Note: This is the third part of a 3 step series. If you haven’t read Step 1 and Step 2, then click here to go to Step 1
Okay, so now you are calm, unresentful and you know for sure that you want to get back together with your ex.
This Step is what you need to do after at least one month has passed since the breakup and you’ve done what is explained in Step 2.
Regain Contact
Now you need to contact your ex. For this you will need an opening move. You are not going to tell them you want to get back together. You just want to get back in contact with your ex. There are many ways to do so. You can call them, send them a text message, email them, write a message on their facebook wall or leave a message on their answering machine.
But the most and effective way to regain contact is by a HAND WRITTEN LETTER. You see, what’s different always stands out. In this world of text message and emails, a HAND WRITTEN LETTER is much more emotional than sending 10 text messages.
A hand written letter is more powerful than 10 text messages
Think about it, how would you feel if you get a hand written letter from one of your friends? Would you be grateful that they took some time to write a letter and post it to you rather than just writing on your facebook wall? Would you be touched? Emotionally?
A hand written letter can create a vacuum and sometimes this alone can bring your ex back to you.
But be CAREFUL, what you say and what you write in the letter can have positive or negative effect in your situation. I will tell you exactly what to say at the end of this series when I tell you about using some of the ninja tactics to get your ex back.
Meet Up
Once you make contact again, you will ask your ex out for a date. But not a dinner date or a movie. You want to keep it short and sweet. In fact, you won’t even call it a date. You will just ask them to hang out with you. Maybe for a lunch or a cup of coffee. Just catch up. Alright.
Set up a casual date. Keep it short. Like lunch or coffee.
This date will be your chance to reconnect with your ex emotionally. YOU ARE NOT going to try to fix your problems and talk about what went wrong. You see, big problems in a relationship will almost fix themselves if there is enough passion in a relationship…BUT… Even the smallest problems will seem like mountains if there’s NO passion.
If you make this a small emotionally charged date, it will fix the relationship much more than a long two hour conversation of why the breakup happened.
Be the Person they fell in love with
Once you set up the date, you will have to show them how you’ve changed yourself for the better.You have to be the person they once fell in love with.
Don’t talk about what went wrong. And if they want to talk about it, just listen and don’t reply. If they insist on discussing it, just say that you don’t want to discuss it right now, maybe later.
There is one more very important thing about human psychology that I want you to know. You see, our brain associates feeling with objects, events, smells, and other people. For example, the smell of a pie baking brings back good memories from your childhood. Similarly, the brain associates people with the bad experiences in a relationship. If you had a bad breakup then chances are that your ex’s brain has associated bad feelings with you. And whenever they see you, they feel the same way that they felt when you broke up or when you were fighting.
You can use a simple strategy of pattern breaking to stop this bad association which we will talk about at the end of this series when I tell you about the ninja techniques to get your ex back.
Make The Right Moves
This date will be short and sweet. But you can do a lot of small things in this short date to push the right buttons and get your ex thinking about getting back together. There are so many little techniques and there could be so many situations for different couples, that it’s not possible to put them all in this short series……
The Ninja Tactics
….this is why I have decided to put the FINAL STEP (Step 4) in an email series where I will teach you everything you need to know from this point to having your ex in your arms.
- I will teach you exactly how to write that HAND WRITTEN LETTER to make initial contact with your ex.
- I will also tell you how to make that small date emotionally charged to create an instant bond between you two, just like the one you had at the beginning of the relationship (honeymoon stage).
- i will teach you how to use a simple technique to stop panicking and pull yourself together.
- You don’t want any of that bad association when you see them for the date. I am going to teach you how to use simple technique of pattern breaking to make sure that your ex only feels good whenever he sees you again.
There is nothing that can stop you from getting your ex back if you take the right action at the right time. Step 4 is designed to do exactly that. The only thing I ask in return is your email address so I can send it to you in timely manner. Click on the appropriate link below to get started with Step 4.
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Hey mayo,
If you have a paypal account, you can pay through paypal as well. I think there is a way you can directly transfer funds to your paypal account and then you can pay them through paypal.
are you your friend’s sales promoter?
Hey Desmond,
I am not officially his sales promoter. But if someone buys through the link on this website, I get a small percentage of the sale. But more importantly, I really do believe in his system and am 100% positive that it will help you or anyone who is hurting from a bad breakup.
I was dating a man for 4 months, and things were going great but then he told me all of a sudden in a text message to ‘set myself free’ cause he couldn’t handle a relationship with all the things going on in his life right now. Right after he said that, he called a few times, and he texts occasionally (1-2 times a week) – just general conversation. It’s been a month with this limited contact and not seeing him. Last week I replied to a text he sent to me, and ended it by asking him if he… Read more »
I don’t see any harm in that. Maybe he just isn’t ready for a relationship right now. He is definitely interested in you. But becoming friends is also a dangerous zone. If you still have feelings for him, then I would suggest that you make it clear to him that you can’t just stay friends. Trust me, if you still have feelings for your ex and they start dating someone else while being friends with you, it really hurts.
Hi,
My boyfriend broke up with me a month and a half ago, I only started no contact 3 days ago, he text me two weeks ago just general chit chat and then one evening text saying that he missed me. when I asked him about it, he said as friends. Im confused. Have I left it too long to start no contact and to win him back? the only reason he gave as to us breaking up was that he wasnt sure if he wanted a relationship.
thanks
After a year and a half, I did not control my jealousy (checking his phone based based on something he did way in the past) and he warned me several times. He was bringing up marriage the past several months before this problem. He finally broke up after I called someone who was on his phone. He told me it was over. Then, I found he was not home one night all night and freaked out thinking he was with a woman. I hit him. I now believe him that he was drinking at a friends’ house. He insists it… Read more »
Hey Sherry, your situation is very unique. I think the system can help you. You can always get a refund if it doesn’t work for you. If you don’t find the system useful, just email me and I’ll tell you how to get a refund.
My boyfriend broke up with me because i told him i cheated. I want him back what should i do?
What if you live 1000 miles apart?
Hey! SO this guy and I were into each other and both made it clear that we liked each other, BUT because of our work situation-there’s absolutely no tolerance for dating at work…. at first we flirted and hung out and even held hands and stuff, but then he randomly called me after a fun weekend and ended it… But its still kinda obvious that he likes me…. Any hope of convincing him to go back under cover???? Or is our situation hopeless?
My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. He broke up with me because he wants me to find someone else better. He said he still loves me and everything but he doesn’t want to hurt my feeling anymore. It’s just that I get bother coz one of his friend is in love with him and she kind of flirt with him and other people kind of support her to go out with him. He told my friend that he’s scare that if me and him get back together he will hurt my feeling again. We go to same… Read more »
Actually it was only about 2 weeks and a half
Hrmmm, now see the funny thing is my ex and i have been split up for a month now and I’ve done “ALL” the bad things saying not to do, and shes to the point right now where she has came and gotten all her her stuff, made a new facebook page because i had the password to her old one, and shes saying she doesn’t love me anymore, at first she was saying she cares and still loves me but shes jsut not in love with me anymore and she will not come back because i do not make… Read more »
Hey, my boyfriend and I of 4 months broke up a month ago and he said it was because his feelings changed.. we also fought a lot and I was overly emotional a lot of the time. I have been since the break up. He said if I could have just been his friend right after we could have gotten back together by now… but now I’m losing hope because he told me to be happy with myself first and that his feelings could change again. I don’t understand what it means. Is there still hope and do I still… Read more »
Hey Angela,
Try not to obsess over what he said and what he meant. Most of the times, they don’t even know themselves what they mean. But yes, you should be happy with yourself. This is what the 3 step plan is all about, you first learn to be happy with yourself and then you try to contact your ex.
reading this lessened my depressions. 🙂 thanx
ok i was my ex boyfriend first sexual partner and we where together a year. He broke up with me about a month ago because he says that he wants to experience other people. This has really crushed me. i feel that if he truly cared for me then i would be good enough for him. now we have class together. at first things were ok until i found out he asked one of my friends out for valentines day. I hit the roof called and kussed him out even though he did not know we were friends. The girl… Read more »
Hello Kevin, My boyfriend and I dated for two months and through the whole relationship he was telling me how much he loved me, how much I meant to him, how happy I made him, how he never felt like this before. Everything was fine. We never fought or had problems or ANYTHING, so him breaking up with me was unexpected. He had come over on a Friday and things were like they had always been, I didn’t hear from him Saturday, then he texts me Sunday asking how I was and all then later on said he was coming… Read more »
Hey Catie,
I wouldn’t recommend you just cutting everything off suddenly. It will be better to just inform him that you need some time on your own and won’t be able to maintain contact with him for a while. Let him know that this is only only temporary and when the time is right, you will contact him again.
