Why Did Your Ex Leave You?

Why your ex left  youIn a breakup, it is very common for someone to give some lame excuse for breaking up. Sometimes, they don’t even know why they are leaving. If your ex didn’t tell you the exact reason for breaking up with you, then I am sure you are always thinking why your ex left you. Well, every relationship is unique and so is every breakup. I can’t tell you what the reason for the breakup was in each particular case. But in most of the cases, there was something missing in the relationship that made them end it.

In some cases, even they don’t know exactly what was wrong with the relationship. All they knew was they weren’t satisfied with it and they wanted to end it. In such a case, they will probably say something like

“I am not attracted to you anymore. These things happen, you just can’t explain it”

Or

“I am not in love with you anymore. I think we were made to be just friends.”

They are not intentionally lying, so don’t try to pry out a more a solid reason out of them.

You need to learn about the three important pillars of a relationship and find out which one lacked in your relationship. Every relationship needs three things

1. Love/ Connection/ Attraction – How much attracted you both are to each other. After the honeymoon stage of a relationship, the attraction starts to fade away and if you don’t know how to maintain it, your lover might soon start thinking that the relationship is not right for them. If this was your problem, then I have good news for you. You can create the attraction once again (by following the 3 step plan to win your love back). Since they were attracted to you at one point of time, it is very likely that they will be attracted to you once again. You just need to make the right moves at the right time.

2. Intimacy/ Sex – Were they not satisfied sexually? Although this is not as big a reason as no. 1, there can be some cases where the lover leaves because of lack of intimacy.

3. Security – Both Men and Women need a sense of security in a relationship. We need a certain someone to be always there for us. Do you feel like you can always rely on your partner no matter what? Is there a future in the relationship?

No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you can always work on the relationship together. The sad part is your partner has already broken up with you without working on the issues. But the good news is that you can still make your relationship work again if you follow the 3 step plan.

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  • Mo March 7, 2011, 1:19 pm

    I recently broke up with the love of my life. We have not been intimate in three months. I have cheated in the past but we had gotten past that. Everything else in the relationship is perfect however the intimacy is a problem. I felt if I didn’t break up with her I would cheat again and I don’t want to cheat. I only want to be intimate with her and spend the rest of my life with her. Am I wrong for breaking up. I don’t know if I did the right thing and If it was the wrong thing I don’t think that we can repair it this time.