is, THEY WON’T.

It’s not easy to forget someone. It’s not easy to move on after a breakup. It’s not easy for you, and it won’t be easy for them. Even though they may look like they are calm and don’t care on the outside, the truth is they are probably hurting as much as you are from the inside. They may start dating someone else but don’t worry about that, as I said in STEP 1, rebound relationships are normal and they will not last long.

I am not asking you to end the contact forever. You will talk to them again, and you will start hanging out with them again; but only after a certain period of time. That period of time can be one week, two weeks or even a month depending on how long it’s been since you broke up. You don’t want to extend it too much that they move on.

You don’t have to tell them that you are ending contact with them. You just do it without informing them. If you work in the same office and can’t avoid each other, then just say Hi when you guys pass each other. Make sure you don’t chat with them unless it’s absolutely necessary. A short casual conversation is okay, but nothing too long.

I realize that for some of you, one month may already have passed. And you may want to skip ahead to the next step. But don’t do it, because there are a few things that you need to do in this step before you can move on to the next step. So make sure complete your assignment for this month before advancing to the next step.

What will you do for one month then?

STOP PANICKING

stop panicking

Pull Yourself Together

First of all, you need to stop panicking. You need to calm down and regain composure. You need to start thinking rationally if you want to win your ex back.

Take a breather. Go out, breath the fresh air, do something that you like doing.

You MUST realize that panicking is not going to help you and you will not be able to get your love back until you are in your senses and thinking rationally.

Calm down and focus. I will tell you about a cool technique that you can use to calm down at the end of STEP 3.

 

START THINKING REASONABLY

The next thing you need to do, is think about why you want to win your ex back?

After a breakup, most people are in a confused and emotional state and they say things to themselves that aren’t true. Things like –

–          I will die if I don’t get my ex back

–          I will never find anyone else

–          I will never be able to love again

All of the above is false. You need to realize that your life will move on with or without your ex. Even if you don’t get your ex back, you will love again and still live a happy life. I am not saying you should forget about getting your ex back, I am just saying that you need to realize that your life is still beautiful and exciting even without your ex. Be the person who loves life and people will start loving you.

beauty

Life is beautiful. Accept it.

Now that we have brought you back to your senses, think about your relationship. Do you really think that you could have a long and healthy relationship with your ex? Think with your brain and not with your heart. Remember how your relationship used to be. You are the best judge in this situation. If you’ve decided that your relationship is worth saving, read on.

FIGURE OUT WHAT WENT WRONG

relationship fights are normal

Relationship Fights are normal, but if it leads to a breakup, then something is wrong

You need to figure out what went wrong in the relationship and work on it. Whatever caused your ex to leave, will make them leave again if you don’t improve yourself.

Each breakup is unique, but most of the time, the true reason behind breakup never comes up while breaking up. Sometimes, your partner will give you a lame excuse like “I just don’t love you anymore” or “this relationship isn’t working”. Even if the reason for breakup was infidelity, think about why they cheated on you.

Men and women both have different needs in a relationship and if you want to have a long lasting happy relationship, you should understand what your partner craves for. When men leave a relationship, it’s because they weren’t getting what they want from a women. No, it’s not sex. Similarly, Women leave a relationship because they are not getting what they crave for, and it’s completely different from what men want.

Take note that we are not going to try using the “I have changed for you” tactic to get your ex back. Logic has very little effect on decisions when such high emotions are involved. But if you do change yourself for the good and work on things together, then you both will stay together in a happy relationship for a long long time.

Get in Shape, Socialize, and Start Enjoying Your Life

There are a few other things that you need to do before you contact your ex.

running is healthy

Exercise daily and make it a routine. You will be glad you did.

-You need to get in your best shape. A half hour of exercise everyday will help release the stress, make you feel better and will keep you in shape.

– You need to start hanging out with your friends. Socializing is important. This is a good time to catch up with your old friends and do things that you enjoy doing.

– You’ll have to start doing what you like. Something that’s your hobby. Or maybe you can get a new hobby.

Now the above things may seem trivial but trust me they are very important. These are the things that will make you realize how wonderful life is and once you start appreciating your life, you will immediately become a lot more attractive to your ex. In addition, they will make you feel healthier and much confident which is absolutely imperative for Step 3.

By the end of this time period, you will be thinking logically and not emotionally and you would’ve decided whether or not you want to give your relationship another chance, you are ready to move on to step 3 aka THE GAME PLAN

Click Here To Go To Step 3

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alvaro
alvaro
12 years ago

sorry, i have a huge problem in my hands and i think i can fix it. Im 15 and so is my ex.We were going out for nine months and a half. We had an amazing relationship at first. Everything felt right, when we had went to islands of adventures, i had a choice between hanging out with my friends or her. We werent together at the time but like we had an affair in a way, so that whole day i spent it with her and i wanted to play a basketball shootout thing, bc i wanted to get… Read more »

csaptar
csaptar
11 years ago
Reply to  alvaro

Talk to her parents and tell them the only reasont hat you did the things you did were because you love her daughter. What can they say to that? Win her back if its the last thing you do.

Joseph Johannes
Joseph Johannes
12 years ago

I just broken up with my girlfiend and she now want to come back to me,and she say she not feeling happy

Ashley
Ashley
12 years ago

She might just be lonely. You don’t know what u got till it’s gone.

Maysa
Maysa
12 years ago

I am still in in my relationship but he decided to freeze everything because he has a lot of problems in his work and his life is in secure, I tried to call him one week ago but he was tough and he said ” what will happen for you if I died? for sure you will move on” I was speachless and I sent him message describes how much I love him and gave him all support. My question is, should I try again and give him love and support or end all contacts? I know he loves me… Read more »

samar
samar
12 years ago

I have a weird problem….. my girlfriend left me because of the compulsion from her parents…

emma
emma
12 years ago
Reply to  samar

that is weird but you know pleasing the parents is hard we cant all win so try win her back by any means and then be respectful to the parents, friendly and prove that your not going to break their little girls heart, my parents are like that and gaining their trust is vital, hope it all works out for you 🙂

frank
frank
12 years ago

My Girlfriend dumped me after i found out she was cheating on me.she stills call me once in a while.we have been out of this relationship for three months now.she is seing someone else at the moment,but she tells me she is not dating.what should i do?

Dave
Dave
12 years ago
Reply to  frank

she cheated on you. honestly? leave it. if it was a mutual, peaceful breakup, then you can consider another course of action. but if she cheated on you, THEN dumped you, you shouldn’t bother about who she sees or what. you’re better off not being played with.

Michael
Michael
11 years ago
Reply to  frank

Exactly what Dave said!

jane
jane
12 years ago

i love this i just hope it works thanks for the help

Eliza
Eliza
12 years ago

My boyfriend dump me becaus we were having more sex than romance. We dated for more than a year. broke up, and still having sex. After 3-4 months he got a new girl. And he’s been dating this girl for 3-4 months, is it possible for us to get back together still?

jessica
jessica
12 years ago

at first i wanted to break up with my boyfriend cause i thought he was cheatin but instead he broke up with me cause i keeep blameing him n now he wont even talk to me what do i do

ahmad
ahmad
11 years ago
Reply to  jessica

ive had that same problem jessica but vice versa

Ashley
Ashley
12 years ago

My ex and I have been split up for three months and I want him back. I have done everything you shouldn’t do and beyond. Is it too late?

emma
emma
12 years ago
Reply to  Ashley

im in the same position you need to give it space hun its what is sort of working for me nothing really solves it they have to realize it and thats the hardest part feeling so useless. But if its meant to be it will be and he will probably realize what he has lost and come running back but leave him be swamping him with emotions just doesnt work 🙁

antony
antony
11 years ago
Reply to  emma

the truth is no matter what you do it will never change a thing if the person you are fighting for is set on moving on in fact everything you do or say will come out wrong and you may end up hurting and hating each other, just give them time to decide that is after expressing your feelings to them…if they dont come back then you focus no your life not necessarily moving up. It is better to be witout someone you love than keep them and hurt them or they hurt because when it comes to that you… Read more »

James
James
12 years ago

My ex girlfriend broke up with me cuz she just wants to be friends but she also kinda likes me she doesn’t know. We’re really good friends but I love her so much. What should I do?