-Kevin
Please help! My husband moved out 4 weeks ago saying he wants a divorce after 10 years of marriage and a 7 year old son (he has autism) together. The night he moved out, things became physical with me trying to get him to stay, him pushing me off and grabbing me down to the floor and him getting his boss involved. He moved out, called me the next day telling me that I needed to be making plans for divorce, called the next day saying he had created his own checking account (which he did), but also telling me… Read more »
I see my ex everyday at school, what should I do to have him fall in love with me again? I mean, he was in my very tight nit group of friends so we sit together still and can’t just ignore each other. I didn’t see the breakup coming at all. We’re exactly like each other, I don’t know if that could help it. It was just that one week he was in love with me telling me how amazing I was (this guy was seriously WHIPPED), and then the next day he told me he didn’t want to go… Read more »
Hi Kevin My ex and I were dating for about 6months, but the very first month of the relationship I cheated on him with my other ex and my friend. He gave me a chance, but later on I went on facebook and talked to other guys ( about 3 different guys) but I wasn’t having sex or anything with them just flirting and stuff, nothing important. I had an issue with my ex bestfriends so they decided to tell everything to my ex about it, I’m glad she told him, because other wise I wouldn’t learn from my mistake,… Read more »
Hi, We broke up 5 or 6 weeks ago, I’ve been following all the steps and today we met for coffee. The book I paid a lot of money for fails to take me any further. It kind of jumps from meeting him for coffee to “push pull” techniques when we’re back together. Now don’t get me wrong, I’d like to think that we’d be back to dating again in a couple of days but I’m figuring there must be a bit more to happen in between!? The coffee went well and he’s clearly still attracted to me….but what happens… Read more »
So here we go I have been dating a girl since last Feb., we were living in the same city at the time then I moved back to my home town which was an 1.5h boat ride away every thing was good so I thought I new the long dissent was hard on her. When I was there visiting her she loved it but when I went back home she would miss less and she hated that. She wanted to know there was a future with us she wanted to have kids and be married buy the time she 30… Read more »
Hi Kevin, My situation is kind of different. I am separated from my husband of 20+ years. I have been seeing this new guy for 4 years now. (I left my husband 2 years ago for this man), but that is a whole issue in itself..I never divorced because my husband had a stroke and our house is in foreclosure, which is where he is. My husband is fine, just has problems saying what he wants to say and can’t read much or write much anymore. He is 56 and I am 48. I have been in charge of his… Read more »
Please help, im so hurt and I can’t think of anything else other than my break up. My ex of 4.5 years broke up with me a week and a half ago and I was distraught and heartbroken. We were so close but we had been arguing a lot recently, mainly me nagging him too much about things that could’ve been avoided and pushing him too far. We became stressed out with eachother and the sex also began to lessen. I did the wrong thing of begging him back like crazy, but he rejected. I also work with him and… Read more »
Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend of one year about 3 and a half weeks ago. We had just both returned from an overseas trip, and he had told me he felt the spark was disappearing. I was then drunkenly spurred on by friends to break up with him (even though he told me he didn’t want to). We decided when we broke up that we would take a 3 week break with no contact, and then re-evaluate afterwards. Now, I have re-evaluated and I want him back more than anything. I realise now the things that could have… Read more »
Hi Leila, This situation bring me some memories. Guys tend to be a little dragging in what they do. Basically he probably likes you and the past history is attracting him and deep down he probably can’t stand loosing you. If you show him that you are always there for him you are going to be acting as a safety net. This is a very comfy situation for a guy because he will have the freedom and a “friend” always on stand by. First live your life around yourself not around him. make your own plans and most of all,… Read more »
Hi, I went to the concert with him and things went really well. Afterwards, he suggested we start dating “casually” once a week. However, after a couple of weeks I got impatient and said he needed to either commit to me, or I needed to move on. – BIG MISTAKE! So, he obviously said he thinks we should move on. He is going on holidays in July (for the month) and has suggested that we can not see each other until he gets back, and then we can be friends. I then bought the package and have been since reading… Read more »
My former flame seems to date people for a month then dump them because she finds something wrong with them. Lots of father abandonment issues. I’m still exceptionally attracted to her. We text frequently-even though I removed her from my contact list in 3 weeks ago. I unfriended her on facebook. Haven’t heard the fallout from that yet. We didn’t go out too long, but I’m still pained by her. I wish I wasn’t.
please help me, my girlfriend and i have broken up 2 weeks ago, when we broke up, she told me that it was because of her parents, i was depressed but i only thought to myself that maybe that was just a test of our love for each other, so i agreed and i made a promise to myself to live up to the expectations of her family, yet the worse happened . . 4 days ago i noticed her with someone else, i was getting jealous because in my mind she still loves me and yet why was she… Read more »
Hi Doz, I have read your post and it struck me as its a similar situation that has happened to me but the other way round. I have been with my ex for 6 years and the last few months where stressful. I have found comfort in another person and fell in love with them. I think its a human instinct to protect one’s self. This happened all in one week. to make things worse my new GF basically was from abroad and a totally different person from what i was “used” with for 6 years. I would just say… Read more »
hey kevin, So last night my boy friends broke up with me. But it wasn’t because of we had problems. He said that it wasn’t the right time for him to be in a relationship. You see we are both dancers and hes in the same dance company as me and now he will be even going to the same school (UCLA) and we have the same major, in other words I’m going to be seeing a lot of him. I thought it was just about to get better and then boom he brakes up with me. He want to… Read more »
Me & my son’s mother have been apart for I say 3 to 4 months now & I’ve done all the bad steps already, she is talking to a guy in new Jersey right now this is her rebond, I still love her madly & she knows it but I’ve already done the bad steps how do I “gain my ground back”?
Ive been chasing this one crazy little girl for last 2 years. 7 months ago she agreed to a relationship. 5 months ago she moved in ad despite difficulties i was on top of the world. 1 month ago due partly to my jealousy over her considering dating another guy things got worse. she moved out and moved into his apartment. she still loves me, misses me, calls me and comes over for sex, shes confused but shes going ahead with the guy. ive been pretty cool about it apart from being absolutely heartbroken. she slipped out last monday while… Read more »
Hello,
My long-term boyfriend just left me. I dont know what to do. were very much in love. He wanted to take a break, to take some time to be alone to sort some things in his life out. But I want him back now. Its dumb. Theres no reason for him to need to dump his girlfriend of 2 years to sort through his baggage. Im completely heart broken, and I want him back. He’s my other half. I need a game plan. Help?
HI my girlfreind broke up with me 3 months ago we where together 13 years have two kids i moved out of my house a month ago i try to have no contact but i have to go back and see the kids and walk the dogs if i dont then she starts getting angry but after a couple of days coming back and trying to make it breif she gets angry and says im round all the time i cant win i think she is having a midlife crisis from researching it on the net i am very confused… Read more »
Hi. She broke up with me last summer. We were together for 4 years. We’re both 25 y/o, students. We kept being together after the break up, almost every day, until last month, when i found out that she was having an affair with one of her best friends. I’m not sure if I can call it a rebound relationship, since they’re “together” since November. She kept it from me until i found out through the classic “msn logs” way. She’s with him only at weekends, it’s like a weekend-drunk people-relationship. I panic about it. I can’t help it. During… Read more »
Hey Alex. Okay, I am going to say what you expected me to say “No, you are not too late”. But I don’t say this because I am telling you what you want to hear. I am telling you because I know about countless cases where guys got their ex back months and even years after the breakup. Alex, in your case, you were together for 4 years. That’s a long time. You both have a history, you both have inside jokes, you both know each other too well. She has been with that other guy for like 4 months… Read more »
My utter sincere thanks for your reply, Kevin. As much as I WANT to believe (and God knows i do) that i can get her back, that i WILL get her back, things that force me to believe otherwise go on happening. She finished her Master’s Thesis (i think that’s how you call it) yesterday. A thesis that i helped to build with my time. She didn’t tell me a word about it, not even a “hey, it’s done, thanks for all your help”. And right know, it kills me to the bone to know that she’s probably celebrating with… Read more »
Hi I think my story is different so i need the exact advise please..my girl friend told me that she can not understand me and i can not understand in spite of how we feel..i dont know what to do ,she still loves me and the feelings are still not changed for both of us ,but she wants to break up because of miss understanding as she said ,also she said sometimes she cannot understand my behavior or act and she also said i cannot understand her,,and said she is afraid from losing me and she will happier if she… Read more »
How do you cut off communication with your Ex when your both living in the same house?
Hey Martin, The reason why you should cut off communication with your ex is so you can heal. If you keep seeing your ex after the breakup, it will be like rubbing salt on the wound. However, if you live with your ex, it is impossible to cut of communication with your ex. So in your case, you’ve got to work on the healing part without cutting off any communication. You will have to maintain a cordial and friendly relationship with your ex and at the same time take out time for yourself so that you can heal. Spending as… Read more »
Hi I think my story is different so i need the exact advise please..my girl friend told me that she can not understand me and i can not understand in spite of how we feel..i dont know what to do ,she still loves me and the feelings are still not changed for both of us ,but she wants to break up because of miss understanding as she said ,also she said sometimes she cannot understand my behavior or act and she also said i cannot understand her,,and said she is afraid from losing me and she will happier if she… Read more »
Hey Mazin, That is one of the very common reason for breakup. Misunderstanding. If she says she doesn’t understand you and that you don’t understand her, it is your best bet to talk about what both of you want in a relationship after you get back together. But you need to do that after you’ve won her back. For now, you need to follow the plan. It’s a good thing that you two still want to be friends and still have strong feelings for her. If you are going to meet today to discuss what to do, I’d recommend you… Read more »
i broke with my gf 1 month ago.She say i make her feel so dissapointed and also tell me it was her fault too.She told that she was very close with a guy in her college(long distance relationship)3 months ago.She say she still will treat me as a friend.I was confused by her words.I ask her not to start a new relationship with the guy,she seem like agree me cause she will study overseas this end of year.But,after 3 weeks we broke,she accept the guy.I feel so dissapointed.I read some technique from a chinese forum which about the same in… Read more »
If you try the no contact technique but she texts me almost everyday. If I ignore her, she will get furious and think I don’t want anything to do with her. It’s hard to ignore the messages once she gets mad. By the way she broke up with me and has feelings for me but doesn’t want a relationship and is not the type of girl to move on to the next guy.
What should I do about her messages?
Hi Kevin, I am a 23 year old college student and finally decided to take the plunge and allow someone into my life. This guy has been my friend for about 3 years, not a close friend, just a friend, who graduated from college a year ago. Finally in February he asked me to be his girlfriend, I was a little hesitant but I agreed, I wanted to experience what it was like to be in a relationship. Everything was going great (honeymoon stage) until about a week ago. He got very upset that I made a life changing choice… Read more »
If you try the no contact technique but she texts me almost everyday. If I ignore her, she will get furious and think I don’t want anything to do with her. It’s hard to ignore the messages once she gets mad. By the way she broke up with me and has feelings for me but doesn’t want a relationship and is not the type of girl to move on to the next guy.
What should I do about her messages?
should i tell her to stop texting me ??
Plz plz plz plz plz Kevin help me ..
