Step 3 – THE GAME PLAN

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Note: This is the third part of a 3 step series. If you haven’t read Step 1 and Step 2, then click here to go to Step 1

Okay, so now you are calm, unresentful and you know for sure that you want to get back together with your ex.

This Step is what you need to do after at least one month has passed since the breakup and you’ve done what is explained in Step 2.

Regain Contact

Now you need to contact your ex. For this you will need an opening move. You are not going to tell them you want to get back together. You just want to get back in contact with your ex. There are many ways to do so. You can call them, send them a text message, email them, write a message on their facebook wall or leave a message on their answering machine.

But the most and effective way to regain contact is by a HAND WRITTEN LETTER. You see, what’s different always stands out. In this world of text message and emails, a HAND WRITTEN LETTER is much more emotional than sending 10 text messages.

hand written letter

A hand written letter is more powerful than 10 text messages

Think about it, how would you feel if you get a hand written letter from one of your friends? Would you be grateful that they took some time to write a letter and post it to you rather than just writing on your facebook wall? Would you be touched? Emotionally?

A hand written letter can create a vacuum and sometimes this alone can bring your ex back to you.

But be CAREFUL, what you say and what you write in the letter can have positive or negative effect in your situation. I will tell you exactly what to say at the end of this series when I tell you about using some of the ninja tactics to get your ex back.

Meet Up

Once you make contact again, you will ask your ex out for a date. But not a dinner date or a movie. You want to keep it short and sweet. In fact, you won’t even call it a date. You will just ask them to hang out with you. Maybe for a lunch or a cup of coffee. Just catch up. Alright.

set up a date

Set up a casual date. Keep it short. Like lunch or coffee.

This date will be your chance to reconnect with your ex emotionally. YOU ARE NOT going to try to fix your problems and talk about what went wrong. You see, big problems in a relationship will almost fix themselves if there is enough passion in a relationship…BUT… Even the smallest problems will seem like mountains if there’s NO passion.

If you make this a small emotionally charged date, it will fix the relationship much more than a long two hour conversation of why the breakup happened.

Be the Person they fell in love with

Once you set up the date, you will have to show them how you’ve changed yourself for the better.You have to be the person they once fell in love with.

Don’t talk about what went wrong. And if they want to talk about it, just listen and don’t reply. If they insist on discussing it, just say that you don’t want to discuss it right now, maybe later.

There is one more very important thing about human psychology that I want you to know. You see, our brain associates feeling with objects, events, smells, and other people. For example, the smell of a pie baking brings back good memories from your childhood. Similarly, the brain associates people with the bad experiences in a relationship. If you had a bad breakup then chances are that your ex’s brain has associated bad feelings with you. And whenever they see you, they feel the same way that they felt when you broke up or when you were fighting.

You can use a simple strategy of pattern breaking to stop this bad association which we will talk about at the end of this series when I tell you about the ninja techniques to get your ex back.

Make The Right Moves

This date will be short and sweet. But you can do a lot of small things in this short date to push the right buttons and get your ex thinking about getting back together. There are so many little techniques and there could be so many situations for different couples, that it’s not possible to put them all in this short series……

The Ninja Tactics

….this is why I have decided to put the FINAL STEP (Step 4) in an email series where I will teach you everything you need to know from this point to having your ex in your arms.

  • I will teach you exactly how to write that HAND WRITTEN LETTER to make initial contact with your ex.
  • I will also tell you how to make that small date emotionally charged to create an instant bond between you two, just like the one you had at the beginning of the relationship (honeymoon stage).
  • i will teach you how to use a simple technique to stop panicking and pull yourself together.
  • You don’t want any of that bad association when you see them for the date. I am going to teach you how to use simple technique of pattern breaking to make sure that your ex only feels good whenever he sees you again.

There is nothing that can stop you from getting your ex back if you take the right action at the right time. Step 4 is designed to do exactly that. The only thing I ask in return is your email address so I can send it to you in timely manner. Click on the appropriate link below to get started with Step 4.

STEP 4 FOR MEN

STEP 4 FOR WOMEN

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  • Matt March 4, 2012, 2:50 pm

    where do I give my email for the tips on how to write a letter?

  • Anonymous March 4, 2012, 6:01 pm

    Hi, I really hope to get back together with my ex girlfriend again, please send me the Step 4 thanks!