Ashlee
Ashlee
12 years ago
Reply to  James

I say you should just take it slow with her, be good friends for now hangout with her take her out to eat and slowly just be a nice guy and she will realize what she lost. and hopefully come back to you. i wish u the best

Dan
Dan
11 years ago
Reply to  James

I disagree. When a girlfriend wants to just be friends, it’s only bad news because they either want you just for sex.. to play the field while they see you, or to get their own fix of you because they aren’t really ‘over’ you yet. My advice would be to show her that you’re either in her life as a lover, or you’ll completely disappear and move on. Doing anything in between will hurt your feelings and will never help you to heal your broken heart. Don’t do this as an ultimatum, just show it through your actions of being… Read more »

Ashlee
Ashlee
12 years ago

I’m now living with my ex boyfriend because I’m 18 and I left home so I don’t live there anymore, and he texted before I started living with him saying he misses me and wished he never broke up with me etc etc. And now since I’ve been living with him he hasn’t wanted to cuddle or kiss me or anything like that I’m really confused what he wants from me.

Akiya Townes
Akiya Townes
12 years ago

Hi. I started dating this boy on March 20, 2009 and as of right now, im still in love with him. We are no longer together, but we still mess around. He has girlfriends from time to time and so do I (boyfriends/girlfriends). Lately, i’ve been tired of his ways and it seems like all we do is try to get each other mad. I want to be with him, but there is no trust. Im beyond confused and it seems like, I slip more and more each day. what should i do ?

anthony
anthony
12 years ago

I dated my girlfriend for one year. After I started feeling something was wrong. I asked her what was wrong but she always she nothing was wrong. One Friday night she came to my appartment at 3am. I wait until she was asleep and I checked her texts messages and boom. I found out she had gone out to the movies with some guy. I was so furious that I dumped her. She cried and told she loved me and that she messed up on me but she didn’t cheat on me. Two weeks later I can’t deal with pain.… Read more »

darkdeath
darkdeath
12 years ago

Few months ago i broke up with my girlfriend that i still love till now and i can’t forget she’s now with another guy…and she refuse to talk with me i don’t know why she never pick up the phone and she never answers my texts even on facebook she blocked me…i don’t know what to do i think i’ll never get her back 🙁 please if anyone know what i should do except walking away help me

Jo.
Jo.
11 years ago
Reply to  darkdeath

Why did u break up with her and what made you want her back?

David
11 years ago
Reply to  Jo.

Me and this girl dated for maybe 2 weeks then she dumped me and like I absolutly love her still its been like a year and she still remebers. I couldn’t beleve the reason she dumped me I asked if she would hold my hand but then like 20 minutes later she justs has a friend walk up to me and tell me its over! I still have feelings but we talk a few times a month and I was hoping someone could tell me what’s the greatest take me back gift is I know every thing about her so… Read more »

Danny
Danny
11 years ago

Right here is my prediciment I’ve done the step where I agree with the breakup and she asked me to be friends and I said yeh, but I don’t wanna be in the friend zone, so should I tell her it’s too hard to be her friend, or words to that effect? So I get out the friend zone and she thinks that there’s a chance of loosing me like, I’m stuck so any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks

joe hernandez
joe hernandez
11 years ago

I broke up with my girl friend . But now I want her back,but she won’t take me back.and I made all of the mistakes that were listed. She is now on a dating website. She also said she was starting to hate me because I kept calling her and texting her. It’s been a month now do I still have a chance. She also said once she made her mind its final.

Jo.
Jo.
11 years ago
Reply to  joe hernandez

Why did you break up with her and what made you want her back?

Elise
Elise
11 years ago
Reply to  joe hernandez

I dont know what mistakes you made but you can always get an ex back.. Stop txting her get busy with your life Stop for a few days and see if she contacts you And if she does than maybe she cares a little bit dont reply to fast though because u wanna make it out that your living your life.. Maybe even send her a msg right now saying Look ive been thinking and i understand where ur comming from im sorry i misunderstood But i agree with you.. If she doesnt come back, move on 🙂 Everyone wants… Read more »

unkown
unkown
11 years ago

Hi. My ex and i have been going out and living together for a year. we broke up in february. I broke up with him because he it was too soon for us to live together at 19. We began arguing alot. first few months was great then things became complicated, stressing with the bills and everything else. we started letting out anger out on eachother. i love him so much and he loves me too .he was always scared i would find someone else when we were together, cheat on him or something, but i never did because i… Read more »

unkown
unkown
11 years ago
Reply to  unkown

We never talked right after we broke up.i tried to get him alone to talk but he refuse to..

michael
michael
11 years ago

Me and my girl was together for 9 months I got over her couple times but her problems was I was too serious and too emotional which is true but we was together for 9 months we did somethings but we never sleep together me and her wasnt talkin for some times but then just yesterday idk y we hang out and I started begging her bak she let me touch her and all but she told me she like sometime else which i kno it is true cuz he told my best she will say that so I can… Read more »

jen
jen
11 years ago

me and my ex broke up in february because he was ‘too swarmed in work’ and I love him so much. we got talking again and he told my mate he was gonna get back to me when college finished but he started ignoring me about a month and a half ago and his college finished a couple of weeks ago. I don’t know what to do >.<

Angela
Angela
11 years ago

My boyfriend just broke up with me the other night because he said he didnt feel happy in the relationship… But everything seemed ok and when we hung out he seemed very happy and now he changed his mind… I just really want him back! Is there any chance that we will get back?

Scott
Scott
11 years ago

my girlfriend and i have been together 3 years its mostly been long distance but when im home we are great together we broke up about 2 weeks ago she said she needed space and was unhappy. she is now dating someone else i know in my heart that she is for me what do i do to get her back and yea ill b home in 9 months

jesus
jesus
11 years ago

is it possible to wait at least 3 months intill you try to get your ex back

Menna
Menna
11 years ago

I have been together with my ex boyfriend for 5 months, we were great together .. before I had been together with him, I had another ex boyfriend before and just when we went together he told me not to talk to him again. I said that I should stop contact with him, but I did not. Not that I still like him, no, because I thought we could be good friends .. We talked for a while. but me and my boyfriend had some other problems to solve as well, he thought I talked a little too much with… Read more »

Jay
Jay
11 years ago

I was with my girl for 6 and 3/4 years but she finished the relationship after i stopped trying for her, its been almost two months since we were together. Shes now saying that she wants to be able to live her life and shes doesnt know if she will ever want to get back with me, but i know she still loves me and im absolutely crazy about her. Please someone help me!

lucia
lucia
11 years ago

My boyfriend cheated on me with my friend and now he is telling me that he needs space so that he can think of what he wants,I still want to be with him

lucia
lucia
11 years ago

I love my boyfriend so much but he told me that i have to give him space even though he’s the one who is wrong and he also told me that I’m too much for him,but at the very same time he doesn’t want to lose me and what hurts the most is that he slept with my friend and they work together,I really need help cause I don’t know what to do