John, You can just tell her that you’ve been hurt from the breakup and you need some time and space. Tell her it will be best for the both of you to not talk to each other for a while. Let her know it’s only temporary and you will contact her in the future. Hopefully, she will understand. If she still keeps messaging, ignore her for a week and then contact her. Since you’ve already told her the reason for cutting off communication, she will hopefully understand why you have been ignoring her and wouldn’t get mad. You have to… Read more »
Hi Kevin, I was into a long distance relationship from the very starting of our relationship..the first one year,we both were in same country but in different cities and the remaining about 1.5 year we were in different countries…Although we have our hometown as the same city..when he was in the same country,we met everytime in around 1 or one and a half months…then he went for higher studies to some other country very far…we had our first break up of 2 months now..he came back to me then…since then it was fine..now in March he came to meet his… Read more »
Hey Meg, Here is the thing with long distance relationships, unless you know that you will be together after a while, they don’t work. There are no exceptions. For example, if your boyfriend goes out for studies and he knows that you two will be together after he finishes his studies, then the relationship works. This seems to be your case so there is a chance of the relationship working. Now as to why he broke up. I think it is intimacy. Men do need a certain level of intimacy in the relationship and it becomes hard in LDR. It’s… Read more »
Hey Kevin
wanted to share one more thing,my bf wanted to be in friends with benefits kind of a relationship with me after breakup…during this post breakup period we met and had that deep physical intimacy (i guess u understand)for the first time ever in our relationship ,that too after breakup and then i realised that it was wrong,so after 2 days i told him that i cant go with this Friends with benefit kind of relationship….
Thanks alot…whether i should text him or call him,to do the first step “agree with the breakup” ?
and i dont really understand that why did he realise that he dont want a LDR after 2.5 years of being in LDR with me?? first one year in same country but diff cities and next 1.5 years in different countries, to mention it very clearly..
Kevin ,
Plz reply to me..i have only 4 days left to do something..and m not getting what to do..
i really love him alot..pls help..
Thanks,
Meg
So my situation is confusing for me because i live and share a room with my ex. for now that cant be changed. He is 25 and i’m 23,been together 3 years and consider each other best friends I broke up with him because he got to the point that he was not sexually attracted to me ( he did not say that but basically said he gets a bad feeling in the pit of his stomach when i try to be intimate. he has felt like that for a while but thought he could fix it. I was understanding… Read more »
i’m a lesbian, soooooo i don’t know which link to click on. is the the advice hetero-centric?
Hey Mel,
I think Matt Hudson’s Ex2 system has some very good advice that you can use. Click on the link for men.
hey, im 21 and my ex is 19. we used to go out when we were in high school around 5 years ago for around 5 months. he dumped me back then beacuse he thinks we fought too much. then we got back together around august last year for 5 months and he dumped me again he said we sould call it quit and remind friends but i asked him to call and talk about it then he spill out the reasons why we were breaking up..it because hes annoyed that i always got angry at every lil things. he… Read more »
Hi Kevin, I downloaded the audiobook from Matt Hudson’s website and have to say that I couldn’t stop smiling as I listened to it – it all makes perfect sense and it not only accurately describes what I’m going through (and what I have been going through), but it also clearly identifies what I have been doing to create the situation for myself. So thank you for referring me to it! My only question, I guess I was listening out for the ‘how to write the letter’ part you refer to at the end of Step 3, however, he doesn’t… Read more »
Hi Nadia,
Matt must have removed that module from his book. I am glad you liked it. I will hook you up with a bonus about writing the letter. I will mail it to your email if that’s okay with you. I am a little busy with a few things so it might take a few days. Hope it’s all right with you.
-Kevin
Thanks, Kevin. Looking forward to the email.
Cheers,
Nadia
Hi, I’m really trying to figure out if there is any hope in getting my ex back. We have not been together for right at a year but we have contact with each other daily(3 children involved). We were together for 15 years and then all of a sudden he wasn’t happy and wanted out due to the fighting he says was all the time but it was just like any relationship with its ups and downs. There were a lot of good times too. I struggle with the fact that he just doesn’t care anymore and could walk away… Read more »
Hi Kevin I need ur help ..my GF broke up with me 10 days ago and the breakup was through text message ,she said she can’t understand my behavior and i also can’t understand hers so there is a misunderstanding between two of us in spite of how we feel ,and also said she will be happier she becomes my friend to support me than being the love cause me pain ,and she doesn’t want to lose me ,she said she is so afraid this love is destroying our friendship ..i told we should meet and sit together to discuss… Read more »
kevin,, my ex texted me today. its been at least 3 months. he sent a three page message three months ago, but apparentally was his girlfriend. the text said : ==>> This probably means absolutely nothing to you and you probably hate me by now but I just wanted you to know it wasn’t me who sent That text and I nowhere near hate you. I never have and I never will. I hope You keep this text between me and you but if you dont I guess I deserve it.. I’m sorry and ill leave you alone bye I… Read more »
Dear Kevin here is Mazin again hope u remember me..u replied me on 7th of april regarding my meeting with my girlfriend ..that day we didnt meet and till now we dont meet ,so yesterday she sent me msg and told that she took her decision and she said she doesn’t want to continue in love relationship with me and she said the same reason and also she said im nice and good guy and i’ll find someone who loves and understands me ,she said also she wants to be my friend as we used to be at the beginning… Read more »
Hey Mazin, You did the right thing by agreeing with the breakup. It’s okay if you told her to cut off communication for a while. Trust me, it might sound counter-intuitive but it works like a charm. How do I know? Because I’ve seen it work for many many people. But here is the thing Mazin, you need to concentrate everything on Step 2 now. You need try not to think about the relationship for a while and concentrate on yourself. Do you like working out? Go to a gym. Do you like playing a sport? This is the time… Read more »
Dear Kevin
Really thank you for your advises and all effort ,I dont know how to explain ,I really
appreciate your co-operation and immediate reply ..I’ll stick in the plan and pray for god
to gain her someday .
So, I broke up with my boyfriend twice in one week, and the 2nd time he got really mad and didn’t call me for 3 day till I called him, now he is resentful and says he can’t trust me because I’m breaking his heart so much… He says he does not know if he wants to get back because once I promised him I was going to stop breaking up with him but I didn’t. What should I do?
my boyfriend and I as well have been in a long distance relationship during 8 months except for holidays and stuff but Im going back to my country where he is in three weeks… he was supposed to come this week to see me but he changed his plans hours after the breakup, he still loves me and we talk and everything but he is being short lately and he doesn’t call, he expects me to call now and wants me to be the one after him but I can’t do that, otherwise he thinks its my ego that doesn’t… Read more »
Hey Kevin, Hope u remember me,I am with the LDR one as i mentioned earlier…i followed the plan in the short duration of 4 days, as u told..i agreed with the breakup by calling him on phone and mentioned that this was nice that we broke up and met him also after a gap of one day from this day ..but there was nothing like no contact for the day in between…after this meeting, i was the only one who dropped him till airport with his family in my car,the last day…he is still in touch with me and will… Read more »
Hey Meg, I think you did great. I am pretty sure he still has feelings for you. For now, you need to implement the no contact rule and try not to contact him for one month. Work on yourself for that month. Read Step 2 because it’s very very important. It will be hard to execute the Step 3 if your ex is away from you. But in many cases, they start to miss you so badly in Step 2, that they will contact you and will want to get back together. If not, you can wait for him to… Read more »
I found that I did all the above things that was said not to do, but I really do love my husband of 33 years and want him back. He left me one week ago for his very first girlfriend. He found her on facebook and they started talking and now he states he love her and has hated me for 10 years. He moved to another city with her one week ago tomorrow. What can I do to get him back?
Kevin, My girlfriend and I met in high school. We dated through 11th and 12th grades, and then went to the same university. We moved in together after freshman year, and lived together for three more wonderful years. When she graduated, I was still in school. A job and her family took her 2200 miles away. We’ve seen each other twice since she moved a year ago, and she just told me that she doesn’t feel like we want the same things in life anymore. She said talking at night felt more like an obligation than a desire. I know… Read more »
Hi Kevin, My gf and I have been separated for almost a month she broke up with me. Meanwhile we kept acting as though we are in a relatationship. Recently she told me she just wants to be friends for right now and that in the future we will get back together. She gave me all these excuses about needed to get back on her feet and go back to school. She’s a dental assistant but wants to e a teacher. I don’t want to be friends so I told her I need space. She first begged not to lose… Read more »
ya thats fine Kevin… I was in contact with him till the last day he was here in my place,now,if i suddenly lose all contacts, what will be the impact on him? One more thing,he is in my Facebook friend list,can i take advantage of this by posting photos and things like this.. The last but not the least thing,I am very close to his family,next month there is one family function at his house in which I am invited for which i have to travel with his family to some other city…shall i go? if i go there my… Read more »
Hey Meg, You just have to stop contact with him for a while. It will give him a chance to miss you and will give you the time to discover more about yourself. Don’t think too much about what impact it will have on him. Whatever it will be, trust me it will be in your favor. It’s okay to hang out with his family if you are in good terms with them. I don’t see a reason why you should be rude to them. As long as he won’t be around, I think you should be fine. Although, try… Read more »
Thank you very much Kevin for your support…
i read the article and like every article and every line u write,as its making me a strong person day by day..
I am thankful to God ,he made people like you to help people like me..
I had already started the Mission No Contact since the day he left and will stick to it…However ,when i see his new pics,i become jeolous but i dont react to it,i mean never comment on any of his activity…Thanks alot Kevin…I will be surely updating you with the things…cyaaaa..
Hello! I have actually posted a few things here, but I really need a bit of help. I bought Matt’s guide, and let me say that it is really good. I’m almost done reading it. My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years. We were each other’s firsts. I will not lie, we were struggling a bit. This year, I got involved in a school program called “Odyssey of the Mind”. I dont know if you’re familiar with it, but long story short, it takes a lot of commitment. Practices were every day until 10pm for all of January and… Read more »
Also, I should include that SHE was also in the musical. He and I drifted apart, and she was there. I think that what happened was that he felt distant, and we were going through a rough patch. She reminded him of me and I guess… I don’t know. He just liked her.
Is there hope for me? Please, I am young and so confused. I need some kind of feedback.