  • Dan March 7, 2012, 2:42 am

    So im lost. my boyf broke up with me whilst i was in another country. he slept with someone else fooled around with other people and now likes someone else. our relationship started very quickly. he came over and practically never went home. everytime i would drop him at his house he would text me and say he misses me and to come get him. on our 4th night of hanging out whilst he thought i was asleep he told me he thought he loved me i asked him the next day and he didnt deny it. 2 days later we were in a relationship.. i told him i grew up in an abusive household as a child and i couldnt really handle violence in a relationship. we got high and he hit me. i walked out and went and did something with someone else. i didnt have sex or kiss them but i let them touch me. after this point it became easy to do this whenever we had a fight so i did this 6 more times after major fights. i eventually told him and he broke down way beyond what i expected. we managed to patch things up for a while but than one night we were at a club and left the club with someone else and had a 3some there was no sex. we did not do this again for a while i later found out he went back and slept with this person to get back at me but at the same time information came out i had not told him. the person i did stuff with at the start in hurt was one of his friends which i did not know at the time. we both laid our cards on the table and decided to stay together because we loved each other. truth is he is a very social/ jealous person. we went to a club together and he would get hugged and touched etc. whilst i was standing next to him and it hurt but i didnt make a big scene or anything whereas if we had an argument he would try to make it public for attention. also if someone talked to me whilst i was in a club he would go into rage mode. we decided to try a 3some again and he picked the person who we both didnt like once we met them but fooled around anyway. than i was told i would pick the person. i picked a person when we were at the club when i kissed this person to get them to come talk to both of us my boyf through his drink on me and walked out.. i felt bad and explained what was happening and he eventually let it go so he told me he never wanted to do that again and i agreed. i had planned for years to travel and had been saving for a long time when i finally left we were both in what seemed like a good place. he wanted to move away together and i said i would discuss it more when i got back. half way through my two month tripped i called him to tell him i was willing to try the moving away an whatever else he was ready for and he told me he had cheated on me and didnt feel the same anymore. he broke up with me, whilst i was in another country. i called him for 4 days after that at least once a day begging for him back, another chance i can change etc. the last real call we both sort of discussed things calmly briefly…. he told me he was happier now than he had ever been in the relationship. that he had not been attracted to me for a long time and that he had not missed me at all since i had been gone.. i also later found out of a friend that he had been on a chat app talking to people the moment my car pulled out of the driveway to head to the airport. when i got home i packed up what was left of his stuff and drove it to his house… he pratically jumped my bones and came in his pants from dry humping me in my car cause i was trying to be strong and just leave. i did kiss him back though… than we said sort of goodbyes but i still had so many questions i didnt ask so i was finding it really difficult to deal with… i called him a few times on private number just to hear his voice over the next few days. and eventually one night i did it 6 times and than i used my real number so i could actually talk to him i want to his house and we sat out the front in the car and talked the whole time he sat on his phone like he was bored.. i asked him if he wanted me to fight for him he said no. i asked him to show me who he slept with so i could stop thinking it was every person i saw and than i asked him did he like someone else he said YES. than he told me the person was now mad at him cause he had been sitting in the car with me texting them about every aspect of our conversation… i than read him a poem with all my feelings i had felt and he said it made him feel horrible for the first time.. than stupidly i started giving him relationship advice for his next relationship….. i upset him when i said he shouldnt need to be the center of attention all the time and that he should try to steal other peoples friends trying to be best friends with them and just be friends with them instead. i than said its probably best if we dont see each other so we can move on. than he text me when i got home said i made him feel horrible i was still nice to him and continued to give him advice for some reason and he got cranky again and i than said i wil always love you and i wish us bother all the happiness in the world and that if something happens to someone in his life or something i do wish to know…. CAN THIS BE SAVED. we were together for a year. he was my first relationship… and i honestly feel i have grown since travelling and being with him.. im not the person that needed to vent through doing bad things and stuff (i never slept with anyone buy i know this doesnt make a difference) he has slept with people whilst we were together… can you help me with this… he said to me our relationship wasnt healthy.. in some aspects i agree…. but when we were good we were amazing… we also became best friends… whilst we were together he always tried to make me his whole world so i would try to send him off to hang with his friends and stuff and i would pick him up from wherever cause all i asked was he come home to me at night time. i tried to just hang with me and my friends but he always wanted to be there. eventually when he got a job it gave us a lil more space but this was right before i went away… now his working and has lost a little weight and i feel like he thinks its cause his not with me anymore… he is very handsome and where we live to some people his like a celebrity…. everyone wants to sleep with him…. we both seem to have a lot of issues but like i said when we were good we were great we could sit in silence and just be… thats what i loved… please help me soon i feel sick every morning and i think about him all day… he seems happy and [part of me wants him to be happy and i think maybe he was right but all relationships fight and have drama ours was just high.. sometimes he would pick a fight over nothing just to fight cause he liked the drama. before him i never looked for anyone like him and i still dont but he was different and the chemistry blew my mind……… help make this pain go away

