How To Get Your Ex Back – Step 2
This is the second part of the three step plan. If you didn’t read Step 1, then click here.
So, now you know what are the things that you SHOULDN’T do to get your ex back. In this Step, I am going to tell you what you should do if you want to win your ex back.
The first and the most important step to win your ex back is to end all communication with them.
Did you just say -
“What if they move on?”
“What if they start dating someone else?”
“What if they forget about our relationship until I keep reminding them how great we were together?”
Good questions. And the answer to all of them is, THEY WON’T.
It’s not easy to forget someone. It’s not easy to move on after a breakup. It’s not easy for you, and it won’t be easy for them. Even though they may look like they are calm and don’t care on the outside, the truth is they are probably hurting as much as you are from the inside. They may start dating someone else but don’t worry about that, as I said in STEP 1, rebound relationships are normal and they will not last long.
I am not asking you to end the contact forever. You will talk to them again, and you will start hanging out with them again; but only after a certain period of time. That period of time can be one week, two weeks or even a month depending on how long it’s been since you broke up. You don’t want to extend it too much that they move on.
You don’t have to tell them that you are ending contact with them. You just do it without informing them. If you work in the same office and can’t avoid each other, then just say Hi when you guys pass each other. Make sure you don’t chat with them unless it’s absolutely necessary. A short casual conversation is okay, but nothing too long.
I realize that for some of you, one month may already have passed. And you may want to skip ahead to the next step. But don’t do it, because there are a few things that you need to do in this step before you can move on to the next step. So make sure complete your assignment for this month before advancing to the next step.
What will you do for one month then?
STOP PANICKING
Pull Yourself Together
First of all, you need to stop panicking. You need to calm down and regain composure. You need to start thinking rationally if you want to win your ex back.
Take a breather. Go out, breath the fresh air, do something that you like doing.
You MUST realize that panicking is not going to help you and you will not be able to get your love back until you are in your senses and thinking rationally.
Calm down and focus. I will tell you about a cool technique that you can use to calm down at the end of STEP 3.
START THINKING REASONABLY
The next thing you need to do, is think about why you want to win your ex back?
After a breakup, most people are in a confused and emotional state and they say things to themselves that aren’t true. Things like –
- I will die if I don’t get my ex back
- I will never find anyone else
- I will never be able to love again
All of the above is false. You need to realize that your life will move on with or without your ex. Even if you don’t get your ex back, you will love again and still live a happy life. I am not saying you should forget about getting your ex back, I am just saying that you need to realize that your life is still beautiful and exciting even without your ex. Be the person who loves life and people will start loving you.

Life is beautiful. Accept it.
Now that we have brought you back to your senses, think about your relationship. Do you really think that you could have a long and healthy relationship with your ex? Think with your brain and not with your heart. Remember how your relationship used to be. You are the best judge in this situation. If you’ve decided that your relationship is worth saving, read on.
FIGURE OUT WHAT WENT WRONG
Relationship Fights are normal, but if it leads to a breakup, then something is wrong
You need to figure out what went wrong in the relationship and work on it. Whatever caused your ex to leave, will make them leave again if you don’t improve yourself.
Each breakup is unique, but most of the time, the true reason behind breakup never comes up while breaking up. Sometimes, your partner will give you a lame excuse like “I just don’t love you anymore” or “this relationship isn’t working”. Even if the reason for breakup was infidelity, think about why they cheated on you.
Men and women both have different needs in a relationship and if you want to have a long lasting happy relationship, you should understand what your partner craves for. When men leave a relationship, it’s because they weren’t getting what they want from a women. No, it’s not sex. Similarly, Women leave a relationship because they are not getting what they crave for, and it’s completely different from what men want.
Take note that we are not going to try using the “I have changed for you” tactic to get your ex back. Logic has very little effect on decisions when such high emotions are involved. But if you do change yourself for the good and work on things together, then you both will stay together in a happy relationship for a long long time.
Get in Shape, Socialize, and Start Enjoying Your Life
There are a few other things that you need to do before you contact your ex.
Exercise daily and make it a routine. You will be glad you did.
-You need to get in your best shape. A half hour of exercise everyday will help release the stress, make you feel better and will keep you in shape.
- You need to start hanging out with your friends. Socializing is important. This is a good time to catch up with your old friends and do things that you enjoy doing.
- You’ll have to start doing what you like. Something that’s your hobby. Or maybe you can get a new hobby.
Now the above things may seem trivial but trust me they are very important. These are the things that will make you realize how wonderful life is and once you start appreciating your life, you will immediately become a lot more attractive to your ex. In addition, they will make you feel healthier and much confident which is absolutely imperative for Step 3.