Hey Katie, That’s quite a story. Thanks a lot for sharing it with all of us. Here is what I think. You have a VERY VERY good chance of getting back together. Like you said, he is looking for you in that other girl. And soon he’ll realize that she isn’t YOU and will break up with her. It may take a while for him to realize that, but it will happen. You really screwed up by acting crazy when you saw that girl with him for the first time. That did cause some damage. But he will forget that… Read more »
Thank you so much! I actually also bought the Ashley Kay one (which for anyone out there reading this, is FANTASTIC) and it is also helping. The internet is an amazing place. I want to thank you so much for this website and for getting back to me. I really appreciate the feedback. I picked a day in my calendar (May 1st) that I am going to talk to him again. I actually already messed up because the day before I found this site I took him off of my facebook friend’s list. But I am sure that he fully… Read more »
Hey Kevin, I am with the LDR one..Just to remind you ,you replied to me yesterday..i have one important thing to share with you… its been just 4 days of ‘no contact’,my ex liked one of my pics on Facebook and he called me after 1 hr from this.it was day time at his place..but here in my place it was night so i was sleeping so couldn’t receive his call…i saw his missed call today morning when i woke up… should i call him back or simply just mail him ? i dont know the step to do now… Read more »
so i mailed him ,after reading one article that we should respond if our ex calls or mails during ‘no contact’ period..very short mail…
i hope he’ll reply on mail or may be even call me,and now as i mailed him i need to reply to his call,but what after this ,i mean what after this conversation?
i am in my no contact period, but he’ll call me again in future or may be mail and expect me to mail or call,as we had a conversation now..
such a confusing situation I am into..
What should i do?
Hey Meg, There is a good chance he might try to contact you during the no contact period. It’s okay though. But here are the ground rules if he calls you. – Keep the conversation short. 10-15 minutes max. And then gracefully end the call saying you have to go somewhere or do something. – Be happy and upbeat – Don’t get personal. Keep topics purely on social level. You should not – Talk about your problems or your feelings – Bring any type of negative conversation – Talk for more than 15 minutes Be as emotionally distant as possible… Read more »
Hi Kevin As you advised me ,am sticking to the plan and now in NO contact Period and one week already passed I have something make me so confused i want you to help and explain it to ,as you advised Meg above in last two lines if her boy friend ask her much personal qs its better to tell him that she need a space for while .my point is when i broke with my ex she told me she wonts lose me and she wants to my friend as we used to be at the beginning of our… Read more »
Thanks dear..all the best to u too..
Kevin,
Sorry to bother, but I need a bit of advice… I have figured out the real reason why we broke up, and I understand how to prevent it from happening again. But do I tell him that? I am not sure what my next move is. I cut off contact ( day 16 I think), and he already has a new girl (as I said a few posts up). What do I do next? This is where I’m confused. Please help!
And like I said before, I wrote him a letter. It’s super long but it gets out everything that I wanna say. It gives reasons for things, and explains that he didn’t fall out of love with me. He fell out of love with what I became. I put so much passion into it… But my mother agrees with you that I shouldn’t give it to him until we get back together… But like, in the letter I explain that if we get back together I won’t try to dwell on what we had, because this break up was good… Read more »
Hey Katie, When you contact him after the no contact period, you will have to make him attracted to you all over again. You can’t just ask him to get back together. That will be too sudden. You take things slowly. One baby step at a time. You’ll ask him out for coffee. And then start hanging out with him again. Slowly, you will start being comfortable with each other and he will eventually become attracted to you again. Ashley Kay covers most of it in her course that you said you purchased. Even Matt Hudson covers everything you need… Read more »
Hi Kevin,
Do you give advice to lesbian couples? Thanks.
-Sarah
I had been seeing my girlfriend for 8 months. We had a very special connection and they were 8 wonderful months and we shared a connection like I’ve never had with anyone. However, about two and a half months ago I broke up with my girlfriend. She was a great woman in every sense and I love her dearly. However, before Xmas we started drifting apart. We both had trouble at work. Some our friends stopped hanging out with us. I was faced with some Major career changes. However, the most difficult thing for me was that she continually accused me… Read more »
Me and my ex broke up like a year ago but we were still in contact because of our son until 2 weeks now I decided to write a letter and give him back everything I had from us like pics and letters he has written to me . Because I felt like he only wanted to keep me as his sex buddy but nothing serious…I’m confused because we were together for six years and after the fifth year he proposed to me and a year later he says he not in love with me anymore that he was only… Read more »
Hey Kevin Yesterday I did something i think it was a big mistake,long story short : I saw one friend of my ex from distance and I know her and she knows me ,she is also my friend as she is my ex friend,i already knew her via my ex girlfriend, the story is I didn’t talk to her but when i was home i phoned her as my friend and ask about her study and her boyfriend and then we went through my relationship and we talked about 20 minutes about me and my ex 🙁 ,she starts asking… Read more »
You are doing fine Mazin. Try avoiding talking to her friends in the future. Just stick to the plan. And it’s okay if you told her that you need space. It doesn’t matter when you say it. Just stick to the plan. Concentrate on yourself. You have to get to a point where you stop thinking about your ex all the time. Read Step 2. Get a hobby and start hanging out with friends. Did you consider getting Matt Hudson’s Ex2 system? It covers everything you need to know in great detail. I am sure you won’t regret the investment.… Read more »
Hi Kevin
Thanks again and again for your support i really appreciate it .I’ll do what you advised .
Also i wanna tell you that I downloaded the EX square System from Matt Hudson’s website and have to say that I couldn’t stop smiling as I read it so again thank you very much for referring me to it!
Now i want to reread it for the 3rd time ..
and I’ll keep in touch with you and update you .
Really thanx 😉
Hi Kevin, I guess u remember me.. I am strictly sticking to the no contact plan and sometimes i do realize that i completely forget him for few moments as in when i am too busy in my work.. But iam really scared Kevin,when i can forget him completely for sometime even when i want to get back with him and he is the one who broke up with me then he if busy or not busy,must not be remembering me anytime,as he was the one to initiate breakup… Now, when i am not busy,i definitely miss him alot and… Read more »
Kevin I feel the same way as Meg Feels and this is
really scared me too even im sticking to the plan and read Huston’s system ,so what you think ???
Hey, Your concern is genuine. Your ex will move on. But it does not happen so soon. It takes a lot more than just one month for them to forget you. That is why you are going to initiate contact with them after a month. To remind them of the wonderful memories they had with you. Note, that you are only going to remind them of the good things in the relationship and not the bad things. One month is the recommended length for the no contact period because that’s when they feeling of loneliness is at it’s highest. After… Read more »
so, he called me the 2nd time in this No Contact period last night. I knew I have to talk less than 15 minutes,but I talked around half an hour. Its uncontrollable and very difficult to say “OK i have to do something bye”; but then I did it after half an hour.
I don’t know what is happening ?
Does he love me ?
Confused and scared too…
http://howtowinyourexbacknow.net/is-my-ex-over-me-is-my-ex-thinking-about-me-does-my-ex-still-love-me
Hello, Kevin, I was wondering if you still active on this website. I broke up with my GF almost 3 weeks ago. We were together for 2 years. It was a long distance relationship. I would drive to see her every single weekend. Can you please email me and I will tell you my story. Really want to buy Matt’s book. Please email me so I can tell you my story
Hi Kevin, My boyfriend of four years cheated on me and dumped me for the other girl. The details-he met the girl January of this year when he went to visit his parents. He worked somewhere else and his parents also worked out of town. He told me he met a girl who likes him and tries to flirt with him and said she kissed him and he barely remembers because he was drunk. When he told me this, I told him that my ex boyfriend visited me a year ago and before he left, I gave him just a… Read more »
Hi kevin,i send him the NC message by Matt Hudson and he replies back saying he is sorry,asking me to forgive and forget him,he said he never meant for us to be this way and i will always have a special place in his heart,his special love and he will never forgive himself till the day he died.what do you think.please answer.am planning to completely follow the no contact rule too.
Kevin, I don’t know if you remember me, I posted my story a few weeks back. I want your advice on the current happenings if you can, your advice is always spot on!! So im sure you may remember my story, if not it’s a few posts up. Bassically boy of two years left me and got a new girl the next day. But on the whole act like nothing was wrong… Yadah Yadah. So three weeks of no contact go by, and I find out some very personal news about his sister. She only told he and I, so… Read more »
Hey Katie,
It just means that he is missing you very badly and is starting to realize it. But don’t get ahead of yourself. Follow the system. It will be best if you let it be his idea to “get back together”.
I’ve made every mistake possible. My ex has told me to leave him alone and has even changed his number. We have not spoken in more than 6 months. My emotions have calmed down quite a bit but I’m afraid I have blown any chances of us even being friends much less anything else. Should I even try to iniciate any contact at this point or just keep moving on?
Recently i have been dumped by my boyfriend of three and a half years.he told me he cheated on me and asked me if we can start over.i say yes instantly which i think is a huge mistake on my part but later he change his mind saying he felt so guilty and becos of it eventhough he loves me a lot and is truly sorry,he said we will never be the same again.he said the girl love him deeply whom he knows for a few months only by the way.he said he felt pity for her.he still text me… Read more »
Hey… three months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend because whenever we hung out, it was a stressful ordeal and we’d always end up fighting. I told her I needed time to think… but she kept bugging and bugging so I eventually lost my temper and told her to move on. Well, as of 4 days ago, she is with somebody else and has moved on. It’s tearing me apart because I didn’t mean it when I told her to move on. I still really love her. But she told me she doesn’t love me back anymore, and that… Read more »
Hey Kevin, First of all i hope you remember me.So,how are you doing ? Needed one suggestion. Actually its about Password sharing.Me and my Ex were in relationship for about 2.7 years as i already told you.We were knowing each others Passwords.But when we broke up for the first time after around 1.4 years of our relationship,he changed his passwords for all E-mail ,Facebook etc.After 2 months of breakup we were together again in our relationship but since then he dint share his Passwords with me ,and he knows my Passwords from the starting. Now,we have broken up again as… Read more »
Meg,
Change your passwords. This is not a sign of moving on. It just shows that you don’t want him sneaking into your facebook profile and reading your emails. Don’t over-think it.