JG
JG
11 years ago

my friend swore at my bf and said enough crap…i said the f word and called him an ass-hole and he will not come back to me and i cannot live without him i really need him in my life what should i do how can i get him back and keep him to be just mine

rosco
rosco
11 years ago

Well I beleive that it is not concieveable for my relationship to work again. I love my ex to death and want him back in my life today. We were together for four years and had a child together. We recently split about 3 to 4 months ago and he admitted that he was seeing someone else before we split and they are now engaged to marry. I just dont see this happening. I have made all the mistakes of begging, being his doormat, making phone calls to his new girlfriend, and loosing my mind. I dont think this will… Read more »

Tom
Tom
11 years ago

My gf of almost 3 years broke up with me because she said that God told her to. She is very religious and i dont know what to do. I believe that she broke up because i havent been treating her right and she met another person to treat her right. The problem with this break-up is that we were in a long distant relationship and this new guy that she left me for lives in her city. I feel like i was outmatched…this website says to end all communication but what if she talks to me through IM? What… Read more »

keaira
11 years ago

I recently was in a relationship with a 51 year old man and I’m 31 years old I really cared about him he did everthing for me I caught him cheating several times before and acted like a kid real bad and now he talks to me on phone when I call but he doesn’t call me and will not come over its been about 2 and a half months now we dated for a year I am so miserable withouyt him because we did everything together what am I going to do I want him back I have prayed… Read more »

Gregg
Gregg
11 years ago

Hey, um i did all of the mistakes and when she dumped me i felt like crap and she did it through a friends phone.. after .. i went out with one of her bestfriends and i am still going out with her and a few weeks ago i secretly was flirting with my ex while going out with her friend .. my ex was talking about how she missed me and it was a mistake dumping me and i said how much i love her .. she didnt really do he same and blah blah blah this went on… Read more »

Bob
Bob
11 years ago

I broke up with my ex for about 3 years now.
In that time I’ve got other girlfriends (not rebounds), but she hasn’t.

Only recently she got a new boyfriend.
However, in that 3 years we make eye contact when we see each other. And i called her to congratulate for her graduation and we had a nice going conversation.

I miss her and i want her back,
or to just be on good terms with her.

Any advice?

Rob
Rob
11 years ago

i broke up with my ex girlfriend about a week ago. she told me that it was because i was too dependent on her, and that whenever i had the slightest problem i would tell her about it. i didn’t know it was having such an effect on her, but it built up and up. and when i fell into a depression i asked for her help and she basically said no. and that she didn’t want to deal with my “shit” anymore , and that she wasn’t the kind of person who could deal with other peoples problems. we… Read more »

Bo
Bo
11 years ago

Hi Kevin, I met my current boyfriend in highschool, we dated for two years but it was on and off… and when he graduated highschool, he went oversea to study. After that he met his ex gf, and they dated for 4 years… I’m not sure what went wrong.. but they broke up… he told me that because their personalities werent matched… and he still has feelings for me while he was dating her… and so thats how we got back together… today was her birthday, i accidently read the email he sent her… he was calling her baby and… Read more »

concerned
concerned
11 years ago

i recently just split up with my gf of 6 months. the reason why because i was teasing her about her and her exes sex life. this pissed her off. she told me id be doing it for 5 months. so when she finished me i said id change. but she denied me the chance and told me i should of realized i was making her unhappy. problem was i didnt. and why i didnt realize was because she always seemed happy around and she never ever did tell me how she felt. i kept asking her how she felt… Read more »

Tyler
Tyler
11 years ago

My girlfriend. Said she wanted to find herself. And find her real friends. She also said he never loved me and that he was incapable to love. We have broken up 3 times already all because she was angry and or sad. I never did wrong according to what others say. Heck even her friends say I did the right thing. But now 3 months later. I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s gorgeous,beautiful eyes and I accept all her flaws. I want her back. She made me so happy <3…Some one give me a clue onto how I can… Read more »

Tyler
Tyler
11 years ago

Sorry I ment she ^^^^

pan
pan
11 years ago

Hey Kev, i did the mistakes about 2 weeks after break up , now she talks to me a little better , but she don’t believe I Love her . she left me for I’m not loving her and I didn’t put my attention on her . and now she says she’s not loving me like first days . we’ve been friend about 2 years . My Question is : what if she text me and says she said right , i’m not loving her and this is beacuse i’m not texting her or calling her anymore . What I… Read more »

mandeep d
mandeep d
11 years ago

hi,i am in indian boy and i was in a relationship with a german girl.we met in india on her’ sister’ marriage.and then we fell in love..we spent some time together on internet and we were in great love.but i did something stupid and i broke her trust and she left me.i wanna get her back.i have already done 1st mistake…..like doormat syndrome…..so i m not gonna do it more…..i am gonna try this tips and hope i will get her ….has someone any more tip to get her back???

dominic
dominic
11 years ago

What if she’s says she’s never getting back with u. Do u still have a chance?

michelle
michelle
11 years ago

Hi, well its kind of a long story but I lost my ex to my ex best friend that I’ve known all my life they had a kid together he also had 2 with me, after 2 yrs being seperated we finally got back together for him to do the unthinkable which was to cheat on me with her for 3 months I found out he was sorry I forgive him and carried on the relationship but I started to get paranoid cause they had to have contact cause of the kid he has with her we have now broken… Read more »

Dale
Dale
11 years ago

Hi there, I am a 40 year old man, I was in a relationship that I was completely in love with her and we had out difficulties like any other couple. We both came from bad marriages, we both had about the same amount of time of separation from our former. I believe I did everything in the relationship you said not to do, I gave her my power, I was over affectionate, I was not in control of my emotions and the result was she said” she did not see our relationship as long term” even though she said… Read more »

BOB
BOB
11 years ago

Since i was a junior in high school I been dating this girl for about 5 years on/off but 3 and half consecutive years dating. we loved eachother, and couldnt be happier with anyone else. I am 21 and she is 19 and we have been highschool sweethearts but we have dated other people during high school as well. But anyways I decided to go down to orlando,fl for school and my gf at the time wanted to go with me. In addition to that I graduated college and we both headed back to live where we grew up and… Read more »

jackson
jackson
11 years ago

my gf left because she said her feelings faded and she don’t want to continue… how?? 🙁

Brooke
Brooke
11 years ago

I feel kinda dumb writing this, but I don’t know what else to do. A few months ago, my ex had started texting me and we started talking again. I was really hurt over our break-up, and really wanted to be with him, but ultimately, I broke it off, which I’m sure is what we both were wanting. But then, he started talking to me again, and we have gotten a lot closer. I decided that I didn’t want to move too fast with him, but I also wanted to make sure that our relationship was going somewhere. I had… Read more »

jay
jay
11 years ago

me and my ex had been together for 6 years,we have a child together a couple of months we decided to have a break, and after a while i couldnt handle this and broke every step no she is so mad at me for texting and basically making her life a misery i stay in her house on the wekend to look after my son and she goes out im so jealous and i argue all the time with her and cry like a baby and cant stop thinking of her as it is hard when she is right in… Read more »

Joey
Joey
11 years ago

Hi, ok im going to skip to the main points cause its to long to explain, i have been with for 2 years and 8 months. towards the end of our relationship i pushed her away cause i wasnt sure what i wanted anymore. and she told me she wanted a break. i won her back but still wasnt ready so when she asked for me back i told her no not yet which broke her heart in return she started hanging out with her freinds more and started to no longer love me and broke up with me officially.… Read more »

Mina
Mina
11 years ago

Hello Kevin,

My boyfriend dumped me 2 months ago, because, as he said, he is no longer in love
we didn’t contact each other since that day. Do you think I have a chance?
What should I do now?