  • Fortevil March 7, 2012, 6:59 am

    Hey, i had 18 months relationship with my gf ,i kept on leaving her for few hrs when she didnt listen to me. But this feb she had to go other city with her school and i didnt want her to so i stopped talking for a week but when i msged her she said she left me since m strict even though i allowed her to go. Its been one week since we broke up but she didnt contact me. Now am i suppose to text her or just wait for her to msg me bak. All i want from her is to msg bak and apologize also ready to listen to me always. M very hurt plz tell me wat to do and also wat to talk if i msg her.

  • victor March 7, 2012, 9:58 pm

    Yo my name is Victor so I was dating this girl for a year and 4 months. She is the most beautiful girl ever. But one day she said she lost feelings for me .. I begged the first day but people told me not to talk to her and wait for her yo miss me. I don’t want her to find anyone else ..

  • Ben March 10, 2012, 11:43 am

    Well my girlfriend of 15 months broke up with me on Thursday, saying she doesn’t feel like she loves me anymore, that she thinks she likes someone else, all that crap, I really do want to have her back but I have no idea on how to go about doing that :/

  • Christian March 17, 2012, 12:30 pm

    Hi! After 3 years and 2 months being with the one I love, with the one I dedicate my life, she decided to end our relationship saying that she feel that she don’t love me enough to be with me to maried me! We got engaged in January ! I see she still have feelings for me, she is suffering as well by breaking up with me! Please help me with my situation!

  • Christian March 17, 2012, 12:57 pm

    Every time when I contact her she tells me there is nothing what can bring us back together, she tells me she wants to be free, alone she needs space, after 3 years together ,she hurts me a lot all the time, but from now on I stop contacting her! and wait for your replay please !

  • jez March 21, 2012, 10:51 am

    Ben im in the same boat as you, hust the 15 was 19 months

  • The man who needs help (a.k.a. Eric) March 21, 2012, 8:46 pm

    I am needing help getting my ex girlfriend back, can you send me step 4? I have cut alot of the contact besides when we see each other in our 4th block class at school. If you could please send me step 4 this is the best site I have been to about this stuff

  • Brianna March 23, 2012, 12:41 am

    So..my boyfriend broke up with me last tuesday, saying he lost feelings for me and he lost feelings for me three weeks before he broke up with me. We were going out for a year and 10 months and I miss him so much. I begged for a week for him back, I did everything wrong basically. I miss him so much, and he doesn’t want to hang out with me anymore, he’ll ignore my text messages for hours, and hang out with his friends everyday and get high and drunk. I keep pushing him farther away and I’m so scared that he’s changed for the worst. I’m so scared that we’ll never be the same. When I talk to him he says one word or uses one word text messages. When we were going out he isolated me from my friends, I have no one to confide in anymore, so basically he’s the only person I talk too.. He’s left me alone every night lonley and watching tv. I miss him and love him so much and he can’t even say it back to me. I’m so hurt and it won’t go away..I need help, quickly.

  • chinenye michelle March 28, 2012, 12:27 am

    hi am michelle chinenye and am 22yrs,mine is way too complicated,i did something very wrong,i said something really bad about my ex boyfriend’s mother,and now he did not only break up with me,he hates me as well,and has blocked evry contact i have with him,facebook,mobile,any contact you can think of,he also said i should move on with my life because he has done the same,i love him so much and i dont know what to do to get him back,can you help me get my ex back ?.

  • Bunty March 29, 2012, 7:02 am

    Sir i m in love from last 8 yrs sudenly my girl frnd ignoring me ,icall her various times but she is not interested me now when iask her about this matter she always angry with me.but wen ical her she talk to me very nicely in all matters but nt about our relation. She always said she wants ispent my life with hapiness but i cant live hapy without her pls sir sugest me wat i have done…..