Hi, very thankful for the tips. Me and my ex had been dating for 2.5 yrs. She had gone thru hell with her first man ever and we would always flirt at the gym, so i was pushed into a double date by her friend n mine. I said why not i wasnt looking for anything serious, so we went out and than never saw her again. After a year or so she contacted me sayin she had been a fool n she had gone back to her first since she had not spoken with me, and that now she… Read more »
Hi me and my ex broke up 3 weeks ago we were together for 2 years and have a 9 month old baby together. he left because we were arguing to much and pushing eachother away but i think that was because neither of us had jobs/hobbies and we were together like 24/7 when he left i was a wreck i started doing everything you say not to do from being needy to basically acting like a psycho and now he is angry at me. he says even if i change he wont take me back does he mean it?… Read more »
oh and he says he loves me but is not in love with me… does he mean it?
Hi Kevin Hope you r good ,I think u remembered me..I sticked to plan and Matt’s system as you advised me and everything was good till yesterday Kevin.. And here what is happened yesterday ,After NO CONTACT period I ‘ve been ready for the next step contacting my ex girlfriend ,I selected time which i think will be good for her and she will hav a moments to talk in private but UNFORTUNATELY kevin i called her and she didnt answer me :(( i called just once and didnt try again ,I know her very well she is not a… Read more »
Hey Kevin,
She sent me text message after I posted the above comment and she said sorry and she was sitting far away from her mobile and and she was running out of credit so she couldn’t get back to me and asked me how am i doing and how is my family ..message was @ 8:00 am by my local time..So what do you think Kevin ??
Sorry but shall i call her or text her back immediately or i must wait for a while ?
Hey Mazin,
You can call her back when you feel that she will be free and pick up the phone. But I have a feeling you’ve already called her back.
Hi Kevin Yes I already called her back in same time of the 1st call coz i think that was perfect time and she picked up the phone and we talked for 20 minutes in a very friendly and never bring up or talk about relationship.i think it was a good conversation as i followed ur advise and matt’s system but the only thing i couldn’t control it was the time of the call ,i think i should talk for 10 min but it was 20 min and then i told her i have something to do so we end… Read more »
Hi Kevin, I’m pretty sure that my situation is hopeless!! My boyfriend and I were together for 2.5 years, and we broke up in the last week of November. So, we have been broken up for about 6 months. Let me go ahead and start from the beginning. At the beginning of our relationship, things were good. They were casual and fun. Nothing too serious at all, and we had some great times. Well, things started to get serious and I started to fall in love with him. But as things got more and more serious, he started to pull… Read more »
Ive been split up with my ex two years now we had a very bad breakup and he fpund. New gf not long after few Minths afyer we broke up me not knowing he had a new gf we slept together an i npw have his child hese not with his gf anymore even tho se is expecting to but he split with her cus she tricked him into having his child because she cdnt stand him having a baby with me i see him every saturday he knows how i feel about him we are Always sleeping together and… Read more »
Hi Kevin
I split with my girlfriend on Thursday as she thought I was smothering her and not giving her space. It’s a long distance relationship and we were together for 9 months. I’m now doing the no contact thing but it’s her birthday on Sunday and I want to post a funny card just saying I hope she has a nice weekend. Bearing in mind it’s a special occasion do you think this is a good idea?
Hey Kevin, Again I am here to share with you something very Important.I hope you remember my story.Just to remind you in short,I am the one with LDR.When he was in my country i told you i have only 4 days left to do something,then i followed the 3 step plan as suggested by you in that short span of 4 days,after which my bf is back to his country where he is studying.Now , I am in my No Contact period but he calls me once in a week.I shared everything with you in more details earlier if u… Read more »
Hey Meg, That’s good news. Your ex really loves you. He is just confused at this stage of time. The situation is a little complicated and it’s hard to tell what’s in his mind. But here is the thing, you can’t be his backup. If he is asking you to wait for him, without any commitment from him, it’s not good. You have to make it clear that you have your self respect and you are not going to wait for someone unless they are committed to you. You have to make it clear. If I were you, I’d ask… Read more »
Hey Kevin, Thanks,i got your point. I am in my No cantact period.its only him who is calling me.He calls me once in a week.He mailed me something about his family function also,the next day when we did Video chat,i replied to him in a very short mail. Shall i call him in my No contact period to tell about the things like” i cannot be your back up,either you commit or i’ll move on ” or i should wait for him to call and then tell him.Well,i think he will call me the coming Sunday or Monday . But… Read more »
You are in the no contact period, so no calling him. Meg, by moving on, I didn’t mean marrying some other guy. I don’t know what’s the situation with arranged marriages, but I will never recommend just marrying some other guy just to move on from this relationship. By moving on, I meant going out with other guys. If he doesn’t agree to commit (which I think is very unlikely), then you just go on living your life and start dating other guys. Many times, realizing that he has lost you and that you are not going to wait for… Read more »
Thanks Kevin,
i’ll update you once i ask him to commit.
Take care..
Hi Kevin, My girl Friend broke up with me about 2 months ago after almost a year. Everything between us was going good until her Father got really sick and 2 weeks later died in the hospital. she broke up with me soon after that but about 4 days later texted me telling me she didnt feel like she was making the right decision and missed me, about 2 weeks later she broke up with me for good. i freaked out and texted her and messaged her alot for about a week and then stopped because it was only pushing… Read more »
Hi Kevin As i told you above I talked with her for 20 min..now i have question for you ,this is the 3rd day after i called her and she didnt try to call me or send text or do anything shows that she still care ,I need your help ,should i call her again ??or what can I do ?Im lil bit confused about what to do,,I already Invite her for cup of coffee on next Saturday and it was hesitant but she is almost accepted my invitation ,so whats your advise here?? Should i call again before meet… Read more »
Hey Mazin,
I’d recommend you don’t call again until the day you decided to meet up.
Thanks Kevin I will stick to your advise and thanks again for referring me the EX system ..
I’ll also keep you up to date ..
Have a great day
hiya my bf broke up with me and i have been going out with him for 6 months and he said it ain’t working no more. but he still keeps on texting me saying he loves me and miss’s me and he still has feelings for me and he has some stuff of mine and he said that he wants to look after it cause he don’t want to forget about me ?
Hey Emma,
Just follow the plan. It seems he is still very much in love with you. You just have to give it some time.
Oh Kevin check this After i posted the above comment I received text message from and here is her text : I have something to tell you my friend, I cant go out with you because I have something with another guy and I’m sure it will bother him if I go out with, sorry my friend I didn’t tell on the phone, besides I’m so pressured and I cant go out on the upcoming days, I’m sorry :(.. I think it became obvious Kevin right? But how? I know her very well and I’m quite sure she cannot rush… Read more »
Hey Mazin, She might be with another guy. Rebound relationships are very common. Although, it doesn’t mean she is cheating on you or has move on. It just means that she is looking to fill in void in her life by moving onto a new relationship too fast. She did love you very much and I am sure she still does. But you have to understand that she is not cheating on you or doing anything wrong since you two have already broken up. Don’t talk to her for another week. Call her after a week and ask her again.… Read more »
Hi Kevin I knew a bout rebound relationships but i think she doesnt mean it bcoz 1st she has no time to meet another guy or something and i think she said that to push me away and there is no other guy !!! Also I want to reply her text ,what do i say ???should i send text like this :: Heey my friend hw u doin ? im happy to hear that u have something with other guy and i wish u both all the best but y u didnt tell me ?i’m ur friend 😉 ,,,also i… Read more »
Hey Mazin, I wouldn’t recommend giving her that notebook just yet. You can give it to her once you are officially back together. Right now, you don’t want to give her the impression that you want to get back with her. You just want to be her friend. I really can’t comment on her dating that other guy. She might be lying, or she might not be. But you can’t call it cheating as you two have broken up. It could be that she might know him from before the breakup, but there is no way for you to find… Read more »
Hi, I bought Matt’s ebook but there was nothing about writing the letter. I want to write a letter but don’t know what to write in it, or what not to write in it. I was in a 5 year relationship with the love of my life and need as much help as possible, thanks.
Hey Mark,
They must have removed that module. I’ve sent you an email explaining how to write that letter. Hope you received it.
Hey, i broke up with my girlfriend on 1st April 2011, she said that she wanted to study.but now i got to know my friend that she went for a movie with a guy who used to propose her everyday even after knowing that i was committed to her.she used to talk to me even after breakup,but just a week back she told me that we cannot continue like this and she broke up permanently saying that she wont call me or text me.she gave the reason that i did not support her when she needed me the most.a week… Read more »
Hi Kevin, Thankyou very much for the letter advice. My ex has now started seeing someone else now. I acted a bit crazy and went to visit and ended up in tears and said I was disgusted. Is it still worth sending the letter? I had followed the plan upto that point. I just couldn’t contain myself. We have almost been split for 2 months. Any advice would be great as the plan doesnt state what to do if you make this mistake this far on. Thanks,
Mark
Kevin, I think he will be calling me today or tomoro.. I dont have that courage to ask him to commit.I know him and he is very moody. I dont know how to ask him” If you want to marry me then i want commitment ,I have my self respect and i cant wait for a person who is not commiting to me ” I am afraid of the situation as he is very moody.Last time when we had video chat i indirectly asked him that if you will marry me ,i want some commitment,he then said” Why ? Dont… Read more »
me and my girlfriend took a break about a week ago. She called the break. And I saw her the night she said it to me in person. She told me and I cried. She said i pushed her away because i accused her to many times. Im guessing i was to protective and didnt want to loose her and went over board. the next day we hugged and she grabbed my hand for a second then left. out of the week, id sometimes get emotional on the bus/school and she would put her and on my neck and leg.… Read more »
Hey Kevin Me and my ex were together for 1,5 years he broke up with following sayings: – You’re too immature. – I love you, just not our relationship. – I love your personality, but not the person you show me. – I just don’t feel anything anymore, I’m not sure. – I’m dissappointed you didn’t know what you had until you lost it. I’m 16 he is 18, and he stated he still loved me, was angry with me, and that he felt indifferent.. I thought indifference and love were opposite, I cried when he told me and everytime… Read more »
Hey Kevin, any chance you have any advice on my earlier posting?
