This is a question that is popped up every now and then. What if your ex contacts you during the no contact period? Should you just open up your heart and express your undying love for them? Or should you just be cold and ignore them completely? What will they think of your reaction?
During the no contact period, your main aim is to heal yourself from the breakup and become a better and a happier person. The only way to achieve this will be to stay away from your ex during this period and focusing on good things in life. However, if your ex contacts you during this period, you shouldn’t be rude to them or just snub them. You don’t want your ex to have any ill-disposed feeling for you.
If they call you during the no contact period, your attitude towards them should be like that of a distant acquaintance that you are in good terms with. You don’t want to get too personal with them, and you don’t want to cause them any harm. Don’t treat them like they are your closest friend and definitely don’t treat them like your lover. Just be amicable and a little distant.
Here are a few ground rules to talk to your ex during the no contact rule.
- Keep the conversation short. 10-15 minutes max. And then gracefully end the call saying you have to go somewhere or do something.
- Be happy and upbeat
- Don’t get personal. Keep topics purely on social level.
You should not
- Talk about your problems or your feelings
- Bring any type of negative conversation
- Talk for more than 15 minutes
If your ex asks any emotional and personal questions, be as vague as possible. If they insist too much, then let them know that you think its best that you both have some space at the moment.