By the end of this time period, you will be thinking logically and not emotionally and you would’ve decided whether or not you want to give your relationship another chance, you are ready to move on to step 3 aka THE GAME PLAN
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Hi, I recently started talking to a girl i really liked. At first we we’re doing really good and we both knew we loved each other. We had a lot of affection for the first month of so, but after that she started getting on my nerves over simple things. We started arguing almost 3 times a week and I even told her to stop talking to me a couple times. I’ve hurt her a lot but I recently found out she went behind my back and is now dating another guy, which crushed me! We fought about it and now I made it seem like I’m okay with it but I’m really not. We we’re never dating but I love her and want her back. Im going away for 3 months. What should I do?
Hei!
I am Nina, and I am from Slovenia, so my English is not so good. I really need your help before is too late.
My boyfriend left me one month ago. He said that he needed space and that he doesn’t have feelings for me. One week we didn’t talk then I called him. I ask him if he wants to meet with me. And he said yes. But when I so him I started crying and begging him to come back. But he said that for now he wants to be single. And later on we will see what will happen. After then I did all the things that you sad I mustn’t do. And every time when I had asked him if he wants to tries with me he sad that maybe.
Last month he had problems in school and home and he is under pressure. He learns all the time. And I don’t know if he is confused or what. Because when I mention that we end our talks on the phone and »friendship« he doesn’t want to.
hi..
well i was in a rltnshp.frm lst one yr.we broke up on 26th mrch n 27mrch was our frst year annivrsry..we r still frnz but stil we.fght everyday..he is a lot possesive.he nevrrv allowed me tok tubany guy in my skul.he never allowed me tu go.and hang around with my frnz..i dont have any close frnd nw.its not that i want to tok to any guy.but i want to hang out with my frnds.let it b grls.but no.one ask m now.coz everytime my answr was no.n now they have stopd asking.i am realy alone.i feel very lonely.i.m depressed.i cry for like hours together.i want him back in.my life.please help me
jazmine, he sounds like a twat move on, make new friends.
Hey guys, I had a broke up with my girlfriend just a few days back. She told me that the reason she broke up with me is because her feelings faded for me. I want to know if she will miss me or still cares about me after time passes. Or if i still stands a chance with her. I just need one true and honest answer. I want her back in my life.
Hello, my name is Abigail and I read thus can’t help but feel like that 10% that won’t get there ex because because 1, even though we’ve been together for over a year and have loved each other and made great memories within that time I have broken up with him out of stubbornness and anger a lot and he has always taken me back. Last time he took me back he said that would be it either it works out or doesn’t. But me getting angry in a fight with him recently, I broke up with him again and he has made it clear that he will certainly not take me back…2, he is leaving for navy boot camp in 3 months..so would he ever get back with me if I did follow thos process????
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i am gagan.i m from india..two months before i left my girlfriend due to some reasons that strokes my mind .But after some time i wanted her to come back in my life because by heart i luv her so much and i cae for her so much but she is not coming back in my lyf just because of loosing trust on me .
she is not be able to understand why i broke up with her.she is much concious in her life .and not be able to understand to what i want to say..what can i do to get her in my life.please help me….its affecting me alot.:(
My girl broke up with me about a week ago say that she is not happy that it’s me and my mouth that’s y she gave up. says she have given me chances after chances and I messed up. We were together for three years she wanted kids and marriage but I wasn’t ready then after three years I decided to put down on a ring now she says she don’t want it nor us. I can’t see her and every time I call her she is so harsh to me saying we will never get back
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i have been in relationship for two n a half yrs… we were gud with eachother but suddenly my ex brokeup with me without leaving me any reason….at first when i asked for the proper reason he said me that he loved another girl and now he is dating the other girl ……. i always asked him what my mistake was but he never answered………….. i really love him and want him back….. plz plz plz help me
Hi my name is gabriel and my girlfriend of 2 years just left me. I am so depressed and freaking out that I can’t sleep or eat because I keep thinking about her. I would do anything to get her back and it feels like that would be the only thing that would ever make me happy. I don’t know what to do please help
me and my girlfriend has been dating for a year and a half. and our relationship was a special one. to make a long story short she went on this trip and this kid was making fun of hershe took it to heart and then she was depressed. and this one guy came up to cheer her up. she was tired of people telling her tht they were going to tell me. she was flirting with this guy. so she broke up with me. and the next day at school she was walking around flirting with this guy. i saw them kiss recently. she really thinks tht ive flirted with everybody and she thinks that i did it to hurt her purposely which i havent. she also seems to think that i started rumors about her and she thinks that i turned all of her friends against her which i didnt. please help me i need it and i want her. shes such a remarkable person and i want her back. ive made those mistakes already tht i shouldnt do. so i need help and advice
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