So my unofficial bf and I ended our affair a little over a week ago. I ended it “silently.. i stopped calling and texting and going over to his place. (we are neighbors in the same apt bldg.). He caught on quickly by sending me a text “U know what u r doing right? So i dont have to explain anything”?… i did not respond to the message… We had numerous aguments leading up to my departure. I finally got the strength to walk away. i guess he heard that i had finally came home and proceeded to call me… Read more »
hi kevin .. my boyfriend had caught me cheating on him its been over a month now but he told me we can only be friends. i am really sorry it was a mistake but i was doing all the dont like begging him and telling him i love him but since reading this i have stopped. i am trying your no contact thing. do you think it will work for me? we have been together for six years and he said he didnt cheat.
Hi kevin
Where should I start off me and this guy we been together a while back. We known eachother since highschool. He is also my best friend.
Hi Kevin, My ex and I broke up about 2 months ago. We’d been 2gether for 7 months but we’d known each other for to years. At first it hurt extremely, then we start hanging again. That’s when I started doing all the things I shouldn’t have. Kinda begging, doormat, telling my feelings all the time. This is when I panicked, things weren’t going like I wanted, probably because they were the wrong things to do. So in the midst of this we went back 2 not getting along. We still talk and see each other virtually everyday but that’s… Read more »
Just for the record I’ve done everything you said was the wrong thing to do I’ve done :(:
Dear Kevin, I’m back. And this time I’m desperate for help because I truly want to give up. My ex and I relieved contact a month ago. There was flirting, and there were tears. I stopped doing my schoolwork after the break up, and when he found out he screamed at me. He said he was disappointed in me and he never knew I was so weak. I told him that I just wanted answers and he promised to give them to me. I asked… How it was that he moved on the next day. He at first said “I… Read more »
Kevin, Hello there.. I’m working here in a Saudi Arabia,I met my boyfriend here,we’ve been together with my boyfriend for 3years for some reason we always fight..I keep on telling him to find a new job because of his low salary and I keep on telling him that I’m tired of this relationship I’m the one who always pay for our date..I just can’t understand that his situation is like that even though he wanted to give everything to me but he have no enough money.. One day I made up my mind I broke with him because of our… Read more »
This is my story . I had a bf who’d been with me for over 2 yrs and we broken up on 6th January 2011 . I had done all said not to be done and I’ve done the no cantacts but after that I lost my mind and talked to him bout relationship again where i started to make him see me once a week by getting drunk and all . and recently i realized that he has been checking out on his 1st ex gf which is the one before me and the ex gf is coincidentally in… Read more »
and aside , his birthday is coming in a week time . I actually bought a trip for him with me . but he never reply me until now . I really wanna celebrate his birthday with him . please help . I desperately need help . i hope i dont have to waste my trip
i broke up with my boyfriend 3months ago.we talk everyday but not about us.he always says he wants to see me but he never come.i want him back bt he has moved on
Hi Kevin, I am in a really bad situation all in which you have stated not to do I have done. I think my situation is a little diffrent because me and my ex have children (2) involved we never married but I swear he is my soul mate there are so many details that happend in the last six years but we have not been together for a long time. I know we both have made mistakes and went about things wrong. I am affraid he no longer loves me and has been with another woman who has children… Read more »
hi kevin my ex told me the other night that ” put what happend aside you were a good companion” please let me know what that means
hi my ex broke up wiv me coz i keep doing stuff like being an idiot wen i drink and keep asking him questions seen as im insecure, he loves me loads he says he wants to be friend n wants to see me again at some point. i love him so much but i keep on messin up i hate it. i really want him bk. we had 3 miscarriges together n i still want a child to him in the furture. i want him to love me n want me no matter wat like he use to. i… Read more »
Hey Kevin, I have read your article, along with many on the internet, and I agree the most with what you have to say. In addition, your comments are recent and make it feel like your care for us. Thank you for your insight! To keep my story ‘short’, I went out with this girl for about 3 years and the semester before I was going to graduate from college, she broke up with me for whatever reason, I tried to win her back, but had no luck. I then happened to start going out with this other girl not… Read more »
my gf and i of almost a year, would of been a year july 2nd, broke of over a joke her friend told her to send. he told her to say he was with her naked and i lost it. she said she didnt want to deal with it and said that we were done 4 good. i now know that she likes this same guy who was partially the cause of our breakup and she seems happy. she is 16 and hes 23 and its just killing me inside. she seems happy and said im out of her life… Read more »
i dunno how u lost it but it seems pretty bad. i’m gonna say this,if u really do love her then be happy for her if she’s happy with that guy . i know it’s hard and it ain’t what u wanna hear but trust me being with someone that doesn’t really want u is hellish . ive been in the situation of being with someone i didn’t really love and i’ve been treating him like crap altho he loved me so much .
Hey kevin! Your suggestions are really helpfull . I feel calm and relaxed after reading them. I was dating a guy for like 5 and a half months. He was serious was with me. It was like a secret relationship because of some of his family reasons , nobody in our group knew about it except my bestfriend. We were very close we went out for drive and dates . After 5 months I told one our mutual friends about our relationship. And my boyfriend went mad with anger cause he said I broke his trust. I apologised for it… Read more »
I was wondering if u had a reply? my case is like yours, very similar and did u ever get an advice from anyone? in case u did, i would really appreciate it if u forward it to me. thanks
My situation is a bit different I think, me and my ex split for reasons of my doing. I wasn’t affectionate enough and I made poor choices and I’m fully aware of them and how to change them for my benefit to better fir anyone in the future not just her. That being said I do want her back for all the right reasons. She was out of state with another guy she “really likes” and she got home a few days ago. I went to her house today with flowers an I’m sorry card and my dog she loves… Read more »
Hi Kevin I wished I would have found you a week ago.. is like you were watching me! i did everything wrong.. =<. I dated this wonderful man for almost 2 years, we both adults with kids. Well he only has one and me more.. i know we love each other very much and i know we are so different in many ways.. he is earth and am fire and water.. We talked about moving in together and getting married but because of his child(teen) we held back. he is not in agreement of anyone changing his world.. My kids… Read more »
hi kevin, my bf(A) told he wanted to be single for sometime 2 months back. i was emotionally down as he could not give me a good reason why he wanted to be so. i had made all the “should not do steps” like being emotional and crying asking him the reason he doing all this and whether he is interested in somebody else. but he kept telling no for every question i asked. during the 1st few weeks of our break off, he wil keep calling and sms me or my friends to find out am i ok or… Read more »
Hey Kevin ok so me n my ex were together for 5 years n I always chose to go out with my friends instead of her I mean I would take het out but also I’d leave her at home more times than not to be with my boys..well she broke up with me like 3 months ago because she hated my friends n that all I did was party..so the first month we hung out like every weekend n I stopped going out with those guys then the 2nd month we hung out a little less..now she is partying… Read more »
Give her some time. She obviously still has feelings for you but it will take her time to get over her anger and she’ll need to re-assess to see if she can go back to you/trust you. If you really want to get back to her, whilst giving her space don’t cut out the contact completely but let her come to you in her own terms. You can try and tell her that this time around will be different, that you’ve realised what you’ve done and that you can prove to her that you have changed- but only say this… Read more »
we brokeup becouse she did not put the university i asked her to put in her jamb and we had a quarell after she failed her jamb.if i follow the steps, it means that l left her becouse she failed. I love her unconditionaly
Hey Kevin, me and my boyfriend josh have been going out for 4 months and 2 days. we were suppoused to meet up today since we havent seen each other since school ended but he blew me off to go skating with his brother. I over reacted and said some pretty mean stuff to him. I cooled off the next morning and he called me. He said he wasnt happy with us anymore and that my next lover would be very lucky because im an amazing girl. I froze and hung up crying. then i texted him saying that i… Read more »
Hi! I have a different problem. It has been two weeks since we broke up. He left me because I met my ex in february when we were supposed to have been together for five months already. My ex told him that we slept together that day but this is not true. However, there was some foreplay which i could not resist but it stopped there itself. My boyfriend has been really very hurt and destabilised. One week he didnt contact me at all. then the next week it was my birthday, he wished me though late and continued texting… Read more »
hey i broke up with my gf a year ago and i want her back but i dont know what to do can you PLEASE help me.
Hi Kevin,
great advice, fortunately i had been doing all the things you had suggested…this just reinforced i was doing the right thing….i had actually purchased and downloaded matt hudson guide a week or two ago…but i didn’t read anything in his guide about writing the letter to the ex? can you help? thanks
helene
Hi Helene,
I’ve sent you an email about the letter. Hope it helps.