daniyal mehdi
daniyal mehdi
11 years ago

her father didnot like me when i met with her parents so what u would u suggest 4 me;so her father was the reason of broke up

kellie
kellie
11 years ago

hi i was with my partner for nearly 6years we have just recently broken up. im not sure why thou.. we still live together and everything.. getting to me as i always think about him. he told me that he just wants to get the bond good between us then next he dont wont to.. im soo confused!!! dont knw what to do or believe. i brought him a ring before we broke up and hes the only guy i have done that for.. we had the best relationshp ever i dont know what went wrong! please need advice

Mike
Mike
11 years ago

I’ve just gotten out of a two year relationship with my ex girlfriend. We broke up couple times through out our relationship for a day or two; no more. There was no major concern, we never cheated on each other we were just fighting over everything. Its been about 2 weeks since we split and I did make few bad mistakes in first week, but you have to realize its not easy to just turn off your feelings. if you fallow this guide it truly helps. Some of this stuff is common sense. You never want the other person to… Read more »

Birgitta
Birgitta
11 years ago
Reply to  Mike

Not easy to delete Memories of 21 Years and 2 Kids….!! Memories are everywhere ! Hundreds of Photo Albums, All your Furniture , A life built together….Hm.

lisa
lisa
11 years ago

My ex boyfriend met a philippino woman online,he talked her for about month,he went too see her for a week,and now i hear he is bringing her here and he is going too marry her,before he left too go see her he told me he loved and wanted me forever and when he got back he told me it was over with me and him will his marriage work?And does he love me still or is he in love with this other woman that he spent a week with,he hasnt called me and i called him twice since he has… Read more »

Nicole
Nicole
11 years ago

I’m 20 and 6 1/2 months pregnant. And recently Me and my boyfriend broke up. We were together 10 months lived with each other and within in the past month.. I honestly became a little crazy just picking fights. I mean we would fight over everything and I was just crAZY calling him a million times. Until he just snapped a d broke up with me. For days I lost it crying All day and begging for him back. I have completely calmed down and realized I actually was crazy and I feel horrible. I want more than anything to… Read more »

Sam j
Sam j
11 years ago

I am a 58 year old married man. Back in 2005 I met this woman. It was spontaneous combustion. In short time we fell head over heels in love with each other. My wife found out. I told my gf that I would get a divorce when my daughter graduated from high school. Things did not work out that way. Come 2008 I was still not divorced. Finally I separated in 2008 and went to live with my gf and put the house for sale. It was a wonderful time. But in early 2009 I lost my job and i… Read more »

Dawn
Dawn
11 years ago
Reply to  Sam j

I did something similar, I am 40 years old, in a loveless marriage, and started having an affair with a love from my childhood. I only started talking to him 6 months ago, and he was begging me to leave my husband. I kept telling him I was waiting for a sign from God. Well, I finally got my sign and decided to leave my husband, the problem is he met someone a couple weeks ago and now no longer wants me. I am so heartbroken and desperate, and have made every single one of the mistakes that I’ve seen… Read more »

the sad clown
the sad clown
11 years ago

my story is im 23 i met her “18” few months ago at “321 teenchat” we loved each other they say im a wise person n i only speak of heart n mind n experience but idk somehow with her i became someone else maybe bc she teased my jealousy but i loved her so much but i kept breaking up n back n breaking up n back but last time wen i was upset enough to tell her im fed up with her n dont wanna her anymore my mother had a heart attack for her first time in… Read more »

abc
abc
11 years ago

its almost one year, when my ex broke up with me. i still love him but he didn’t .i had proposed him twice . when i proposed him third time , he explained me that he can’t give me that very place at which i was once. he was in love with me at that time but now he is not. we are now just good friends not more than that. but i want to be . what should i do?? help me plz

Cole
Cole
11 years ago
Reply to  abc

I’m having the same problem just a little younger so no proposing, if you find someone to help you should tip them of to help me, thanks

mommy2
mommy2
11 years ago

Me and my now ex were together 5 years went through alot of stuff together bad and good we have 2 kids together and still live together but our relationship was finally starting to get better after a year of me and him fighting constantly we did stuff together more and things started to get better then he decides to sleep with someone and twice in a week he didn’t come home I think its wrong what he did to me i don’t understand why he would decide to sleep with someone when things with me and him were starting… Read more »

Jasmin
Jasmin
11 years ago

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 1/2 years. I’m 19 and his 21, we have a daughter together and she is 15months old. He just finished with me last week and moved out the house the same day. I can’t bare to live without him, it’s made it worse as my dad has got involved. My boyfriend and I were on speaking terms and were being sociable, friendly. He said we can still have sex and that but no him and my dad were texting each other being very nasty to one another and now my boyfriend… Read more »

Bryan
Bryan
11 years ago

hi, me and my ex recently broke up 1 weeks ago. she said she broke up with me beacuase she wasnt happy. She said i was the sweetest boy she had ever met and that she still likes me alot and loves me but it just wasnt working. We usually texted eathother almost everyday so i dont know how im going to pull off the end all communication step without her thinking im avoiding her beacuase we go to the same highschool so she’ll probably see me and ask why i havent talked to her. Anyways, she recently tried rebound… Read more »

Cole
Cole
11 years ago

Ok so about 6 months ago me and my ex broke up we had been going out for 11 months i dumped her because she was super clingy(like crying if i dressed out in gym and she didnt and i wouldnt skip) so about 2 months later she a total diffrent person and i was just like omg because she was the person i started dating and i found out later that it was family issues i didnt know about so i asked her out and she said yea but 2 days later she dumped me for a guy named… Read more »

Tricia
Tricia
11 years ago
Reply to  Cole

sooner or later she will realize that he is using her and will get out of it. she may also be doing it cuz shes hurt and mad that you hurt her. right now all you have to offer is tough love and be there when she falls.

blah i need help
blah i need help
11 years ago

hi im 16 i had a 20 yr old gf. im a girl myself. my gf and i were going out for a yr. and 1 month but we could hardly see eachother bc of my parents and my sisters. but we always found a way. and we resently broke up and like 2 weeks later i walked to her house by surprize and tht nite she told me tht she was “talking” to this guy and tht i need to move on also but i know she still loves me i just dont know wat to doo any more?… Read more »

Cusp.Guy
Cusp.Guy
11 years ago

I fell in love with this beautiful girl, in my class. The thing is, my best friend also found her attractive. I’ve known him from 7 years.. for best friends, we didnt have a lot in common. He the typical player.. kinda guy,who just wants to use girls. Very immature… well it disgusts me. So he asked her out,and she, knowing what a jerk he is,denied him. I grew rly close to her… When it all flet right, I asked her out.. (Was the first time i ever asked a girl out).. and well she said yes ! 😀 …… Read more »

Katie m
Katie m
11 years ago
Reply to  Cusp.Guy

So sweet, give your self a chance to move on before making a decision x

Tricia
Tricia
11 years ago

ok so me and this guy i love are going through a very hard time. a few weeks a go i told him i was hit by a guy but i didnt tell him that before the guy hit me that i lightly hit him on the arm but when my now ex found out that part he got mad and hurt. he started to say i was a lier when i didnt mean to leave that part out and then he started to say i was a cheater (i found out he thought that through my best friend) he… Read more »

Tyler
11 years ago

my girl broke up with me because she said i was controlling theres this guy right that wouldnt leave her alone before we started dating then when she goes to sit down with her friend hes there flirting with her. i got mad and i told her i just dont want that souchebag around you she goes that douchebag is named chris and she then said couple hours later that shes not ready for a relationship after a month

i just dont know what to do :/

Raymond
Raymond
11 years ago

I was in a relationship is my ex that lasted 3 years. both of us were not in a position to get married. we were great together. each shared the many of the same interests. We could talk with each other for hours everyday. I know a lot of the problems were my fault but they were things we could have over-come. I lost my job, had trouble in my family.. basically was under a lot of stress. emotionally I was a mess and depressed. I loved her and we were planning on getting married, one day. just sometimes I… Read more »

