What If Your Ex Contacts You During The No Contact Period?

This is a question that is popped up every now and then. What if your ex contacts you during the no contact period? Should you just open up your heart and express your undying love for them? Or should you just be cold and ignore them completely? What will they think of your reaction?

During the no contact period, your main aim is to heal yourself from the breakup and become a better and a happier person. The only way to achieve this will be to stay away from your ex during this period and focusing on good things in life. However, if your ex contacts you during this period, you shouldn’t be rude to them or just snub them. You don’t want your ex to have any ill-disposed feeling for you.

If they call you during the no contact period, your attitude towards them should be like that of a distant acquaintance that you are in good terms with. You don’t want to get too personal with them, and you don’t want to cause them any harm. Don’t treat them like they are your closest friend and definitely don’t treat them like your lover. Just be amicable and a little distant.

Here are a few ground rules to talk to your ex during the no contact rule.

– Keep the conversation short. 10-15 minutes max. And then gracefully end the call saying you have to go somewhere or do something.
Be happy and upbeat
– Don’t get personal. Keep topics purely on social level.


You should not

– Talk about your problems or your feelings
– Bring any type of negative conversation
– Talk for more than 15 minutes


If your ex asks any emotional and personal questions, be as vague as possible. If they insist too much, then let them know that you think its best that you both have some space at the moment.

The no contact rule works wonders if you do it right. To get a better idea of this, read the 3 Step Plan to get your ex back.

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  • hopeless August 19, 2011, 8:52 am

    So here’s the problem…there’s this guy I’ve known for awhile. I’ve been in love with him since the day I laid eyes on him. I had a boyfriend at the time and was in a horrible relationship, once he and I had split up this guy wanted to be with me and I was to busy trying to get back with my ex to care. He went back to his ex, but every time they split up he comes back being my friend but doesn’t show that he wants to be with me or anything else. I’m seriously in love with him, is there anyway to get him back?

  • Exhausted & Confused November 8, 2011, 4:20 am

    Hey, So here’s my problem. My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago. He told me when we were breaking up that he’d call me in a couple days. Every night with the exception of the night we broke up, he ended up texting me for a short period and asking me how I was doing and saying goodnight to me because it was always later at night. Then yesterday (Sunday) he ends up calling me in the morning and I started to try to pour all my emotions on him, so to speak. He ended up asking me to come over. So I went over to his house and he told me that he didn’t want to get back together right now but he wanted us to remain friends and try to work on our issues. So we spent the next few hours at the mall and hanging out because he insisted. But the whole time we were both holding hands and calling each other “babe” and “baby” and saying “I love you” and when I was leaving I asked him if he’d call me later last night. He said he would so I waited up on him all night and ended blowing his phone up which happens to be one of the big problems with me and him. Today I saw him briefly because I had to go up to his work to buy something and I ended up giving him a ride home and today he said he was sorry for giving me that impression yesterday of acting like we we’re kinda back together, YET he changed his fb from “single” to “its complicated”. He told me today he wanted to be single for right now because he didn’t want to worry about anyone else other than himself and I have my own independence issues that need to be worked on. He keeps telling me he loves me and now we’re on an open communication term but I told him I’d talk to him in a few days. Should I take this as my opportunity to start your steps? Do u think that I’d have a chance? He’s my first serious boyfriend but I always felt like we were meant to be, he even told me early on in our relationship that he’d love to marry me and move in with me someday. Do you think there’s hope?

    • zack December 27, 2011, 7:39 pm

      When you blew up his phone you basically shot yourself in the foot that comes off as clingy and unattractive especially if you two aren’t even dating, you can always try.

  • Michael December 12, 2011, 3:52 pm

    What do you do, when you write the handwritten letter to your ex and she responds with ; I’ll always Love you and take care of yourself ?

    • zack December 27, 2011, 7:34 pm

      You didn’t say the right words

      • zack December 27, 2011, 7:35 pm

        If you said you loved her in the letter… Wrong