-Kevin
Hi Kevin, This is really helpful, I broke up with my bf of 2 years because he used to go out with friends and didn’t call to tell me (he didnt cheat btw), he was great with me in every other aspect but i couldnt stand the situation and i finish the relationship on saturday. The thing is now I regret, I miss him he is good man, but he’s hurt. I’ve sent him a text and he didnt answered back, so today I called and he didnt pick up…am I being to pushy? should I try contacting him again… Read more »
Hi, my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a week ago on the basis that i dont show her enough attention and affection, when i think back on this i realise that its true the thing is i want her back but this is the third time we have broken up, the previous times were for the same reason but back then i was an idiot and i didnt care so i basically said bye everytime and she came back and i told her each time that i will pay more attention to her, the thing is from… Read more »
My bf cheated on me but he came back to me and I forgave him. However a month later he broke up with me and said he wants us to be friends. So,he keeps telling me that he wants the girl with whom he cheated on me and all the problems he has because he is not sure if she want him or not. Her ex called her and they went out together while my ex asked her out and she refused. I can’t keep listening to how much he wants her etc. He is acting exactly like last summer… Read more »
Hey Kevin, I have a situation for you that hopefully you could help me out with. I’ve read your article and will do exactly what you said. My girlfriend and I dated for 22 months before we broke up. The break up was hard, but I was the one who actually broke up with her. It was an in the moment type of thing, but her and I had it coming. That was a little over two weeks ago. I quickly realized my fault and tried to get her back, but she wouldn’t have any of it. She just wanted… Read more »
Hi kevin, My situation is a bit complicated i had being going out with my ex for 4 years and he broke up with me out of the blue and didnt give me a good enough reason, he told me that i deserved better than him and he wants me to be happy. Although i was heartbroken i decided to give him time but he rang me two days after and his mum had died we were very close, i went to her funeral and i was always introdruced as his gf but since then i have been so confused.… Read more »
after 5 years in relationship, she cheated with her school classmate. they’ve been met in school reunion before after they were never met in several years. i was lost, frustrated, mad, confused and keep asking myself, why. i tried to save my relationship and its not works. after a week, I’ve realized that i couldn’t forget her and willing to forgive her. I’ve text her, go to her office, to her place, call her and seems like no hope. so, I’m following all this 3 steps and it come out positively. yesterday, I’m on date with her. everything going well… Read more »
Great work Hamid. And yes that is definitely a good sign. Now, you just need to keep up with it. Just make sure you don’t show any traits of jealousy towards that other guy. It should be her decision to break up with him and get back with you. You will require a lot of patience for it, but I think in the end it will work out for you.
Hi, I know this is a long message. I never talk about my problems, and I just feel like letting it out of me here cause i just cant focus anymore on anything else, so i hope this would help me out. I have been going out with a wonderful lady which came to Dubai a year ago to work here as a cabin crew. Now I know what impression you will get when I say Cabin Crew (player, cheater, hunter, etc), but she is not like that. She is a mature women and has already done a similar job… Read more »
Hi Imad I have read your story,mine is a bit similar to yours.I m dating a flight purser for about a year.At first he was full of promises and nice things to,but then with time his attraction and moods began to fade.At first he gave me the impression that he was the right person for me,he commit him self to me.Then after a few months he began to lose communication,not even a message nor a call.When i tried to tell me, he always promise that he will never do that again.He did and did it again and i always forgive… Read more »
me and my ex Chris work together and when i was 16 and he was just turned 27 we started to chat on Facebook a lot and then gradually after him being unsure for a while about my age we start to text and meet each other so FEW months in we had our first kiss it was great and we saw each other that whole weekend and kissed literally non stop but few days later my mum found out and wasn’t happy and threatened him and made us end so we did for a while but still stayed in… Read more »
Hey Shaz,
Yours is a very common case. Trust me, if you just follow the plan, not only will your ex be attracted to you again, he will be the one wanting to get back together.
Hey, my ex broke up with me about a couple weeks ago, after about 2 years. i am really missing him and want him back. i really want to try your plan on how to win your ex back and have started the no contact part of it a few days ago. the only thing is we live in different states, that alone i know can make it harder but i really wanna try.i was living with him and moved back to where i was from.i would really like some advice because like the date part after the no contact… Read more »
Hey Emily, This plan works on long distance relationship. Just apply the fundamentals and it will work. In many cases, just the no contact period works like gangbusters. But you have to try to improve yourself during the period by following step 2. In fact, there is a case in the comments section here where a girl named Megs got her ex back who lived in another country. Because she wanted to keep the details private, she emailed me the good news instead of mentioning it here. But you can still read her story if you scroll up and search… Read more »
i have a few more questions. my ex does sometimes texts me and i try and fallow the rules you said to if he contacts you, but sometimes i dont know how to be vague..i get stumped on how to reply to some things he says cuz i dont wanna push him away but not be to open. he says he not used to me talking to him like that like for example i will be like im going to lunch with the family ill talk to you later and end it in no more then 15 min like you… Read more »
My fiance of almost 7 years, whom I live with, came into our kitchen and told me he didn’t want to get married. We’d planned two weddings but had to postpone them due to money and he said he felt relieved that we didn’t go through with it. That made him think about why he felt that way, because he should want to marry me. Then he realized he never wanted to marry me, which lead to him further realizing that he wasn’t in love with me anymore. I was shocked. We had an excellent relationship with plenty of affection… Read more »
correction: not never, he says he loved me deeply and wanted to marry before a few weeks ago or so, he said he’d just recently started feeling this way.
hey kevin my name is tony i been with my ex for 2 and a half years i mad some bad mistakes by going with my boy’s leaven her in the house by us fright ever day. point blink me not becoming a man i did everything u in the book from rose to money to buting her everything she wants my friends say i should just leave her alone but i cant my heart and soul say god have shosen that girl for me i just dont no what to do i seen her text some other dude and… Read more »
Hi Kevin, My boyfriend recently broken up with me. Initially we were friends and we got into relationship last year. We loved each other a lot and wanted to get together in life. We belong to same caste but different sub caste. He was ready to face any challenges which come against to marry me.He gave me confidence and he told all the plans regarding how to approach my parents to marry him. He is honest, lovable and caring person. We started loving more each day and used to chat daily in calls/webcam/texts. He was good, true and loyal towards… Read more »
Hi,
I am also going through same situation and same reason behind the breakup.
Leave hope that he will come back to you. You are planning for friendship, it is very bad option. If he doesn’t want to come back, then u can never win him back. At this situation, friendship is not going to work out.
After a strong relationship, it is too difficult to forget everything but you have to do it for yourself.
Take care of yourself.
Hi,
My boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after about 2 years. I know the things that I did wrong and I started to take him for granted and now I really want him back but I’ve already broken so many rules and I dont know what to do:(
Hey kevin,
i read your step’s and they sound GREAT. But is their anyway i could have personal advice via email? thanks in advance- Rob
Kevin My boyfriend and I are not technically broken up right now. We have been doing a long distance relationship for 3 years now. We have actually known each other for 17 years and dated for 4 years when we were kids. After all those years we reconnected and realized we have always been madly and truly in love with each other. He is the only man I have ever loved and I was married to someone else for 9 years. My boyfriend has never been married and does not have any kids. i have two. When we are together… Read more »
Hi!! I had a relation with a guy for around eight and half years. after i broke up, I was very disturbed. That time one guy whom i was hardly knowing got very friendly with me. He started sharing my worries. He started telling me that he loves me and he wants to marry me. Later even i started loving him. After two years he broke with me for a invalid reason that i fights with him. I pleaded him and tried to convience him really hard that it wont happen again. I apologised for what i have not done.… Read more »
I have just recently broke up with my girlfriend. She broke up with me with the reason that she’s not a good girlfriend and she dont want to hurt me in the future. After a few days, I initiatied the No Contact. I removed her from my facebook and sent her an email telling her that i am ok with the break up and ask her to call me when she wants to talk. We went to the same college and I dont know what to do next. Can you please help me on what to do next? Thank you.
Hi Matt, Am shocked that your Gf used the exact same words like mine. and my reply to her was almost similar to yours. today after 1 and 1/2 weeks of no contact, she called me and i kept it cool although i was so happy in my heart. am waiting for her next move. My advise to you is that follow the three steps like me. am sure we will make it through this predicament.
i will try to following steps,coz i love her,and don’t want to leave her,thanks for ur advice
Hi Kevin,i really need some advice. Me and my ex bf were together just over 2 years, we were madly in love with each other and its been about over a month since we split up. I became really clingy, insecure and had issues trusting him which lead to constant arguments. So one day he got fed up of my insecurities and broke up with me. I am willing to change and do whatever it takes to get him back! We were in touch nearly everyday about a month after we broke up and we also met up once and… Read more »
Ok so where do I start, I’m a very hot mannered person, I’m a girl And I come from a strict family, il try not to say my life story here and make it short, I went out with a straight girl and now we been together three years, all those years been rocky we had so much issues cause I had issues with trust and jealousy and all, anyway I know we both love each other very much and j know we belong together, now im overseas for a while wanting to work and she keeps telling me I… Read more »
She tells me il be ok when you ok but I’m not ok when we not together what do I tel her
i really need your help
hi kevin we broke up for a year now. how do i do to win him back. i am still in love with him.
Kevin, my girlfriend of a year just broke up with me again. (the first time was 6 months ago). She said she does not want to be in a commited relationship, never sees herself being married or with anyone and does not want to share her life with anyone. We love each other but I’m not sure if that is enough. She seems to get to 6 months and freaks out and breaks up. At first she said she needed a 6 month break! Then she said 2 months…then she just broke up. This all happened in a little more… Read more »
Just give it some time. Many breakups end being ugly. But time heals everything. Follow the plan and you will be fine.
Hi Kevin; My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago after almost 5yrs. She said that she wasn’t in love with me any more, she kept telling me to remain friends but everytime I see her I start at square on all over again…. her reasons for falling out of love was because she has kids, and I was never really affectionate with then, but I really stated to notice changes in her after she started to hang out with a married couple she had known in high school…. from there on (a month b4 she dumped me) everything… Read more »
hi i just read your plan on how to get back my ex boyfriend. I just did what im goin’ to do.but still he doesnt reply yet. What should i do?
Hi, i want my guys to come back to me rather me writing him because he thinks that if i come back i accept my mistakes and i m guilty for the mistake which i dint do.. i think he ll be like i m more needy. i want him to realize that’s it.. Help!!!
What if my husband has cut off all contact and I have no way of getting ahold of him? We were together for nine years and he never really told me why he left although I’m pretty sure I know why. I haven’t gotten any divorce papers, but I also have not heard from him in over four months. He has a new phone number, won’t respond to letters, I’m sure he is doing all of it because it’s the easiest way to forget about me. So is it hopeless? We made a lifelong commitment to eachother and I don’t… Read more »
hey Kevin, me & my ex fiance have been together for almost 3 yrs in a ldr. we have been through everything & were still together until we started arguing constantly. i was usually the one who started. one night i was so angry i told her to “find someone else & leave me alone for good” & a bunch of other stuff. sure enough she did a day after the breakup. i didn’t mean anything i said that night & now she wants nothing to do with me. she said she’s happy with the new guy & for me… Read more »
P.S. she said she’s done breaking & making up. i’m done breaking & making up also & i want her back for good. how do i get her back? is it too late?