Dustin
Dustin
11 years ago

Alright look i have a serious problI m here and i’ve done everything wrong to fix it so far. Me and y girl were together for 2.5 yrs and have a daughter that is freshly 2, but she broke up with me because she says i correct her to much and wont tell me anything other than that. Now i know i treated her wrong for the first 6 months but i just moved to this state and she was my 1 night stand. so figuring that we stuck it out and had baby, i thought maybe i should try… Read more »

Jeremy
Jeremy
11 years ago

I am in dire need of help. I am 23 and need help getting my ex girlfriend back cause she means the world to me, she was the first girl I said I Love You To which I know from the minute I saw her and also the first girl I Introduced to my family. My girlfriend and had the perfect or so I thought, we were getting ready to move in with each other and talked about getting married and starting a family and then it all happened so fast cause we go from her tell me that she… Read more »

Laura
Laura
11 years ago

im so confused right now just recently broke up with fiance. we were together 3 years and have two children together. we lived together for 2 years but after the birth of my second child i became so busy looking after her that i didnt pay my fiance as much attention as i would of liked. i thought we were getting on fine although we did have our arguments, usually about money, or lack of it. a couple of months back after going away to america for just over a week to a job interview, my fiance came back acting… Read more »

Jennifer
Jennifer
11 years ago

My boyfriend and I were dating for a little over a year. We dated when we were younger, he moved away, and when he moved back we picked up where we left off. We have been living together since he came back. He broke up with me two days ago. Last night he comes over crying, saying how sorry he is. He cant sleep, he cant eat, he cant think straight. He loves me so much and our son (7 months old) but hes not ready for the responsibility. He is not the type of man that cries over just… Read more »

katelin
katelin
11 years ago

hi me and my ex broke up in August and we just became good friends again either last month or the month before and i have a boyfriend but i don’t see him at all and i think hes more of a rebound boyfriend and anyway i still like my boyfriend and we’ve been off and on for 4 years i don’t know what to do someone help.

katelin
katelin
11 years ago
Reply to  katelin

ex-boyfriend

ger
ger
11 years ago

Hi my ex left me 19 months ago she moved on with someone else just after a week I.chased her for a year or so and fought end on end for her but she changed her number and is still living with this guy I am still shattered I did my fair of mistakes I got caught chatting with a fake profile on fb it was all a set up I ended my career I lost my family and every single thing I was manipulated in everything I still love her deep down now destiny because of my work got… Read more »

Megan
Megan
11 years ago
Reply to  ger

Don’t worry! Police can’t arrest you! But, they can arrest her new boyfriend for hurting you!

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  ger

Hey…. I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. I know that you’re desperate and you don’t want to hear anyone tell you to give up, but here’s the deal. It’s been a really long time and I know that it must’ve been such a huge pain in your chest to live through it, but… You’ve gotta see things from her perspective. All she wants to do is to be happy and she wants the same for you. Sure, she probably doesn’t love you the same way she used to, but she loves you for being a part of a… Read more »

kiki
kiki
11 years ago

My boyfriend just broke up with me because I told him how I felt, and he said that nxt time to think before I tell him how I feel because if he had a bad day it’ll piss him off. I told him I felt like he was irritated with me, && I didn’t know why, and he freaked. Its hard to handle this because we have a 6 month old baby together, and we havnt had a day apart sence we started dating, && now I think he hates me, he always has girls sleep over even while we… Read more »

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  kiki

Alright… Here’s the thing kiki. Your boyfriend obviously didn’t appreciate having you around since you two were together. I don’t even know the whole story of how you two got together or anything so I’m not going to judge anyone. Thing is… There are a ton of guys who just don’t know how to behave around a girl. Especially, when they’ve had it bad themselves, be it another relationship or some scarring event. I honestly can’t say much, but judging from what you’ve said… That boyfriend of yours uses you to just vent himself out of stressful situations and on… Read more »

kiki
kiki
11 years ago

P.s. we still live together..

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  kiki

In that case, it’d be kinda hard to get some alone time without it seeming like you’re avoiding him… But… try to get out for most part… You could try bringing him out with your friends to a mall or some park to sit down and relax or something like that… It’s always nice to get a little outside depending on where you live, but don’t let this get too hard on you okay? 🙂 Be happy and be yourself… You’ll heal overtime and he’ll see the changes… Do something cute and give him a little something over time and… Read more »

Staley Anderson
Staley Anderson
11 years ago

my ex told all of her friends there was no way she would give me a second chance. they told me that and she hasn’t talked to me since. i dont know if it is true because her friends are mad at me and i think there just telling me that. she hasn’t told me anything.

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago

Alright. Most friends are there for each other and I highly doubt that they’re making up a story. Sorry about that. Thing is… It’s really hard on a girl when she breaks up and she just has to tell somebody and these somebodies are most likely to be her friends. Though they may not understand that she was just stressed at the time, she might be healing as time goes on. If her friends are mad at you then you should try to avoid them because they don’t understand the situation at all. Be yourself and try to leave her… Read more »

tina
tina
11 years ago

Hi
my ex broke up with me a year ago but we have been on and off ever since, the whole friends with benefits things. i wanted to get back together but i ended up doing all those things in step one that he told us not to do. now he thinks im needy and wants nothing to do with me he said. i really want to change how he thinks of me cause im not this needy person. but he said he has no interest nor does he care…..is this fixable?!!!

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  tina

Listen, yeah it does screw up your chances of getting your bf back for doing those needy stunts and all, but it’s not completely over. Thing is, trying to get him to see you as a different person is another needy stunt, but nonetheless an effort worth trying. If he really doesn’t care, then maybe you should understand that you need to stop trying to make him see you. Put yourself in his shoes and try to see yourself without your feelings, but his. It’s kind of hard to think that way, but it’s something that you should know about… Read more »

Sean
Sean
11 years ago

My ex and I dated for 9 months (although we had been practically together for about a year and 3/4, we just couldn’t be together for a few reasons). Anyways, she’s 16 and I’m 19. I was the happiest I’d ever been in my life while dating her and she was my dream girl. Then in August she decided to end it because I wouldn’t hang out with most of her friends and because she wanted to dye her hair and get a few piercings (which I was against). She told me that we could be together again at some… Read more »

Nicole
Nicole
11 years ago
Reply to  Sean

Sean write back just so i know u still come on

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  Sean

Alright… Well, it’s one thing that you still love her and that she seems to be giving you a bit of hints here and there, but the most important thing is that you care so much about this and that you don’t want to screw it up. Thing is, no one knows that girl as much as you do. So taking tips from some random people online isn’t exactly recommended however, if you really want an opinion. Then here’s mine. Ofcourse you have a chance in having her back, but try not to blow it. If I were you I… Read more »

Audrey
Audrey
11 years ago

I was seeing a guy for almost a year and despite the fact that he had told me on more than one occasion that he wanted to be official with me, I choose not to despite the fact that I felt the same way because his friends would always get involved in our relationship. Now that we haven’t spoken in a couple of months I realized more than ever that I miss having him in my life and want him back. The only thing is I do not know how to go about getting him back??? Especially because he just… Read more »

