Note: This is the third part of a 3 step series. If you haven’t read Step 1 and Step 2, then click here to go to Step 1
Okay, so now you are calm, unresentful and you know for sure that you want to get back together with your ex.
This Step is what you need to do after at least one month has passed since the breakup and you’ve done what is explained in Step 2.
Now you need to contact your ex. For this you will need an opening move. You are not going to tell them you want to get back together. You just want to get back in contact with your ex. There are many ways to do so. You can call them, send them a text message, email them, write a message on their facebook wall or leave a message on their answering machine.
But the most and effective way to regain contact is by a HAND WRITTEN LETTER. You see, what’s different always stands out. In this world of text message and emails, a HAND WRITTEN LETTER is much more emotional than sending 10 text messages.
Think about it, how would you feel if you get a hand written letter from one of your friends? Would you be grateful that they took some time to write a letter and post it to you rather than just writing on your facebook wall? Would you be touched? Emotionally?
A hand written letter can create a vacuum and sometimes this alone can bring your ex back to you.
But be CAREFUL, what you say and what you write in the letter can have positive or negative effect in your situation. I will tell you exactly what to say at the end of this series when I tell you about using some of the ninja tactics to get your ex back.
Once you make contact again, you will ask your ex out for a date. But not a dinner date or a movie. You want to keep it short and sweet. In fact, you won’t even call it a date. You will just ask them to hang out with you. Maybe for a lunch or a cup of coffee. Just catch up. Alright.
This date will be your chance to reconnect with your ex emotionally. YOU ARE NOT going to try to fix your problems and talk about what went wrong. You see, big problems in a relationship will almost fix themselves if there is enough passion in a relationship…BUT… Even the smallest problems will seem like mountains if there’s NO passion.
If you make this a small emotionally charged date, it will fix the relationship much more than a long two hour conversation of why the breakup happened.
Be the Person they fell in love with
Once you set up the date, you will have to show them how you’ve changed yourself for the better.You have to be the person they once fell in love with.
Don’t talk about what went wrong. And if they want to talk about it, just listen and don’t reply. If they insist on discussing it, just say that you don’t want to discuss it right now, maybe later.
There is one more very important thing about human psychology that I want you to know. You see, our brain associates feeling with objects, events, smells, and other people. For example, the smell of a pie baking brings back good memories from your childhood. Similarly, the brain associates people with the bad experiences in a relationship. If you had a bad breakup then chances are that your ex’s brain has associated bad feelings with you. And whenever they see you, they feel the same way that they felt when you broke up or when you were fighting.
You can use a simple strategy of pattern breaking to stop this bad association which we will talk about at the end of this series when I tell you about the ninja techniques to get your ex back.
Make The Right Moves
This date will be short and sweet. But you can do a lot of small things in this short date to push the right buttons and get your ex thinking about getting back together. There are so many little techniques and there could be so many situations for different couples, that it’s not possible to put them all in this short series……
The Ninja Tactics
….this is why I have decided to put the FINAL STEP (Step 4) in an email series where I will teach you everything you need to know from this point to having your ex in your arms.
- I will teach you exactly how to write that HAND WRITTEN LETTER to make initial contact with your ex.
- I will also tell you how to make that small date emotionally charged to create an instant bond between you two, just like the one you had at the beginning of the relationship (honeymoon stage).
- i will teach you how to use a simple technique to stop panicking and pull yourself together.
- You don’t want any of that bad association when you see them for the date. I am going to teach you how to use simple technique of pattern breaking to make sure that your ex only feels good whenever he sees you again.
There is nothing that can stop you from getting your ex back if you take the right action at the right time. Step 4 is designed to do exactly that. The only thing I ask in return is your email address so I can send it to you in timely manner. Click on the appropriate link below to get started with Step 4.