Hi, my girlfriend of 2 n half years broke up with me a week ago on the basis that i dont show her enough attention and affection, when i think back on this i realise that its true the thing is i want her back but this is the third time we have broken up, the previous times were for the same reason but she came back and i told her each time that i will pay more attention to her, the thing is from the previous times she doesnt believe me anymore when this time im actually telling the… Read more »
My situation is a lil different than most commenters. My bf and I were together for 2.5 months and I was having doubts about getting serious with him the entire time we were seeing each other. He was moving very fast and seemed really into me in the beginning. This freakedme out and is what lead me to doubt if I wanted to move further. He was sweet and attentive and affectionate and I acted cold and unattached out of fear of falling even though I really did like him a lot. Well I guess he had enough of itbecause… Read more »
hi kelvin…i need your help…m from indian rajpoot family..my bf is getting married to someone else..Initially we were friends and we got into relationship last year. We loved each other a lot . We belong to different caste.We started loving more each day and used to chat daily in calls/texts. He was good, true and loyal towards me. . . He knew very well that I can’t live without him. Everything was going well. But suddenly past 2 months he told me that he is getting engaged for his family’s happiness…and its caste problem,,,so he can’t do anything..he got busy… Read more »
it is best to try to win him back. thats what u want in life, right? ok so its your only chance. dont let it slip. go for it
Hi Kevin, So, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year while on spring break. Then we worked everything out and I was starting to be the person he fell in love with. BEfore we had any problems with antone else being in the picture, we were fighting a ton. He was alwasy too controlling, and I was too moody…..blah blah blah. Well we promised eachother that we would change these things. 2 months went by, and we broke up because he wasnt changing, but I was. He was totally selfish and thought the world revolved around him. I know… Read more »
P.S., He’s telling me everything I need to change, which I’m happy to do, But he needs to change as well. I really don’t know what to do. I miss him and I want him back. I have now realized that he’s the only one for me, but he sasy he’s going to need at least a month to choose. Idk if he;s saying that to make me try harder (it’s working) or if he’s just trying to make me jealouse. Please Help me.
My boyfrnd and I just broke up 3days ago after a armnths relationship.Ilove him so much but his excuse for d breakup is that he doesn’t av passion for me any more.He also said he’s not feeling ther relationship any more.What do I do?coz I still L♥√ع him
He’ll be seing me in a weeks time, when he will be returning my belongs what do i do to win him back
Hey, i need some advice from really anyone. me and my gf of almost a year broke up a while back because over the summer we lost contact and when we did talk, she said that i was an ass to everyone and we yelled and broke up. i was really desperate and didnt know how to handle it, so after awhile a wrote her a really long letter about my feelings, but she said it was creepy and we should still be friends. we sometimes talk, and its been a week since the letter, but ive heard from some… Read more »
HI jack i’m no exspert but i say that u need to find out whyu she kinda fliped at u.. it seams a lil out of the blue and u seamed like u were just tring to make things better!
I say try being friends just like small talk and stuff at frist then gane her trust and then u may have a shoot right now just try to find someone who really aprsheates u! I know u can find them and show her that u don’t need her she will come back.
I’ve been dating this girl for 6months now all of a sudden she says she just want to be friends i really love her, it’s strange because we never met each others family and every time i tried to meet her family she said it wasn’t the right time. She is from Ethiopia I’m wondering if she was just hiding me because I’m not from Ethiopia and she is worried about what her family thinks? She also use to tell me to be quite every time her father called her??? We work together at the same job and talk on… Read more »
Hi Kevin.
Thanks for the advice. I’m still stuck. Me and my ex have been apart for a really long time which i think is not repairable. She knows i still love her and that i’d do anything to get her back. She’s in a different city but she’s seeing someone else. I know this is worse than anything you’ve seen so far but please tell me what i need to do and i’ll do it!! I need her back and i can’t see myself with anyone else!!Please tell me what to do!
We had a great relationship with my girlfriend,but some one told her that i am meeting with another girl then she left me
I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. he was deployed to afghanistan and was gone for a year and during that time i broke up with him because he didnt love me and i needed someone who could. so I ended up dating another guy for a few months and decided it wasnt working out because i still missed my ex. when he came home from afghanistan, I found out that he started liking one of his friends that he has been friends with for a long time. he tells me that he still likes me alot and… Read more »
Hi Kevin, SO my ex and I were together for 5 months, during which time I was finishing up law school and studying for the bar exam. I know that I was hard to deal with because of the stress and I exploded on him at times and we had multi-day fights over lots of stuff. I know that I was a bit demanding too, I just needed so much support because I was so stressed out, causing him to feel like he had to give up his whole social life for me. Anyway, 3 weeks after the exam he… Read more »
Thank you soo much this is exactly what i needed you gave me so much courage to be able to think about myself and get my shit together and hopefully get her back too thanks a lot
Hi kevin. I really need you help…. I had a very bad breakup with my ex becouse of my aither ex boy friend. Now i have broken all the rules both in step 1 and step 2. I really want to win my ex back but the bad news is he’s at United states of America and am in west Africa how do i win him back? Like i said all the rules re broken so i dont really know what to do next. All angles show that he has moved on…. He know longer takes my calls and does… Read more »
Hey Kevin, so i know i’m only in high school but my boyfriend of 11 mounths we broke up anyways the thing is is that i was reading this thing and i realized i’ve done all thees things in one week after we broke up! IS THATBAD i’m scared it wouldnt work i’ve already messed up too bad… the reason we broke up is cuz he’s suverly depressed and shit and maybe cuz another girl but she might be a rebound girl (btw he broke up with me) anyways i think i’ve screwed up alot!! already and i want to… Read more »
Hey my story is a bit different. Firstly, I’m a guy, and there was this guy i was seeing for 2 weeks and we weren’t serious or anything, I just think he’s great and would love to have him back. We were friends for a while but only recently dated, yet we like each other a lot. Well long story short this guy asked me to accompany him on a weekend break and although i accepted at first, I ended up having to cancel at the last minute because of money problems.. This greatly upset him and at first wouldn’t… Read more »
Kevin, My boyfriend and I were together for 6 years, lived together for 2 of those years and broke up 4 months ago. We are both in our mid 20’s. He seems really happy. I heared that he goes clubbing in LA and is kind of seeing this girl. The thing is she’s not his type at all and I’m unsure why he’s even with her. Anyway, he said some really hurtful things to his friend about me so I responded by sending a really hateful email to him. It was really mean. I told him about the new guy… Read more »
OMG this person is a genious…..I love them!! I will follow every single step…..I hope this works…..this is an answers to my prayers…..ok how do i get step 4
Hi Kevin, I am with my bf for almost 3 years. we love each other so much..then this year may 2011 he move to another place 2 hours far from my place coz he found new job. since then we never see each we only talking on the phone. when he still 1 months in his new work i ask me when we can see each other he told me to give him 1 month and he is just busy then suddently it became 2 months we still didn’t see he never do effort to come to my place to… Read more »
Basically i have been with this guy for 2years we study the same degree so im in his class everyday. We been having our ups and down like every relationship but we really did love each other a lot at one point we was madly into each other . The thing is we havent seen each other in 6months properly i seen him twice and i guess the distance has just drifted us everything was fine just until the last few months where he wanted a break because i nag him so much, the truth is i did nag him… Read more »
im trying to send this to my email and its nt working:( i need help
for the past couple months ive been casually dating this guy and things were progressing. a few days ago he texted me and said he is getting back together with his ex because she’s moving back to town and the only reson they broke up is cuase she moved. but he is still saying he likes me and thinks im cute and likes talking to me. me and this guy have been casually meeting up every month or two for a year and then leaving it alone for a month till we just find eachother again. what should i do?… Read more »
Hey kevin. Its been 4 months now that me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up. We talked once in a while before while during the break up in on the 2nd month. but now all of a sudden we stoped talking after we tryed to set up a coffee date . She said ok and that she just wants me to know that shes talking to someone tho. so I said thats ok its only coffee. So she said well it depends what time she gets off work.and that she will call me . But she never did… Read more »
Hi! I have read your articles and it really calms me down alot ! i was with this girl that i have known since we were in high school. Then while in year4, we got together after i ask her about it. We got together for a year and 11months. It was after we graduted from high school, proceeding to polytechnic(btw i live in singapore) that things started to change. She lived in the neighbouring country, tho she had a rented flat here in singapore too. Anyway, things changed whn she didnt have time for me and i started to… Read more »
can’t wait to read the rest
Hi Kevin & all,
I just break up with my gf recently. I really love her. Luckily I find this website. I’ll try to implement this & will update the progress & result from time to time. Hope it will motivate us & if i failed.. also can be a lesson for the rest. Now, I’ll start with STEP 1. Wish me luck guys!!
Hi, I have a question me and my ex have been broken up for 4years but we have kids together and I want him back but don’t know what to do since he is in a relationship now. Any advice on how to get him back? I have read everything from beginning to end but I have a bigger situation.
hey kevin, i recently broke up with my gf and right now she is very mad at me. She says she has no more feelings for me and that i let the relationship die. We are in non speaking terms because one day i decided to bombard her and text her. I broke most of the rules and i wanna know if i can recover from it. She seems she has her mind set on being friends and nothing else. I seen now what i have done and am willing to change but she does not want to be in… Read more »
I have submitted my email and have yet to recieve a confirmation notice or any email from Kevin period. Is this a scam or what?
My girl friendand iwere together 9 months, pearl engaged and were planning on moving in by january, and being married next july. The end of august we began having problems, and had a fight over text! Nothing face to face, just stupid text. We never really fought when we were together,, just fought via text when we were apart. Well six days after she told me she was done, she told me via text, she was dating and in love with someone!. I tried to stop and talk to her, and she told me not to come back. I can’t… Read more »
hi,,, am trying on some new ideas i believe it wil work!
Hi, My girlfriend and I have been together for fiv