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  Audrey

Here… My insight on this involves no judgement of the best choice, but instead the choice that I find most suiting from this situation. If you talk to him and find yourself sounding desperate when he’s dating this other girl, you’re making a big mistake. All he wanted was to have this special someone to be there for him and he’s just so lost without you that he ended up going for another to help him up hence a “rebound” relationship. Instead, you should talk to him and try to avoid the subject of his new girlfriend. Though he may… Read more »

NR
NR
11 years ago

Hello, me and wife we had argument one day over her sister and i took a nap after that argument and when i wake up i found she left the house with my son and she refused to talk to me at all for 6 months and after i did all the miss takes that was in the first page she filed for deforce i did the same mistakes again that was listed in the first page but that made her to stop the divorce filing but she is refusing that i see my son 2 years old, and she… Read more »

Daniel
Daniel
11 years ago
Reply to  NR

Okay… Nothing hurts a family more than a divorce. Be it a father, mother, and especially the son…. We’re both men right? We do what men do best and stay strong despite the situation and I know it’s tough to do especially when this happened. But atleast she isn’t divorcing you so thank God for that. So here… If you want to say something to her I’d recommend that you take some time yourself to heal. By the looks of it, she’s giving you a chance and she knows that it’s going to be a long time before she’d want… Read more »

Angela
Angela
11 years ago

One month ago today my ex ended our relationship of 6 years. We lived together and he moved out. We still have to pay on the lease until I can move. There was no contact for a week or so then I tried to talk to him after I thought about it. I’ve messed up by doing what I wasn’t supposed to do. I text, I called and we e-mailed each other. The last was sent the morning of Thanksgiving. It was not ended well. So later today I was about to write another doing a complete turn around from… Read more »

Mary
Mary
11 years ago

Im in love with a man that is supposed to be my man, but since he started this job on a crazy shift he hasnt been around and avoids my phone calls. The last time I talked to him and was over there it was like normal. he hugged and laid on my shoulder while holding my hand. He told me when I told I didnt know if I still had a man or not anymore. He said that I do, but he just didnt want me to be mad that he has to work sometimes on his day off… Read more »

Noel
Noel
11 years ago

My boyfriend (for the past 2 years) Dumped me 2 weeks ago for a man. He says were still friends but whenever I talk to him he ignores me. He has dumped me before saying he needs time. Then he always comes back saying he’s so sorry and that he’ll never do it again. Same with fights. But this time it’s different. He’s bean with 3 people sense the breakup. He is NOT a player. He’s not social at all. But for some reason his entire personality has changed. He still leaves voicemails saying something along the lines of “Hey… Read more »

Jessica
Jessica
11 years ago

Hello. First of all thanks for takeing the time to read this. Okay so me and my boyfriend went out for a good 2 weeks i broke up because i didnt think i wanted a relationship with him. Soon after he got a date to Homecoming and so did i but we both confessed we still liked eachother and planned to have a relationship after . But right after homecoming he stopped talking to me and its been over 4 weeks of him not talking to me so i thought i would do the same i deleted him off of… Read more »

Dave
Dave
11 years ago

My ex-gf broke up with me a few weeks ago for no reason. She said she was losing feelings for me and it wasn’t working out. I think she was confused because she would say a lot of nice things to me before the break-up. We didn’t talk for a while but last week I called her and she said she missed me and it was nice talking to me. That got me happy but a few days ago I texted her saying I missed hearing voice and think about her and she said she misses me sometimes…Today I called… Read more »

jack
jack
11 years ago

i went out with this girl for 3 weeks but she ended it with me because she was having famaily problems and she dident feel right with me anymore but she said i was perfect it was all her wat can i do to get her back because i love her so much and i am so deppresed?

Adrienne
Adrienne
11 years ago

So I was with the love of my life for nine months. We broke up and he goes out and madeout with two different girls. So I did the same but with guys. Now he like good friends with one of the girls and he says there’s nothing going on. He told me we just need a break “time”. Well were still not together and I went to a party with him and we picked her up and it was totally awkward her being there. Then she was flirting with him. I mean I still love him and he knows… Read more »

MinSyd
MinSyd
11 years ago

OK, so in your words: ” rebound relationships are normal and they will not last long. ”

What if I am the rebound relationship? What chance have I got?

Bet you don’t have any answers for that one!!!

Kevin
Kevin
11 years ago

So i was dating my girlfriend for almost two years. We had bit of a fight abut 10 monts ago, she said we broke up…whatever i dont remember that. Anyway…about a month later she tell me that she cheated and she was pregnant with this guys baby. Every fiber in my body wanted to tell her to get the %$#^ out, but i could not just leave her alone, she was scared and confused. So i helped her threw that hard time, she got an abortion, I NEVER said anything about it, its her body i supported whatever desition she… Read more »

Kevin
Kevin
11 years ago

I just hurts that she can just act like i dont matter, to her, and say things that she would never say to me, she is a good person, and amazing person i just dont want to loose her!

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

I have been with my ex for 5 years. I broke up with him over the summer. We got back together after 3 mo apart. We then dated for another 5 mo. I broke up with him again the other day. This is why…. His parents don’t approve of me, because I’m not catholic and I have two children. For years he said that we would work things out with them, but never did anything about it. So I was never involed with this aspect of his life. Hard to see that he would ever move forward with me after… Read more »

Sayed Nayem
Sayed Nayem
11 years ago

i dont recognize what mistakes i have done & she said me once that she has given me few chances but i didnt make it work……………………….

katie
katie
11 years ago

my boyfriend for almost three years just dumped me coz he can’t accept the real me. he’s trying to changr me for who am i now. i asked him to stay and will try to be the girl he wanted to be but still nothing happened. i will always get out of my shell. still do the same things and worst i tried to kill myself after the break up. do i really have to move on and accept the fact that he is no longer mine? i love him..

Charlie
Charlie
11 years ago

Well Ive been with Olivia for a year and 3 months, and Ive figured out what has went wrong, im not the same person I used to be. But I love her so much. What should I do? She said she loves me but isn’t in love with me. I just don’t know what to do.

kia
kia
11 years ago

my girlfriend broke up with me well took a break because of the distance she lives in one state and im in another we have been together for almost a year 11 months to be exact, but she says she cant deal with the distance when she want me to be there im not and it seems as if she by herself anyways and like i`ve told her you are not the only one feeling that way i am too but i would never break up with you i rather stick things out and work our problems out and with… Read more »

manda
manda
11 years ago

So me and my ex have been broken up for a year now. We were together for almost 3 years and most of high school we broke up junnior year. Were both seniors now. I wasn’t a very good gf. I cheated on him and lost his trust..I didn’t have sex with the guys I cheated on him with..it was just kissing. I messed up and realized how much I loved him after it all happened. He stayed with me but he was never the same. He just wanted me for amazing sex which is what kept our relationship going… Read more »

Patrick
Patrick
11 years ago

My problem, I have been dating this girl for 13 months. She told me 2 weeks ago that she only sees me as a friend. I was devestated and I have been trying to just be her friend for those two weeks. The other day we went somewhere and she said she wanted to see if she felt anything again and she didnt. She then asked me to go with her somewhere tomorrow to try again. What do I say to get her to love me again. Someone please help me. I lost 44 pounds for her I look a… Read more »

michelle
michelle
11 years ago

Okay im 17 years old and i was with my bf for almost 6 months. we were happy and great and doing well for 5 outta 6 months the last month he was thinking of breaking up with me but didnt cause he was seeing if it could get better. But i guess it didnt i guess my low self esteem came back and got hair extesions and i changed myself and he didnt like it and we kept fighting and fighting. so he finally 2 days before our 6 month he broke up with me on sunday. and we… Read more »

man
man
11 years ago

me and my kids mom split up awile back i have been hounding her to work out our family she does not want to wat do i do

akanshya
akanshya
11 years ago

i was in a relation with my classmate for the last 3 months. before him i had another boyfriend. now he came to know about us. he created many problems so i told him i will go back to him which i did not mean at all. this has affected my present relation a lot. my boy friend broke up with me. but i only love him. cant go back to my past. plz help me in getting my love back.

kate
kate
11 years ago

hey, well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 22 months, and three days ago he was in love with me, telling me he loves me, and now he says he doesn’t want a relationship and it doesnt feel the same and he doesnt love me. i don’t believe it can change that quick but he seems to think it does. i screwed it up because i got mad at him for small stuff and then had a massive go at him, do i still have a chance? 2 months ago he said the same thing, he didn’t want… Read more »

helen
helen
11 years ago

hi, okay so like i dont know what to do because my ex broke up with me saying ‘its not u its me ‘ and well im pretty sure he moved on and when his friends keep saying other girls are better looking than me so i guess he likes someone else and yeah i messed up by telling him i love you keep on texting him and showing my emotions to him and we just lasted 4months and well i really dont have any idea what to do now but once this christmas he text me just saying ‘merry… Read more »

leoo
leoo
11 years ago

so i still like my ex :/ i havent seen her for like 8 months which is pretty sad 🙁 specially for a guy ; im just a guy with feelings that actually likes to be in love with the right girl ; i havent talk to her for a while but im dying ;i just wanna grab her in my arms and kiss her in her forehead and tell her how much i miss her :'( i literally looked for other girls but its not the same for me! i really want her back in my life maybe im… Read more »

tara
tara
11 years ago

i really love him this is crazy how could you.let four years go to.be with someone else? is it.something.men go.through to.find they self? woll he be back because i was good to.him we didnt have major.problems

Claudette
Claudette
11 years ago

A guy used to like me and he was telling all of his friends that I am his ideal girl. He started making moves to win me and I fell for him. we dated for a month but we never got officially termed boyfriend-girlfriend. He showed a lot of passion and effort by texting me, waiting for me until my dance training classes just to get me home and we spent almost all day together. Until 2 days passed that we didnt see each other, he stopped texting me and he just stopped contacting me. a few days later he… Read more »

Chillyandy
Chillyandy
11 years ago

Hi, My boyfriend got married before one month but after four days of marriage he said I am sorry. And we started meeting & calling & texting each other. His wife is staying in her parents house coz of rituals. We meet daily basis. But now I text him or call him lesser than last week. I want him to crve for me more & come back as soon as possible. He got married out of family prssures without even meeting with that girl. Please tell me how to get him back in my life for forever & ever. I… Read more »

Chillyandy
Chillyandy
11 years ago

Hi,

My boyfriend says he has lost trust as I did not discussed my earlier realtionships openly with him & in every matter kept him aside, he thinks he ant trust ne whereas I trust him blindly. Please guide me to get him in my life back.

bill
bill
11 years ago

My GF and I were together for 3 years. I thought I loved her but I guess in the end I wasnt “in love” with her. I broke it off a couple of times and she would blow my cell up with calls and texts. Well, needless to say, we got back together and she and I this last time around went for 8 months before SHE broke up with me telling me she fell out of love. Now, during this last 8 month period something odd happened to me, I truly fell in love with her. Like frigging head… Read more »

jessica
jessica
11 years ago
Reply to  bill

I am in the same boat! did anything ever work?

mann
mann
11 years ago

my gf left me .one day she texted me i dont want to know u now.goodby.i asked her why ,she didn’t replied me back.nor did i contacted her later.
shuld i ask her by calling her why she dont me now or?

Albert
Albert
11 years ago

Me and my ex broke up christmas day. In the past few week I called she wouldnt answer i text she doesnt answer she tells mutal friends that its over and i need to move on. when we see each other she makes it a point to not look at me and not talk. I done the love letters the sending flowers to the job ill admitt i sent the drunk messages and texts. now im to the point where i dont text or call im giving her space and time when i sent the flowers a guy called me… Read more »

Code
Code
11 years ago

Dated this girl for four months.. lives in my hometown. fell for her in the summer..did everything together..college of semester went by, everything going good, sent letters, skyped,saw eachother on the weekends(diff colleges).she told me “dont think im crazy but i do hope we end up together ” or stuff like”were good for eachother” orr i dont wanna share you…… then one day she tells me she still has feelings for her ex, then the next day she didnt..told me somedays she wanted a bf, and somedays she didnt… well..she dumped me a few days after xmas..said she just doesnt… Read more »

Nicole
Nicole
11 years ago

My ex broke up with me because his “best friend” lied to him that i was using him, which i wasn’t. He believes her instead of me. I was in the mountains when all of this happened i was so happy when i got home so i could talk 2 him then i saw the messages he left me and i started crying. I asked him the other day if he missed me when i left him but he said “i kinda forgot about you :(” but he texted me like 6 times and said i got a gf that… Read more »

neetu
neetu
11 years ago

hye guys, i really need ur guys help nw. i really love my ex boyfriend so much.its ady almost 7 months since he left me but until now there is no any respond from him. i guess i had bugged him enough. he wil care for me, buy food for me, hang out with me, talk wif me in the phone but yet he is kept on telling tat he dun have any feelings for me. he only wants to be a good friend with me it seems. but somehow i really can feel tat he still loves me. but… Read more »

Taylor
Taylor
11 years ago
Reply to  neetu

go on a date, text him with kisses on the text, see if he likes u still

Ashley
Ashley
11 years ago

Hi. I met my ex when I was 14, we were friends for almost four years before we got together, he was 20 and I was 19. We were crazy about eachother. We had our ups and downs but we always made it through everything together. Until the day I made the biggest mistake of my life. We ended things, why .. for no reason. because i thought i wasnt happy. now i am miserable. It has been 6 months and he has a new gf and has been with her about 3 weeks after we broke up. I have… Read more »

Johanthan
Johanthan
11 years ago

Okay, so my girlfriend and I dated for four years, one month, and thirteen days. We have pulled each other out of the toughest situations; however, she has this strange pattern… It’s like every month, her interest changes. One month, she’ll smother me. The next, she’ll do nothing but want to be around her friends. Finally, she’ll just want to be alone and say “I can’t do this anymore”. It’s almost like I have this down to a science.. Like it’s a game. This time she left. I will admit, I did screw up. I was so afraid to lose… Read more »

bill
bill
11 years ago
Reply to  Johanthan

Hey man, unfortunately it sounds like she has moved on and not only that but I posted on this web site too a couple of weeks ago and no one has responded. I think we are all looking for a miracle or we wouldn’t be here spilling our guts out about how desperate we all are to get that ONE person back. I have finally reached a conclusion painful but real, I believe that if my ex wants to get back with me it will happen in her own time. In the meantime I have to try my best not… Read more »

dona
dona
11 years ago

recently, i broke up with my guy about 3 days ago. We were 2gethr for more than 4 years. We were having a serious relationship. But it was my fault, he saw me talking with some guy and he told me that he dnt want me anymore. Actually, i’m not cheating on him, i just truly love him… I know its my fault. I can’t control my emotions, i’m totally hurt. Please tell me is there any possibilities to him back?

Jay
Jay
11 years ago

my girlfriend dumped me because i’m moving to Australia. She told me she can’t trust me and she doesn’t like ‘long distance relationship’ HELP.

jonathan
jonathan
11 years ago

well me and my ex girlfriend just broke up it was a 5 year relationship and we had a kid together what should i do should i take her back

George
George
11 years ago

Dear All, I need some help. This morning my girlfriend just broke up with me. We were together for about 1 year but during this period I was traveling quite often to LONDON (where I am studying) and to BG (where is my girlfriend). Last time when I met her everything seemed to be fine with sentences such as ”…I love you so much ….”etc. She said that she is dating with another guy at the moment but they did not have sex by now. What can I do to get her back. Our relationship is from distance but we… Read more »

Heart Espinoza
Heart Espinoza
11 years ago

Hi, so my bf dumped me a month ago and I’m pregnant. He wants to be here for the baby and he’s being friends with me and trying to fix things. He’s done lots that I asked and I’m helping him with things as well. The break up was really ugly but we did discuss what went wrong and he says in time maybe we can see what happens. But I kind of what things to happen now. He’s coming to visit where I am and it is another state. He also calls me and we have great talks but… Read more »

kevin
kevin
11 years ago

i broke up with my gf and went out with another chick and now i want my ex back and i dont know what to do we had a perfect relationship please help me get her back

kyli
kyli
11 years ago
Reply to  kevin

dont be a jerk…actions speak louder than words….if you feel she still has feelings for you in the slightest….then you need to get up and do something about it, and i dont mean text….actions speak louder than words.! let it come from your heart

Rexie
Rexie
11 years ago

One month ago, I confronted my bf of 3 years that something seems wrong with him and with our relationship. He admitted that his first GF during high school started texting him and on December last year, the ex-gf offered an open affair with him. My bf agreed and by 1st week of January, they had sex. This ex-gf of him cheated him during high school and leave him for another guy. After 10 years, my bf took her back. Upon my BF’s admission of his cheatings, I forgive him and told him we could start anew our relationship. He… Read more »

Sam
Sam
11 years ago

Hi im sam im a teenager. I really like this guy who is a few years older then me. And we flirt a lot but, he thought I was gaining feelings for one of my guy friends. He easily gets jealous but, my guy friend was flirting with me so i never responded to him. I really like this guy we have been flirting for about 3months now and He had started to ignore me saying maybe we should just be friends. But i told him i want to be more then just friends and how i really like him… Read more »

kamogelo
kamogelo
11 years ago

i guess i am not alone in this world,but watif he doesnt need me completely even if i need him,watif the very same thng i am tryn 2do he is doing it but for somebody else not me,i really love him

kyli
kyli
11 years ago

he wants the best of both worlds….he is being selfish and not totally thinking about you….yes he may love you, but its not true love right now….you need to give that mofo months to figure out what he wants and if he still wants you….he will come back but really, you deserve better than that right now. dont give in and be a doormat!

amy lambourne
amy lambourne
11 years ago

i have been out with this lad for about 8 months we broke up because we kept arguing for silly reasons then he had a girl friend nd she used him to get a baby out of him and when she would ov got pregent she would of gone nd found an older guy to live with and i knew this for a couple weeks i wanted to tell him but my mates told me not to but one night her rang me and he kept going on how him nd his girlfriend were geting along good but i was… Read more »

Jin
Jin
11 years ago

I’m about to leave for Australia in a few months, and she’s starting to see another guy and started to like him. She said she want’s me to be her friends even if she has someone else, she said she doesn’t want to give both of us. I’m definitely worried about the change in situations when I leave, we had a good and long relationship. And I definitely want her back, i’ll be returning in a year or two from Australia, and from there I’d like to have her back forever. Please help me…

Carrisa
Carrisa
11 years ago

I got pregnant at 17, insantly the father of my baby asked me to be his girlfriend. of course i said yes, we had the perfect relationship at first. then i tried to control him telling him what he could and couldnt do, we’ve broken up so many times ive moved all my stuff out and a couple days later i moved it al back it. Since our daughter has been born our relationship has gone out of control. His mother overdosed and we were the ones to find her. his mom was all he had, hes a very closed… Read more »

Cynthia
Cynthia
11 years ago

– im 16, going onto 17 years old pretty soon here. && i started going out with my ex in decemember. everything was perfect, our relationship was the best, && i fell for him really hard. later into our relationship he told me he was moving, and of course it broke my heart because he was the guy i really loved at this moment. he broke up with me saying that long distance relationship wasnt gonna work for us & i myself hate it. but i was willing to give it a try just for him. he said no, &… Read more »

Suzi
Suzi
11 years ago

PLZZZ help me i thought this guy was “the one” and he broke up with me for this girl named destiny my friends say to make him jealous and he’ll come crawling back but how do i make him jealous?
plz reply

Taylor
Taylor
11 years ago

I was with a boy for just over a year, we argued and broke up, and i started seeing another guy to get over him. we’ve been together for almost 3 months but i dont really like him. I thought that it would make my ex jelous and want me more but it didnt work… i dont know what to do.. can someone help me. how do i get back together with my ex? i love him

jp
jp
11 years ago

i was with the love of my life for 10 an a half years we have 2 little girls im one that always helps anyone so is she but 5 months ago she left me for a married man that has a kid her age he was supposed to be a friend of mine. i found out that they were seeing eachother when i was working 80 90 hour weeks i really want to work it out with her but its like she changed into someone i dont even know anymore she says she still loves but she wants to… Read more »

Sierra
Sierra
11 years ago

Hey Daniel :/ So I Was With This Guy For Two Years… And Yeah, We Had Our Arguments, Who Doesn’t. But We Were Completely Perfect Together. I Mean, We Loved The Same Things, Acted The Same Everything. Our Zodiac Signs Are Even Compatible For The Best Relationships (Leo And Aries)…. So One Friday, January 13 [Worst Day] We Got Into A Huge Argument. And So We Gave It A Few Days To Calm Down But When I Would Text Him He Ignored It. So That Next Friday We Talked And Basically He Broke Up With Me And I Was Really… Read more »

Tori
Tori
11 years ago

My boyfriend and I broke up about 19 or 20 months ago. We were in an exclusive, long-distance relationship with each other for 5 months. We both fell in love and swore to get married one day. Eventually the pressure got to him and we broke up. I was devastated for a month or two and cut off all ties with him. I didn’t see him again until over a year after our breakup. Since then, we talked more and one night he told me he liked another girl and started seeing her. Shortly after, he claimed that he still… Read more »

dave
dave
11 years ago

my gf dumped me yesterday at lunch i want to die. i want to go on a fist rampage and after take my life. i want my ghost to see her face.

Christian
Christian
11 years ago

Hi Daniel! I was more than 3 years with my girlfriend she’s 24 and I’m 36. Everything was fine we got engaged on January and we should get maried in September , we booked everything all was ok! Befor we got engaged in October we moved in Amsterdam because of her job, so I left everything and I followed her! After we got angaged I went in Ireland for 1 week, wile I was there she told me she wants to come as well in 2 weeks so I did not go back to Amsterdam I was waiting her in… Read more »

Christian
Christian
11 years ago
Reply to  Christian

She will come for Easter in 6 of April for a 3 days what will I do will I move out from the house or will I stay?? Will it be not to soon to meat her??

eth
eth
11 years ago

Im breaking up with my boyfriend because he is leaving to europe for a year to study his master. Think is i cant go with him for my work but we really love each other we’ve been together for 2 years now and im the only girlfriend he’s ever had, he is not the kind of guy who jumps in a relationship like that it took him a while to trust and open up and i cherish that but i want to break up with him because i dont think long distance relationship will be healthy for me i will… Read more »

Justin
Justin
11 years ago

So here is a long story summed up a year and a month ago when I left to go to my parents for the week my girlfriend left me via text/phone. I guess things with us were not the best at the end communication started to fall off and she started to slowly hate me and push away I think. The last couple months I was angry with her a lot and I really wasn’t the best. I did and said some pretty cruel things. But I didn’t expect her to leave. I was upset about life and a lot… Read more »